Good day everyone, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I seriously need advice. I'm 31 this year and all I've got to show is a useless Waec certificate. I've got no Job or skills, I still live with my parents. I spent 8yrs in the university trying to get a degree, but failed woefully, it wasn't because of a lack of effort, I worked as hard as anyone else, but somehow all my efforts ended up in vain. I'm an introvert, I don't go out, so I find It difficult to mix up with people. I've been depressed for six months now, many times I question the point of my existence, I don't know what I want to do with my life, I can't seem to figure out what I'm good at or enjoy doing, I think I'm pretty much useless at this point. Also there's this feeling of fear and self doubt within me whenever the thought of trying out something new comes to my mind, i instantly dismiss it, because I don't think I'm capable of succeeding. I think I'm better off just ending it, I can't continue to live like this. Nairalanders please I need your advice.

..BUHARI..is doing u..sorry bro..

Mannyballs:
Good day everyone, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I seriously need advice. I'm 31 this year and all I've got to show is a useless Waec certificate. I've got no Job or skills, I still live with my parents. I spent 8yrs in the university trying to get a degree, but failed woefully, it wasn't because of a lack of effort, I worked as hard as anyone else, but somehow all my efforts ended up in vain. I'm an introvert, I don't go out, so I find It difficult to mix up with people. I've been depressed for six months now, many times I question the point of my existence, I don't know what I want to do with my life, I can't seem to figure out what I'm good at or enjoy doing, I think I'm pretty much useless at this point. Also there's this feeling of fear and self doubt within me whenever the thought of trying out something new comes to my mind, i instantly dismiss it, because I don't think I'm capable of succeeding. I think I'm better off just ending it, I can't continue to live like this. Nairalanders please I need your advice.

Only knowing that God loves you so much and drawing closing to him can sort this out

why couldn't you graduate at least?

get into a part-time program...you can work and do the program or if you still have support of your folks...you can go through a full time program...if you can learn a trade it's also good.

bro,the country dey hit youths hard o..weda graduate or not...e no easy here... connection is really key in this country...WE ALL HAVE A STORY BRO,FORGET THE SMILING FACE AND THE BUILDING OF CASTLE IN THE AIR YOU SEE AROUND...GOOD LUCK BRO

Mannyballs:
Good day everyone, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I seriously need advice. I'm 31 this year and all I've got to show is a useless Waec certificate. I've got no Job or skills, I still live with my parents. I spent 8yrs in the university trying to get a degree, but failed woefully, it wasn't because of a lack of effort, I worked as hard as anyone else, but somehow all my efforts ended up in vain. I'm an introvert, I don't go out, so I find It difficult to mix up with people. I've been depressed for six months now, many times I question the point of my existence, I don't know what I want to do with my life, I can't seem to figure out what I'm good at or enjoy doing, I think I'm pretty much useless at this point. Also there's this feeling of fear and self doubt within me whenever the thought of trying out something new comes to my mind, i instantly dismiss it, because I don't think I'm capable of succeeding. I think I'm better off just ending it, I can't continue to live like this. Nairalanders please I need your advice.

I sympathize with you and everyone groaning like you bro! You can make it just don't stop trying.

Kdon2:


I sympathize with you and everyone groaning like you bro! You can make it just don't stop trying.

you did list your weaknesses above....I think you should work on those....

Beastcub:


you did list your weaknesses above....I think you should work on those....

Are you high?

Kdon2:


Are you high?

pretty much

he said ....
he has fear and doubt, that's low self esteem and its dangerous, and it's something he can work on...

the fact that he doesn't engage with people is a choice, but one looses so much information and opportunities....whilst keeping distances, also that's enough reason to make him feel rejected or worthless plus a lonely mind is a very busy mind full of so much thoughts and in his case negative ones.....


there's a lot u can pick from his narrative but I think you prefer to just ask me if I'm high...
yeah I am

Beastcub:

pretty much

Eyah! Sorry.

you are not cursed.. its either you are not ready to face and adapt to life in this country..

It's not your fault, you were just unlucky to be born in Nigeria. Even if you had your degree, there's absolutely no evidence that life could have been better off. There's thousands of graduates who are unemployed with nothing to do in your shoes too.

Mannyballs:
Good day everyone, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I seriously need advice. I'm 31 this year and all I've got to show is a useless Waec certificate. I've got no Job or skills, I still live with my parents. I spent 8yrs in the university trying to get a degree, but failed woefully, it wasn't because of a lack of effort, I worked as hard as anyone else, but somehow all my efforts ended up in vain. I'm an introvert, I don't go out, so I find It difficult to mix up with people. I've been depressed for six months now, many times I question the point of my existence, I don't know what I want to do with my life, I can't seem to figure out what I'm good at or enjoy doing, I think I'm pretty much useless at this point. Also there's this feeling of fear and self doubt within me whenever the thought of trying out something new comes to my mind, i instantly dismiss it, because I don't think I'm capable of succeeding. I think I'm better off just ending it, I can't continue to live like this. Nairalanders please I need your advice.

Go into tech.

Or learn another in-demand skill.

It's never too late, and it's not your fault. Don't die like this, because tomorrow is full of unknown good things.

If buhari can make it you can..

Instead of ending it all..just join the military..dont die in vain

Mannyballs:
Good day everyone, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I seriously need advice. I'm 31 this year and all I've got to show is a useless Waec certificate. I've got no Job or skills, I still live with my parents. I spent 8yrs in the university trying to get a degree, but failed woefully, it wasn't because of a lack of effort, I worked as hard as anyone else, but somehow all my efforts ended up in vain. I'm an introvert, I don't go out, so I find It difficult to mix up with people. I've been depressed for six months now, many times I question the point of my existence, I don't know what I want to do with my life, I can't seem to figure out what I'm good at or enjoy doing, I think I'm pretty much useless at this point. [b]Also there's this feeling of fear and self doubt within me whenever the thought of trying out something new comes to my mind, i instantly dismiss it, because I don't think I'm capable of succeeding. [/b]I think I'm better off just ending it, I can't continue to live like this. Nairalanders please I need your advice.

The feeling is called anxiety and the solution is either mental health counseling or accepting but facing your fears one at a time.

BRATISLAVA:


Go into tech.

Or learn another in-demand skill.

It's never too late, and it's not your fault. Don't die like this, because tomorrow is full of unknown good things.

Tech..like he will just start making enough money immediately?

"the best advice na the one you give your self nobody go believe you can if you no believe your self"

Op don't ever be afraid of try new challenges

lilvicky68:
If buhari can make it you can..

Instead of ending it all..just join the military..dont die in vain

BRATISLAVA:


Go into tech.

Or learn another in-demand skill.

It's never too late, and it's not your fault. Don't die like this, because tomorrow is full of unknown good things.

Best advise, Dedicate like 1 year to learn a tech skill and trust me it would be the best decision you have ever made. Trust me, and you can even combine it with your part time studies bro.
Don't give in to depression, Fight for your future, Na who give up Bleep up

Mannyballs:
Good day everyone, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I seriously need advice. I'm 31 this year and all I've got to show is a useless Waec certificate. I've got no Job or skills, I still live with my parents. I spent 8yrs in the university trying to get a degree, but failed woefully, it wasn't because of a lack of effort, I worked as hard as anyone else, but somehow all my efforts ended up in vain. I'm an introvert, I don't go out, so I find It difficult to mix up with people. I've been depressed for six months now, many times I question the point of my existence, I don't know what I want to do with my life, I can't seem to figure out what I'm good at or enjoy doing, I think I'm pretty much useless at this point.

Also, you seem to have no real interest in most all you have tried. Being an introvert has little to do with the issue....more like your mind remains bored and you haven't figured out how to break out of that cloud. If you are able to, seek professional mental health counseling or consider going back to the basics... I am talking about considering a career in farming, fishing, any low level work that will employ your strength rather than your brain. Doing that will at least help you get food on the table and expose you to other areas you may not have considered.

Not everyone's brain is wired the same so some may need to work hard in order to find their niche in this world we live in, and maybe create it where it doesn't exist.

lilvicky68:

Tech..like he will just start making enough money immediately?

It's a goal for a better future. Nothing good comes easy. If he can dedicate his efforts in that direction, he will be the better for it.

Tech is gold.

Mannyballs:
Good day everyone, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I seriously need advice. I'm 31 this year and all I've got to show is a useless Waec certificate. I've got no Job or skills, I still live with my parents. I spent 8yrs in the university trying to get a degree, but failed woefully, it wasn't because of a lack of effort, I worked as hard as anyone else, but somehow all my efforts ended up in vain. I'm an introvert, I don't go out, so I find It difficult to mix up with people. I've been depressed for six months now, many times I question the point of my existence, I don't know what I want to do with my life, I can't seem to figure out what I'm good at or enjoy doing, I think I'm pretty much useless at this point. Also there's this feeling of fear and self doubt within me whenever the thought of trying out something new comes to my mind, i instantly dismiss it, because I don't think I'm capable of succeeding. I think I'm better off just ending it, I can't continue to live like this. Nairalanders please I need your advice.

At this point you have to say this:
I CAN NOT DO IT ALONE,HOLY FIRE FIGHT FOR ME. Get serious with prayer and work hard, wait and see how Jehovah God will turn your life around.

BRATISLAVA:


It's a goal for a better future. Nothing good comes easy. If he can dedicate his efforts in that direction, he will be the better for it.

Tech is gold.

Are you into tech?

Mannyballs:
Good day everyone, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I seriously need advice. I'm 31 this year and all I've got to show is a useless Waec certificate. I've got no Job or skills, I still live with my parents. I spent 8yrs in the university trying to get a degree, but failed woefully, it wasn't because of a lack of effort, I worked as hard as anyone else, but somehow all my efforts ended up in vain. I'm an introvert, I don't go out, so I find It difficult to mix up with people. I've been depressed for six months now, many times I question the point of my existence, I don't know what I want to do with my life, I can't seem to figure out what I'm good at or enjoy doing, I think I'm pretty much useless at this point. Also there's this feeling of fear and self doubt within me whenever the thought of trying out something new comes to my mind, i instantly dismiss it, because I don't think I'm capable of succeeding. I think I'm better off just ending it, I can't continue to live like this. Nairalanders please I need your advice.

You are not the only one, we are many..
Exactly how you put it, the same with me but difference is age.. You are 31, I'm 22..

The thing is we keep trying, I have try blogging, opening a web forum, AdSense all kind of that.. Affiliate ooo, bombing I do.

But no success, offline nkor... Bricklaying, bet9ja, customers attendant etc

I am still looking for more to do..


Sometimes, na just dey on the low and enjoy every moment, dey your dey, hustle small small, get one bani dey Bleep steady and dey avoid billings, gather money small small, find your passion and start making use of it, your passion fit be gaming, footballing, hunting, researching etc, try use am make videos for YouTube,.... You fit blow from am ... Go for more challenge and face it, if you fail, na lesson.

Most times, success comes from things we never expect..

BELIEVE!!!

I don't know you, but if anyone is qualified to give you a reply, it's me.

I'm 37y.o, will be 38 this year and all I have is my waec certificate. Like you, I went to the university and spent 8 years too but couldn't graduate. I was so demoralized and ashamed of myself I stayed away from home for years. As a matter of fact, I only faced my fears and returned home last November. Like you, I know how it feels to think of oneself as worthless and a complete failure. For 5 years I worked as a nanny in the city where I schooled, just so I could stay away from my home.
My advice to you is somehow you have to come to the point where you face your worst fear. Look yourself in the face and tell yourself there's a whole world of good that can come out of you and your experience. It helps to have supportive people around you, but ultimately it starts with you. You're a huge success and a work in progress. Tell it to yourself as often as possible even if you don't believe it.
Step out of your shell. My shame made me cut off a lot of people from my life just to limit the explanations and so I could stop seeing the stuff I imagined they were thinking about me, but the right people can help you go a long way to getting back on your feet. I don't have many of such people, only about 4/5 but I'm grateful for them. You most likely have such people around you- stop pushing them away.
I wrote jamb in 2020 after years of feeling petrified at the thought. I had to get over how I felt about writing the exam with people young enough to be my children and I went for it. I passed. I wrote post utme last year and scored high too. I was given admission to Abu, Zaria but guess what? I rejected it. I put myself in a position where I'd proved to myself that I could get something right and I didn't think wasting my time in our university system was worth it. I felt I needed a degree to validate me but now I know I don't.
I'm pursuing a career now in digital marketing after taking a course I graduated from this month. It's not all my making, I have a strong support system but it started with me.
Why have I told you all this? You have no idea the amazing things you're capable of. You think you're introverted? You've not met me. I've tasted depression and felt suicidal before and yet here I am. Don't give in to those thoughts. One personal statement of mine is "do it afraid”. I'll likely be my own worst critic. Everyday I feel self doubt and fear but I keep pushing myself inside. Please find an iota of strength inside you and push. Refuse to give in to the fear and negativity going on in your head.
Above all, a relationship with God helped me with my initial depressive tendencies and I believe you can find rest and acceptance there too.

It's well with you �❤️

lilvicky68:

Are you into tech?

Guess.

4teenblaq:



You are not the only one, we are many..
Exactly how you put it, the same with me but difference is age.. You are 31, I'm 22..

The thing is we keep trying, I have try blogging, opening a web forum, AdSense all kind of that.. Affiliate ooo, bombing I do.

But no success, offline nkor... Bricklaying, bet9ja, customers attendant etc

I am still looking for more to do..


Sometimes, na just dey on the low and enjoy every moment, dey your dey, hustle small small, get one bani dey Bleep steady and dey avoid billings, gather money small small, find your passion and start making use of it, your passion fit be gaming, footballing, hunting, researching etc, try use am make videos for YouTube,.... You fit blow from am ... Go for more challenge and face it, if you fail, na lesson.

Most times, success comes from things we never expect..

BELIEVE!!!

Find something tangible to do really, it'll come to bite you if you just continue to exist like that (like the op). You're still very young compared to the op.

ExtraUniqueGuy:


Find something tangible to do really, it'll come to bite you if you just continue to exist like that (like the op). You're still very young compared to the op.

Is my post inciting that I have nothing doing?

learn affiliate marketing and forget your sorrow

Mannyballs:
Good day everyone, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I seriously need advice. I'm 31 this year and all I've got to show is a useless Waec certificate. I've got no Job or skills, I still live with my parents. I spent 8yrs in the university trying to get a degree, but failed woefully, it wasn't because of a lack of effort, I worked as hard as anyone else, but somehow all my efforts ended up in vain. I'm an introvert, I don't go out, so I find It difficult to mix up with people. I've been depressed for six months now, many times I question the point of my existence, I don't know what I want to do with my life, I can't seem to figure out what I'm good at or enjoy doing, I think I'm pretty much useless at this point. Also there's this feeling of fear and self doubt within me whenever the thought of trying out something new comes to my mind, i instantly dismiss it, because I don't think I'm capable of succeeding. I think I'm better off just ending it, I can't continue to live like this. Nairalanders please I need your advice.

4teenblaq:


Is my post inciting that I have nothing doing?

tangible
You're still jumping around several things. You can't continue like that forever. The earlier you focus on one tangible thing, the better.

ExtraUniqueGuy:


tangible
You're still jumping around several things. You can't continue like that forever. The earlier you focus on one tangible thing, the better.

Okay...

4teenblaq:



You are not the only one, we are many..
Exactly how you put it, the same with me but difference is age.. You are 31, I'm 22..

The thing is we keep trying, I have try blogging, opening a web forum, AdSense all kind of that.. Affiliate ooo, bombing I do.

But no success, offline nkor... Bricklaying, bet9ja, customers attendant etc

I am still looking for more to do..


Sometimes, na just dey on the low and enjoy every moment, dey your dey, hustle small small, get one bani dey Bleep steady and dey avoid billings, gather money small small, find your passion and start making use of it, your passion fit be gaming, footballing, hunting, researching etc, try use am make videos for YouTube,.... You fit blow from am ... Go for more challenge and face it, if you fail, na lesson.

Most times, success comes from things we never expect..

BELIEVE!!!

Believe broda.e go turn story 4 anoda day

Mannyballs:
Good day everyone, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I seriously need advice. I'm 31 this year and all I've got to show is a useless Waec certificate. I've got no Job or skills, I still live with my parents. I spent 8yrs in the university trying to get a degree, but failed woefully, it wasn't because of a lack of effort, I worked as hard as anyone else, but somehow all my efforts ended up in vain. I'm an introvert, I don't go out, so I find It difficult to mix up with people. I've been depressed for six months now, many times I question the point of my existence, I don't know what I want to do with my life, I can't seem to figure out what I'm good at or enjoy doing, I think I'm pretty much useless at this point. Also there's this feeling of fear and self doubt within me whenever the thought of trying out something new comes to my mind, i instantly dismiss it, because I don't think I'm capable of succeeding. I think I'm better off just ending it, I can't continue to live like this. Nairalanders please I need your advice.

[b]

Bro, you don't need the prayer of anybody, you just need to help yourself... I am introvert like you, i find it good staying indoor even i don't have friend. My introvert lifestyle makes me jump into many online bussiness like blogging and Facebook and Youtube video publisher and i am earning a cool money, i turned 23 on febuary 14.

Nothing wrong with introvert but one things is that, introvert people are lazy, they have the habit of procastinating and they belives that they can make it all by themselve... Which sometimes is not true.

When i go home during Ileya festival last years, my daddy who knows everything about me sits me down, he told me to try to be migling with people because success is not something that one man can achieves in short time.

He said " if person want to travel fast, he should walk alone but if he want to travel far he should go with friend.

But you can change the game for by yourself, even with being a introvert, all you need is to spend your time indoor nicely.... You can jump into many online bussiness or build page by yourself.. Internet is full of many opportunity if you can work hard.

Don't spend all your time pressing phone alone. Use your head to think and find what you can do. Develop new idea and work toward it.

Many Introvert and Masturbation addict just like me... I won't tell you to stop... Many intorvert and music lover just like me but stop spending many time and these thing.... Build your life by yourself.

Start building facebook page from now and work tirelessly toward it.... I surely know that before the end of these year you will start earning cool money in your fb account. [/b]