First of all, introduction…

I am SugarPapi and everything I’ll be sharing with you today stems from my personal experience and experiences of those in my circle. I am spiritual with slightly agnostic inclinations (this is important. You will find out why soon).

I detest organized religion, especially those practiced and promoted within the African context. This hatred stems not from any external sentimental motivations, but from the effect organized religion had on my life before I came to the light.

Religion in Africa is repressive as it is delusive. You have ‘men of God’ who interpret doctrine in opportunistic and egotistic mannerisms that prospers them and impoverishes the masses. No to segue into another topic, I want you to ask yourself this question – “WHO WOULD I BE WITHOUT MY RELIGIOUS BELIEFS?”

If you answer honestly, you may shock yourself… That is story for another day but for now, back to topic –

I was inspired to pen this piece based off of a recent experience a friend had. A mentee of his was arrested for diverting company funds kept with him over the weekend. It was a cash only business and when they closed that Friday, he took home the funds as he had always done… for SEVEN GOOD YEARS! This weekend however, he blew the entire money and performed a David Copperfield on Monday.

He was nowhere to be found. His guarantor (my friend) was traced and almost arrested. ALMOST. He made some calls and the perp was found. They brought him in cuffs from Ijebu-Ode and questioning begun. To cut a long story short, this dude, a station manager, hijacked over seven hundred thousand of his employer’s money.

Okay bro… where’s the dough?

I mean you took the money on Friday? Today is Monday… there should still be some left right?

Nope!

He had blown the entire sum, clean through. My ears fell down when I heard this. My friend said he could not believe the amount the employer was stating until the man brought the report from their pumps.

Bro where is over seven hundred thousand?!

DEATHLY SILENCE.

You will be imprisoned, jailed, incarcerated, put behind bars… all those words were thrown at what looked like a brick wall. This guy did not bulge until my friend called Ijebu command to bring the guy’s parents to Lagos.

That’s when the bomb dropped –

Lover boy had used the entire sum to get his girlfriend… you guessed it… an iPhone!!!

According to my friend, when the boy confessed, the Police station went silent as a grave… LOL! I wish I was there!

The part that caught my attention was when my friend said the owner of the pump station almost burst into tears. Not because of the stolen money but because this guy in question had been with him for very long and was his most trusted staff. The disappointment cut deep.

When they went to pick his girlfriend up… her main guy assaulted a member of the Police team! honestly, not even Hollywood can come up with a story as distinctive as this.

The store where they bought the phone refused to collect it as brand new. After much begging, they deducted almost 40% from the retail price and refunded the rest to the owner. Phone collected, they all headed back to the station and my friend had to balance the rest.

When he drove his mentee home, he asked him the reason for the sudden stupidity.

The guy replied that she had been pressuring him. She always saw the thousands of naira he came home with and finally manipulated him into destroying a seven-year legacy.

This is why I am writing this today.


Caveat

This piece is NOT for everyone. If you have vision of a prosperous, powerful, wealthy, influential and impactful future… and you are still reading, this piece is for you. If you ever want to build your life and desire to reach the upper echelons of existentialism, this piece is for you. The rest have either already quit reading, or are waiting for to summarize

Dear reader, if you have an innate desire… an inner voice always telling you ‘there is more out there’ and ‘you are made for greatness’, this piece is for you.

Never doubt that voice!

Going forward, I will henceforth address you as – ‘Great Man’ on the strength of my own personal conviction that you will achieve greatness. This is not a prophecy, it is a statement of truth.

If you know where I came from, you will believe this truth. I had exemplary guidance on my way up and although I am yet to achieve the fullness of my purpose, I can confidently tell you, I am on the way there… due to excellent counsel. Counsel I will now relate to you, Great man.

I indulge you not to judge me from my first Nairaland post. It does not in any way portray the totality of what my life is. To give you a snippet, if I decide today to pay my girlfriend a million naira monthly, it will take her 1.6 years to spend what is currently in my card account. Go figure!

Now that’s out of the way, Great Man, I want to give you the top five reasons you must not engage in pre-marital sex until you find THE ONE.

A few FACTS –

1. The person you CHOOSE to marry will determine your final destination in life. I don’t give two bleeps if you believe this or not. I have seen the both ends of the spectrum play out in the lives of those around me – my housemate in school got married to a former President’s niece. They both stay in Ikoyi, all the way from Iyana-Ipaja where we grew up.

A childhood friend recently shot himself in the US of A. Why? He got divorced and court gave his wife two of their three buildings. He was to pay child support till their baby is 18 and continue to pay mortgage on the two houses. Why did she divorce him? Her mother’s prophet saw a vision that he killed her. Next day, they had a domestic row and she called the cops. He was given a restraining order from his kids and his heart could not take all the trouble. He used a Glock.

2. Sex is Opiate…. i.e. it is able to dull your sense of reasoning and logic. This is because, when you cum, the lateral orbitofrontal cortex of your brain shuts down temporally. This is the part of the brain responsible for decision making as well as reasoning. Over years of evolution, women have gotten used to this fact and this is why they request favours while they’re twirling their tongue around your shaft. You cannot say no… actually… you don’t have the sense at that time to say no.

3. Great Man, I am sure by now, you are fully aware that you can actually get ADDICTED to sex. The reason is simple, (when you orgasm, which apparently is not a problem for men), you release a certain hormone called dopamine. You know that feeling you get at the top of your head when you draw a blunt for the first time? That is dopamine. You know the high you get when you’re about to nut in her Eden? That is dopamine. Scientists used to call it a pleasure hormone, but they’re now realizing that dopamine as matter of fact is a LEARNING hormone. It has helped man over the centuries to identify were stimulating rewards such as food and sex are located and how to get them.


In summary Great Man, pre-marital sex will mitigate your ability to discern if a woman is right for your FUTURE or not. Because of its opiate nature, you will not deduce quickly and clearly whether she possesses the physical, spiritual and mental acuity to partner with you in building the future of your dreams.
Instead of rightly discerning where she fits in the annals of your life story, you will be inundated with thoughts of her warm, juicy pussy riding your hard cock and because it is addictive, you will never stop wanting more until one day you wake up and discover the person you married has contributed NOTHING to your life, ten years down the line.

I have highlighted five types of women who without cause or force will truncate your drive and terminate your journey to greatness. These five types of women are everywhere and if you lack the cognitive acumen to quickly dissociate yourself from her endearing grasp, kiss greatness bye!

Without further ado, here are the five types of women who truncate destiny. They are also the five reasons you should abstain from pre-marital sex –

1. Sapphira’s Daughter (the liar) – this type of girl will distort the truth every second, every day, twice on Monday. Very simple questions elicit a barrage of lies that you sometimes begin to doubt your own sanity. From my personal experience, girls who lie so blatantly and so rampantly have a past that is so wild, that can initiate a heart attack in a full blown adult man.

Some girls have had a very turbulent past, especially sexually. Some got exposed to the game before their teens so overtime, they have weaponized lies to cover their sordid past. Usually, the lies spill into other aspects of her life and soon she cannot tell you where she is when you ask.

Remember Sapphira in the Bible? The woman who lied about her family’s wealth even when it was uncalled for? This girl in question is her direct descendant. She will lie about anything, everything and everyone. That guy you saw in her room is her coursemate. She can’t come see you this evening because she’s at church.

Great Man, if you get entangled with a daughter of Sapphira, especially through sex, kiss greatness bye!


2. The Psycho – Great Man, due to societal indoctrination, many of you and your cohorts do not see girls as people. You see them as objects for companionship and sexual gratification, but I hate to break this to you – girls are people and just like every other person (man) out there, they also have their individual challenges.

I once got this lovely bird. She was a junior colleague at my former place of work, but I never made any move on her till I resigned. She was a very humble, respectful, diligent girl and these qualities endeared me and every penis person in the office to her. One time I invited her to chill with me at the weekend at a hotel in Agungi. She came on Friday, we bleeped, ate and drank to our fill. The agreement was for her to chill with me just that Friday but when I tasted her juices, I wanted her for the weekend. I told her the new arrangement and she requested for more than quadruple of our initially agreed fee e.g. we agreed 20k for Friday. When I told her to chill with me till Sunday, she charged me 100k!

Shouldn’t it be 20k x 3days? 60k? No! She wanted an extra 40k. Well I didn’t want to oblige this as I saw it as some kind of extortion so I ordered a ride to take her back home and paid only that day.

Great Man, the unfolding drama that ensued stupefied everyone who witnessed it beyond belief. That day, I understood why the English say a knot is loosened in a person’s head when they act a certain way.

First off, she started acting strangely, murmuring to herself and pulling the sheets of the bed. Cab was on his way so I started to dress up and call another girl, giving her directions to my hotel. I guess this was the final straw. Babe got up, pulled her bra and panties and was now naked. Next she went to the TV and pulled it off the wall. With super human strength, this girl raised the TV, almost 10ft in the air and smashed it on the ground!

WTF?!

Next she went to the bathroom, used her hand to smash the luxury stainless tap from its hook. Water started flooding the bathroom then entered the room. I quickly opened the door and called the attendants. Great Man, it took 4 orderlies to hold this girl down!

When they asked her why she did everything she did, she said I did not pay her. When I showed them the alert, she said her money is 100k. I showed them our WhatsApp chat indicating where we agreed 20k for just Friday. She replied that her money is 100k! “How ma?” No answer! Okay let’s go down to settle this… no! Wear your clothes… never! The hotel eventually got the police to remove her, but guess who paid the damage?

Irony is, earlier when the going was good, she made a call and from what I could deduce, she was in a serious relationship with whoever was on the other side. Although I never saw a ring, I think they were engaged.

Many girls walking the street have deeply rooted psychological issues stemming from a plethora of life experiences. If you’re blindsided by sex and miss the opportunity to ascertain the mental health of your girl, you may be in for a lot of trouble down the line.


3. The Vixen – this one is one of the worst kind of people to fall for. To me, Vixen is the direct opposite of HOMEMAKER. Many girls today grew up without adequate maternal care. For reasons too many to mention, a lot of girls, especially these days cannot MAKE A HOME. Trust me Great Man, when you’re out in the battlefield of life, fighting for your destiny and greatness, you need someone at home, holding down the fort.

Do you know why a lot of rich kids grow up as narcissists? The answer is simple – Parental Upbringing. Many women do not know how to raise children. They either give little to no love, reminiscent of their own loveless upbringing or give too much love, over compensating still for their loveless upbringing.

A Vixen will not cook for you. She will have you hire chefs and maids who will not only cook for you but also charge your house and raise your kids. Great Man, don’t marry a vixen so that maids will not raise your children.

I was at a PEP’s (Politically Exposed Person) house late last year. I followed my Boss to get a brief from the PEP. We were kept in the waiting room for what could easily be the entire day. From that room, we heard the entire imbroglio unfolding in this notable man’s house. One of the drivers, a pretty young guy had impregnated his last born. She was 16. Turns out, the stay at home Mum, did everything but raise her kids. Actually she seldom saw them on any given day. Maids did the cooking, Drivers did the picking, lesson teachers did the teaching…. It goes on and on like that.

Many people in the Lagos political circle know this story and the person, but for my own safety, I would give no further details.

Great Man, this man married the vixen when he had won the war for his destiny. If you don’t even know when and where your own fight will begin, but you allow a Vixen trap you with sex, kiss greatness good bye!


4. The Nymph – no great man! Not a nymphomaniac. I mean an actual nymph – the female divinity in Greek mythology who dragged pirates and sea farers to the bottom of the ocean and killed them there. Baron Rothschild once said – “Never have anything to do with an unlucky man or place”.

I don’t care what your beliefs are, but I believe strongly in the existence of an unseen world. Whether it operates the way the Bible and other pieces of literature have dictated is up for debate, but I know that in this world, there exists more than meets the eye.

Great Man, there are certain ladies you come in contact with that can undo ten years of hard work. Perhaps by no doing of theirs, but sheer happenstance, everything they touch turns to ash. A friend of mine operated a blooming real estate practice in Abuja until early 2018. Before that fateful year, he sold and bought property for almost every big wig in Abuja. We served together in the North and he chose to stay back afterwards. It was from here his real estate practice started.

Penultimate 2017, he met a girl at Jabi area of town. He proposed a relationship and she agreed. The day she agreed, he took her out on a date to ‘cement their new relationship status’. That same day, he was involved in a ghastly accident that wrote-off his car. Next day, the two workers he had at his practice stopped work. When he called, the one who picked sighted the most stupid excuse ever. Following week, he lost his biggest client and by lost, I mean, the client who had sent him $1.6m to get a house at Gwarimpa suddenly requested her money back. He pleaded and even offered to forego his commission. The woman out rightly refused.

While narrating this incidence, he told us that the first time he had sex with the girl, “something enter me” (sic).

He lost everything he built in Abuja and came back to Lagos. His Dad took him to a spiritualist who told him the girl he was dating put a blanket over him. Till today, neither we nor he understand what that meant, but he has been struggling to rebuild himself since that time.

If you get sexually entangled with a Nymph, you may be unable to tell when the losses begin, especially if they are marginally small losses with inconsequential value, but be rest assured you can never attain greatness with an unlucky woman riding your cock.

You need to take note of the progress or retrogress of things and situations in your life when you become sexually involved with a lady. If you don’t, whether as a result of her action or inaction, whether knowingly or unknowingly, she will drag you to be bottom of the ocean and drown you there.

Kiss greatness bye!


And finally…


5. The Sieve – I have reserved this one for last because it is to me, the most dangerous of ladies to get sexually entangled with.

I am not even going to spend much time here.

I have spent the most part of my life in the midst of Wealth and I can AUTHORITATIVELY tell you this – “THERE ARE TWO FRAMES OF MIND IN THIS WORLD. THE GATHER MENTALITY AND THE SCATTER MENTALITY. EVERY DAMM WEALTHY PERSON YOU HAVE EVER SEEN IN YOUR LIFE OPERATES UNDER THE FORMER. EVERY POOR PERSON YOU HAVE EVER ENCOUNTERED OPERATES UNDER THE LATTER”.

Wealthy people hustle 98% of their waking hours. Every other thing falls in the 2%. They want to gather and amass as much wealth as they possibly can and cannot. You would be shocked by their work ethic when you come into their circle and you know what’s most important?

They know and internalize this fact that the average poor Joe on the street does not know – KEEPING money is HARDER than MAKING it.

If you did not know this, KNOW IT ONE Great Man!

It is harder to keep N1million than to make it and I myself are testament to this FACT of LIFE!

The money you make does not make you wealthy. It is the money you KEEP so if you are sexually entangled with a girl whose dream is to BUY, BUY, BUY, SEND, SEND, SEND, TRANSFER, TRANSFER, TRANSFER, GO OUT, GO OUT, GO OUT, my brother, carry your great future and sell!

You will NEVER get there!

Now, you may love this girl so much that you are currently thinking, I will make more… let me burst your bubble… SHE WILL SPEND MORE!!!

You can never satisfy a SPENDER because there are always better and newer things to spend on!

Your girlfriend continues to inundate you with request for new hair, new phone, new watch, new bag, but she has never once sent you even a LINK to a money making opportunity, Great Man, you are dating a SIEVE and you will never be great!

She will sieve you money, your time and finally your destiny. Just like the pump station manager at the beginning of this story, she will lead you into a path riddled with lack, shame and death.

Wake up Great Man! Until you get to the point where the shenanigans of another person cannot affect the legacy you have built, KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN for all the signs.

May the force be with you!

I may answer the first few questions, so ask away...

SugarPapi:
I may answer the first few questions, so ask away...

Brace yourself, they are coming for you

..they are here..they only want to hear you sing them praises, call them honey, my dear, once you mention their bad behavior..They call it misogyny, hate, an attack against them, and broke men mentality.....

It’s a wonderful piece...

Great men...please come in...

Gooodharddick please come and pour petrol as usual


Ohhhhhh!!!!!....where is lalasticlala seffff

WatchYourSix:


Brace yourself, they are coming for you

..they are here..they only want to hear you sing them praises, call them honey, my dear, once you mention their bad behavior..They call it misogyny, hate, an attack against them, and broke men mentality.....

It’s a wonderful piece...

Great men...please come in...

Gooodharddick please come and pour petrol as usual


Ohhhhhh!!!!!....where is lalasticlala seffff

Ihave sent him to the trenches!

Candidlady:


Ihave sent him to the trenches!

Lol....
I know say you no go like the thread even though it’s useful to your brothers and cousins.

WatchYourSix:


Brace yourself, they are coming for you...

I'm not a redpiller bro. I believe 100% in CHIVALRY.

I simply forgot to add that is message goes for both men and women.