I am a man of 31 years. I was very timid as a young boy and so I barely mingled with the opposite sex. As a teenager, I could barely talk to girls, I was only able to admire them from a far without being able to express myself to them. I developed the habit of saving pictures of girls I had a crush on, on my phone and later progressed to looking and lusting after girls; particularly girls with big butt on Instagram.

I am from a very religious background and I did not want to defy myself physically by engaging in physical sex but I did other sexual immoralities just as guilty as fornication. Like I said earlier, I began to lust after girls with big butts on Instagram and when I became very Hot, I masturbated to relieve myself.

This bad habit of mine continued until I decided to get married. Shortly, before my wedding I decided to stop masturbation. It was quite easy for me because I hated the act and always felt very dirty after I had done it. But I continued feeding my eyes with all sorts of big booty women on Instagram and lusting after them, but I never masturbated again.

After my wedding, my wife moved into my house. She saw pictures of different girls on my phone (girls I had had a crush on at one time or the other, note I did not lust after the girls nor use their pictures to masturbate, I just enjoy looking at beautiful women) and she even became more furious when she stumbled on my Instagram account. She was disappointed and she began to develop feelings of hatred for me. That is a story for another day. But my wife actually thinks I am abnormal sexually, she actually thinks I am a pervert.

Another disturbing thing is that I easily get erections, sometime with or without sexual thoughts. For instance, I get hard sometimes when a baby rests directly on my penis (this happens when I am wearing boxer shots). I will have to adjust myself and the baby before the erection will come down. Note I do not have any sexual thoughts whatsoever, it just happens.

I am not a pervert, I have never sexually abused any woman before, my wife is the only woman I have slept with. I do not look after teenagers or children lustfully. I fear God and I just cannot imagine myself doing any of such.

Please medical practitioners in the house, what could be the cause of my overly sensitive manhood and random erections even without sexual thoughts.

Pornography...... that's the simple cause of your issues.

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thorpido:
Pornography...... that's the simple cause of your issues.

Well, that could be the cause. But I never really did porn as in watching people having sex. I did more of looking at half naked women especially those with curvy figure on Instagram.

How can I be free from this irregular erections? I have deleted my instagram accounts and I have also stopped going to search for such women to lust after them. I made a firm resolution to stop masturbation this year, and God has helped me to overcome that bad habit.

Its normal just as some girls can faint on wizkids issue, just make sure the girls are more beautiful than your mum and have big butt ........... my complements

Stop feeling guilty for being a normal man. Your body is responsive to human touch and you have testosterone in large amounts. It is not a bad thing.

Last saturday, i was in the company of 50- 65 year old accomplished men. After all their serious talk and life issues their gist still went back to women with big yansh and big breasts . I just dey laugh for my mind...say men will always be men.

If Dangote and Otedola and Adenuga finish talking business, their topic go still shift go " how about that your smallie wey get big yansh"

Stop feeling guilty. Nothing do you.

It's good thing you are married.
Erection is normal.
If you are having the erection,you can use it on your wife.
Hope your wife is not denying you sex.
You mentioned something about your wife feeling hatred towards you.
Hope both of you have resolved the issue.
In addition,stop following babes with big booty and boobs on instagram,delete all babes images from your phone and cut down on the porn.

Have you considered seeing a therapist? If not you should. What you're experiencing seems like a psychological problem. You can request an online session with a doctor here
https://cribmd.com/

You are worried for nothing

CuriousMind2022:


Well, that could be the cause.[b] Bit I never really did porn as in watching people having sex.[/b]I did more of looking at half naked women especially those with curvy figure on Instagram.

How can I be free from this irregular erections? I have deleted my instagram accounts and I have also stopped going to search for such women to lust after them. I made a firm resolution to stop masturbation this year, and God has helped me to overcome that bad habit.

Soft porn, that's what you're doing.
You're on the right path though.Deleting your Instagram and keeping away from nude pictures will help you a lot.
You're a normal man,you just need to let the right things and right thoughts occupy your mind.

CuriousMind2022:


Well, that could be the cause. But I never really did porn as in watching people having sex. I did more of looking at half naked women especially those with curvy figure on Instagram.

How can I be free from this irregular erections? I have deleted my instagram accounts and I have also stopped going to search for such women to lust after them. I made a firm resolution to stop masturbation this year, and God has helped me to overcome that bad habit.

OP erections are normal oo ( you said you dont have negative thoughts)
You just need to be calm and have more fun with your wife

U said u quit masturbation before u got married
Its like you got married this year

What you need to is quit watching porn (and yes, porn INCLUDES inta women and any other images you look at for sexual pleasure).

Your sexual tastes are being trained by your rewards system. You are training yourself to like things that you previously didn't. This is how people become perverse. But rejoice! It doesn't mean you are a pervert it means you are infected by perversion. Like any sickness there is a treatment to destroy the aliment.

https://easypeasymethod.org/ - this website has a book that explains how to quit pornography. I suggest you give it a read.

When you quit porn and looking at insta girls your sexual tastes will go back to normal as your rewards system is no longer being overstimulated.

These are the side effects of masturbation that debunked by your fellow nairalanders.

what kinda wife did you marry, that things that you did (as a single man) before her time should be a concern to her?!?!?! unless it was insane/crazy stuff, keeping pictures of big bootay women is not wrong at all. i suspect she feels offended because she probably does NOT look like the women she (just now) realize your desire... thus if she doesn have a big bootay, here lies your dilema!

be ready to hear her whine all the time about it, and pls, dont EVER make the mistake of staring at a big bootay woman in her presence, because believe me, that would be the start of WW3 in your home.

thorpido:
Soft porn, that's what you're doing.
You're on the right path though.Deleting your Instagram and keeping away from nude pictures will help you a lot.
You're a normal man,you just need to let the right things and right thoughts occupy your mind.

Thanks boss....I have always deceived myself that I don't do porn, not knowing I was drenched in soft porn. Thanks for the encouragement.

Zdalmano:
What you need to is quit watching porn (and yes, porn INCLUDES inta women and any other images you look at for sexual pleasure).

Your sexual tastes are being trained by your rewards system. You are training yourself to like things that you previously didn't. This is how people become perverse. But rejoice! It doesn't mean you are a pervert it means you are infected by perversion. Like any sickness there is a treatment to destroy the aliment.

https://easypeasymethod.org/ - this website has a book that explains how to quit pornography. I suggest you give it a read.

When you quit porn and looking at insta girls your sexual tastes will go back to normal as your rewards system is no longer being overstimulated.

Thanks boss, I've decided to completely quit anything porn including instagram and God is helping me.

internationalman:
These are the side effects of masturbation that debunked by your fellow nairalanders.

Side effect ke I thought they said it causes weak erection and poor eye sight But baba just confirmed that his piriki no dey see woman before e stand attention sef (meaning say his joromi is in good health) and he dey see well.

There's nothing wrong with you than for you to stop any form of pornography,masturbation and lusting around on IG....what you need is self control to stop those habits,and let your erection be for your wife anyday anytime

MrRemedyAlagbo:
There's nothing wrong with you than for you to stop any form of pornography,masturbation and lusting around on IG....what you need is self control to stop those habits,and let your erection be for your wife anyday anytime

Thanks boss, the resolve is strong and I trust God to purge me completely of these bad habits.

BigYash:
Side effect ke I thought they said it causes weak erection and poor eye sight But baba just confirmed that his piriki no dey see woman before e stand attention sef (meaning say his joromi is in good health) and he dey see well.

Yes weak erection and premature ejaculation are the side effects of a really really long time addict..

internationalman:


Yes weak erection and premature ejaculation are the side effects of a really really long time addict..

Wonderful my nigga.