When I had a federal government job in a new state, I rented one room because I couldn't see 1, 2 or 3 bedroom apartment at the moment.

3 rooms shared one toilet.

I lived near a 17 years old girl who was living with her "brother"


I heard that she rarely visit her mother in Abuja because she didn't like the way her mother and other females around were telling her to behave properly. Infact she hated seeing women around her because she thought women don't like the way she was behaving.


My experience in the compound were as follows:


1. She didn't use to flush the toilet after use because she believed it was an insult for her to flush the toilet.


2. Whenever I bought a new item like chair or mattress, she would be so sad and angry that she would be banging things and shouting at people. She would be very angry with me.



3. She was so lousy that so many times, she would put on songs that disturb the whole neighborhood. If someone talked, she would not listen.


4. She liked insulting her "brother" who would beat her. She would spend a long time crying and disturbing my peace since I lived directly opposite her. I heard that she and her "brother" were actually lovers, although they were cousins. But they told people they were brother and sister. The boy was working to feed himself and her, yet she had no respect for the boy.

What was your own experience?

5. Initially, when they packed into the compound, her brother used to wash her clothes, and cook food for her to eat.


When she finished using the toilet, it's her brother who would come and flush it.

She spent her time watching films and playing noisy music.

She said she wanted to make enough money so that men would be serving her.

But some women in the adjacent neighborhood were not happy because of her pride.


So she stopped greeting them.


When her brother had a new job that required going out very early and coming back very late, she started washing her clothes and cooking.

But she refused to flush the toilet after use despite repeated warning.

Everyone just let her be, because the males around didn't want to start getting issue with a female over toilet. She was the only female around.


That's why it's good to train your child well so that when he or she grows, he or she will never be found wanting.

Good night.