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LaPrimero:
My Brother got gainfully employed mid 2021 due to the efforts of my parents. He had been struggling with a 10k job since he finished service before he got this well paying job. Everything was going well as he started well at his working place and was even getting applauded by his boss and higher ranking staffs as he was taken as someone of great promise. He was also in good times with my parents.

Around November last year, he sighted this chubby fine girl and became restless. He even said "she is the one". He hustled for the girl's number and soon started something with her. She accepted his proposal the moment he asked. Our Dad told him it was too early for all that and he needed to focus on building his still budding career but he turned a deaf ear. He soon started lavishing funds on the girl to my parents consternation. He even started discussing intimate details about our family with the girl within a short frame of time. Around January this year, Matters came to a head and started being utterly disrespectful to our parents. He even cut off Everyone that tried to advice him on the folly of the "relationship". He basically became a stranger to the family and his friends all because of a girl. The girl was so demanding, Manipulative and infuriating. The worst is that the girl was a serial girlfriend, having dated at least 8 men before him. She was a so called Dj and her whole life was all about parties and fleshpots. My brother on the other hand came from a strict Christian family and abandoned all the values he identified with because of the girl. The only thing he got from the relationship was premium billing.


The Crux of the matter now is that he went bankrupt trying to fund her extravagant lifestyle and even went into debts. He borrowed money from 7 different loan apps and they have been on his neck. We have been able to handle 3 of the loans and some of the remaining loan companies are even threatening to post his photos on social media and Newspapers as a fraudster and also blacklist his bvn.

He has been getting troubling phone calls from the loan apps and is basically ruined both mentally and physically. He looks so lean this days and has become humble to my parents and even to me his younger brother. The family he rejected and refused to even give one Kobo in his heydays is now trying by all possible means to rescue him from the slump as we are his only backbone . The girl in question does not even know what he is going through.

How do we rescue the foolish young man as he still isn't ready to fully give up the girl. A friend told him he can't even help him get back on his feet because it will be like pouring water into a leaking bucket. While I was at school this dude hardly sent me or my younger ones anything but was sending a sizeable amount to the girl monthly because he was "in love". I really need helpful suggestions from the house on this matter. Mods help me get this to fp

Forget about his humbleness now
He still remains who he is over that lady

That lady will teach him a lesson in his life that will regret

You guys should stop paying his loan, let him be exposed by the loan app and that may help reset his brain

Do you know the worst, that girl will finish him and dump him at the end

Since he has refuse to learn and grow, let him deal with it

Your brother suppose know say no be every woman billing man dey heed to especially when his money is still up & coming cos such billings no dey ever end oo...anyways, I gat no advice for a man inlove cos e no dey work..

[quote author=LaPrimero post=111770261]My Brother got gainfully employed mid 2021 due to the efforts of my parents. He had been struggling with a 10k job since he finished service before he got this well paying job. Everything was going well as he started well at his working place and was even getting applauded by his boss and higher ranking staffs as he was taken as someone of great promise. He was also in good times with my parents.

Around November last year, he sighted this chubby fine girl and became restless. He even said "she is the one". He hustled for the girl's number and soon started something with her. She accepted his proposal the moment he asked. Our Dad told him it was too early for all that and he needed to focus on building his still budding career but he turned a deaf ear. He soon started lavishing funds on the girl to my parents consternation. He even started discussing intimate details about our family with the girl within a short frame of time. Around January this year, Matters came to a head and started being utterly disrespectful to our parents. He even cut off Everyone that tried to advice him on the folly of the "relationship". He basically became a stranger to the family and his friends all because of a girl. The girl was so demanding, Manipulative and infuriating. The worst is that the girl was a serial girlfriend, having dated at least 8 men before him. She was a so called Dj and her whole life was all about parties and fleshpots. My brother on the other hand came from a strict Christian family and abandoned all the values he identified with because of the girl. The only thing he got from the relationship was premium billing.


The Crux of the matter now is that he went bankrupt trying to fund her extravagant lifestyle and even went into debts. He borrowed money from 7 different loan apps and they have been on his neck. We have been able to handle 3 of the loans and some of the remaining loan companies are even threatening to post his photos on social media and Newspapers as a fraudster and also blacklist his bvn.

He has been getting troubling phone calls from the loan apps and is basically ruined both mentally and physically. He looks so lean this days and has become humble to my parents and even to me his younger brother. The family he rejected and refused to even give one Kobo in his heydays is now trying by all possible means to rescue him from the slump as we are his only backbone . The girl in question does not even know what he is going through.

How do we rescue the foolish young man as he still isn't ready to fully give up the girl. A friend told him he can't even help him get back on his feet because it will be like pouring water into a leaking bucket. While I was at school this dude hardly sent me or my younger ones anything but was sending a sizeable amount to the girl monthly because he was "in love". I really need helpful suggestions from the house on this matter. Mods help me get this to fp[/quote

You can't help the foolish boy.. the girls usually come in and separate the foolish men from friends and family,then suck them dry ,abandon them and leach on to the next available wimp... he will have to learn in the hard way.just let him be...stop paying his debts for him.

LaPrimero:
My Brother got gainfully employed mid 2021 due to the efforts of my parents. He had been struggling with a 10k job since he finished service before he got this well paying job. Everything was going well as he started well at his working place and was even getting applauded by his boss and higher ranking staffs as he was taken as someone of great promise. He was also in good times with my parents.

Around November last year, he sighted this chubby fine girl and became restless. He even said "she is the one". He hustled for the girl's number and soon started something with her. She accepted his proposal the moment he asked. Our Dad told him it was too early for all that and he needed to focus on building his still budding career but he turned a deaf ear. He soon started lavishing funds on the girl to my parents consternation. He even started discussing intimate details about our family with the girl within a short frame of time. Around January this year, Matters came to a head and started being utterly disrespectful to our parents. He even cut off Everyone that tried to advice him on the folly of the "relationship". He basically became a stranger to the family and his friends all because of a girl. The girl was so demanding, Manipulative and infuriating. The worst is that the girl was a serial girlfriend, having dated at least 8 men before him. She was a so called Dj and her whole life was all about parties and fleshpots. My brother on the other hand came from a strict Christian family and abandoned all the values he identified with because of the girl. The only thing he got from the relationship was premium billing.


The Crux of the matter now is that he went bankrupt trying to fund her extravagant lifestyle and even went into debts. He borrowed money from 7 different loan apps and they have been on his neck. We have been able to handle 3 of the loans and some of the remaining loan companies are even threatening to post his photos on social media and Newspapers as a fraudster and also blacklist his bvn.

He has been getting troubling phone calls from the loan apps and is basically ruined both mentally and physically. He looks so lean this days and has become humble to my parents and even to me his younger brother. The family he rejected and refused to even give one Kobo in his heydays is now trying by all possible means to rescue him from the slump as we are his only backbone . The girl in question does not even know what he is going through.

How do we rescue the foolish young man as he still isn't ready to fully give up the girl. A friend told him he can't even help him get back on his feet because it will be like pouring water into a leaking bucket. While I was at school this dude hardly sent me or my younger ones anything but was sending a sizeable amount to the girl monthly because he was "in love". I really need helpful suggestions from the house on this matter. Mods help me get this to fp

Your brother needs to learn that there is a thin line between lust and love..

Too bad.

Cyntie55:
I'm talking from experience, my younger brother did worse. I even created a thread about it last year.


Well, no need crying over spilled milk. Go to God in Prayer.

Is the source of your younger brother's issue also caused by a woman? You are a woman too....do something about it.

LaPrimero:

How do we rescue the foolish young man as he still isn't ready to fully give up the girl. A friend told him he can't even help him get back on his feet because it will be like pouring water into a leaking bucket.

As long as he remains with that girl, he can never stand on his feet. Stop helping him and allow the loan apps disgrace him so he can wake up from his love induced slumber. You cannot help who doesn't realise he has a problem. He must first acknowledge the cause of his problems and deal decisively with it before he can get on the road of recovery.

LaPrimero:
My Brother got gainfully employed mid 2021 due to the efforts of my parents. He had been struggling with a 10k job since he finished service before he got this well paying job. Everything was going well as he started well at his working place and was even getting applauded by his boss and higher ranking staffs as he was taken as someone of great promise. He was also in good times with my parents.

Around November last year, he sighted this chubby fine girl and became restless. He even said "she is the one". He hustled for the girl's number and soon started something with her. She accepted his proposal the moment he asked. Our Dad told him it was too early for all that and he needed to focus on building his still budding career but he turned a deaf ear. He soon started lavishing funds on the girl to my parents consternation. He even started discussing intimate details about our family with the girl within a short frame of time. Around January this year, Matters came to a head and started being utterly disrespectful to our parents. He even cut off Everyone that tried to advice him on the folly of the "relationship". He basically became a stranger to the family and his friends all because of a girl. The girl was so demanding, Manipulative and infuriating. The worst is that the girl was a serial girlfriend, having dated at least 8 men before him. She was a so called Dj and her whole life was all about parties and fleshpots. My brother on the other hand came from a strict Christian family and abandoned all the values he identified with because of the girl. The only thing he got from the relationship was premium billing.


The Crux of the matter now is that he went bankrupt trying to fund her extravagant lifestyle and even went into debts. He borrowed money from 7 different loan apps and they have been on his neck. We have been able to handle 3 of the loans and some of the remaining loan companies are even threatening to post his photos on social media and Newspapers as a fraudster and also blacklist his bvn.

He has been getting troubling phone calls from the loan apps and is basically ruined both mentally and physically. He looks so lean this days and has become humble to my parents and even to me his younger brother. The family he rejected and refused to even give one Kobo in his heydays is now trying by all possible means to rescue him from the slump as we are his only backbone . The girl in question does not even know what he is going through.

How do we rescue the foolish young man as he still isn't ready to fully give up the girl. A friend told him he can't even help him get back on his feet because it will be like pouring water into a leaking bucket. While I was at school this dude hardly sent me or my younger ones anything but was sending a sizeable amount to the girl monthly because he was "in love". I really need helpful suggestions from the house on this matter. Mods help me get this to fp

When other men (Simps) do that to you and your friends, you call them real men and broke sham others who see it differently. Now it is happening to your brother, you're complaining.

Don't you know that your brother is being a real and caring man to her? Anyways lets leave matters for Matthias

Ishilove:

As long as he remains with that girl, he can never stand on his feet. Stop helping him and allow the loan apps disgrace him so he can wake up from his love induced slumber. You cannot help who doesn't realise he has a problem. He must first acknowledge the cause of his problems and deal decisively with it before he can get on the road of recovery.

Perfect .

Has he struggled with girls in the past? Is this the first girl that gave him attention? He may have issues with confidence. Since you're religious, maybe have your pastor talk to him.

Your bro na smith version xxpro

LaPrimero:
My Brother got gainfully employed mid 2021 due to the efforts of my parents. He had been struggling with a 10k job since he finished service before he got this well paying job. Everything was going well as he started well at his working place and was even getting applauded by his boss and higher ranking staffs as he was taken as someone of great promise. He was also in good times with my parents.

Around November last year, he sighted this chubby fine girl and became restless. He even said "she is the one". He hustled for the girl's number and soon started something with her. She accepted his proposal the moment he asked. Our Dad told him it was too early for all that and he needed to focus on building his still budding career but he turned a deaf ear. He soon started lavishing funds on the girl to my parents consternation. He even started discussing intimate details about our family with the girl within a short frame of time. Around January this year, Matters came to a head and started being utterly disrespectful to our parents. He even cut off Everyone that tried to advice him on the folly of the "relationship". He basically became a stranger to the family and his friends all because of a girl. The girl was so demanding, Manipulative and infuriating. The worst is that the girl was a serial girlfriend, having dated at least 8 men before him. She was a so called Dj and her whole life was all about parties and fleshpots. My brother on the other hand came from a strict Christian family and abandoned all the values he identified with because of the girl. The only thing he got from the relationship was premium billing.


The Crux of the matter now is that he went bankrupt trying to fund her extravagant lifestyle and even went into debts. He borrowed money from 7 different loan apps and they have been on his neck. We have been able to handle 3 of the loans and some of the remaining loan companies are even threatening to post his photos on social media and Newspapers as a fraudster and also blacklist his bvn.

He has been getting troubling phone calls from the loan apps and is basically ruined both mentally and physically. He looks so lean this days and has become humble to my parents and even to me his younger brother. The family he rejected and refused to even give one Kobo in his heydays is now trying by all possible means to rescue him from the slump as we are his only backbone . The girl in question does not even know what he is going through.

How do we rescue the foolish young man as he still isn't ready to fully give up the girl. A friend told him he can't even help him get back on his feet because it will be like pouring water into a leaking bucket. While I was at school this dude hardly sent me or my younger ones anything but was sending a sizeable amount to the girl monthly because he was "in love". I really need helpful suggestions from the house on this matter. Mods help me get this to fp

Your brother is gone. Unless you can unhook him from thr pxssy.

Sounds to me like a case of good guy hooks up with bad girl who knacks his brains out. I am sure this is his first gf.

Unless the entire family and friends can stage an intervention and get him to end this relationship, he is gone.

This same thing happened to a colleague at work. Hooked up with some fine chick who drained him. He then strated office fraud. His bosses first covered it up. Then he did another round was caught and sacked.

May we never run into bad women.

Some hot and available chicks are better ignored

spice123:

All of these were as a result of over pampering a full blown adult.
1. He never struggled on his own to change his 10k job.
2. He never paid any bill in the house as a sign of responsibility when he was earning the 10k.
3. He is still living with his parents receiving "mummy thank you, daddy thank you" after each free meal.
Now tell me how he will even value anything as a sign of appreciation.
Op, tell your parents to give him some responsibilities like your school fees or 50% of the home feeding to be doing or he move out of the house with immediate effect. He needs to learn to be a man the hard way.

My parents really didn't give him much responsibility as you have mentioned here. I think he never really developed a sense of responsibility. Thanks for these titbits of advice

JUMO95:
It's simple. You all have to abandone him so that he will learn from the girl.
If you lift him up without first making sure the girl have left, your brother won't learn nothing

We are afraid he will fall more deeply in the sinkhole he has created if left on his own

GloriousGbola:


Your brother is gone. Unless you can unhook him from thr pxssy.

Sounds to me like a case of good guy hooks up with bad girl who knacks his brains out. I am sure this is his first gf.

Unless the entire family and friends can stage an intervention and get him to end this relationship, he is gone.

This same thing happened to a colleague at work. Hooked up with some fine chick who drained him. He then strated office fraud. His bosses first covered it up. Then he did another round was caught and sacked.

May we never run into bad women.

Some hot and available chicks are better ignored

She is his first Gf

Cyntie55:
I'm talking from experience, my younger brother did worse. I even created a thread about it last year.

You can't dictate for him. He's old enough to make his decisions. Just leave him alone, let him pay his loans. He's gonna learn the hard way. The best you owe him as a brother is to pray to God to change him. Prayer solves so many things.

You guys pampered him when he was much younger, and I would say, you are reaping the dividend of what you allowed.

My younger brother is getting worse by the day, but I have taken it to God in prayers, because everyone is tired of advising him and I hope life teach him a lesson, so that he will come back to his senses.

Well, no need crying over spilled milk. Go to God in Prayer.

Well said. Exactly the point I had wasted to make too

This is the reason you should let your kids be exposed. Guys who grew up under a strong Christian background always fall prey to situations like this. If he had been dating in the past, he wouldn't have been in such a mess now.

LaPrimero:
My Brother got gainfully employed mid 2021 due to the efforts of my parents. He had been struggling with a 10k job since he finished service before he got this well paying job. Everything was going well as he started well at his working place and was even getting applauded by his boss and higher ranking staffs as he was taken as someone of great promise. He was also in good times with my parents.

Around November last year, he sighted this chubby fine girl and became restless. He even said "she is the one". He hustled for the girl's number and soon started something with her. She accepted his proposal the moment he asked. Our Dad told him it was too early for all that and he needed to focus on building his still budding career but he turned a deaf ear. He soon started lavishing funds on the girl to my parents consternation. He even started discussing intimate details about our family with the girl within a short frame of time. Around January this year, Matters came to a head and started being utterly disrespectful to our parents. He even cut off Everyone that tried to advice him on the folly of the "relationship". He basically became a stranger to the family and his friends all because of a girl. The girl was so demanding, Manipulative and infuriating. The worst is that the girl was a serial girlfriend, having dated at least 8 men before him. She was a so called Dj and her whole life was all about parties and fleshpots. My brother on the other hand came from a strict Christian family and abandoned all the values he identified with because of the girl. The only thing he got from the relationship was premium billing.


The Crux of the matter now is that he went bankrupt trying to fund her extravagant lifestyle and even went into debts. He borrowed money from 7 different loan apps and they have been on his neck. We have been able to handle 3 of the loans and some of the remaining loan companies are even threatening to post his photos on social media and Newspapers as a fraudster and also blacklist his bvn.

He has been getting troubling phone calls from the loan apps and is basically ruined both mentally and physically. He looks so lean this days and has become humble to my parents and even to me his younger brother. The family he rejected and refused to even give one Kobo in his heydays is now trying by all possible means to rescue him from the slump as we are his only backbone . The girl in question does not even know what he is going through.

How do we rescue the foolish young man as he still isn't ready to fully give up the girl. A friend told him he can't even help him get back on his feet because it will be like pouring water into a leaking bucket. While I was at school this dude hardly sent me or my younger ones anything but was sending a sizeable amount to the girl monthly because he was "in love". I really need helpful suggestions from the house on this matter. Mods help me get this to fp

He's lucky to have you people , I disowned my brothers because of this same foolishness , ever since I was a child I always listened to them , I used to fight my parents because I wanted to go out with them , I really thought I was lucky to have 2 tall fine brothers in my house , today if anyone asks me about my family , I will tell you that I'm the first child and I'm truly the first child , because I'm the only one that acts like it and I'm the one that is approved by my dad as his first child ,
How can you as a son come to see your younger siblings and you don't feel bad that you can't even bring bread ? You're so comfortable coming empty handed to see your father and your so called junior ones and you're expecting us to respond to you or respect you ,
Today I can call him and say brother I need 100 naira card and he will tell me that his house just collapsed , his fish just died , his boat was stolen and I'll be shocked " brother you had a boat ?" , " You had a house?" " You're even engaged and you're still the one taking care of your fiancee and her child ( that is not his) " , as I'm typing this I'm in 400 level and from the year I entered uni , they've been asking for my account details and 100 naira has not entered ,.
God knows why he made my Dad a responsible father , is only my dad I have and he's been there all day , every day , he always picks my call to hear my complaint , my goodnews , my update , my gossip ,my demands , I don't insult ppls father's because insulting my dad can lead to fight and I will win the fight

My cousin brother hit jackpot just recently too , I don't say he's my cousin coz we look alike and I also loved him alot so I just tell everyone he's my brother , I used to look up to him and I was his only ear when he was down , all of a sudden he hit jackpot , he went to pack one gold digger and took her shopping, she's basically a family member because she grew up in our compound , her brother in law bought our grandpa land and our extended family house and their house are facing each other ( face me I face you ) , since we were kids she and her sister had ashawo tendency , I'm older than her oh but she's trying to flirt with my dad , my papa wey get pikin wey fit born her "sir my phone is spoilt "

They used to tease her with my cousin and he was broke then and she will be like "God forbid oh , that kind person " now he has money , the people that gave him house to stay he didn't see them , the people that were feeding him , he didn't see them , his little cousins he didn't see them , he only saw her and he took her mega shopping , a box of clothes , series of perfume , a box of clothes for her sister , my cousin sister is always calling to report him and I'm just irritated , I'm not going to ask for anything from him , till I die and I've kept my promise , only thing I asked him for and he struggled to give me was a body spray , not even perfume, and that was ages ago , I have pride if I ask you for one thing and you say no , especially if I can do more than what I'm asking for, that's the end forget about me because I will do you back and the relationship won't recover from it

My cousin sister on the other hand suffered but she was always thinking about everyone , she doesn't mind giving you her last #200 naira even if your phone is bigger than hers , she goes out and comes back with school bags for 4 of her little brothers , she'll buy this purse for her mom , cook , clean , wash clothes for her siblings that are old enough to wash for themselves, she'll still bath them , dress them up for school , both her parents are irresponsible so she had to fend for herself and her brothers while her parents were trying to look youthful and flex

I don't trust any of my brothers and infact I trust no male relative except my dad
Even if my dad gave me everything I felt abandoned and lonely coz i really grew up to understand that all of them didn't really give a dam*n about me they were just being nice coz they knew dad loved me , and I understood that in reality even if I was dying or starving they won't lift a finger so far as it's me , my cousin own is general ( everyone is waiting for him to crawl back)
But I think having them in my life helped me be a better sibling and daughter , I know I'm going home , I'll save up maybe on my way I'll see bread I'll buy it , I've been like that since I was a kid but I was just doing it for doing sake , now I know it's very very important to never appear in front of family or friend empty unless you have no choice , before going my siblings gather to discuss what and what I should look for when I'm coming back so I can prepare in advance , so that I don't have excuses like " you did not tell me fast " , sometimes it's fun and sometimes it's not and sometimes it involves compromise but the conclusion I'm not just a sister by blood or by mouth, I carry out my responsibilities and when it's my turn all of them come out to help me , even when I don't ask ( noone wants to be on my bad book but they don't know that no matter what they do I'll still be there , coz I also wanted an older sibling that was also there )

ambr055i:
This is the reason you should let your kids be exposed. Guys who grew up under a strong Christian background always fall prey to situations like this. If he had been dating in the past, he wouldn't have been in such a mess now.

I've always be an advocate of young men interacting with women no matter which level of life they currently find themselves. All this talk of "go to school, build a career, make money" before "women" doesn't sit well with me because it results to stories like the Op's brother: that is they fall prey to malicious women who take advantage of their naivety.

Might I also add she's just concerned because her brother is the prey here, if it was a guy doing same to her, praises would be showered on him: you know the "real man tag".

When a man loves a woman.....

Another story from the SIMP

AjiBussu:


When other men (Simps) do that to you and your friends, you call them real men and broke sham others who see it differently. Now it is happening to your brother, you're complaining.

Don't you know that your brother is being a real and caring man to her? Anyways lets leave matters for Matthias

.... You ve just spoken my mind.
Lol. So now she doesn't want her brother to be a realman again?

This is to tell you that they all know the truth anytime they use realmen tag on the simps and broke shame the sensible guys who have refused to be manipulated by that word. REAL MAN.

ambr055i:
This is the reason you should let your kids be exposed. Guys who grew up under a strong Christian background always fall prey to situations like this. If he had been dating in the past, he wouldn't have been in such a mess now.

If he imbibed his Christian values, he wouldn't date such a girl.

Don't you think so?

What concord should light have with darkness?

sisisioge:
When a man loves a woman.....

Any 'love' that leaves you worse off and/or destroys you is not love.

LaPrimero:
My Brother got gainfully employed mid 2021 due to the efforts of my parents. He had been struggling with a 10k job since he finished service before he got this well paying job. Everything was going well as he started well at his working place and was even getting applauded by his boss and higher ranking staffs as he was taken as someone of great promise. He was also in good times with my parents.

Around November last year, he sighted this chubby fine girl and became restless. He even said "she is the one". He hustled for the girl's number and soon started something with her. She accepted his proposal the moment he asked. Our Dad told him it was too early for all that and he needed to focus on building his still budding career but he turned a deaf ear. He soon started lavishing funds on the girl to my parents consternation. He even started discussing intimate details about our family with the girl within a short frame of time. Around January this year, Matters came to a head and started being utterly disrespectful to our parents. He even cut off Everyone that tried to advice him on the folly of the "relationship". He basically became a stranger to the family and his friends all because of a girl. The girl was so demanding, Manipulative and infuriating. The worst is that the girl was a serial girlfriend, having dated at least 8 men before him. She was a so called Dj and her whole life was all about parties and fleshpots. My brother on the other hand came from a strict Christian family and abandoned all the values he identified with because of the girl. The only thing he got from the relationship was premium billing.


The Crux of the matter now is that he went bankrupt trying to fund her extravagant lifestyle and even went into debts. He borrowed money from 7 different loan apps and they have been on his neck. We have been able to handle 3 of the loans and some of the remaining loan companies are even threatening to post his photos on social media and Newspapers as a fraudster and also blacklist his bvn.

He has been getting troubling phone calls from the loan apps and is basically ruined both mentally and physically. He looks so lean this days and has become humble to my parents and even to me his younger brother. The family he rejected and refused to even give one Kobo in his heydays is now trying by all possible means to rescue him from the slump as we are his only backbone . The girl in question does not even know what he is going through.

How do we rescue the foolish young man as he still isn't ready to fully give up the girl. A friend told him he can't even help him get back on his feet because it will be like pouring water into a leaking bucket. While I was at school this dude hardly sent me or my younger ones anything but was sending a sizeable amount to the girl monthly because he was "in love". I really need helpful suggestions from the house on this matter. Mods help me get this to fp

I hope your brother gets his senses back before he is completely ruined and becomes bitter towards women.

Your brother is already neck deep in this, he alone is in the position to actually get himself out of this mess but then I hope it won't be too late by then.

Y'all can only do your best which ofcourse I think y'all have done by accepting him back with open arms & also helping him settle some of his debts, some families really got no chill and will leave him to his fate after he ignored all their warnings and eventually cut them off for no just reason. I'm really sorry to say this but he only came back with the hope that y'all will surely be there for him in these challenging times and help him rise again, however chances that he'll suddenly develop amnesia and go straight back to his so-called girlfriend as soon as his loans have been paid off, I sincerely hope I'm wrong.

He has to also make efforts to pay off the remaining debts, y'all should let him know that he doesn't get to take the back seat (I know he's the victim here and y'all definitely feel pity for him but this will help develop some sense of responsibility on his part). I hope he didn't lose his job cos after your first paragraph, you didn't say anything again about that. It's his first relationship alright, we mumu for love dah year sha but this one right here is really getting out of hand.

Don't give up just yet, y'all still try to talk some sense into him, not guaranteed though as that may just fly over his head and that's why they say "no dey put mawt for loff matter, dem go use you settle las las" loff there- could go for other things that can make people get sentimental and defensive. Y'all be prayerful as well. Shalom!

He is finnished, forget about it.

Let him learn. That said girl is cheating on him.....he is forming gud boy.....most girls like bad boys that will smack thier ass in public.

Raalsalghul:


I've always be an advocate of young men interacting with women no matter which level of life they currently find themselves. All this talk of "go to school, build a career, make money" before "women" doesn't sit well with me because it results to stories like the Op's brother: that is they fall prey to malicious women who take advantage of their naivety.

Might I also add she's just concerned because her brother is the prey here, if it was a guy doing same to her, praises would be showered on him: you know the "real man tag".

You hit the nail right on the head.