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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by NigerianAngelo(m): 10:14am On Apr 15, 2022
cj1900:
Hi guys,
I won't take much of your time. I have a very delicate matter in my hands and I need diverse opinions please.

Background
I don't live in Nigeria but me and my wife both have a very comfortable 4 bedroom duplex in Nigeria. We have a one year old baby. I have been in Nigeria for 5 months now and I will be returning to UK in a few weeks.

Ever since I've been in Nigeria, my cousin (mid 30s) has been with us. Quite frankly, it is not very easy for him at the moment and i do care about him as a brother. He is in the process of processing his visa, so its not as if he is loafing about.

The plan is that both me and my wife will be taking turns in visiting each other for the next 2 or so years until I return fully to Nigeria.

The problem
The problem is that I do not feel comfortable leaving just him and my wife under thesame roof whilst I return and he is not showing any signs of leaving when I return to my base.

So, this is my situation and I don't know if I am being insensitive.

I married a very good wife and under most circumstances, I trust her. I am just not comfortable leaving my wife with any man atall under thesame roof.

I need your opinions pls.

Send him to where he is supposed to be. Even if it's the village. He will infallibly fare better. You will see.

Send him now. No, don't allow him in the house even if he's good. You will be doing the will of God.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by COdeGenesis: 10:14am On Apr 15, 2022
Just leave your cousin in the house and plant CCTV cameras in hidden places in your house. Dey monitor your house from abroad. Your wife will still cheat if she wants to and given your distance it takes a very strong woman and a busy woman for that matter not to cheat. Just leave the guy man in the house and get maybe someone from your wife's side, possibly a guy to stay with her. Since it's a duplex then he can go days without even seeing your wife

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Flier: 10:14am On Apr 15, 2022
The right thing is to get him a self con and get your wife siblings to live with her
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by skales67(m): 10:15am On Apr 15, 2022
It depends on the kind of wife you married.

Even if you find an apartment for him, he can still decide to come and visit and even sleepover and gradually, an erotic bond will be formed.

Your wife can still go visit him

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by DukeNija(m): 10:15am On Apr 15, 2022
frozen70:



Your wife is the issue here not your cousin

If your wife is decent and you trust her with your last breath, you don't need to panic

If she wants to sleep with another man, she will do so even while you are leaving in Nigeria

So even if you get a room self contain for your cousin to pack out, they will meet when they want to meet

So, just talk to your wife by advising her and that's all

Who go cheat go cheat

Very unreasonable advise far from reality. You think humans are gods? Heck even gods get tempted when the opportunity pleasantly lays around. You sound like a robot programmed to act a certain way. Asides sex, their safety is also important and you think the cousin could be trusted? Have you heard about Rape? A depressed middle aged man with a vulnerable woman? Use your brain more.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by skales67(m): 10:16am On Apr 15, 2022
Flier:
The right thing is to get him a self con and get your wife siblings to live with her

And what if she decides to be paying him a visit? You never sabi Nigérian women.
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by gaby(m): 10:16am On Apr 15, 2022
Even with no one under the same roof with her on a permanent or long term basis, does that really stop her from straying if it's in her books to do so?

Can't she invite someone in while you are away or step out to a lodge to do the do even if her cohort turns out to be this same cousin of yours?

Stop being paranoid over nothing for whoever is willing to stray or made up his/her mind to stray can even get the deed done right under your nose in your very before oga.

Be mindful not to mess up your mind and thoughts with negativities that could end up rubbing off on your innocent wife, please.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by postmann: 10:16am On Apr 15, 2022
It will be gross stupidity on your part if you do.

You can't bring fire any close to inflammable substance without a great risk of an explosion. Even if willful sex doesn't take place, there's no ruling out accidental discharge.

These two people will grow fonder as they spend time alone in that big an lonely atmosphere. The cousin, by his sheer physical presence will be taking your place and would do the things only you would have done were you present; even little things like changing bulbs in the bedroom.


The bed would be just few inches away.

Don't be a Fool, bro!



cj1900:
Hi guys,
I won't take much of your time. I have a very delicate matter in my hands and I need diverse opinions please.

Background
I don't live in Nigeria but me and my wife both have a very comfortable 4 bedroom duplex in Nigeria. We have a one year old baby. I have been in Nigeria for 5 months now and I will be returning to UK in a few weeks.

Ever since I've been in Nigeria, my cousin (mid 30s) has been with us. Quite frankly, it is not very easy for him at the moment and i do care about him as a brother. He is in the process of processing his visa, so its not as if he is loafing about.

The plan is that both me and my wife will be taking turns in visiting each other for the next 2 or so years until I return fully to Nigeria.

The problem
The problem is that I do not feel comfortable leaving just him and my wife under thesame roof whilst I return and he is not showing any signs of leaving when I return to my base.

So, this is my situation and I don't know if I am being insensitive.

I married a very good wife and under most circumstances, I trust her. I am just not comfortable leaving my wife with any man atall under thesame roof.

I need your opinions pls.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by tonyashburton: 10:17am On Apr 15, 2022
Silly man.Whether your cousin is under your roof or not is immaterial.If your wife has accepted to cheat on you with him,distance will not be a barrier to their sexual intimacy.
Stop being paranoid or relocate your wife permanently if your mind is not at rest.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by StPete: 10:17am On Apr 15, 2022
If your cousin has been tasting her kpekus while you're not around, even if you give him millions of naira to rent an apartment, you're just wasting your time. He will keep the money and probably stay with a friend pending the time you will return, then he will return back to your house and continue where he stopped.

But as much, find him a location very far from your home. And probably invite your wife's brother whom you can trust to live with your wife pending your relocation
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by DukeNija(m): 10:17am On Apr 15, 2022
Favfables1:


OP....
Take this advice...
Rather than send your cousin away, bring in *her* relative or a domestic staff...

You really have no clue about human emotions if you think the said cousin could be trusted with his young family. This mans instinct is clearly on the right path to protect his family. When it’s your turn please heed your own advice.
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Cutehector(m): 10:17am On Apr 15, 2022
Please, if your wife was the one travelling, would she leave you with her younger sexy slim sister under the same roof?

Hell to the No.


Now do the same.. Men sef una no dey ever get sense.. Rubbish and trust.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Emma1Oj(m): 10:18am On Apr 15, 2022
Richy4:
If you have 250k, maybe u can sacrifice it for your peace of mind...Give it to him to look for an accommodation.. he will understand...I believe it was financial issues that made it seem like he was not showing signs of going away... Give him that money and see how his spirit will revive....Please remember, do not give out of compulsion.... U do not owe him money... just a suggestion. smiley
this your suggestion makes things easier for them if they have feelings or abt to have feelings for each other. The cousin house will become the meeting or hotel joint they will meet up easily.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by aidameoryou: 10:18am On Apr 15, 2022
frozen70:



Your wife is the issue here not your cousin

If your wife is decent and you trust her with your last breath, you don't need to panic

If she wants to sleep with another man, she will do so even while you are leaving in Nigeria

So even if you get a room self contain for your cousin to pack out, they will meet when they want to meet

So, just talk to your wife by advising her and that's all

Who go cheat go cheat

one sensible comment I've seen here.
If your wife is bound to cheat, she will...

Renting and apartment for the nigga in the same state wouldn't stop nothing.
So long as you are not around.

If you so much don't want your wife to collect another D, then take her along, and if you can't take her along there's nothing you can do about it if she wants to cheat

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by simplexity(m): 10:18am On Apr 15, 2022
Sending him away or discussing it with both/any of them will send a wrong signal. Kindly get a relative or domestic staff to stay and assist ur wife.

What will be will be....
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by 2special(m): 10:18am On Apr 15, 2022
grafixdon:
Do not let your cousin stay in that house, I repeat do not. For the sake of your marriage and extended family, do not.
whether the cousin stay in the same house or not, the cousin can still come to play home match.
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Enyimbamercedes: 10:18am On Apr 15, 2022
Well, you have three options

1. Trust that you married a good wife and go back to UK with peace in your mind

2. Doubt that you married a good wife and install discrete cctv in the house to confirm or remove your doubts / send your cousin away. However, if it isn’t your cousin… it could be any other man.

3. Take your wife with you; abi she doesn’t deserve the UK life.

On a final note, in the UK, do you have side boo ?

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Tannhauser(m): 10:19am On Apr 15, 2022
Kestolove:
Den go nackana ur wife wetin fit sweet pass ur own

Wicket sombori grin grin grin
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by DukeNija(m): 10:19am On Apr 15, 2022
skales67:
It depends on the kind of wife you married.

Even if you find an apartment for him, he can still decide to come and visit and even sleepover and gradually, an erotic bond will be formed.

Your wife can still go visit him

Lie from the pit of hell. Visit him as what? Are they dating? You think every woman thinks like those you’re exposed to? Why would a married woman visit her husbands cousin in his absence? Better heal from whatever hurt women have put you through.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by PROPHETmichael: 10:20am On Apr 15, 2022
Put hidden CCTV in strategic location in the house before travelling since you don't trust any of them.
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Niceguyfirm: 10:20am On Apr 15, 2022
Make una arrange for one of her siblings to come stay with her for company. No try this cousin shit. People change. Help your cousin arrange an accomodations elsewhere if you are capable. If not, this staying with me no dey always end well. Apart from the sex things, your wife will.turn to a bad person at the end. Unto see finish ...

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Maniashow: 10:20am On Apr 15, 2022
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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by DukeNija(m): 10:20am On Apr 15, 2022
2special:
whether the cousin stay in the same house or not, the cousin can still come to play home match.

Like they played with your wife?

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Prenonjebose: 10:20am On Apr 15, 2022
cj1900:
Hi guys,
I won't take much of your time. I have a very delicate matter in my hands and I need diverse opinions please.

Background
I don't live in Nigeria but me and my wife both have a very comfortable 4 bedroom duplex in Nigeria. We have a one year old baby. I have been in Nigeria for 5 months now and I will be returning to UK in a few weeks.

Ever since I've been in Nigeria, my cousin (mid 30s) has been with us. Quite frankly, it is not very easy for him at the moment and i do care about him as a brother. He is in the process of processing his visa, so its not as if he is loafing about.

The plan is that both me and my wife will be taking turns in visiting each other for the next 2 or so years until I return fully to Nigeria.

The problem
The problem is that I do not feel comfortable leaving just him and my wife under thesame roof whilst I return and he is not showing any signs of leaving when I return to my base.

So, this is my situation and I don't know if I am being insensitive.

I married a very good wife and under most circumstances, I trust her. I am just not comfortable leaving my wife with any man atall under thesame roof.

I need your opinions pls.
Your cousin had a place before relocating to your house. There should be no problem in making him go back to where he was staying before. Let your wife visit any of her relatives for a few days, and let him know you will need to lock up the house. At worst, give him some money to get a place for himself pending when he finalizes his Visa application and travel out.
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Streett: 10:21am On Apr 15, 2022
Cousin or no Cousin … Brother or no Brother … What’s gon’ be gon be my brother! Las Las na these women sabi run things weh you no go ever smell… She might even hit it else where and not your cuzzo….. So jus stick to your gut instincts and again everything jus depends on the type of woman weh she be… It centers all around her! This trust matta now na 50/50…. E fit be , And e fit no be …. We for this forum self no sabi all… we jus dey try , me self jus dey try ….. So Over to your Gut instincts Breh

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Mozegee: 10:21am On Apr 15, 2022
God bless u ,u said it all,a woman that will cheat will definitely cheat,it runs in their DNA. A decent woman is a vitreous woman and if u are opportune to have one u don't need to panick. Unless u know your cousin as a promiscuous person.
frozen70:



Your wife is the issue here not your cousin

If your wife is decent and you trust her with your last breath, you don't need to panic

If she wants to sleep with another man, she will do so even while you are leaving in Nigeria

So even if you get a room self contain for your cousin to pack out, they will meet when they want to meet

So, just talk to your wife by advising her and that's all

Who go cheat go cheat

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by 2special(m): 10:22am On Apr 15, 2022
DukeNija:


Like they played with your wife?
just the way they play with your wife

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by deepwater(f): 10:22am On Apr 15, 2022
cj1900:
Hi guys,
I won't take much of your time. I have a very delicate matter in my hands and I need diverse opinions please.

Background
I don't live in Nigeria but me and my wife both have a very comfortable 4 bedroom duplex in Nigeria. We have a one year old baby. I have been in Nigeria for 5 months now and I will be returning to UK in a few weeks.

Ever since I've been in Nigeria, my cousin (mid 30s) has been with us. Quite frankly, it is not very easy for him at the moment and i do care about him as a brother. He is in the process of processing his visa, so its not as if he is loafing about.

The plan is that both me and my wife will be taking turns in visiting each other for the next 2 or so years until I return fully to Nigeria.

The problem
The problem is that I do not feel comfortable leaving just him and my wife under thesame roof whilst I return and he is not showing any signs of leaving when I return to my base.

So, this is my situation and I don't know if I am being insensitive.

I married a very good wife and under most circumstances, I trust her. I am just not comfortable leaving my wife with any man atall under thesame roof.

I need your opinions pls.

Don't spend extra money helping one person (ur cuz)
You should get another relative that has accommodation issues and put in the house since it is a big house. The 250k would go a long way to cater for their feeding and wellbeing hopefully.

What you need is peace of mind. You can't stop your wife from cheating. It is left to her to cheat or not.

And by the way do you cheat on her in the UK or not? Why the fear son ?

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by bigtt76(f): 10:22am On Apr 15, 2022
Oga do visa carray your wife travel o. Nor come back do rejoinder here say you catch man on top your wife angry


cj1900:
Hi guys,
I won't take much of your time. I have a very delicate matter in my hands and I need diverse opinions please.

Background
I don't live in Nigeria but me and my wife both have a very comfortable 4 bedroom duplex in Nigeria. We have a one year old baby. I have been in Nigeria for 5 months now and I will be returning to UK in a few weeks.

Ever since I've been in Nigeria, my cousin (mid 30s) has been with us. Quite frankly, it is not very easy for him at the moment and i do care about him as a brother. He is in the process of processing his visa, so its not as if he is loafing about.

The plan is that both me and my wife will be taking turns in visiting each other for the next 2 or so years until I return fully to Nigeria.

The problem
The problem is that I do not feel comfortable leaving just him and my wife under thesame roof whilst I return and he is not showing any signs of leaving when I return to my base.

So, this is my situation and I don't know if I am being insensitive.

I married a very good wife and under most circumstances, I trust her. I am just not comfortable leaving my wife with any man atall under thesame roof.

I need your opinions pls.
Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by simplesearch: 10:22am On Apr 15, 2022
Ask your wife if she's comfortable having him around while you're away? If her answer is yes, then tell her frankly if anything goes wrong between both of them for any reason she can as well prepare to face the consequences of her actions. Also sit your cousin down and tell him point blank what you just told your wife, let him underhand that any failure or misbehavior from his side will never be taken lightly. Men should learn to speak sensibly and frankly on issues like this, without diplomacy or merry go rounding. Once this is done you can be sure both of them will hide any madness that may come visiting from either party after your exit, for they already know you're ahead of them in the game.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Burgerlomo: 10:23am On Apr 15, 2022
It will end in....,.., biko no be curse ooo grin

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