What does it mean to yell?

The effects of parents and caregivers yelling at a child can not be ignored.

Yelling means screaming, shouting or talking at the top of your voice in anger and frustration; most parents yelled to correct a child.

When is a Parent said to be Yelling?

A parent is said to be yelling when in a bid of correcting or relaying urgency to the child raises their voice in anger so much so that it sends spikes of terror to the child.



A parent is yelling when they are speaking angrily and spanking the child while at it.

A parent is yelling when the pitch of their voice while speaking to the child can be heard by outsiders or someone in the next apartment.

You are yelling when your voice is terrifyingly loud.

5 Reasons why parents shouldn’t Yell at Toddlers and kids:the psychological effects of yelling

1. Yelling at a child terrifies them and in response, their body releases a rush of adrenaline which puts them in a flight mood. This can cause a series of reactions in their tiny bodies such as an increase in heart rate, trouble in regulating the respiration system, shaking uncontrollably, lost control over their bladder which can make them mess up themselves and or bed wet.

2. The long term release of this hormone into the body system make children nervous, bad-tempered and always in the mood of flight which compels them to tend to act before they think, respond to anger using violence and are more likely to become traumatized adults.

Yelling on a child puts them under stress; when the body is constantly put under stress, cortisol, the hormone which is like the body alarm clock remains on for too long and can cause problems such as:
Anxiety and depression
Headaches
Trouble sleeping
Memory and concentration problems
Digestion problem
Weight loss

3. Children constantly yelled at are more likely to have learning difficulties, lack interest in school activities and lack self-motivation.

4. Children who are yelled at are more likely to be bullied and are susceptible to being sexually abused by abusers who might take advantage of the situation in the pretence of offering friendship to the child.

5. Kids who are yelled at by their parents have low self-esteem and always seek validation from outsiders. they do not have an understanding of what a healthy relationship should be like, hence they tolerate unhealthy relationship practices



Effects of yelling at a child on parents

Parent shouting making child sad
A parent shouting at their child
When parents yelled, they become frustrated and stressed putting strain on their health.

Reports show that people who are always agitated and shouting are more likely to have their blood pressure worked up.
Shouting can zap your energy and cause you to have headaches

Yelling means there is a problem with the parent, not the child. A yelling parent is simply saying they have no control over their actions and reactions.

When you yell every time you want to correct or to relay urgency to the child, a time will come when it will no longer work. The child will normalize it and will call your yelling a bluff.

Yelling makes you say words to the child that you might regret later.

Yelling severe your relationship with the child.

When is it okay for a parent to yell at a Child?
The only time it is necessary to yell at a child is to signify danger to the child.

Take, for instance, if your child was going to run off into the road, or is about to touch an electrifying object, you would need to yell out something like “ jerry, come back!” or ‘stop that “ at this point, you are thinking of the child‘s safety.
When you use yelling to mean danger, the child would know this, and because you won’t have to use it always, it will work.

It is never okay to use yelling as a parenting method, it never always works, it might for some time, but soon, it won’t.

10 ways a parent can prevent or stop yelling at their child

Deciding to stop yelling at your child except when necessary is a decision you must take if you care enough for your child’s mental wellness, and esteem your relationship with that child both now and in the future. If you don’t want your child to remember you as a shouting freak then here are 10 ten ways you can become a calmer parent.

Discuss Ahead

Rely more on communicating ahead expected behaviours and why you would want them to comply. Talk about the consequence of going against what you expected of them. For example, if you would want them to meet you up at a place, be specific with the time and let them know why they can’t keep you up.

Set boundaries

Children from very early ages, understand boundaries and respect them, only that the parents have to be consistent in ensuring it.
For instance, if you want them to brush their teeth before eating breakfast, then stick to that routine and not go on and off about it. And someday, suddenly you decide to lash out because the child didn’t brush before eating.

Give instructions in clear terms

Most parents do not understand that children sometimes have trouble understanding instructions; hence they do not know what is required of them.
When giving instructions to them as much as you can maintain eye contact and have them repeat what they think you have said.

Identify your Triggers

When are you more likely to yell at your child? When you are stressed and tired? Work–stress? Financial hurdles? Identify those triggers and the sources of stress and come up with more effective ways to help care for your mental health which has a great impact on your parenting

Know that the problem might go, but a bad experience with your child lingers and affect your relationship.

When I’m stressed either from working too much or from any other source when relating with my children I talk less and act more to avoid bursting out.

I tell myself I’m the one responsible for how I feel not my child. I take short breaks being alone even in the bathroom sometimes in the kitchen.

Respect your children’s choices

Children have choices that might be contrary to what their parents want. identify that children have preferences and should be allowed to make their own choice as long as it doesn’t put them or anyone in danger.

Give chance for allowances

Kids will always be kids, sound cliché? But that’s spot on. They are still growing so expect lots of erring from them. Instead of yelling and screaming down on the child, reinforce what you expect from them.

If you are going to be somewhere, to avoid having to hurry them up, let them start preparing early having enough time in-between

Carry calmness around you

It sure feels good to know that you have tamed your ‘demons’ and that you exhume an aura of calmness around you. You know it is never okay to yell at anyone, not your colleagues, your employees, your spouse and most especially not your children.

Choose your reactions ahead of situations.
Look for resources that can help you with anger management.

Seek to understand the child’s perspective

Things didn’t go the way you said? Find out why and help them come up with ways they should have done what was required of them.

Aspire to influence not to control

When children sense that you are trying to control them, and trust me they have an inner radar that let them know that they are been controlled or manipulated thus they can intentionally become rebellious. Influence makes a parent have a positive authority over a child and makes them listen more.

Give Your Mental Health a Priority

Learn to rest more often. Take a break when you feel burned out and avoid doing strenuous physical tasks at this time. focus on caring for your mental health.

Above all, take solace in the Word of God, spend time with the word and ask the Holy Spirit to

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