Hello Nairalanders,

I'm going to go straight to the point...please be patient and read to the end. Your input is highly needed. Please ignore all grammatical blunders...now to the matter at hand.

I have been dating my fiancee for almost two years now, she's everything I want in a woman: Kind, generous, independent, intelligent and beautiful with all ASSets a man can think of . We already set a date for our wedding and plans are already in the 4th gear before the unexpected now happened.
I gained admission to do my masters in the US.
I asked the school if the admission can be deferred and they answered in the affirmative, but they said it's subject to change.

My fiancee upon receipt of the news was happy with tears in her eyes, this really weakened me . I had to ask why? (As if I didn't know why she'd shed silent tears) She said her best friend (a female) just left for Canada last month and I'm about leaving her too. Don't get me all wrong, she's happy for me, but the thought of me leaving saddens her.

We really love eachother. What we share is magical, no doubt because we have helped and looked after eachother. To cut it short, she's really had my back more than I've had hers....but I'm torn between taking a decision. "It's subject to change" .....that statement by the school doesn't hold water. I don't want to lose out on this.

On the other hand, she has assured me that she's going to wait for me and later join me over there when I settle down properly, but we all know how things like that play out on the long run.

I want to hear what you amazing Nairalanders have to say before I finalize on my decision.

So, advice me: do I risk deferring the admission and get married or do I just damn the odds and look the other way?

you can bash me anyhow your want, but still advice me. Thanks everyone!

you have to sit down and decide whats more important for your life right now.... your r/ship or your master?
BTW if this babe indeed loves you, she will wait for you.

Since deep down you've made your own decision then there's no need bothering us

choose your future first . greatest lie ever told was "love doesn't die".

when the love that is sweeting you gradually starts fading, you will look back in regret for making the mistake of neglecting the hope of change fate has given you for free.

check history, men who choose love over opportunities like this "always regret".

shawante:
Since deep down you've made your own decision then there's no need bothering us

Modified: Thanks though

Uncle,

I'll legit choose to travel over there first. There's nothing sweet in a poverty marriage because even good morning like sound like begging.

Travel there.
Concentrate and don't chase after women there.
Save and work harder.

Pay her dowry and settle down.

No go dey say na love no make you leave this country. Leave the country and still love.


Or better still, marry am then travel. E legit too.

Ginaz:
choose your future first . greatest lie ever told was "love doesn't die".

when the love that is sweeting you gradually starts fading, you will look back in regrets for making the mistake neglecting the hope of change fate has given you for free.

check history, men who choose love over opportunities like this "always regret".

As a lady saying this, it means a lot. Thanks for your advice

U can search nairaland for a thread that a girl abandoned her education in US bcus of a guy d guy dump her.broda go n face ur studies if she loves u she will wait

who they make men foolish like this,I will love to possess that power, you think she'll think twice if it's the other way around mumu love

Abfinest007:
U can search nairaland for a thread that a girl abandoned her education in US bcus of a guy d guy dump her.broda go n face ur studies if she loves u she will wait

Thanks for your input

chatinent:
Uncle,

I'll legit choose to travel over there first. There's nothing sweet in a poverty marriage.

Travel there.
Concentrate and don't chase after women there.
Save and work harder.

Pay her dowry and settle down.

No go dey say na love no make you leave this country. Leave the country and still love.

Nairaland will never disappoint me, thanks a lot

Go and see her people, pay the dowry and make sure you get her pregnant before leaving to avoid the story that touch if truly you want to marry her. Then go, Hussle hard so that she can join you in no distant time.

Most importantly, don't go there and start balling out of control to the extent of forgetting the babe

Keziehenry:
Go and see her people, pay the dowry and make sure you get her pregnant before leaving to avoid the story that touch if truly you want to marry her. Then go, Hussle hard so that she can join you in no distant time.

Most importantly, don't go there and start balling out of control to the extent of forgetting the babe

Powerful input! It's like you read my mind.. Thanks boss

posty56:
who they make men foolish like this,I will love to possess that power, you think she'll think twice if it's the other way around mumu love

Oga, you be mumu no mean say all men na mumu. Na advice I dey find

Thanks for your insult anyway

Abfinest007:
U can search nairaland for a thread that a girl abandoned her education in US bcus of a guy d guy dump her.broda go n face ur studies if she loves u she will wait

I'm aware of that thread. Thank you

loosecanon50:


Oga, you be mumu no mean say all men na mumu. Na advice I dey find
Thanks for your insult anyway

I agree say I be mumu, but compared to you I do not take decisions base on woman feelings,which makes you worst ,ask yourself will she decline that opportunity if she was in your shoes? think with your brain

posty56:
I agree say I be mumu, but compared to you I do not take decisions base on woman feelings,which makes you worst ,ask yourself will she decline that opportunity if she was in your shoes? think with your brain

I'm making decisions based on my own feelings, not hers...and I haven't declined the opportunity. The earlier you accept that no man is an island of knowledge, the better for you.

Try and sit her down why this us opportunity is life changing opportunity for both of you and if you're smart enough you can as well take her along as times goes on....if she's sincere enough with her feelings for you she should allow you to go,just make sure you're getting in touch constantly....

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loosecanon50:
Hello Nairalanders

I'm going to go straight to the point...please be patient and read to the end. Your input is highly needed. Please ignore all grammatical blunders...now to the matter at hand.

I have been dating my fiancee for almost two years now, she's everything I want in a woman: Kind, generous, independent, intelligent and beautiful with all ASSets a man can think of . We already set a date for our wedding and plans are already in the 4th gear before the unexpected now happened.
I gained admission to do my masters in the US.
I asked the school if the admission can be deferred and they answered in the affirmative, but they said it's subject to change.

My fiancee upon receipt of the news was happy with tears in her eyes, this really weakened me . I had to ask why? (As if I didn't know why she'd shed silent tears) She said her best friend (a female) just left for Canada last month and I'm about leaving her too. Don't get me all wrong, she's happy for me, but the thought of me leaving saddens her.

We really love eachother. What we share is magical, no doubt because we have helped and looked after eachother. To cut it short, she's really had my back more than I've had hers....but I'm torn between taking a decision. "It's subject to change" .....that statement by the school doesn't hold water. I don't want to lose out on this.

On the other hand, she has assured me that she's going to wait for me and later join me over there when I settle down properly, but we all know how things like that play out on the long run.

I want to hear what you amazing Nairalanders have to say before I finalize on my decision.

So, advice me: do I risk deferring the admission and get married or do I just damn the odds and look the other way?

you can bash me anyhow your want, but still advice me. Thanks everyone!

Hasten your marriage plans... Simple

Marry her, she can follow you as a dependant.