Hello Nairalander,

I have come across recent posts of Some people giving advice to other people. The phases they use most is "Stop asking for money and go and hustle... I started hustling at the age of 16,.... I stop asking for money when I was 9 years... Nobody see me through, I struggle all by myself".

This are some of the comments I picked on a post where a young 200L uni student committed suicide because his divorced father refuses to grant his need.

But, the issues wasn't just about hustling and hustling. We all pass through difficult times and mostly at one point in our lives, we need support, not necessary money. It could be emotional, spiritual, been there for ourselves or all that.

I remember during my undergraduate days, I had a little disagreement with my parents some days back and some nossy neighbours came in and interfere.

I was hoping the neighbours would bring some decorome but instead, I was shooked when some neighbours started narrating how they started hustling at 12 without anybody, you hear ridiculous stories like...

I treak with leg from Lagos to Abuja to go to school everyday...

I hawk potato and vegetables to buy my waec form...

My salary was 5k, I feed 6 children from it and I save 2k5 every month from it in this buhari era.

...My mum and dad never cared if we wear cloth and feed, we children all struggle to become all we are today.

These are the few stories you hear offline. I observed, that some people take it too far and becomes personal when narrating own story.

A simple conflict that can be ironed out within family will becomes public discussion. Reason why some came to poke nose is just to vex their frustration and anger.

Majority came to add more problem, some came to make fun from it and other came to pick moral lessons. Only fewer percentage will truly offer lasting solution.

I can't just help seeing one hustling from 12 years old, hustle through admissions and undergraduate. Becomes a graduate and still hustling receiving similar salary before he/she gained admission. What advice would he/she give to the poor boy that committed suicide?

So sad, the poor boy committed suicide. I am very sure that a simple word of love and encouragement from his loved ones and relative could have stopped him from committing.

Whenever I see my nephews and niece being taken to school with comfortable ride, enough food pack and pocket money, I ask myself
how would my nossy parent's neighbors back then react when they see how other children are breed in love and wealth.

After school, I teach the younger one how to trace letter and paint objects on ipad with one google play store app I downloaded for kids.

When they're done, they feed and watch DStv educational channels for their ages.

Seeing how people's stories isn't complete without mentioning how they suffer, I was forced to ask myself, Must one suffer before you make it in life.

You contribution is highly welcomed. Thank you.

No.
You must not suffer before you make it.
But you must Hustle.
Hustle doesn't necessarily mean suffering.

That being said, there are people who ofcourse pass through tough situations before they make it.

In my own opinion... You will fail at some point in your life, you will embarrass yourself, you will suck at something...

That which u called suffering is the failure, which at that some point is normal and never a crime, but remaining in that failure is the biggest mistake of all time...

Reasons many people are still suffering today is because

1. They depend on govt for job
2. They over look odds job cos of I am graduate mentality
3. Trying to measure up with the super rich (trying to impress people)
4. Earning like a poor man and spending like the rich...

Remember for Gold to be Gold it must first pass through fire, but many gold chose to remain in the fire

Watch how religious people will come here and start telling you about GRACE

superCleanworks:
Watch how religious people will come here and start telling you about GRACE

The way dem say na grace dey work for Portable.

Most were born with silver spoon and never really had to suffer while most of us came from the trenches.
Omor life don show us shege. It is what it is and we ain't giving up ✌️

Not all hustle lead to success.

The fact is this, all hustling comes with different kind of suffering. If your parents are rich, your hustle suffering and pain will be different from someone who comes from a poor home.

Must you suffer before making it?
Yes if your parents are poor. No if your parents are rich. I suffered from primary to university because my parents were the poorest in the village. Because I hate village life and want education, I really suffered. Today, I thank God for the unusual spirit of resilience he gives me.

If you no know way, you must hustle in order not to suffer. All fingers are not equal, that's why some were born rich and others poor. In as much as you are determined and not lazy, you will get there.
Pray and work

For calling your neighbor nosy when sharing his past as an advice to you says a lot.

If you can not imagine people claiming to hussle at an early could be real, why don't you look at what possible scenario the life of kids at IDP camps or refugees will follow when no one is responsible for their upkeep.

The above should capture your imagination rather than tell you sob stories of how parents misfortune led kids to become adults at an early age

Listen carefully : Suffering doesn't guarantee better days, Proper planing and discipline does.



Some individuals are still repeating the mistake of their parent instead of them to learn from it. I keep telling young folks don't settle for mediocrity, improve urself and channel ur energy towards productivity.



You are all you have.....

NO.

Most of us are spiritually impure that why we suffer so much. But this doesn't apply if you were born rich, cause someone else already did the suffering.

Let's avoid long stories 4 once
The simple cause of half the world's problems is simply..over population..and the simple solution is embracing "antinatalism"...
There's no moral justification for bringing innocent kids into this harsh..brutal meaningless life to suffer...very simple nd short
I mean it defies logic ND common sense that with all the terrible sufferings ND pestilence currently happening in the country today that Nigerians re still breeding like rabbits esp d hopelessly poor ones
S.m.h...

Pressure makes diamonds

Taywon:
Listen carefully : Suffering doesn't guarantee better days, Proper planing and discipline does.



Some individuals are still repeating the mistake of their parent instead of them to learn from it. I keep telling young folks don't settle for mediocrity, improve urself and channel ur energy towards productivity.



You are all you have.....

God bless you. That's all I can say.

According to the great educationist Tai Solarin of blessed memories, he said" may your road be rough". The word "rough" means so many unpleasant things including suffering. Suffering is relative. For some it might mean undergoing starvation, inability to put on good clothes, while for others it might mean disappointments from friends, loved ones, nepotism and favoritism in the workplace. "Suffer" can also mean making that conscious, consistent effort to suceed in one's endeavors. One thing is sure, virtually everyone must "suffer" before making it.

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tommy589:
For calling your neighbor nosy when sharing his past as an advice to you says a lot.

If you can not imagine people claiming to hussle at an early could be real, why don't you look at what possible scenario the life of kids at IDP camps or refugees will follow when no one is responsible for their upkeep.

The above should capture your imagination rather than tell you sob stories of how parents misfortune led kids to become adults at an early age

It seems that part of my write up strike some of your nerves.

Vexing your frustrations on innocent young school chap and motivating then is a two different things. First breed hatred while the other is from love.

Know the boundary. Bless you.

Taywon:
Listen carefully : Suffering doesn't guarantee better days, Proper planing and discipline does.

Some individuals are still repeating the mistake of their parent instead of them to learn from it. I keep telling young folks don't settle for mediocrity, improve urself and channel ur energy towards productivity.

You are all you have.....

Oh laud , so someone can suffer before but now, still suffer again

May we not suffer for too long

DroppingLiquid:
NO.

Most of us are spiritually impure that why we suffer so much. But this doesn't apply if you were born rich, cause someone else already did the suffering.

@ Bolded I know many so called spiritually pure people that are suffering. When I mean suffer, I mean they lack common basic things of life.

What could have been the problem

Robertgreene1:
Let's avoid long stories 4 once
The simple cause of half the world's problems is simply..over population..and the simple solution is embracing "antinatalism"...
There's no moral justification for bringing innocent kids into this harsh..brutal meaningless life to suffer...very simple nd short
I mean it defies logic ND common sense that with all the terrible sufferings ND pestilence currently happening in the country today that Nigerians re still breeding like rabbits esp d hopelessly poor ones
S.m.h...

Humm does that mean every poor people suffering must die without passing their blood line?

If that's the case, then only rich and wealthy people should marry since they can afford Luxury and basic things of life.

Bless your heart

Professorcplus:


@ Bolded I know many so called spiritually pure people that are suffering.

You don't know that though. You're a physical being, you only know your spiritual self, not another person. If you judge them by how they go to church and carry church things in their head, then you're just as gullible.

Professorcplus:

It seems that part of my write up strike some of your nerves.

Vexing your frustrations on innocent young school chap and motivating then is a two different things. First breed hatred while the other is from love.

Know the boundary. Bless you.

Your see your neighbours as frustrated beings for interfering in your issue.Meanwhile,the last paragraph of your post said "contributions are highly welcome" are you not already taking offence with my contribution?

What you see as hatred may be love displayed in a different form. The bible says,Spare the rod and spoil the child. Some are glad and highly rewarded today for not sparing them from reprimand

Your set boundary may not be acceptable to me. Or do you want me to see life from your prism?

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thebosstrevor1:
Not all hustle lead to success.

The fact is this, all hustling comes with different kind of suffering. If your parents are rich, your hustle suffering and pain will be different from someone who comes from a poor home.

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