When Yul Edochie made his big annoucement, a lot of the ensuing commentary focused on gender politics, marital infidelity and the usual mind -numblingly boring themes that unfortunately animates the Nigeria social media spaces. Let me just state clearly I have zero opinion on Yul Edochie's indiscretions or decision. What a person does with their Instruments is nobody's business but theirs and theirs spouse unless it involves activity like RAPE.

Since Yul Edochie did not rape, there is zero case to answer regarding the morality or lack thereof of his decision of father a child outside of his marital home. Let me repeat that for emphasis: A decision to play a metaphorical away match and some away with the metaphorical trophy is not an issue for hundreds of thousands of occupationally challenge young people to obsess over. It's none of our business and it's really not that important anyway.

My issues however, is with the ancillary implication raisedby actors action. Remember how is the previous subheading, I complained about an infantile unthinking devotion to "the ways of our ancestors", as though our ancestors were an especially wise or successful people worthy of emulation? Let me reiterate using the issue of polygamy: why does there continue to be a belief that polygamy is or should be a good thing simply because our ancestors did it? Could out ancestors not be wrong about many things -perhaps even disastrously so?

In 2019 while working with International Committee on Nigeria (ICON) and the International Project for Peace Building and Social Justice (PSJ) on the silent Genocide report that later for Nigeria placed on a US state Department diplomatic notice list, I came across something that expanded my mind. One of the sources interviewed in the report explained that some of tension between Christian and Muslim communities in Northern Nigeria caused by economic disparity directly resulting from outcome of polygamous marriage practice in the Muslim area.

He explained that while the Christian area had linear inheritance practices since one man generally had one set of immediately descendants, the Muslim areas had severe economic dislocation since one man could have up to 4 set of immediate descendants (and sometimes more). Thus the monogamous Christian area were able to pass wealth down in a linear societal cohesion while the polygamous Muslim areas ended up with thousands of an angry men who had no inheritance, no land, no education and no hope.

In addition, where 10 men and 10 women cam theoretically marry each other and have 10 set of children who are genetically diverse enough to marry each other, 1 man and 10 women in a polygamous setting may produce the same children, but said children are siblings, which means they cannot marry each other. Unsurprisingly, geographical area with high rates of polygamy also tend to have more wars and conflict, as the pool of marriageable women is too small to accommodate a growing population of angry, undersexed young men who soon turn feral.

If this all sounds strangely familiar to you, that because you have already seen all of this happen - in fact you are seeing it happen right now in front of you Boko Haram, Ansaru, ISWAP and whatever designation terrorist give themselves tomorrow, we are all direct beneficiaries of the economic and societal dislocation caused by polygamy. Without it, their ranks could never have been swelled to their current number. There is even a strong argument to be made for linking the 300-year long slave trade abomination in West Africa to the practice of polygamy.

The fact that our ancestors did something does not - should not- make it acceptable for us to do it. Our ancestors did lots of things. The sold human beings for coloured pieces and corrugated roofing sheets. They made smallpox a god and worshipped it. They created writing scripts like Nsibidi, and hoarded them exclusively for elite priest and royalty so that information and knowledge could not be saved and compounded across generation. They became the only civilisation in human history to be completely, utterly, comprehensively and decisively conquered on their own land to the extent of adopting other people's gods, claiming other people's ancestry and even adopting skin bleaching.

A wise man once said, "For what is tradition, but peer pressure from dead people?"
Think about it

Jashub:
When people support polygamy I often laugh at their foolishness . Let's assume Yul's wife wanted to get a second husband , would he want such ? Certainly not ! But David here is saying otherwise because of his liberal lifestyle towards immoral behavior.

thesicilian:
Let everyone speak for themselves

Jashub:
When people support polygamy I often laugh at their foolishness . Let's assume Yul's wife wanted to get a second husband , would he want such ? Certainly not ! But David here is saying otherwise because of his liberal lifestyle towards immoral behavior.

Kdon2:


Se na yul carry wife put inside his house abi na the wife carry yul put for her house. Abeg make una dey think we'll before una go dey yearn now. Abi na yearn for yearning sake ni! Haba fear God na!

Kdon2:


Se na yul carry wife put inside his house abi na the wife carry yul put for her house. Abeg make una dey think we'll before una go dey yearn now. Abi na yearn for yearning sake ni! Haba fear God na!

DaBogu:
The fact that our ancestors did something does not - should not- make it acceptable for us to do it. Our ancestors did lots of things. The sold human beings for coloured pieces and corrugated roofing sheets. They made smallpox a god and worshipped it. They created writing scripts like Nsibidi, and hoarded them exclusively for elite priest and royalty so that information and knowledge could not be saved and compounded across generation. They became the only civilisation in human history to be completely, utterly, comprehensively and decisively conquered on their own land to the extent of adopting other people's gods, claiming other people's ancestry and even adopting skin bleaching.

A wise man once said, "For what is tradition, but peer pressure from dead people?"
Think about it

Hamachi:
Sir, read with an open mind

thesicilian:

What's open minded about calling an idea a bad one irrespective of the perspective of others who support such an idea?

economic disparity directly resulting from outcome of polygamous marriage practice in the Muslim area.

1 man and 10 women in a polygamous setting may produce the same children, but said children are siblings

the pool of marriageable women is too small to accommodate a growing population of angry, undersexed young men who soon turn feral

They became the only civilisation in human history to be completely, utterly, comprehensively and decisively

satandeterrible:
A very stupid writeup.

Kobojunkie:
Interesting!

thesicilian:

What's open minded about calling an idea a bad one irrespective of the perspective of others who support such an idea?

Unsurprisingly, geographical area with high rates of polygamy also tend to have more wars and conflict, as the pool of marriageable women is too small to accommodate a growing population of angry, undersexed young men who soon turn feral

Cousin9999:


This person sounds white, gross, and miserable. They probably fear handsome, masculine, tall, muscular African men marrying 3 of their women. lol They probably tear up at the thought. They should be nervous. Most heterosexual women prefer a black zaddy. lol

Fair argument. But this assumes that all people in a polygamous marriage are poor, uneducated, and all the wives unemployed. A working class/middle class polygamous marriage is basically a small firm.

Jashub:
[s][/s] The fact still remains that Yul should treat his wife as he would want her to treat him

GloriousGbola:


Africans are the only ones that lost their identity after colonisation /encounters with the white man.
Indians, Arabs, Chinese, Japanese - their culture is largely intact. Right down to their religions

If the best you can do is reference adult entertainment fetishesization of black men, then you are fulfilling one of the stereotypes of a black man as a person driven by sexual urges first and foremost



We don't do statistics in Nigeria - but do you honestly think that the middle or upper class are a large percentage of those practising polygamy? Abiola was a polygamist billionaire. And today his fortune is scattered to the winds. How far does a fortune go among several offspring that the patriarch was unable to train because of numbers?

GloriousGbola:
Africans are the only ones that lost their identity after colonisation /encounters with the white man.
Indians, Arabs, Chinese, Japanese - their culture is largely intact. Right down to their religions

If the best you can do is reference adult entertainment fetishesization of black men, then you are fulfilling one of the stereotypes of a black man as a person driven by sexual urges first and foremost

- but do you honestly think that the middle or upper class are a large percentage of those practising polygamy?

Abiola was a polygamist billionaire. And today his fortune is scattered to the winds. How far does a fortune go among several offspring that the patriarch was unable to train because of numbers?

Cousin9999:


Indians hate themselves and many practice Christianity. They mürder each other for looking like their race. They're extremely subservient to oyinbos, quite possibly the most of any group of people. Bleaching is an accepted practice, as is colorism. They inbreed to maintain a light complexion. Historically, oyinbos brought Indians to colonies where locals fought subjugation because they knew Indians were willing släves. They continue to prove they are (H1B).

Arabs also hate themselves and display similar behavior. They're just as violent towards each other. They maintain their religion because it supports the depravity (e.g. slävery as an accepted practice) they want to continue. West Asia might very well be the most depraved corner of the world. Bleaching is an accepted practice along with colorism. They also inbreed for complexion.

Chinese hate themselves and mangle their faces with cosmetic surgery in addition to heavy bleaching despite having pale skin. They're extremely subservient to oyinbos and gladly marry them over their own. Many also practice Christianity, and consider it an escape from the flaws of their culture.

Those groups are so mentally colonized that oyinbos praise them. Oyinbos see them as lapdogs.

Which African cultures and identities are no longer intact? And what is the significant impact of this? Oh and when you're done, translate it into one of the 2000 languages spoken in Africa. (India; 121: China; 302, Arab world; 60).



My assertion has nothing to do with pörnögraphy. It stems from the reality that heterosexual women are attracted to masculinity, charm, strength, and skilled lovers. Something which nonblacks cannot universally claim or defend. They're feminine with terrible personalities, frail bodies, and inept in bed. Even if they possess a shred of these qualities, they cannot best the average African man. Which is one of the reasons they work so very hard to undermine African men in every way possible.



You did not comprehend my statement.



There are men in monogamous marriages, never married, and with several divorces who have kids all over the place, are dysfunctional, do not care for their children, and fall into poverty. If those circumstances are not an indictment of monogamy then Abiola doesn't have anything to do with polygamy.

GloriousGbola:


this mumbo jumbo makes it clear that conversing with you is a complete waste of time.

indians, arabs, and chinese hate themselves

heterosexual women are attracted to masculinity, strenght charm and skilled lovers - no wonder black men are teh preferred husbands all over the world

i am not sure what you are supposed to lay off - recreational drugs, stormfront type websites, pick up blogs, or all of the above

this is a potent mishmash of mumbo jumbo

Cousin9999:


You can't argue against any of my points. You can only respond with emotion.

They show their self-hate whenever they jump to marry oyinbos just because they can (black people do it for green cards), whenever they kíll an Indian for being dark skinned, whenever they happily promote skin bleaching products (bleaching products generate the most money in Asia), and whenever they chop away at their Chinese eyes, nose, and mouth with multiple surgeries.

African men are preferred, that's why other groups threaten death, violence, and being shunned when their women show attraction or have intercourse with African men. They're threatened.

When Asian men go abroad, foreign women don't care they exist. But a poor, average black man can easily sleep with and marry local women.

Women will even risk backlash to be with African men. They'll get disowned by their family for their black husband.

No one does that for Chinese, Arabs, or Indians. Chinese, Arab, and Indian men are punchlines.

Women all over the world will pay to access African men. They'll shower African men with so many gifts that it's a source of income. They'll pay to bring African men to their country, not expect them to work, and have tons of their children. They'll marry black men in their country, have a bunch of their kids, and never place any financial demands on them. No women are doing this for Asian men. Not even Asian women. lol Another example of self-hate.

Cousin9999:


You can't argue against any of my points. You can only respond with emotion.

They show their self-hate whenever they jump to marry oyinbos just because they can (black people do it for green cards), whenever they kíll an Indian for being dark skinned, whenever they happily promote skin bleaching products (bleaching products generate the most money in Asia), and whenever they chop away at their Chinese eyes, nose, and mouth with multiple surgeries.

African men are preferred, that's why other groups threaten death, violence, and being shunned when their women show attraction or have intercourse with African men. They're threatened.

When Asian men go abroad, foreign women don't care they exist. But a poor, average black man can easily sleep with and marry local women.

Women will even risk backlash to be with African men. They'll get disowned by their family for their black husband.

No one does that for Chinese, Arabs, or Indians. Chinese, Arab, and Indian men are punchlines.

Women all over the world will pay to access African men. They'll shower African men with so many gifts that it's a source of income. They'll pay to bring African men to their country, not expect them to work, and have tons of their children. They'll marry black men in their country, have a bunch of their kids, and never place any financial demands on them. No women are doing this for Asian men. Not even Asian women. lol Another example of self-hate.

GloriousGbola:


please carry on in your delusional fantasies. you can share pictures of the women from all over the world banging down your door

indians are the ones with the real revenge - they are conquering silicon valley and have white men answering to them. but you are recycling stormfront articles .

please carry on

Cousin9999:


You're telling on yourself.



Indians are hired those roles because:

They'll accept any amount of abuse from oyinbos.

They're cheap.

They take the blame for oyinbos' bad decisions.

They're racist.

They're ignorant and easily manipulated.