What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

If you are not big, ready or strong enough to mend every crack and fix every broken line then leave the idea of getting married.

This is a world of you and your spouse and there must be ups and downs. There is no general template. Learn and apply what you must, unlearn and disregard what you must.

Goodluck!

Don't attempt it

Communication in relationships is very important. Talk to your partner about everything and carry her along always.

Be honest, be kind and be sensitive to your partner.
Also, be faithful!

Feel free to share these with your partner.
It must be 50:50 to work well.

Best of luck!

If you have the slightest of doubt about your partner or the relationship.... DON'T DO IT!!!

Don't do it.

Unless she be dangote pikin

AishaDant:
Communication in relationships is very important. Talk to your partner about everything and carry her along always.

Be honest, be kind and be sensitive to your partner.
Also, be faithful!

Feel free to share these with your partner.
It must be 50:50 to work well.

Best of luck!

This is nice.

Tokskob2008:
If you have the slightest of doubt about your partner or the relationship.... DON'T DO IT!!!

Spot on.

czarr:
Don't do it.

Unless she be dangote pikin

Dangote pikin no get manners.

Be patient with her and don't express her shortcomings to ur friends and relatives

For the guy, he should love, cherish and treat her like a queen she is moreover never shout and treat her badly especially in presence of the kids, finally spend on her,
for the lady, she should respect and obey her husband especially if his the responsible and caring type, finally, take good care of the home

1.'Always be patient with ur spouse and be a good listener'. 2.Then pls work hard because if u come ask me for Money, i no go give you!

0. Set the rules and boundaries early (during courtship)

1. Have money (don't let your pastor deceive you that you need to marry early even if you're broke and God will provide after marriage)
2. Know how to Bleep without drugs (extremely important)
3. Invest less emotions but be caring
4. Know how to control your anger and don't be abusive, but...
5. If she f*cks up, tell her to f*ck off without saying a word (thank God you didn't invest more emotions than her)
6. Have access to her phone and chats and also let her have access to yours
7. Be cooperative, but don't let her be manipulative
8. Don't allow in-laws control your marriage or have too much access to your day-to-day family affairs
9. Maintain the principles you had at the dating stage, but amend a couple of them that aren't against your core value
10. Have only children you can take care of — don't born more than you can handle and end up increasing the rate of crime and prostitution through your numerous hungry children
11. Add humor and playfulness in your marriage
12. Communicate and discuss things
13. Be honest and trustworthy — same as her
14. Fear God, not her family or her threat to leave you
15. And finally, live in peace or walk away if you can't find peace of mind in the marriage anymore

Extra tip: Learn to give each other full-body massage at least 4 times a month — it relieves stress, brings calmness, and gives peace of mind.

If you haven't received a full-body massage, you're missing.

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

Kill the boy/girl and become a man/woman

For the men...If you still love drinking in bars after work till 11pm/midnight, chasing girls, spending recklessly, hanging out with useless friends...etc. you're not yet ready for marriage.

For the girls...if you still keep contact with your Exes, receive money from toasters, go out on date with exes and toasters, hiding or pass wording your phone, receiving calls at odd hours of the day, spending more time online rather than with your husband to be... etc you're not yet ready for marriage.

Before you walk down the aisle there must be No secrets between both of you...

Another synonym for marriage is responsibility. If you're not yet ready to become responsible and faithful to your partner, then don't get married.

1. No two individuals are thesame : your spouse is not you and you are not him/ her
2. no marriage is perfect : they only show you the good part
3. don't compare your marriage with someone else's : it will/ might make your bitter and angry
4. be true and open to each other. Talk about everything and anything.
5.Be there for each other : financially, physically and emotionally
6. Love is not enough: add patience and forgiveness
7. Let God leads.

Ohh my guy Chatinent about to get married , Happy married life in adv bro

No forget to invite we your nairaland inlaw

As for the advice,

I have nothing to say

For the men,all I can say is.. You will learn...
For the women,all I can say is.. You will enjoy...


This I have seen!

virginprincess:
For the guy, he should love, cherish and treat her like a queen she is moreover never shout and treat her badly especially in presence of the kids, finally spend on her,
for the lady, she should respect and obey her husband especially if his the responsible and caring type, finally, take good care of the home

Trash. Treat like a queen and spend cash. Queen should be able to take care of herself.

Nyascobar1414:
For the men,all I can say is..
You will learn...

For the women,all I can say is..
You will enjoy...



This I have seen!

LedRock:
Trash. Treat like a queen and spend cash. Queen should be able to take card of herself.

Lols. bros, A Nigerian 'Queen' never spends her money. She is taken care of by a 'King' or several 'Kings'!.

9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

They are nothing but useless. All of them...

LedRock:
Trash. Treat like a queen and spend cash. Queen should be able to take card of herself.

She is expected to take care of herself when she has a husband, then what is the responsibility of the man?

If I am to advise you I'll say DON'T DO IT.

If I am to BS you, I'll say be open as much as you can, put her first and above all other babes, speak her love language as often as possible, the list is endless na why I give you the best advise up there.

Happy married life (because after plenty nodding of head, saying make sense, na watin day your mind you go still do)

Oluwa a wa pelu e.

Marry who gives you peace of mind. This type will kill you with responsibilities

virginprincess:
She is expected to take care of herself when she has a husband, then what is the responsibility of the man?

if you want to follow in the Enjoyment make sure you're getting married to a caring lady.

Nyascobar1414:
For the men,all I can say is..
You will learn...

For the women,all I can say is..
You will enjoy...



This I have seen!

Never expect too much from your spouse.
Learn to overlook those petty mistakes.
Husbands Love your wives and Wives be submissive to your Husbands.
If you're not ready to follow any of the above, then just stay single forever.

From the day you wed, you will become an understanding man simp and be willing to be taking every rubbish. A vaginarian will now be in charge of your daily routine and be ready to explain why you deviate from it if you do. Fake men say marriage is sweet but real men know it's not true. It's different for vaginarians though because they are the beneficiaries in marriage.

Don't kill yourself
Speak up in case of domestic violence.
Marriage is not by force

Learn to forgive 999 times in a day.

Play the fool but be smart to protect your own interest meaning know when to stop playing the fool and call the shots occasionally.

As a man you need bedroom skills

virginprincess:
For the guy, he should love, cherish and treat her like a queen she is moreover never shout and treat her badly especially in presence of the kids, finally spend on her,
for the lady, she should respect and obey her husband especially if his the responsible and caring type, finally, take good care of the home

You're a very funny girl
For the lady, there is no condition on why she should be treated nice, but the guy you magically manufactured one for him.

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?



Lalasticlala mynd44 dominque

I'm not married but Ive heard some advices from other people
1) have one account for personal things then a joint bank account for the bills and house maintenance and both of you decide how much should be contributed from both of you , it can be 30 -70 or 40 - 60

2) if possible have an emergency fund for you know emergencies , we know that we're supposed to hope for the best and just be completely optimistic and prepare for the best but you also have to prepare for the worst and most unexpected situations ( e.g your spouse or child is diagnosed with big man sickness and you have nothing to hold onto , you can't even take a break to nurse them , it'seven worse when it's the breadwinner ( the man ) , there's also divorce , you don't want to be caught unawares by anything

3) don't ever forget why your spouse is your spouse , always make out time to dress up and go out together and have fun as boyfriend and girlfriend , even though you're husband and wife , it's easier said than done but it makes things a lot more colorful , when kids enter the picture over maturity kills that love that makes you feel like a teenager

4) you'll be hurt and angry and they will test your limits sometimes , just prepare your mind to forgive and forgive , till you become a professional forgiver you need to learn to overlook somethings

5) when something happens address it immediately and let it go , don't burry it, it'll grow into a resentment, then later become disgust and hatred , na small thing dey turn to big thing , you won't even believe it , someone cancelled wedding because of peak milk , he wasn't being petty , if you hear the full story you might be in support of the cancellation , even though it sounds funny at first

For men:
If she is a Nigerian girl,abort mission.
If she is a foreigner, even Togolese,carry on.

For ladies:
If he is a simp, abort mission.
If he is a redpiller, even if he is broke,carry on.

For guys:

1. if you know you want to marry a second wife, tell her from the beginning , don't promise for better for worse then bring in another girl few years in to the marriage, its called bridge of agreement as in the case of yul edochi

2. Don't ever allow your wife to catch you cheating, she might forgive you , but she will never forget. If you will have to cheat , make sure there's a dead end to all the chances of getting caught. The BEST is not to cheat at all.

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

Be open to your wife in all you do
2. Never give room to third party