Flamemignon1:

I'm so sorry about your experiences with queer people. Seriously, this makes me super sad,that you think gay men and straight men can't be friends is the same trope when people say straight men can't be just friends with straight women. I'm not going to belittle and gaslight your experiences because it's valid,I've seen straight men validate their homophobia because of actions like the ones you mentioned. I would advise you to cut your relationship with those guys because irregardless of their sexuality,they are just men willing to take advantage of their friends for appraisal or ego boost,if they were straight....they would've done the same thing to women..... practically,they are sex offenders and I advise you to take action when the sexual assault persists or report them to the appropriate authorities

Moreover, where I take offence on your post as a queer man is how you made all of us a monolith,you made it seem like all gay guys are sexual predators going back to the same homophobic rhetoric,I know you did it out of pain, betrayal and anger but we are all not the same and I'm sorry you had to go through that but "gay-straight alliances" exist because I'm a living witness. I do hang out in homosocial spaces but almost all my friends are straight, apparently there are five of them and they are all straight but we would die for each other as they know I'm gay but I'm gonna talk about my bestest (if that's a word)best friend,the bond we share is more like brothers..... infact, there's this stereotype that every gay guy has that straight friend they treat like their husband...lol and it's true because I tell you,we are so tight that sometimes we think we are clingy and this is a guy that's so secure in his sexuality that he doesn't think having a gay friend will make him gay (believe me, he's a complete womanizer) because I'm not the only gay friend,I'm just the closest,we met in France when I was there for my academic fellowship and we met in a gay bar,we really hit it off because not only were we the only two men of color there,we were also Nigerians,he was there to hit on a girl who would become his future fiance because women now have taken over gay bars (kinda annoying though because I thought it was a safe space for queers but now women are even more in there than gay men because they feel more safe than in straight bars but then they attract straight men to them). Anyway,I thought he was queer as he's really handsome and he's in a gay bar and I shot my shot,he just smiled and said he's flattered but he's looking to score a goal for another team,still remember those words,we bonded over a lot of things,anime stans, culture clashes and more and since then, it's history,we've been each other's shield in dark and light times, through thick and thin, he's that friend that I know will stick up for me and clothe me even if I'm naked (don't know if I will do the same for him though... kidding), he even introduced me to someone but I blew it because I was unfaithful (yes,I cheated...don't judge me) till date he still teases me about that because the guy was a business partner to his firm and it made the firm loose on in a deal because of the breakup,yet he forgave me,I helped him propose to the love of his life who calls me her second husband,he helped me get my business up even the smallest thing such as helping me pack when I was returning back to Naija to helping me get a capital to start up my business,yet till date he refuse to take back the money he gave me and he's never used his wealth to insult me or make him look superior rather he treats me like a equal,I don't think anything will ever ruin the bond we have and when his fiance gave birth to twins in January last year,he made me their legitimate godfather even though I wasn't there as I was busy with work,even though we were separated,he's always calling me like twice a week(I'm a terrible friend because I've never called him once),I've never asked him for something once where he will tell me he's broke or can't help out,even if he can't do anything,he will connect me to someone who can because he's well connected. When he came for his introduction last year june,him and his fiance slept in my house and when she went back with the kids,he stayed behind to take care of some documents about his life here but it was mostly to keep me drug free, I lost everything due to a terrible investment and business decision I made,I refused to tell him because I knew he would do something to help but for once,I wanted to be my own man then I got into drugs,during those Crystal Meth drug induced days,he stood by me and even made his introduction early so that he could come see me and help me get clean,his fiance begged me to watch him while she's gone because he's a serial womanizer and it wasn't easy, I had to remind him 3-5 times a day he's engaged especially when he comes across a curvy girl on IG,it wasn't an easy fit....I literally had to kidnap his phone from him. 80-90% of the things he had here,he transferred them to my name,from his houses to his old cars,he even quit going to clubs to stay with me because he knew I would join him and clubs are just gateways to getting drunk and high again. To be honest,I'm still trying to keep up with everything he's done for me but I just can't because he's far to wealthy to do so and by December,I will be going back to France to be his best man for his white wedding

Till date,I always ask him what I did to deserve a friend like him and it's always the same answer that his spirit just accepted me like a brother he never had since the day we met because he's an only child to super rich parents and he's adopted which me and his fiance are the only people apart from his parents who knows

TL;DR All I'm saying is you may have had a terrible experience with queer men who are supposed to be your friends,ditch those people because they are not friends but predators and gay people aren't a monolith,there are super chill gay people out there who will show you how great and beautiful friendships can be with a straight man. Whenever there's a rape story on the front page Siofra will always say "all men are dogs" but are all men dogs? likewise the same "all gay men are sexual predators" which is also a wrong narrative to paint all gay men into

TotoGame:



Being gay isn't and will never be pleasant in the sight of God and Man .....God didn't create you this way


Something is wrong somewhere.....think You need spiritual help niggar!

Flamemignon1:

And adulterers are ok? Hypocrites as usual

TotoGame:


Adultery is bad too but Homosexuality is on a level of it's own

Save yourself from doom niggar

siofra:


How do you think women feel when you people catcall or hit on them when they don't want it


Gay men please don't stop. Keep up the good work!

Flamemignon1:

I'm so sorry about your experiences with queer people. Seriously, this makes me super sad,that you think gay men and straight men can't be friends is the same trope when people say straight men can't be just friends with straight women. I'm not going to belittle and gaslight your experiences because it's valid,I've seen straight men validate their homophobia because of actions like the ones you mentioned. I would advise you to cut your relationship with those guys because irregardless of their sexuality,they are just men willing to take advantage of their friends for appraisal or ego boost,if they were straight....they would've done the same thing to women..... practically,they are sex offenders and I advise you to take action when the sexual assault persists or report them to the appropriate authorities

Moreover, where I take offence on your post as a queer man is how you made all of us a monolith,you made it seem like all gay guys are sexual predators going back to the same homophobic rhetoric,I know you did it out of pain, betrayal and anger but we are all not the same and I'm sorry you had to go through that but "gay-straight alliances" exist because I'm a living witness. I do hang out in homosocial spaces but almost all my friends are straight, apparently there are five of them and they are all straight but we would die for each other as they know I'm gay but I'm gonna talk about my bestest (if that's a word)best friend,the bond we share is more like brothers..... infact, there's this stereotype that every gay guy has that straight friend they treat like their husband...lol and it's true because I tell you,we are so tight that sometimes we think we are clingy and this is a guy that's so secure in his sexuality that he doesn't think having a gay friend will make him gay (believe me, he's a complete womanizer) because I'm not the only gay friend,I'm just the closest,we met in France when I was there for my academic fellowship and we met in a gay bar,we really hit it off because not only were we the only two men of color there,we were also Nigerians,he was there to hit on a girl who would become his future fiance because women now have taken over gay bars (kinda annoying though because I thought it was a safe space for queers but now women are even more in there than gay men because they feel more safe than in straight bars but then they attract straight men to them). Anyway,I thought he was queer as he's really handsome and he's in a gay bar and I shot my shot,he just smiled and said he's flattered but he's looking to score a goal for another team,still remember those words,we bonded over a lot of things,anime stans, culture clashes and more and since then, it's history,we've been each other's shield in dark and light times, through thick and thin, he's that friend that I know will stick up for me and clothe me even if I'm naked (don't know if I will do the same for him though... kidding), he even introduced me to someone but I blew it because I was unfaithful (yes,I cheated...don't judge me) till date he still teases me about that because the guy was a business partner to his firm and it made the firm loose on in a deal because of the breakup,yet he forgave me,I helped him propose to the love of his life who calls me her second husband,he helped me get my business up even the smallest thing such as helping me pack when I was returning back to Naija to helping me get a capital to start up my business,yet till date he refuse to take back the money he gave me and he's never used his wealth to insult me or make him look superior rather he treats me like a equal,I don't think anything will ever ruin the bond we have and when his fiance gave birth to twins in January last year,he made me their legitimate godfather even though I wasn't there as I was busy with work,even though we were separated,he's always calling me like twice a week(I'm a terrible friend because I've never called him once),I've never asked him for something once where he will tell me he's broke or can't help out,even if he can't do anything,he will connect me to someone who can because he's well connected. When he came for his introduction last year june,him and his fiance slept in my house and when she went back with the kids,he stayed behind to take care of some documents about his life here but it was mostly to keep me drug free, I lost everything due to a terrible investment and business decision I made,I refused to tell him because I knew he would do something to help but for once,I wanted to be my own man then I got into drugs,during those Crystal Meth drug induced days,he stood by me and even made his introduction early so that he could come see me and help me get clean,his fiance begged me to watch him while she's gone because he's a serial womanizer and it wasn't easy, I had to remind him 3-5 times a day he's engaged especially when he comes across a curvy girl on IG,it wasn't an easy fit....I literally had to kidnap his phone from him. 80-90% of the things he had here,he transferred them to my name,from his houses to his old cars,he even quit going to clubs to stay with me because he knew I would join him and clubs are just gateways to getting drunk and high again. To be honest,I'm still trying to keep up with everything he's done for me but I just can't because he's far to wealthy to do so and by December,I will be going back to France to be his best man for his white wedding

Till date,I always ask him what I did to deserve a friend like him and it's always the same answer that his spirit just accepted me like a brother he never had since the day we met because he's an only child to super rich parents and he's adopted which me and his fiance are the only people apart from his parents who knows

TL;DR All I'm saying is you may have had a terrible experience with queer men who are supposed to be your friends,ditch those people because they are not friends but predators and gay people aren't a monolith,there are super chill gay people out there who will show you how great and beautiful friendships can be with a straight man. Whenever there's a rape story on the front page Siofra will always say "all men are dogs" but are all men dogs? likewise the same "all gay men are sexual predators" which is also a wrong narrative to paint all gay men into

nedekid:

Like seriously, you are gay?
As in you stick your dick or a dick is stuck into your anus, into your intestine . Anus where shit comes out of, you suck penis and hold a fellow man to romance? Or gay as in you like to talk to men more than women?
If it us the first one, do your papa and mama know man is sticking it into your anus? Does your pastor know?
Are you an African and a Nigerian or you are white. Because it is white folks that are primarily into that lifestyle.
Bro, stop kidding!!

Flamemignon1:

At least I read to the end. It's a beautiful day and I'm not going to educate anyone on human sexuality and gender anymore instead I'm living y'all to wallow in your ignorance, it's more funny that way. Have a great day