SalafRider:
Friends that want the best for you, the ones that want to see you fail. The real and the fake. What have been your experience so far keeping friends?

Make I sit down learn...

I met this friend of mine, Ayo during our school days in one of the schools in ondo state, that was in 2005. Infact, we got along with eachother immediately we met when doing our course registration, since we were admitted into same Accounting dept. Afterwards, we got so closed to a point where we had to share the same room till our final year. So, while in 200l, I was dating a 100l girl, which happened to be the only babe I was dating in school, even though I had one other I was dating in Lagos before I got admission. There was much love between us that almost everyone on campus knew about our relationship. It was just like we were married. I dated this babe till our first semester, 400l before I began to observe some changes about her which I never knew and understood the cause till we finished from school, went for service and all go out different ways. Ay, on the other hand used to be those serious type that would read and study on their own after lectures, spend most times in the library, which made his social life bored, that he only managed to have only one particular girl and their relationship never seems to last. But that never changed the fact that we were good friends who helped eachother in all manners of ways, financially, spiritually, educationally all through our stay in school, and even till present. Now, here is the point....After school, I lost contact with this said girl and she became the past but Ay has been there as my usual friend, even though we base in a different state. We are used to travelling to attend any special occasion of ours. I'm married with kids and he is married too with kids, and life has been fair to us, atleast.
But last month, this my ex sent me a request on FB and we got each other's contact, so after so much conversation thereafter, there was a confession and revelation from her about my friend. In a nutshell, Ay told her about the girl I was dating in Lagos, that each time, I say I want to travel to Lagos to go see my parent and fetch some money, it's a lie, that it's my Lagos gf I was missing and going to check upon. Well, which was truely part of the reason I do travel then, as I will always tell my friend about my Lagos gf. That he further told her I never loved her and was playing on her. And this my babe was always comfortable staying and sleeping in our room then even when am away as she is just so fond of our side. Laslas Sha, that my Friend took advantage of her n they bleeped. That it was because of that she gave me and "us" distance, as she couldn't look both of us in the face, that she was ashamed of herself. Lol, A scene of over 15years got fresh in my memory and got me wondered. She asked abt him, that do we still talk? I told her Yes! And she begged me not to tell him, that I should just forget it, since we all are happily married now. Cos she is married too with her own kids. I had to call Ay and ask because, he was and still a good friend to the best of my knowledge. To my surprise, even before I asked him, he already had a hint of what I wanted to ask him, because I first asked him if he remember her(mentioned her name) and he said yes, that did I come across her somewhere, I said yes, that she reveal some things to me, lol. He immediately start begging that it's been long he had wanted to tell me himself and apologized. I told him it's okay....that I genuinely forgive him, just that i was surprise and never believe. Even, If he had deny that she lied against him, I might probably be forced to believe him. So I told him it's cool, that have forgiven him. But the question is, till date, if he has any business in Lagos, he still come to my house to pass the night, even when am on night shift. Is it advisable to still trust him 100%? Note: Aside this stain, Ay is a nice guy and would do anything within his capacity for me as a friend!!!

seguno2:


How about doing everything to make them work out their own success too as you are going higher?

nobody owes you anything... Die that sense of entitlement

virginprincess:
Friends, I stop keeping friends the day someone I trusted so much someone I took like a brother almost took advantage of me in my own father's house just because I was the only one at home, seriously that why I have trust issues with men, since then I stop keeping friends especially male friends that why I'm always on nairaland most times at least to keep myself company.

Lol... Yahoo boy

lasisi69:
Lol... Yahoo boy

He's not a yahoo boy, i just don't know what came over him that day.

virginprincess:
Really!,Then maybe you should go look for him so he will tell you his own side of the story ,mtcheeeeeew.

Name and address or telephone number. Thank you.

Two things that makes a man betray his fellow man, (1),money (2, ) woman, if you have a friend that's behave differently when issues that involves money comes between you two, like he is always looking for a way to cheat you, distance yourself, 2, if you have a guy that always makes this excuses my woman says i should not do this my woman says i should not do that, he doesn't have his own say oga RUN!! 3, if he is the type that flirt with your woman any slightest opportunity he get, run cuz one day he will get your woman laid

seguno2:


How about doing everything to make them work out their own success too as you are going higher?

Easier said than done...you think it works like that?

virginprincess:
Friends, I stop keeping friends the day someone I trusted so much someone I took like a brother almost took advantage of me in my own father's house just because I was the only one at home, seriously that why I have trust issues with men, since then I stop keeping friends especially male friends that why I'm always on nairaland most times at least to keep myself company.

Simp spotted.she quickly friendzone and used him to solve her problems.fear women

No be every friend u go borrow am ur money ����

Ifeanyicosta:

Simp spotted.she quickly friendzone and used him to solve her problems.fear women

What is this one saying .

I guess I can’t relate though cos I only have two friends in my life and tbh they are more like fam

Rippers, thief and liar.

virginprincess:
Friends, I stop keeping friends the day someone I trusted so much someone I took like a brother almost took advantage of me in my own father's house just because I was the only one at home, seriously that why I have trust issues with men, since then I stop keeping friends especially male friends that why I'm always on nairaland most times at least to keep myself company.

Why did you always center your worth on virginity?

My friend is the best, he teaches me how to do things on my own instead of depending on others.

SalafRider:
Friends that want the best for you, the ones that want to see you fail. The real and the fake. What have been your experience so far keeping friends?

Make I sit down learn...

Trust ni one but God

SalafRider:
Friends that want the best for you, the ones that want to see you fail. The real and the fake. What have been your experience so far keeping friends?

Make I sit down learn...

Trust no one but God

Some are real especially the ones you don't expect.

Many are fake, even the one closest to you is fake.

Life no balance.


Las las Jesus is your only real and true friend.

Stay away from friends

virginprincess:
Friends, I stop keeping friends the day someone I trusted so much someone I took like a brother almost took advantage of me in my own father's house just because I was the only one at home, seriously that why I have trust issues with men, since then I stop keeping friends especially male friends that why I'm always on nairaland most times at least to keep myself company.

He tried taking advantage of u? in ur father's house,? didn't u invite a male friend over to ur fathers house? or did he just fell into.te house, wat were u expecting ? u see all this female children would kill their parents one day, if I'm ur father,.and u.brouhht a boy to my house, that day, u would know wat fire does to a rat's ear,

this is another tale to paint males as rapists like the other psy......."sapp...

Few days ago I ended my friendship with a childhood friend who's a colleague also.

I don't think I'll ever do friends anymore till I leave this world.

Someone I have known for over 20years was busying planning for my downfall and she never knew I was heard everything.
Uptil now, she's yet to understand why I don't speak with her anymore.

Friends are evil.

Some tend to be with you when both of you have nothing but when they are previlage to have money they blocked or distance themselves from you and some are jealous of your sucess it takes the grace of God to find a friend that will always be with you both thick and thin.

Heathrow44:




He tried taking advantage of u? in ur father's house,? didn't u invite a male friend over to ur fathers house? or did he just fell into.te house, wat were u expecting ? u see all this female children would kill their parents one day, if I'm ur father,.and u.brouhht a boy to my house, that day, u would know wat fire does to a rat's ear,

this is another tale to paint males as rapists like the other psy......."sapp...

I don't know why some of you are just too dumb to comprehend, didn't you read where i said he's my friend and even a friend to my brother,so he comes to our house anytime to see my brother just like my brother goes to his,infact we live in the same neighbourhood.

Some friends are loyal than ur brother/sister....

virginprincess:
I don't know why some of you are just too dumb to comprehend, didn't you read where i said he's my friend and even a friend to my brother,so he comes to our house anytime to see my brother just like my brother goes to his,infact we live in the same neighbourhood.

Oh,wow the thread said what friends did to you, so u.mean all ur female friends avant don anything to.u.that the only one u could remember is this story? the guy wasn't ur friend in the first place, it was u that gave him the impression that he was and he probably tot u were interested, For God's sake, he was ur brothers friend that comes to ur.house to see ur Bro not u, but it seems u made he think otherwise so don't come here saying that he tried to rape his gf

I only av 1 true friend when ever I'm in need of help his always there 4 me, we all ways support our self 14 years Friendship still counting.......... best friend till death do us apart

seguno2:


How about doing everything to make them work out their own success too as you are going higher?

you think everyone will be like you. Jelousy is jelousy

Out of every 100 u confide in and tell ur problems,

80 are happy you have them


20 don't even care anyways


Bottom line's:





TRUST NO ONE!

It funny seeing people saying friends are this and that.
Your are exactly what you describe about others. Live your life and threat your friends with the same courtesy you'd want to be treated and so before you go about cutting of your friends cus of what you perceive as envy and recognize that we are all humans vulnerable to our emotions

Follow Who Know Road.

oluseyiforjesus:
Friends are good wen u have trusted ones, but u are a living dead wen u hv fake friends

"There is no trusted friend."

Note this on your wall this day, so you won't have to learn the hard way tomorrow.

Friends taught me money change people!