APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

you've settled the case yourself nah your marriage na cruise keep doing that stuff you claim you deed till she comes bk to her senses sometimes take one full week time out to chill because that your own type of daughter of jezebel no get joy at all, no wait for her to kill you #RunoO

habsydiamond:
A jobless entity even get strength to fight... E get how dem dey torture people like them.. If not for the 2year old child I would have advised u not to fulfill any of her requests again until she comes to her senses... visiting too many prayer houses will only add more to ur problems cos the problem you don't have is what those money sucker creatures called pastors will say u have just to collect the little u have. See this woman o.. She no get job but fit buy one bag of rice for a pastor... Shey she wise or she's foolish... Imagine, jobless pesin dey sow seed for another jobless pesin. This world balance at all

You have very good in-laws. However, NAPTIP likes to feast on matters like this - you beat your wife, for whatever reason.

It's only God that can give peace of mind.

Try and works things out, all women are the same, just that there is little different among them.

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

......

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

You have very good in-laws. However, NAPTIP likes to feast on matters like this - you beat your wife, for whatever reason.

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturbed by my wife's problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

I know some who were never married nor have any committed relationship with a woman will be judging you for having sex with another woman outside your marriage but I will advise that you should not pay attention to them. Though I will advise that you should completely avoid beating her again though they can be frustrating.

80% of men having extramarital affairs outside their marriages are driven out by their wives and the moment they taste outside to come back becomes a problem.

Don't marry another woman cos they are all same, the second woman will also come with her frustration the moment you tied up a commitment with her. Have as many side chicks as possible, if possible if you can't relocate to give the one at home some space get yourself another apartment away from home where you disappear for a while anytime she start her madness.

Candidlady:


Your wife cfvkd up hitting you was something she shouldn't have done.

But since you also pulled a wire on her iguess you guys are even.


You paid iPo that followed you to the so called pastor's place. Amount unknown


your booked over night 17 thou'

You paid a sex worker 4 thou'

Sure you got high on some liquor and prolly got food. Amount unknown

How much is a bag of rice.?

Don't get me wrong iam not in support of what your wife did. Matter of fact Ihate lousy ladies


don't forget you have a kid... just hope it is not a boy child and if it is then ireally do not care whatever happens to him as a result of your toxic marriage/relationship

In as much as I don't support some of his reactions but you don't push your man to the wall and expect him not to react.

It is not about the amount of money involved, what it is to be used for or if it money was available....but the mindset&how with which some women make demands.

You can not be jobless, be entitled &troublesome.. that's an evil combo.

Women, make senseable demands with sensitivity, gratitude and reality.
How can someone who isn't working or contributing to the financial goals of her home make ridiculous demands with entitled mindset under the pretense of religion.

Some of these women act as if they know God more than their spouses or others.
As a woman, know that you can never please God with an insorbodiate spirit and disregard for your husband...study your Bible truthfully it's there.

Obey your man at all times not some times,regard and give him peace always then he will do things you ask of him....it is not rocket science.

In as much as it is not her money and even if it was her money, making such financial moves without her husband's approval is wrong...anything she does, no matter how good the intensions are will probably be nullified.

This marriage thing they scare me ooo..shay I go marry bayi??

Persephone1:
My Mama always warn me of men with wonderful narrative skills! I've seen an example on Nl today. He narrated it so well it will take extra effort to detect the lies, people like this can kill! They are hardly ever wrong or at fault.
Pity!

Trash talk.
If you like don't learn from it so you can be a better woman for your man until reality will hit you hard.
Nobody tolerates nonsense anymore.

what I observed about the ladies in NL.
70% seem very bitter and low on IQ. In their little mind, a woman can never go wrong. They would manipulate any story to suit their gender support mindset. I am happy men are no longer silent and speaking up too. Below are some of their twist to the tale.
To some, the Op is a smooth talker, so the story might not be correct, I don’t know if Seun now pays for stories, to some, if he could afford police, hotel, Olosho, why not just fund her stupidity for peace to reign, to some, the man has no rights to self defense, his woman has rights to provocations and first attacks, he should SIMPLY walk away, to some, it’s another women bashing thread, to some, the Op is immature.

Non of them could muster the decency to call a spade a spade. So long a woman is involved, they must play the victim game, they must show their manipulative tendencies, they must find twists and turns. They had no words for the fighter woman. Imagine the roles are reversed, and it was the woman whose money was being discussed, they will denigrate the man for attempting to question how she spends her money. Non could even speak against her slapping first which qualifies as domestic violence which is not gender based, they are simply rationalizing her actions as prayers for progress. So her bible did not teach her about honors to her husband? These NL women are just unrepentant hypocrites.

Candidlady:


Your wife cfvkd up hitting you was something she shouldn't have done.

But since you also pulled a wire on her iguess you guys are even.


You paid iPo that followed you to the so called pastor's place. Amount unknown


your booked over night 17 thou'

You paid a sex worker 4 thou'

Sure you got high on some liquor and prolly got food. Amount unknown

How much is a bag of rice.?

Don't get me wrong iam not in support of what your wife did. Matter of fact Ihate lousy ladies


don't forget you have a kid... just hope it is not a boy child and if it is then ireally do not care whatever happens to him as a result of your toxic marriage/relationship

I stand to be corrected but na SAPA dey cause see finish for marriage.
@OP so on one night you spent at least 30,000 but you couldn't spare yourself all the disrespect and give her the money for the bag of rice besides she's looking out for the good of the family with all that prayer house visits

justwise:


Oga has money to pay for emergency hotel, prostitute , the police and can afford to look after two wives but could not give madam money for a bag of rice?

He must think we have sludge for brains. Shior

Candidlady:


Your wife cfvkd up hitting you was something she shouldn't have done.

But since you also pulled a wire on her iguess you guys are even.


You paid iPo that followed you to the so called pastor's place. Amount unknown


your booked over night 17 thou'

You paid a sex worker 4 thou'

Sure you got high on some liquor and prolly got food. Amount unknown

How much is a bag of rice.?

Don't get me wrong iam not in support of what your wife did. Matter of fact Ihate lousy ladies


don't forget you have a kid... just hope it is not a boy child and if it is then ireally do not care whatever happens to him as a result of your toxic marriage/relationship

Buy her a bag of rice today, next time she will demand a bag of cash to sow in the ministry of another woman.

skoskosko:

This part got me thinking, capitulate to stupidity for the sake of peace? Today she pledge bag of rice, tomorrow she will pledge 50 bags of cement, next time she will pledge a land or sow your car as seed while you are away while she isn’t working. Imagine how entitled she is!

No amount is too big to pay for your his sanity before she drives him crazy. @Op, since she is unwilling to stop or learn and take correction after the same steps you have taken, it is sure, she wants to goad you into domestic violence and turn you into a suspect. I am not saying you should divorce your wife, but ensure she goes back to her parents house, if she doesn’t, use legal means possible alleging domestic violence and threat to life, until such a time she comes to realize she has done wrong and makes attempts to change, if she doesn’t, let her go for good. Don’t try to manage the situation by enduring her, you can’t endure a marriage. Some will say walk away whenever she starts her madness, please are you ready for decades of always walking? Even in the dead of the night at your own risk and detriment? Else you mistakenly kill her someday and go to jail.

I was expecting this response though...

You're worse than her. Two bad people.

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

Ha! Marriage is an institution that once you have been admitted you won't graduate, it's a pity,you shouldn't have settled for the oloso, where was your kid when the both started the madness, I am so much interested in the kid psych

...Just like your great grandfather that had 3 wives

Mtscheww

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Your father is very unserious..

Candidlady:


By cooling off. He should be jumping from on hotel to the other, with different sex workers ko?

Best you tell him to dissolve the marriage than this SPACE AND TIME SCAM of a thing.

If the thing ain't working/walking CRIPPLE IT AND LET IT END IN PEACE AND HARMONY

Trying hard to see where I wrote that he should "cool off." And I certainly didn't say he should continue cavorting with women in hotels.

This man needs to seek clarity on things!!!!

Ahead, people need time and space to process things. Space and Time, scam? How?

You see, it's the near-perfection, high standards of relationships and marriage that we've set up for ourselves that make us go banshee when reality starts to set in.

Again, I say the Op needs time and space to get himself together. Life doesn't revolve around anybody but him. As you can see, he already has a lot on his plate, dealing with the fishwife of a woman is going to complicate things more.

Op, may the Universe and God Almighty guide you.

Imortal001:
My fear be say, make she no come cut you joystick when you dey sleep.

see as u turn ds trend to comedy, abeg nor use laugh faint me oo! Cut joystick wen oga dum crash go Jupiter ba

Candidlady:


Your wife cfvkd up hitting you was something she shouldn't have done.

But since you also pulled a wire on her iguess you guys are even.


You paid iPo that followed you to the so called pastor's place. Amount unknown


your booked over night 17 thou'

You paid a sex worker 4 thou'

Sure you got high on some liquor and prolly got food. Amount unknown

How much is a bag of rice.?

Don't get me wrong iam not in support of what your wife did. Matter of fact Ihate lousy ladies


don't forget you have a kid... just hope it is not a boy child and if it is then ireally do not care whatever happens to him as a result of your toxic marriage/relationship

If you think paying for the bag of rice solves the imminent problem, then you're mistaking. He would always have to suppress his frustration until a day he can't take it anymore, just like this incidence.

It's better for him to spend 1 million and cause all the problem and let her know her place and that things will change from now on until she's willing to be reasonable. Otherwise, he would only be exploited emotionally, financially, and psychologically.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
File for a divorce ASAP...you both are faulty here..she hit you then you retaliated..
Next thing you had to do was have sex with a different lady..well your marriage is currently in shambles..you either keep deceiving yaself or divorce and keep wh**ring around..

Nigga sharap
If na you
You go do more
Do u know what frustration is from a lady...
How many men de settle down
If you got a good man that’s futing Bills better be happy for
Him
So Nigga sharap once again

ibechris:
Oga,u have done well and I don't think any married man would ever judge u because of one stupid wife of yours.

However,I want to say it categorically clear here that many women have used their foolishness and entitlement mentality to wreck their marriages.

If a bad wife gives u a problem,hmm that is when u will know that prostitutes serve a purpose in our society.

U don't need to marry another woman bros,just ease yourself whenever she comes with her demonic powers.

Get a permanent girl friends that might lead to marriage if the issue becomes too hard to solve.

Good luck to u sir.


But if u must marry another wife,pls marry a working class lady and u will see the difference.

Mumu, have you listened to the wife’s side of the story?

Anetorfavour:

see as u turn ds trend to comedy, abeg nor use laugh faint me oo! Cut joystick wen oga dum crash go Jupiter ba

Toh, na base on say, the woman blood dey hot fear come catch for my guy.

She should go.
Staying with you is very very dangerous.

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

forget second wife … divorce the woman before you either end up in court or in the grave

skoskosko:
what I observed about the ladies in NL.
70% seem very bitter and low on IQ. In their little mind, a woman can never go wrong. They would manipulate any story to suit their gender support mindset. I am happy men are no longer silent and speaking up too. Below are some of their twist to the tale.
To some, the Op is a smooth talker, so the story might not be correct, I don’t know if Seun now pays for stories, to some, if he could afford police, hotel, Olosho, why not just fund her stupidity for peace to reign, to some, the man has no rights to self defense, his woman has rights to provocations and first attacks, he should SIMPLY walk away, to some, it’s another women bashing thread, to some, the Op is immature.

Non of them could muster the decency to call a spade a spade. So long a woman is involved, they must play the victim game, they must show their manipulative tendencies, they must find twists and turns. They had no words for the fighter woman. Imagine the roles are reversed, and it was the woman whose money was being discussed, they will denigrate the man for attempting to question how she spends her money. Non could even speak against her slapping first which qualifies as domestic violence which is not gender based, they are simply rationalizing her actions as prayers for progress. So her bible did not teach her about honors to her husband? These NL women are just unrepentant hypocrites.

Sharap, the OP is not any different from the killers of Deborah. He is the violent type. But I also blame the stupid wife for becoming a liability to a stupid husband.

tonididdy:

I stand to be corrected but na SAPA dey cause see finish for marriage.
@OP so on one night you spent at least 30,000 but you couldn't spare yourself all the disrespect and give her the money for the bag of rice besides she's looking out for the good of the family with all that prayer house visits

You have wisdom. It was a matter of ego and blatant show of superiority on the OP’s side.

DeLaRue:
I suspect there's a lot more to it than just the issue of buying rice.

1. I suspect pent up frustration on the part of your wife, probably to do with staying at home doing nothing. She needs to find a job, however small, just to get her out of the house and increase her sense of worth.

2. That your wife slapped you, and you in turn whipped her with cable wire suggests there's is a history of physical altercation between you. The slap should not be viewed in isolation.

3. Any man that hits his wife with a cable wire has a violent streak in him. To flog her so violently with such horrible material is inexcusable. Your wife slapped you, so what? Be so upset as to call the parents, may be even ask for a separation. That's fine. But beat her with cable wire? No responsible man does that.

4. You have money to pay to arrest someone, stay overnight in a hotel and pay for sex, but no money to help your wife plan her life so she too can have a sense of self worth. If a woman is left at home all day, what else will she do other than house work, care for your child, and watch TV. But you are angry she watches TV.

5. No responsible man, however angry he gets with his wife goes to hotel and sleeps with a prostitute, and be so grossly reckless as to do it a 2nd time. Meaning the prostitute was lying their with you in the bed for a while...ewwww. I suspect you have a history of sleeping with people outside your marriage thus undermining the time, energy, love, affection and tolerance that your wife needs and deserves.

Whether you take a 2nd wife (that's up to you) or choose to work at your relationship with your wife, one thing you must understand is, you need to help the woman you choose to spend the rest of your life with, to make a success of her own life outside of being just a wife.

A happy wife will most likely make a happy home for you and your children.

A woman doesn't just wake up one day and slap her husband. Your wife is frustrated. Frustrated by you. That's not to say her behaviour is excusable.

Damn! At least we still have reasonable people here on this forum.

The OP is obviously obsessed with the little change he has and treats his wife like shit.

OP, you don't have much marital problem as you paint it to be.

What you lack is wisdom to deal with typical marital issues.

If you are not careful, things will get worse and you and your wife will live in regret.

I advice you see a marriage counselor now!

Remember, you are both the spiritual & physical head of your home..

Take charge ! make your marriage work!

Imortal001:

Toh, na base on say, the woman blood dey hot fear come catch for my guy.

it is well bro! Problem just 2 much for ds life i swear!

OyeofIkoTuN:
which cable wire....(Phone cord) or (dstv wire) or (pressing iron wire).. hahahahahahaha
But really what do you mean by she slapped you because you refused to buy rice for pastor.. ?..
hmmmm.
After using your cable cordish tricks,she's still threatening to deal with you?
This one is strong.

Actually is case is not unimaginable.

Lol. 21k wey you for use buy half bag of rice. I don't believe one sided stories.

See, this is for young newly married men. The first time your wife slaps you, make sure you slap her back 2 times, if possible land a punch! Do that wither she is pregnant or not!
I say this with all sense of responsibility.
It happened to me while she was pregnant. Over argument slap landed. Omo, the combination in response was instant. She went to the balcony and cried all day. But you know what? It never happened again! I have never laid hands on her, but she knows her boundaries. No matter how angry I get, last last I drive out. No thing like violence or physical abuse in my home over 20 years.
Point is, what you will not take later, don't take it now.