Choilila:
Sorry.
It seems like the wahala I witnessed this morning. Are you the only?
modified You are not the one.

Richardcollins5:
I’m actually taking the steps to confront her but we having a visitor now..and I actually don’t want her to know I scanned her chat..,I need help on how to go through this..,I wanna call her mom and inform her and just let things go for good..,but how do I deal with this heartbreak.

Richardcollins5:
Good afternoon nairalanders..,I’m really heartbroken,I really need your help to get over this…,been crying since morning.,
Last upper week..,i noticed some strange things about my fiancée..she suddenly changed to using Snapchat.,so this morning I just decided to scan her WhatsApp chat to see what’s really going on and I don’t just know what to do..,she has being having sex with her ex boyfriend!..we stay in the same roof and I don’t even understand how this happened because we are always together.,this girl is a girl I’m very nice to and give her whatever she wants in this world…,both financially and all..,I’m really disappointed with what I see this morning..,I spent so much on drugs and even going to the hospital thinking the problem is from me.,I’m really heartbroken and I don’t even know how to get over this please help.��how do I get through this heartbreak.

IamV:
Forgive her,please.

Call her & apologize to her for not being emotionally, financially & sexually supportive enough,and you take full responsibility for her seeking sexual satisfaction outside.

She might end up getting pregnant from that guy,please,man up & take responsibility for the baby too,you have hurt her enough.
Your reward is in heaven.
She might end up getting any of this venereal diseases,man up & fund her medicals,after all,you genuinely love her & she's the air you breathe.

Ignore those asking you to move on ,they don't care about your feelings.

Choilila:
Sorry.

It seems like the wahala I witnessed this morning.
Are you the only?

modified
You are not the one.

ukaface:
You can't own a person. That's why y'all keep having relationship issues. Y'all feel once on a relationship with someone then he/ she is yours alone. Pele ooo.

Richardcollins5:
I’m actually taking the steps to confront her but we having a visitor now..and I actually don’t want her to know I scanned her chat..,I need help on how to go through this..,I wanna call her mom and inform her and just let things go for good..,but how do I deal with this heartbreak.

Ritzybeauty:
From you outbursts, you seem to be a good man, just accept your loss and move on, it's very important you should realise this is a lost cause and start working on yourself to become happy again.. Sorry for the news

Yusufisraelj:


So in essence what do you mean? A girl should gallivant about in a committed relationship? What's nonsense? If she's not ready to commit as far as OP has, with even a familiar face to her parents, then @Richardcollins5, kick her out of your house, count your losses and move on, it won't be easy, but it can be done.

I have zero tolerance for cheating My brother I'm very much single and will only ask a lady out when I've discovered she wants a relationship committed to marriage and she's shown she's reasonable and wants exclusivity, you're better off with a lady who wants something like that, than with one who doesn't know her left from right.

well me I don't condone cheating and I'll end things ASAP, toh, let me not impose my perception on you, but clearly my guy this lady doesn't have character, that's a big red flag.

ukaface:
why you dey call me guy sef

ukaface:
You can't own a person. That's why y'all keep having relationship issues. Y'all feel once on a relationship with someone then he/ she is yours alone. Pele ooo.

WatchYourSix:


What is this that you are saying because you just want to blame the guy..why dont you women ever say the truth when it comes to your gender doing wrong..

If nobody is should expect exclusivity or loyalty from their partner...the word infidelity would not exist....

So when you have boyfriend...you expect him to sleep with anyone he likes when hes also sleeping with you?? Its like you dont like your life..

ukaface:



Society compels us to be with one person at a time. Rather, it compels us to surrender our freedom to just one person. Yet, this fact doesn't bridle our feelings. As human beings our desires are limitless, our feelings cannot be thrown into a cage. For loyalty to exist we must be deliberate with our feelings, this is the only way relationships can actually make sense but if we live our life by the dictates of relationship that says, we should surrender our freedom to just one person alone, we would live a life filled with expectations. Well, at the end of the day, nobody is satisfied because we have being manipulated to put another person above ourselves.