Dear nairalanders this issue seems small/trivial but it is not, and it is bothering me. Personally, I have not been lucky with friends, they end up becoming envious and bitter for no reason, but obviously because of my qualities so I am very careful with people and I "choose" my friends wisely (I choose them). So I will like to go straight to the point now.

I relocated to a new house. So after a (very) long walk from my house there is a gate one must pass through to get out of the place and then you can begin to see bikes, etc. What I noticed was that throughout the first month I got to the area, the gate was unmanned as it was free. Soon after that I started noticing the presence of a security guy (he should be in my age bracket or 3 years older). Each time I went out or came in he would ensure he seized an opportunity to greet me even when I deliberately looked away "welcome Sir" and I would say "well done". But I was not comfortable with this because I noticed he wasn't greeting other people that passed through, so why me? Like he came there to get to know me. Moreso, I have always known the best thing is to avoid people you really don't want to have anything to do with. I only maintain professional relationships with people after terrible experience with those who claimed to be friends. Note that, I walk alone here as I know nobody. So as time went on he would greet me then I would just act like I didn't hear.

Later they became two, they would greet me then I would just pass on my own. Now it's well over a month, that I stopped responding to their greetings, but they still greet me despite silence.

One day, for the first time I saw someone I know in the area and we went through the gate together, we saw one of the two security guys, he didn't greet me, it's about two weeks now and I have not seen that particular security guy there (the question is why?)

Now, the other one is always there. This morning he greeted me as always, I gave no reply as usual, when I came back in the evening same greeting, then I stopped and stared at him, I wanted to talk but I changed my mind and walked away and he saw that. So I went out again and this guy now really stood up greeting me like a pal of his.

Nairalanders what do you advice that I do, this is not normal, what interest do they really have in me. Because if you know someone is not responding what a normal human being should do is stop greeting. I think the devil want to use them. Because as it is, I'm enraged by this act and I know the intent is they have is not pure.

Modified: All of you saying anything that comes to your brain...do you know my personal experience in life? As in, do you know what has happened to me before that made me to decide if I could overcome I will always go gently on my own? Because you are Just talking now. Most importantly, I don't look down on anyone even street beggers. What I am discussing here is far from that, try and eliminate this bias so you can understand my plight. By the way, I am not rich yet and I keep my dressing simple.

I want to go and come back peacefully without familiarity with anyone I have no professional relationship with as this is the safest way to avoid issues (this decision is from a terrible past experience and you need to understand that).

I want to know if I should maintain my silence or I can "politely" tell them I don't appreciate their greetings. As for my brain needing examination don't worry about that, I know my story better.

You have serious problems.

You must be super jobless wallahi...

So what u are saying is u find compliments from people u dont know offensive

I bi dey think say Portable na mad man, I no know say the updated version dey here, brewed with paranoia.

Calm down bro... Reply them politely and move on.

Replying their greetings does no harm inasmuch as you keep them at bay.

bro you are the problem here

Do u know that some people just like to form familiarity with people who they see as well to do or doing beta than them?u said there's nothing they can do for u, that's a big lie.neva underestimate people.1 sec everything can change for those guys.

to even stay mute sef shows your kind of person, what you gon lose if you say hello to men just like yourself

OP, you are feeling so insecure.
In my own area here there is this elderly woman who would greet me if am going out, does same thing when am coming in. At first i wont respond but later I realise she pose no harm to me. Not like she is coming to my house nor stop me to beg for money. .

You really are the problem here just like someone rightly said, as them dey greet you. They are expecting u to drop something for boys. Am sure u r not the only one they r greeting like that.

You are just INSECURED and PROUD as well with that tone of "there is nothing they can do for me". Just keep forming, one day a situation will arise that you'll need them. Pray it shouldn't be a life threatening situation.
Treat people with respects. In this life the rich will one day needs the poor.
YOU DON'T KNOW TOMORROW.

professore:
Dear nairalanders this issue seems small/trivial but it is not, and it is bothering me. Personally, I have not been lucky with friends, they end up becoming envious and bitter for no reason, but obviously because of my qualities so I am very careful with people and I "choose" my friends wisely (I choose them). So I will like to go straight to the point now.

I relocated to a new house. So after a (very) long walk from my house there is a gate one must pass through to get out of the place and then you can begin to see bikes, etc. What I noticed was that throughout the first month I got to the area, the gate was unmanned as it was free. Soon after that I started noticing the presence of a security guy (he should be in my age bracket or 3 years older). Each time I went out or came in he would ensure he seized an opportunity to greet me even when I deliberately looked away "welcome Sir" and I would say "well done". But I was not comfortable with this because I noticed he wasn't greeting other people that passed through, so why me? Like he came there to get to know me. Moreso, I have always known the best thing is to avoid people you really don't want to have anything to do with (he won't find me a job or add anything to my life and I really don't want to know him). Note that, I walk alone here as I know nobody. So as time went on he would greet me then I would just act like I didn't hear.

Later they became two, they would greet me then I would just pass on my own. Now it's well over a month, that I stopped responding to their greetings, but they still greet me despite silence.

One day, for the first time I saw someone I know in the area and we went through the gate together, we saw one of the two security guys, he didn't greet me, it's about two weeks now and I have not seen that particular security guy there (the question is why?)

Now, the other one is always there. This morning he greeted me as always, I gave no reply as usual, when I came back in the evening same greeting, then I stopped and stared at him, I wanted to talk but I changed my mind and walked away and he saw that. So I went out again and this guy now really stood up greeting me like a pal of his.

Nairalanders what do you advice that I do, this is not normal, what interest do they really have in me. Because if you know someone is not responding what a normal human being should do is stop greeting. I think the devil want to use them. Because as it is, I'm enraged by this act and I know the intent is they have is not pure.

Thank you pals.

They want you to be dropping small bar for them, like 200 once in two weeks, then sallah, christmas, 500. That's how they survive because their salary is very small.. Those are essentially underemployed people, imho more of a security risk than anything else

headbasher96:
So what u are saying is u find compliments from people u dont know offensive

.... the thing weak me, in essence what he is saying is that he only associate with people he can gain from. What is bad in saying hello to someone .

Supreme01:
You are just INSECURED and PROUD as well with that tone of "there is nothing they can do for me". Just keep forming, one day a situation will arise that you'll need them. Pray it shouldn't be a life threatening situation.
Treat people with respects. In this life the rich will one day needs the poor.
YOU DON'T KNOW TOMORROW.

I concur.... the guarding your gate so you can sleep in peace, and you say they do nothing for you.

Op, i think you need to do a checkup to know if u needed a mental evaluation. Something is not right with u. Yaba needs u. Nawaaoo

uvie66:
.... the thing weak me, in essence what he is saying is that he only associate with people he can gain from. What is bad in saying hello to someone .

well all i can say is some people are just funny.


Well op if u find the greeting troubling kindly tell the guy to stop greeting u thats all

professore:
Dear nairalanders this issue seems small/trivial but it is not, and it is bothering me. Personally, I have not been lucky with friends, they end up becoming envious and bitter for no reason, but obviously because of my qualities so I am very careful with people and I "choose" my friends wisely (I choose them). So I will like to go straight to the point now.

I relocated to a new house. So after a (very) long walk from my house there is a gate one must pass through to get out of the place and then you can begin to see bikes, etc. What I noticed was that throughout the first month I got to the area, the gate was unmanned as it was free. Soon after that I started noticing the presence of a security guy (he should be in my age bracket or 3 years older). Each time I went out or came in he would ensure he seized an opportunity to greet me even when I deliberately looked away "welcome Sir" and I would say "well done". But I was not comfortable with this because I noticed he wasn't greeting other people that passed through, so why me? Like he came there to get to know me. Moreso, I have always known the best thing is to avoid people you really don't want to have anything to do with. I only maintain professional relationships with people after terrible experience with those who claimed to be friends. Note that, I walk alone here as I know nobody. So as time went on he would greet me then I would just act like I didn't hear.

Later they became two, they would greet me then I would just pass on my own. Now it's well over a month, that I stopped responding to their greetings, but they still greet me despite silence.

One day, for the first time I saw someone I know in the area and we went through the gate together, we saw one of the two security guys, he didn't greet me, it's about two weeks now and I have not seen that particular security guy there (the question is why?)

Now, the other one is always there. This morning he greeted me as always, I gave no reply as usual, when I came back in the evening same greeting, then I stopped and stared at him, I wanted to talk but I changed my mind and walked away and he saw that. So I went out again and this guy now really stood up greeting me like a pal of his.

Nairalanders what do you advice that I do, this is not normal, what interest do they really have in me. Because if you know someone is not responding what a normal human being should do is stop greeting. I think the devil want to use them. Because as it is, I'm enraged by this act and I know the intent is they have is not pure.

Modified: All of you saying anything that comes to your brain...do you know my personal experience in life? As in, do you know what has happened to me before that made me to decide if I could overcome I will always go gently on my own? Because you are Just talking now. Most importantly, I don't look down on anyone even street beggers. What I am discussing here is far from that, try and eliminate this bias so you can understand my plight. By the way, I am not rich yet and I keep my dressing simple.

I want to go and come back peacefully without familiarity with anyone I have no professional relationship with as this is the safest way to avoid issues (this decision is from a terrible past experience and you need to understand that).

I want to know if I should maintain my silence or I can "politely" tell them I don't appreciate their greetings. As for my brain needing examination don't worry about that, I know my story better.

Chief I understand what is happening.
Why they are greeting you is because they want get to know you more in terms of being able to ask for money or borrow money from you in future.
They can concur that you are a salary earner.
Except there is no other place, you have no choice but to pass there.
Always answer them when they greet you but NEVER ever try to start any conversation with them for any reason.
Enjoy!

professore:
Dear nairalanders this issue seems small/trivial but it is not, and it is bothering me. Personally, I have not been lucky with friends, they end up becoming envious and bitter for no reason, but obviously because of my qualities so I am very careful with people and I "choose" my friends wisely (I choose them). So I will like to go straight to the point now.

I relocated to a new house. So after a (very) long walk from my house there is a gate one must pass through to get out of the place and then you can begin to see bikes, etc. What I noticed was that throughout the first month I got to the area, the gate was unmanned as it was free. Soon after that I started noticing the presence of a security guy (he should be in my age bracket or 3 years older). Each time I went out or came in he would ensure he seized an opportunity to greet me even when I deliberately looked away "welcome Sir" and I would say "well done". But I was not comfortable with this because I noticed he wasn't greeting other people that passed through, so why me? Like he came there to get to know me. Moreso, I have always known the best thing is to avoid people you really don't want to have anything to do with. I only maintain professional relationships with people after terrible experience with those who claimed to be friends. Note that, I walk alone here as I know nobody. So as time went on he would greet me then I would just act like I didn't hear.

Later they became two, they would greet me then I would just pass on my own. Now it's well over a month, that I stopped responding to their greetings, but they still greet me despite silence.

One day, for the first time I saw someone I know in the area and we went through the gate together, we saw one of the two security guys, he didn't greet me, it's about two weeks now and I have not seen that particular security guy there (the question is why?)

Now, the other one is always there. This morning he greeted me as always, I gave no reply as usual, when I came back in the evening same greeting, then I stopped and stared at him, I wanted to talk but I changed my mind and walked away and he saw that. So I went out again and this guy now really stood up greeting me like a pal of his.

Nairalanders what do you advice that I do, this is not normal, what interest do they really have in me. Because if you know someone is not responding what a normal human being should do is stop greeting. I think the devil want to use them. Because as it is, I'm enraged by this act and I know the intent is they have is not pure.

Modified: All of you saying anything that comes to your brain...do you know my personal experience in life? As in, do you know what has happened to me before that made me to decide if I could overcome I will always go gently on my own? Because you are Just talking now. Most importantly, I don't look down on anyone even street beggers. What I am discussing here is far from that, try and eliminate this bias so you can understand my plight. By the way, I am not rich yet and I keep my dressing simple.

I want to go and come back peacefully without familiarity with anyone I have no professional relationship with as this is the safest way to avoid issues (this decision is from a terrible past experience and you need to understand that).

I want to know if I should maintain my silence or I can "politely" tell them I don't appreciate their greetings. As for my brain needing examination don't worry about that, I know my story better.

I understand you, maybe the are looking for the familiarity so they can beg you for money

My advice;
1 Don't let them know your name or your apartment.
2 When they greet you do greet back but don't smile or ask them 'how work?'
3 Limit the number of your friends in that area

ISellBeer:

I understand you, maybe the are looking for the familiarity so they can beg you for money

My advice;
1 Don't let them know your name or your apartment.
2 When they greet you do greet back but don't smile or ask them 'how work?'
3 Limit the number of your friends in that area

oh! Finally, thank you so much for understanding me. And thank you so much for the candid advice.

drdeath:

Chief I understand what is happening.
Why they are greeting you is because they want get to know you more in terms of being able to ask for money or borrow money from you in future.
They can concur that you are a salary earner.
Except there is no other place, you have no choice but to pass there.
Always answer them when they greet you but NEVER ever try to start any conversation with them for any reason.
Enjoy!

Thank you so much bro. I appreciate.