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I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by ebijimi7(m): 3:57am On May 30, 2022
Good day guys, I've been on this forum for a while now and I've learnt a lot from you guys via threads here on nairaland.
To cut the story short and not bore you, I'm a 28 year old guy and will be 29 by October knowing that I've finally grown to be an adult is really getting me frustrated and depressed because of a lot of responsibilities that comes with it,
Although I've been a hustler from a very tender age (16) I had an irresponsible father who doesn't care about me and my sibling instead of him to take care of us with the money he made he would rather spend that money on woman. Leaving my sibling and mum to starve.
My dad had only one chance to turn my life around when I needed him most, he refuse to help me, because I went for a scholarship exam when I was in school and I was among the lucky 10 that was picked and I was offered to come and learn networking for a token fee of #50,000 naira then instead of the normal 450k but my dad refuse to pay telling me he doesn't have money, I cried and begged him to please help me my dad kept saying he doesn't have money and this happened immediately after I finished my ssce exam then, now my dad said he doesn't have money but that year he abandoned me and my mum and sibling at my grand mother's house because my grandma built her own house, for years we didn't hear from him or get to see him.
My mum would call and beg him for money for food he would curse her , later we found out he was living with another woman and he got another apartment for 300k and this same man said ge doesn't have money to sponsor me for a tech skill I wanted to acquire. So when my dad was not ready to help I had to seek for a job to take care of my mum and sibling because my mum business went down and we were not having anything to eat, so I got a factory job I would work from 7am to 7pm even with that machine almost chopped off my index finger I still had to go to work just for my family to eat my mum kept crying and calling my dad, he ignored us and for God so good he opened a way for me and got a better job offer, I gain admission in yabatech I wanted to pay 75k for school fee I had 50k my mum begged my dad to borrow me 25k that I would refund it, my dad shouted at my mum that he doesn't have anything to give to me if he doesn't pay his rent first[b](omo I regretted coming to earth through that man)[/b].
To cut the long story short, I am getting depressed because I'm still staying in my granny's house and I want to leave but I'm currently building for my mum and I want to build mine too and get married but the pressure is much because I feel I'm running out of time and my girlfriend is on my neck that we should get married (although she has been very supportive) but I felt I don't have time on my side again because now I need to rent an apartment and also finish the house I'm building for my mum but I'm not earning much and all these on a mere salary of 60k I'm really frustrated and if I should get an apartment while building its going to slow down the progress of the building and I really want to gift this to my mum for her 60th birthday which is in 3 years time (that woman deserve to be happy I love her so much) and I also needed to get married and start having my children adult hood is not easy
Please I need you guys advice as I'm getting really frustrated.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Cutehector(m): 4:04am On May 30, 2022
Take it easy..

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by matrix199(m): 4:08am On May 30, 2022
Just take things easy ok?

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Nobody: 4:09am On May 30, 2022
ebijimi7:
Good day guys, I've been on this forum for a while now and I've learnt a lot from you guys via threads here on nairaland.
To cut the story short and not bore you, I'm a 28 year old guy and will be 29 by October knowing that I've finally grown to be an adult is really getting me frustrated and depressed because of a lot of responsibilities that comes with it,
Although I've been a hustler from a very tender age (16) I had an irresponsible father who doesn't care about me and my sibling instead of him to take care of us with the money he made he would rather spend that money on woman. Leaving my sibling and mum to starve.
My dad had only one chance to turn my life around when I needed him most, he refuse to help me, because I went for a scholarship exam when I was in school and I was among the lucky 10 that was picked and I was offered to come and learn networking for a token fee of #50,000 naira then instead of the normal 450k but my dad refuse to pay telling me he doesn't have money, I cried and begged him to please help me my dad kept saying he doesn't have money and this happened immediately after I finished my ssce exam then, now my dad said he doesn't have money but that year he abandoned me and my mum and sibling at my grand mother's house because my grandma built her own house, for years we didn't hear from him or get to see him.
My mum would call and beg him for money for food he would curse her , later we found out he was living with another woman and he got another apartment for 300k and this same man said ge doesn't have money to sponsor me for a tech skill I wanted to acquire. So when my dad was not ready to help I had to seek for a job to take care of my mum and sibling because my mum business went down and we were not having anything to eat, so I got a factory job I would work from 7am to 7pm even with that machine almost chopped off my index finger I still had to go to work just for my family to eat my mum kept crying and calling my dad, he ignored us and for God so good he opened a way for me and got a better job offer, I gain admission in yabatech I wanted to pay 75k for school fee I had 50k my mum begged my dad to borrow me 25k that I would refund it, my dad shouted at my mum that he doesn't have anything to give to me if he doesn't pay his rent first[b](omo I regretted coming to earth through that man)[/b].
To cut the long story short, I am getting depressed because I'm still staying in my granny's house and I want to leave but I'm currently building for my mum and I want to build mine too and get married but the pressure is much because I feel I'm running out of time and my girlfriend is on my neck that we should get married (although she has been very supportive) but I felt I don't have time on my side again because now I need to rent an apartment and also finish the house I'm building for my mum but I'm not earning much and all these on a mere salary of 60k I'm really frustrated and if I should get an apartment while building its going to slow down the progress of the building and I really want to gift this to my mum for her 60th birthday which is in 3 years time (that woman deserve to be happy I love her so much) and I also needed to get married and start having my children adult hood is not easy
Please I need you guys advice as I'm getting really frustrated.

Your dad na Delta man?. Just asking?.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by OscarJaden(m): 4:14am On May 30, 2022
Building two houses with a salary of 60k in this Buhari economy
Op all you need to do now is put your own building on hold since you said you want to present her own on her 60th birthday......then i will advise you to look for a bedroom flat so you can start up from there.....

And the must important thing,never allow anygirl pressure you into settling down because most of them think once they force you to settle down with them,they believe 90% of their problems is solve
Even if she's supportive
You need to think of yourself first

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by otipoju(m): 4:17am On May 30, 2022
Take this advise as one from a big brother.

Take it very easy. Dont rush into marriage when you are not ready. You are 28 now. Ill advise you to wait till you are 34 to 35. Sort out yourself first. If the girl wants to leave PLEASE let her leave unless she is coming to add serious value to you.

Sort out your mum first and while learning a skill that will earn you much money to ADEQUATELY cater for your family when you start having kids. That is your priority for the next 5 years. Forget about marriage or even relationships in the meantime. Build Yourself.

Are you still interested in the networking course?

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Nobody: 4:19am On May 30, 2022
Building two houses on a salary of 60k? OP can we see pictures of the said houses? I wan check something

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Blunttruth: 4:21am On May 30, 2022
ebijimi7:
Good day guys, I've been on this forum for a while now and I've learnt a lot from you guys via threads here on nairaland.
To cut the story short and not bore you, I'm a 28 year old guy and will be 29 by October knowing that I've finally grown to be an adult is really getting me frustrated and depressed because of a lot of responsibilities that comes with it,
Although I've been a hustler from a very tender age (16) I had an irresponsible father who doesn't care about me and my sibling instead of him to take care of us with the money he made he would rather spend that money on woman. Leaving my sibling and mum to starve.
My dad had only one chance to turn my life around when I needed him most, he refuse to help me, because I went for a scholarship exam when I was in school and I was among the lucky 10 that was picked and I was offered to come and learn networking for a token fee of #50,000 naira then instead of the normal 450k but my dad refuse to pay telling me he doesn't have money, I cried and begged him to please help me my dad kept saying he doesn't have money and this happened immediately after I finished my ssce exam then, now my dad said he doesn't have money but that year he abandoned me and my mum and sibling at my grand mother's house because my grandma built her own house, for years we didn't hear from him or get to see him.
My mum would call and beg him for money for food he would curse her , later we found out he was living with another woman and he got another apartment for 300k and this same man said ge doesn't have money to sponsor me for a tech skill I wanted to acquire. So when my dad was not ready to help I had to seek for a job to take care of my mum and sibling because my mum business went down and we were not having anything to eat, so I got a factory job I would work from 7am to 7pm even with that machine almost chopped off my index finger I still had to go to work just for my family to eat my mum kept crying and calling my dad, he ignored us and for God so good he opened a way for me and got a better job offer, I gain admission in yabatech I wanted to pay 75k for school fee I had 50k my mum begged my dad to borrow me 25k that I would refund it, my dad shouted at my mum that he doesn't have anything to give to me if he doesn't pay his rent first[b](omo I regretted coming to earth through that man)[/b].
To cut the long story short, I am getting depressed because I'm still staying in my granny's house and I want to leave but I'm currently building for my mum and I want to build mine too and get married but the pressure is much because I feel I'm running out of time and my girlfriend is on my neck that we should get married (although she has been very supportive) but I felt I don't have time on my side again because now I need to rent an apartment and also finish the house I'm building for my mum but I'm not earning much and all these on a mere salary of 60k I'm really frustrated and if I should get an apartment while building its going to slow down the progress of the building and I really want to gift this to my mum for her 60th birthday which is in 3 years time (that woman deserve to be happy I love her so much) and I also needed to get married and start having my children adult hood is not easy
Please I need you guys advice as I'm getting really frustrated.
I smile when nairaland guys are always insulting women with comments like outside sex what can you offer a man, when there are millions of women singlehandedly carrying their families.. This is the story of the life of many families around me. The karma that is going to befall your dad is doing press up. (No insut intended) later he will come and beg, mark my words.
Please don't be frustrated. You are doing well, How many 28 year olds that are legit can boast of a land, talkless of building. Calm down and take it easy. If your girlfriend is supportive talk to her, if you guys can stay in your grandmother' s place. But ask your self if the place is condusive enough. You know how some families start treating wives and how some wives too behave. You know both parties so only you can decide if they can cohabit without ending in enimity.
Left to me ,if you know your girlfriend is the one, you can get married to her. Get a house of moderate irent,if possible a one room self contained or single room, that is if your grandmother's place isn't
conducive. You can decide to wait a little before trying for kids, or have just one right away. You should have built for yourself first . Channel your resources into one place,then yt can live there and house your mum. Then later you and your siblings could join hands to build for her. Make sure all your siblings are as hardworking as you are. Then you all can join hands to build for your mum. Don't put yourself under unecesarry pressure please. Continue in your way of life, avoid a sinful life and keep praying. God will bless you. When the money starts coming do not start womanizing and making the mistakes your father did.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Blunttruth: 4:29am On May 30, 2022
Skyview01:


Your dad na Delta man?. Just asking?.
Or Bini. Terrible, useless men full here. Maybe it's delta men living in Benin sha.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by henryligit: 4:43am On May 30, 2022
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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by haggai247: 4:49am On May 30, 2022
ebijimi7:
Good day guys, I've been on this forum for a while now and I've learnt a lot from you guys via threads here on nairaland.
To cut the story short and not bore you, I'm a 28 year old guy and will be 29 by October knowing that I've finally grown to be an adult is really getting me frustrated and depressed because of a lot of responsibilities that comes with it,
Although I've been a hustler from a very tender age (16) I had an irresponsible father who doesn't care about me and my sibling instead of him to take care of us with the money he made he would rather spend that money on woman. Leaving my sibling and mum to starve.
My dad had only one chance to turn my life around when I needed him most, he refuse to help me, because I went for a scholarship exam when I was in school and I was among the lucky 10 that was picked and I was offered to come and learn networking for a token fee of #50,000 naira then instead of the normal 450k but my dad refuse to pay telling me he doesn't have money, I cried and begged him to please help me my dad kept saying he doesn't have money and this happened immediately after I finished my ssce exam then, now my dad said he doesn't have money but that year he abandoned me and my mum and sibling at my grand mother's house because my grandma built her own house, for years we didn't hear from him or get to see him.
My mum would call and beg him for money for food he would curse her , later we found out he was living with another woman and he got another apartment for 300k and this same man said ge doesn't have money to sponsor me for a tech skill I wanted to acquire. So when my dad was not ready to help I had to seek for a job to take care of my mum and sibling because my mum business went down and we were not having anything to eat, so I got a factory job I would work from 7am to 7pm even with that machine almost chopped off my index finger I still had to go to work just for my family to eat my mum kept crying and calling my dad, he ignored us and for God so good he opened a way for me and got a better job offer, I gain admission in yabatech I wanted to pay 75k for school fee I had 50k my mum begged my dad to borrow me 25k that I would refund it, my dad shouted at my mum that he doesn't have anything to give to me if he doesn't pay his rent first[b](omo I regretted coming to earth through that man)[/b].
To cut the long story short, I am getting depressed because I'm still staying in my granny's house and I want to leave but I'm currently building for my mum and I want to build mine too and get married but the pressure is much because I feel I'm running out of time and my girlfriend is on my neck that we should get married (although she has been very supportive) but I felt I don't have time on my side again because now I need to rent an apartment and also finish the house I'm building for my mum but I'm not earning much and all these on a mere salary of 60k I'm really frustrated and if I should get an apartment while building its going to slow down the progress of the building and I really want to gift this to my mum for her 60th birthday which is in 3 years time (that woman deserve to be happy I love her so much) and I also needed to get married and start having my children adult hood is not easy
Please I need you guys advice as I'm getting really frustrated.

You are overstressed and over stressing yourself.
Just calm down enjoy life no let stress kill
Where is it written that you must build a house for your mun when you clearly don't have the resources?
Why would a girl be mounting pressure that you should marry her?
Would your 60k be able to give you and your wife a good life?
Better live life one day at a time and stop stressing yourself.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by ebijimi7(m): 5:00am On May 30, 2022
otipoju:
Take this advise as one from a big brother.

Take it very easy. Dont rush into marriage when you are not ready. You are 28 now. Ill advise you to wait till you are 34 to 35. Sort out yourself first. If the girl wants to leave PLEASE let her leave unless she is coming to add serious value to you.

Sort out your mum first and go learn a skill that will earn you much money to ADEQUATELY cater for your family when you start having kids.

Are you still interested in the networking course?
Thanks bro currently taking a cyber security course on udemy

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by chinwong(m): 5:34am On May 30, 2022
Bro, you are doing well. You just have to take things slow and stop stressing yourself out.

Stop whining about marriage yet as things are still shaping out. Just cancel that thought now.

Keep working and building yourself up. If your granny’s place is quite conducive, manage it till your projects are sorted out. It doesn’t matter where you stay inasmuch as you know what you’re doing and not chasing clouts.

Never Stop Believing!

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Bluezy13(m): 5:34am On May 30, 2022
And my neighbor somewhere is 31 years old, an only son, without a girlfriend, managing life gradually and he is not bothered because he doesn't care about what others think about him.

That man needs to read your story.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by JeffSA: 6:56am On May 30, 2022
The easiest way to decrease your chances of making it in life is increasing your responsibility when your financial strength hasn't increase.

The same girl will start complaining when you can't cater for your immediate family.
No go kill yourself with too burden cos you are still very young and once you get married.

U will start having kids immediately cos the society will pressure you into doing that when they will start asking if your wife is okay and why she is not pregnant yet.

The formula is decrease your liability and invest in assets. Building a house now when you don't have any saving or good source
Of income for me is not a wise decision cos will never sale that property if thing goes really bad.

Self development by Saving up for business or learning a course with that money would have been the best thing to do because you can easily build that house within a year if you have good source of income.

Now the house is not finished, all the money you would have use for self development tied up there and no money to continue and you are thinking of getting married.

Even though you said you got three years left to finish the house, that money would have been channel in a better way to help you grow financially and build a good house in a short period of time.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by okoroemeka(m): 7:20am On May 30, 2022
DominusPrime:
Building two houses on a salary of 60k? OP can we see pictures of the said houses? I wan check something
even if it is one year one block it still counts as building,first thing for op to do and save his life is to leave that girlfriend that is on his neck for marriage,how callous and irresponsible can she get,a struggling man and all she can think of is to get married and born more babies for him,more problems on top of problems.my God!

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Clinghton: 7:20am On May 30, 2022
Help your mom with something to sustain her, and concentrate on your life.

Try to ease the pressure, it's not good for the body.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by TechBIogger: 7:26am On May 30, 2022
Blunttruth:

Or Bini. Terrible, useless men full here. Maybe it's delta men living in Benin sha.
oh boy men from both of these two tribes useless die.
I used to hear of it till I came down here.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by TechBIogger: 7:27am On May 30, 2022
Bluezy13:
And my neighbor somewhere is 31 years old, an only son, without a girlfriend, managing life gradually and he is not bothered because he doesn't care about what others think about him.

That man needs to read your story.
na me be this

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by squash47(m): 7:27am On May 30, 2022
Skyview01:


Your dad na Delta man?. Just asking?.
ask him if he is an urhobo man.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by WENGERNOMICS(m): 7:52am On May 30, 2022
ebijimi7:
Good day guys, I've been on this forum for a while now and I've learnt a lot from you guys via threads here on nairaland.
To cut the story short and not bore you, I'm a 28 year old guy and will be 29 by October knowing that I've finally grown to be an adult is really getting me frustrated and depressed because of a lot of responsibilities that comes with it,
Although I've been a hustler from a very tender age (16) I had an irresponsible father who doesn't care about me and my sibling instead of him to take care of us with the money he made he would rather spend that money on woman. Leaving my sibling and mum to starve.
My dad had only one chance to turn my life around when I needed him most, he refuse to help me, because I went for a scholarship exam when I was in school and I was among the lucky 10 that was picked and I was offered to come and learn networking for a token fee of #50,000 naira then instead of the normal 450k but my dad refuse to pay telling me he doesn't have money, I cried and begged him to please help me my dad kept saying he doesn't have money and this happened immediately after I finished my ssce exam then, now my dad said he doesn't have money but that year he abandoned me and my mum and sibling at my grand mother's house because my grandma built her own house, for years we didn't hear from him or get to see him.
My mum would call and beg him for money for food he would curse her , later we found out he was living with another woman and he got another apartment for 300k and this same man said ge doesn't have money to sponsor me for a tech skill I wanted to acquire. So when my dad was not ready to help I had to seek for a job to take care of my mum and sibling because my mum business went down and we were not having anything to eat, so I got a factory job I would work from 7am to 7pm even with that machine almost chopped off my index finger I still had to go to work just for my family to eat my mum kept crying and calling my dad, he ignored us and for God so good he opened a way for me and got a better job offer, I gain admission in yabatech I wanted to pay 75k for school fee I had 50k my mum begged my dad to borrow me 25k that I would refund it, my dad shouted at my mum that he doesn't have anything to give to me if he doesn't pay his rent first[b](omo I regretted coming to earth through that man)[/b].
To cut the long story short, I am getting depressed because I'm still staying in my granny's house and I want to leave but I'm currently building for my mum and I want to build mine too and get married but the pressure is much because I feel I'm running out of time and my girlfriend is on my neck that we should get married (although she has been very supportive) but I felt I don't have time on my side again because now I need to rent an apartment and also finish the house I'm building for my mum but I'm not earning much and all these on a mere salary of 60k I'm really frustrated and if I should get an apartment while building its going to slow down the progress of the building and I really want to gift this to my mum for her 60th birthday which is in 3 years time (that woman deserve to be happy I love her so much) and I also needed to get married and start having my children adult hood is not easy
Please I need you guys advice as I'm getting really frustrated.


Guy..............1st thing .................RELAX!!!!!!!!!!! Just calm down

2nd thing...............Shelve marriage entirely for now..........Don't add additional burden. Let your girlfriend move on with her life if she cant wait for you. 3-5 Years and you'd be ready

Number 3: Stop both housing projects immediately and pump the money into heavy skill development. Money is nothing than just a medium to exchange value. Increase your Value by heavy skill development and money will find you. If you can, learn how to Code or how to trade FX professionally or how to do graphics design or find some other high value skill and learn it aggressively. You can even do 3-4 at a time if you have the funds and time.

Number 4: Build a positive mental attitude. Dont allow peers and family pressure you. Life no be competition. You are in a race against your self, your destiny is in God. You can show your mum love without building the house. You can survive without marrying now. Don't rush into financial responsibility or debt because you want to maintain status. Just believe in the process and take it 1 step at a time

Number 5: Hold God tight. Most important advice. Life will push you to the limit and beyond. GRACE/FAVOUR is better than SKILLS. What is on your head is what determines what is around you. Hold God tight. Find a good church and serve God with all your might. Sit down with the Bible and find good books and learn how God blesses, how faith works, how the spirit world functions etc. If the Grace of God lands on your head, God can compress 10 years and put it inside 1 year for you. God's FAVOUR can wipe your SWEAT and STRUGGLE away like a dream. So spend time chasing God (I did not say chase men of God ohhhh). Chase God and God will make you. Promotion does not come from east, west or south but God .And when God promotes you, No man can demote you

Number 6: Stay away from EVIL. Life does not do short-cuts. Anything you compromise on your journey, you will pay for in future. Just believe in the process and stay away from EVIL

Number 7: Finally................FORGIVE your Father fully, completely and totally. You will not move forward carrying any grudge in your heart. Forgive him. You cant tell what he has gone through. I am not excusing his bad behaviour but forgive him and if possible, look for him and bless him in anyway you can. Fatherhood is an office. Bless him because one day you will become a Father and you wont be perfect. If he's still around when you finally blow, bless him with money or material stuff and make sure he blesses you. Life is a mystery. Just forgive and do it.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Oblivionz5(m): 7:54am On May 30, 2022
God will eventually make you so great for
And your father will come back to apologize… just be consistent. You will be ok
Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by jogsman01(m): 7:57am On May 30, 2022
Can I also hit you up sir

@ OP, take it easy with that marriage thing pls. May God bless your hustle
henryligit:
You can still pick up as a man but first you have to conquer yourself
I was feeling depressed earlier this year
Just like you..but all thanks to qnet

So if you can work here in Lagos
Heat me on 07066198170
Or if you Know any of your friend that is working in quest international company you can still call that person for help

Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Boogyman557: 8:07am On May 30, 2022
Holly Gram cool JAH bless ur hustle MAN!


At 28 or 29, All I have to say is...


U are doing well bro...


it's not easy I knw but wit the difficulties in this useless CUNTREE and u are still trying to put up a building for ur mum, U are doing well...


Don't rush into MARRIAGE!


I REPEAT


Don't rush into MARRIAGE!


28, 29 is not dat old Man!


No matter the support from ur GF, NEVER rush into MARRIAGE!


if she truly loves u, She will see REASONS wit u and UNDERSTAND ur MATAYANCE!


Better still RENT a 1 room selfcon or 1 bedroom..



LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Sergio104(m): 8:08am On May 30, 2022
Marriage should come last in this case
Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by techWriter3: 8:13am On May 30, 2022
give it easy
Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Stargurl20(f): 8:15am On May 30, 2022
I pray that your affairs is eased. That's why you will see some fathers bed ridden with stroke, diabetes, cancer and all sorts of chronic diseases at old age and people will wonder if they have no child to take care of them. You've a family and children who will be your hope at old age ( if you've trained them well), but no you chose to chase women with your money. It's well with some fathers sha

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Nobody: 8:21am On May 30, 2022
TechBIogger:
na me be this
You read my mind walahi... Makes 3 of us grin

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Harrykn: 8:23am On May 30, 2022
Your Girlfriend is on your Neck.
Money no even dey to pay rent, you dey keep girlfriend dey blame your papa for chasing women. Now she wants marriage, the pressure don high and if you’re not careful you’ll start neglecting your family to satisfy her. That is what withdrew your father’s attention from the family.
You need settle yourself before you settle another person because who no get chair siddon no fit lap person.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by Sageez(m): 8:29am On May 30, 2022
ebijimi7:
Good day guys, I've been on this forum for a while now and I've learnt a lot from you guys via threads here on nairaland.
To cut the story short and not bore you, I'm a 28 year old guy and will be 29 by October knowing that I've finally grown to be an adult is really getting me frustrated and depressed because of a lot of responsibilities that comes with it,
Although I've been a hustler from a very tender age (16) I had an irresponsible father who doesn't care about me and my sibling instead of him to take care of us with the money he made he would rather spend that money on woman. Leaving my sibling and mum to starve.
My dad had only one chance to turn my life around when I needed him most, he refuse to help me, because I went for a scholarship exam when I was in school and I was among the lucky 10 that was picked and I was offered to come and learn networking for a token fee of #50,000 naira then instead of the normal 450k but my dad refuse to pay telling me he doesn't have money, I cried and begged him to please help me my dad kept saying he doesn't have money and this happened immediately after I finished my ssce exam then, now my dad said he doesn't have money but that year he abandoned me and my mum and sibling at my grand mother's house because my grandma built her own house, for years we didn't hear from him or get to see him.
My mum would call and beg him for money for food he would curse her , later we found out he was living with another woman and he got another apartment for 300k and this same man said ge doesn't have money to sponsor me for a tech skill I wanted to acquire. So when my dad was not ready to help I had to seek for a job to take care of my mum and sibling because my mum business went down and we were not having anything to eat, so I got a factory job I would work from 7am to 7pm even with that machine almost chopped off my index finger I still had to go to work just for my family to eat my mum kept crying and calling my dad, he ignored us and for God so good he opened a way for me and got a better job offer, I gain admission in yabatech I wanted to pay 75k for school fee I had 50k my mum begged my dad to borrow me 25k that I would refund it, my dad shouted at my mum that he doesn't have anything to give to me if he doesn't pay his rent first[b](omo I regretted coming to earth through that man)[/b].
To cut the long story short, I am getting depressed because I'm still staying in my granny's house and I want to leave but I'm currently building for my mum and I want to build mine too and get married but the pressure is much because I feel I'm running out of time and my girlfriend is on my neck that we should get married (although she has been very supportive) but I felt I don't have time on my side again because now I need to rent an apartment and also finish the house I'm building for my mum but I'm not earning much and all these on a mere salary of 60k I'm really frustrated and if I should get an apartment while building its going to slow down the progress of the building and I really want to gift this to my mum for her 60th birthday which is in 3 years time (that woman deserve to be happy I love her so much) and I also needed to get married and start having my children adult hood is not easy
Please I need you guys advice as I'm getting really frustrated.

Guy! I got my single room at the age of 30.
I had my plans to get married before 30 but Buhari's brothers destroyed my hope.(I don't even want to remember it).
When it happened, I had to move back to my parents house. No job, no money and I soon found myself depressed.
I can't tell you that I have my life back, but I can tell you that it is better than it was before.

No girl should put you in unnecessary pressure. If she can't help build you, then she ain't worth it. Forget about women and try to fix yourself first because if you don't, you will struggle to take care of your children when they finally come.
Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by fattprince(m): 8:31am On May 30, 2022
TechBIogger:
na me be this
I was going to ask the same question too only that I'm not yet 31.

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Re: I Would Be 29 By October And I'm Loosing My Mind by fattprince(m): 8:34am On May 30, 2022
Ferkaholic:

You read my mind walahi... Makes 3 of us grin
Actually 4. But seems I'm still the youngest. My uncle said something about not being on my own by 30 if not for ASUU shey I for don commot go serve stay there at least to prove him wrong that I left home before 30. I still believe Sha that anything can happen before I clock 30.

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