Nazgul:
You should find out why he withdrew totally from you first before honouring the invitation.

Siblings and close cousins don't just cut off from each other for no reason unless he heard a rumour about a negative remark you made about him, or you provoked him, or did something that made him feel very bad without even knowing and he's been holding it against you.

My advice would be for you to call him. If you two reside in the same state, request for a meeting, and find out what went wrong and apologize.

Good luck.

Kollins11:
Even if I had nothing doing on that day, I would rather cook half bag of beans, one by one with candle flames.

Kollins11:
Even if I had nothing doing on that day, I would rather cook half bag of beans, one by one with candle flames.

Imustnottalk:
Op you can attend the weeding to show you are not having anything against me bet me he will respect that and his attitude will change he knew he has bleeped up but he is so shy to tell you about it that was why his wife informed you about he want you to be there but you have to respect yourself when you get

Kollins11:
Even if I had nothing doing on that day, I would rather cook half bag of beans, one by one with candle flames.

IamDora:
Dear Nairalanders, Good evening to you all. I'm in a state of delima right now and I'm so confused on what to do that's why I decided to bring the issue here.

I have a Cousin, he's wealthy and we used to be very close to each other, we do alot of things and talking together. Even when we do meet at Villa during festive periods, we are always together 24/7 that people do think I'm the one eating his money. (If cousins were to marry each other, we would've married ourselves)

So fast forward to 2020, things began to take a new turn, he began to change towards me completely, he hardly picks my calls, neither does he reach out to me thereafter to know why I called (Mind you, I'm not a leech to him, as my family were very comfortable too) When I lost my mom (May her soul rest in peace) this my said cousin never called me to sympathize with me, and I didn't hold it against him either. He started giving me space, I tried everything possible to know why the sudden space from him, but to no avail. So I kept my cool and distanced myself from him.

So fast forward to this 2022, his fiancee (Whom I knew her from him) called me on the 20th of last month to tell me that their wedding is on the 18th of this month and she would so much like me to be in attendance! My cousin never bothered informing me about it even till now!

Now my question is,' Should I honour the said invitation by his Fiancee and attend their wedding or I should stay back and call her to wish her Happy Married Life after their Wedding?

Please help me push this to front page so I'll get a wider audience to share their opinions.

Thank you.

tiswell:
we are here to advice a sister


behave!

Mitsurugi:





Ferkaholic is just deceiving you o

Nazgul:
You should find out why he withdrew totally from you first before honouring the invitation.

Siblings and close cousins don't just cut off from each other for no reason unless he heard a rumour about a negative remark you made about him, or you provoked him, or did something that made him feel very bad without even knowing and he's been holding it against you.

My advice would be for you to call him. If you two reside in the same state, request for a meeting, and find out what went wrong and apologize.

Good luck.

Favfables1:
Hmmm....
Omorr...
This one strong o...
OP...
I've put myself in your shoes and I will send him a voice note on WhatsApp, and the voice note will look something like this....

"You and I used to be very close way back, but it hasn't been that way for a very long time, and I kinda miss that. I don't know the reason for the distance, maybe you need space or you're mad at me about something or you're dealing with something, but whatever the case maybe, I'll be here if you wanna talk about it....

Emmmmmm....
Lemme say a big congratulations. Your wife to be told me that you guys would be getting married soon, I'm happy for you guys, really I'm happy that my gee is getting married, though I'm a bit hurt that I got to hear it from her first instead of you, either ways she invited me to the wedding and honestly, I'm skeptical about coming. Not because I can't make out time or because I don't want to honor the invitation, it's just that, the distance between us and you ignoring me gives me the impression, that you don't want me there...

I'll be expecting your response to this voice note, congratulations once again"

His response to this will decide whether or not I'll go for the wedding....