I totally agree with the op, you sexually desire the one you love dearly.

Cheasystickylov:
hi hmmmm, thank you so.much. can we talk briefly ? Thanks

Sure. I'll mail you soon

Benee1000:


Sure. I'll mail you soon

thanks

tayo60:
And you want us to read this epistle

Op you've done a great job. What an insightful read! Your write up is filled with lots of hidden insights that only those with unfathomable wisdom will discern.

Besides, tayo60, there is an adage that says if you want to hide a secret from a black man, put it in a book.

A write up that's not up to 5k words shouldn't be that difficult to read through.

This is what we call short reads on Amazon.

cc: Benee1000

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There are four dimensions of human personality.

Physical
Emotional
Intellectual
Spiritual
The most common mistake people make is to focus on just on one or two dimensions and ignore the rest while choosing their life-partner.


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I couldn't help but skip the lengthy rubbish you are selling up there. Absolute nonesense

Tohsynetita1:

So, how do one who know who they are attracted to sexually?

By making sacrifices for you. By doing everything possible to please you as a guy. I can testify to this. By expressing their sexual side to you. A girl that is attracted to you will practically do everything to please you as a guy.

In fact, she is the one that will chase you not the other way round. It makes things easy for you as a guy.

You deserve an award for this thread, it's a MASTERPIECE!!!

Mcslize:


Op you've done a great job. What an insightful read! Your write up is filled with lots of hidden insights that only those with unfathomable wisdom will discern.

cc: Benee1000

Thanks for the kind words.

KiingShay:
You deserve an award for this thread, it's a MASTERPIECE!!!

Thanks

Benee1000:


Sure. I'll mail you soon

bro, what's good. Still waiting. Thanks

Thanks for this, OP.

Well communicated and well received.

If half of the men in Nigeria understood this, relationships wouldn't be so complicated.

tayo60:
And you want us to read this epistle

My Sister I'm unmarried, I did oh, in fact I have to, it only a fool that reject instructions.... Op may God bless and equip you with more wisdom, I indeed learnt a lot from this writeup. I know a guy that fell for the "no sex" parole....barely six month in the marriage, this guy don dey look for way to dispose him wife oo....real life story not a fluke ajeh.

Teste wetin you wan buy before you pay. Op more oil to your head. I guess you're worth follow here on nl.

[quote author=gentlegenius post=113636230]
@ Benee1000,
Have you noticed that almost everyone that complained about your thread being so long are females?
Fact check: If you visit any hospital, healing home, prayer houses, and other places where people with problems normally go to, you will surely find more females than males. The truth is, no other specie of living creatures on earth hates learning like the female gender, and Most of the problems women encounter in this world is caused by their hatred for learning. Most of them are easily deceived by fake pastors, fake prophets, and even the devil because they hate to read and learn from the bible, yet they are claiming to be more religious.
How can a very educative thread like this appear long to someone despite the lessons embeded in almost every paragraph? These kind of people has never read any book from beginning to end in their entire life, and sadly, they might never learn anything all through their life.
Thanks OP for this wonderful and wisdomful write up. Pls if there is any book that you read that inspired you to put up this insightful piece, just recommend it to me and I will download and devour it asap.



Youre 100% correct it’s a known fact the 95% of woman lives there life blankly all through their lives,they are mostly void of wisdom ,the only thing they learn is men ,because that’s who they depends on for survival ,that’s why ladies with daddy issue struggles with men are bad for marriages ,they survives on their parents and reach puberty and start surviving on men and late on in life there children ,that’s why they are mostly in churches and fall to scam easily,that’s why any powerful man are to be defeated they go through his wife


Even if you’re married already and claim to love your wife so much,you better don’t put things that are very important to you in her care or give her too much responsibility ( they hate responsibility so much) ,all the know is Bollywood ,nollywood and are mostly loyal to money and sometimes GOOD DICK

While as an average man ,you have to learn new things ,new skills ,new businesses,sharpen your intuition , get wiser ,lean to be emotional stable ,learn game ,be stoic ,financial education,mental strength,even learn female nature before you can really go far in life , that’s why large percentage of male youths smoke weeds nowadays to mingle ,level up and get strong and even join cultism ,it’s not easy ti be a man

This is my 5th time of reading this.
Who can assist me on how to convert this to pdf and share it to most men.

Benee1000. How can I follow you on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram.
You deserve some award.
I'm a Redpiller and I don't hate women but I hate their entitlement mentality.
Relationship and love doesn't mean I have have to inherent your life problem.

Redpill movement has shaped me as a man.
I can tell you from my view and understanding of women, their GREATEST WEAPON is SEX.
If you can get busy, get a job as man, your least worries is sex.

I'll rather marry a street girl that is sexualy active than a church girl.
You see most of this born again girls, they commit more sin and adultery than any lady.
I have case of one fuckingg a Reverend father inside the Parish. (Anglican oo)

Who do you think most catholic priest fuckss

Ask any sewage tanker operator what they encounter when taking sewage from the priest Parish house, na Condom dey full the sweage pit.. Who uses these condom

Well let's believe it's Holy spirit (No be brainwashing)

[quote author=Kaymicheal852 post=114788407][/quote]

Well said

I wonder why this post has not reached 100 page??
Where are the likes of Fernandez and Co??

I have shared it on various what's app group. Are you a man here, copy the link and share on various what's app group, fb and Twitter.
Let's make this post go viral..

thebosstrevor1:
One of the best writeup i have ever read in my life about sexuality.


Nice one.

There are 2 things, i know are scam.

No sex before marriage and sex time table

I can not fathom the idea that people have time table for sex

there are some marriages that the woman bring up timetable for sex

Your article is great and very enlightening. However, sex before marriage is ungodly and it's a sin against the souls they that commit it and a disobedience to God's commandment.

This where our generation consistently get it wrong and lo the lack of trust, Lust, sexual perversion, paternity frauds, turbulence in marriage, separation, divorce, divorced kids, etc. It's spiritual, you can't understand it by the soundest worldly enlightenment.





[quote author=Benee1000 post=113528970]For guys interested in marriage or long term relationships with religious ladies, please beware of the age long trap of their promise to fulfill all your sexual desires UNTIL after marriage.
Especially the ones who claim to love you but totally avoid being sexual with you with the excuse that sex before marriage is sin.

Do not fall for this seemingly upright but ultimately destructive trap, whether she's a virgin or not.

A woman's sexuality is more important than her religious beliefs when it comes to relationship & marriage.
Females are emotional beings as much as they're sexual beings, and religion doesn't change this.

A lady is a female first, before her religious beliefs.

Let me explain:

A lady who genuinely desires & is attracted to a man cannot help herself from being sexual with him, whether she's religious or not.
This genuine desire and attraction predisposes her to be in the feminine and automatically, sexual towards him.
They are incapable of controlling their lust for the man they desire, and desire, is an emotion, something felt and not intentional nor negotiated.

Have you ever wondered why sex with a lady in a highly emotional state (after a quarel, aka make up sex, or when she's excited, scared, sad and dejected, drunk, lonely etc.) is often very intense and pleasurable for her?

It's because females require emotions to enjoy sex ..

Sex is directly proportional to a woman's emotions.
The more emotional she is, the more sexual she becomes.
The more logical or less emotional she Is, the less sexual she becomes.
The more emotionally expressive a lady is, the more sexually expressive she is during sex (legends know this).

Emotions opens up a woman sexually.
When her emotions are high, sex is not far away.

This is why the easiest way to sleep with a lady is to make her Emotional.

And If they're already sexually attracted to a man, they will seek an emotional connection with him.

Since desire is an emotion, and emotions opens up a woman sexually, a lady therefore can hardly control herself from being sexual with a man she genuinely desires because that desire makes her emotional, and emotions makes her sexual.

She could be a cold blooded nun to every other guy but burns hot for the man she's attracted to.
She may withhold sex for religious reasons but cannot control being sexual or romantic with him, and unless such a man can control himself, it's only a matter of time before sex happens.

This means that the burden of keeping a 'no sex before marriage relationship' rests on the man rather than the woman.
Because she already wants it, and can't control her emotions.

Females are called weaker vessels in the Bible not because they're physically weaker than men (women can be as strong as men physically. If woman don gather mind fight you before, you will confirm ).

They're called weaker vessels because they can hardly control their emotions like men.

Her religious beliefs doesn't change this. It is a fundamental part of what makes her female.

Remember, a woman is a female first before her religious beliefs.

Again, desire, my friends cannot be negotiated. If a lady doesn't desire you sexually, she simply doesn't, and therefore cannot attach to you emotionally.

There's always a level of emotional fulfilment and attachment in a lady when she has sex with a man she sexually desires.

The strength of this attachment is strongest for the man who disvirgins her and the man who can give her earth shattering orgasms. They don't easily break up and forget this categories of men.

However, the more sexual partners a lady has had, the weaker the strength of this emotional attachment, and the lesser the chance of her bonding emotionally with her next sexual partner irrespective of her sexual attraction for him.

A lady who has had several sexual partners will hardly bond emotionally with any man, and is considered too damaged for marriage.
This is why it is important to vet a lady's past, irrespective of her sexual attraction for you.

A lady who is not attached to you emotionally is not a lady you want to get married to. Neither your money nor her religion can keep her loyal in such union.

This is the reason why most married women cheat, especially with their ex. They're still emotionally attached to that ex.

Moreover, sex with a lady who desires you sexually is at opposite ends to one which a lady does out of obligation.

The Former indulges her emotions, as well as her sexual fantasies, and fetishes, which easily takes her to the promised land (orgasm). This doesn't require stress from the man as just caressing or touching her, or even just hearing his voice or seeing him, with few minutes of penetration, is enough to open her flood gates (2mins women ). It's how she feels emotionally about the guy that really matters.

The later, (obligational sex) is akin to prostitution and you go drill her hole taya before you see water, if you see at all, no matter the size of your drilling rig .

This is because it involves little to no emotions from her. She's doing it as her own duty in a business transaction. To get money or financial security from the man in return for the use of her coochie to satisfy himself.
Her own pleasure doesn't matter in a transactional sex.

This is why the sex an olosho gives to a client is very different from the one she does with her boyfriend that she loves and is sexually attracted to.
The sex she gives to clients is considered stressful work for her and has to be paid for, after which, she reaches out to her boyfriend when she wants to rest, feel feminine, and to have the same sex she's trying to rest from, for free! and you wonder, is it not the same sex?

No, it's not.

For a female, sex borne out of desire (validational) is for her, to please herself, while sex due to obligation (transactional) is for the man, to please the man and get his resources in return.

Which one do you think you will enjoy more? The sex you beg or pay for and she agrees to so that peace will reign, which she barely partakes in and simply lies down like a bag of beans while you pound away with a handy bottle of lubricant as drilling mud ,
or the one she looks forward to, begs you for and brings her A game so she can satisfy her sexual cravings with multiple orgasms?

The first is just like masturbating, but with a real person. The sex is like eating food to cure hunger but didn't savour the meal.

For the second, the pride, pleasure and satisfaction when a man cums after he has made the lady orgasm is on another level.
You feel like a king, the lady adores you and she feels like a Queen.
You both satisfied your hunger, savoured the meal, and you both look forward to the next meal.

If you are made to wait for sex, you will eventually discover that the sex was never worth the wait.

Because what you get at best after that wedding is obligatory sex, of which as soon as she gives birth to the first child, she fulfils only sparingly, because no woman really enjoys obligated sex, and that child is insurance of her financial security from you, while your obligation to provide as a man increases with each new birth.

Ever heard of women having sex time table for their husbands? This is the origin, obligation, void of desire.
Desire can not be negotiated, it is spontaneous.

Moreover, since there's no emotional attachment involved in obligatory sex, the day you default on your own part of the deal (financial provision), or when she considers it insufficient, that is the day you lose your value and respect to her, including her loyalty to you.

She may not show it immediately, but with time, nagging, disrespect, disregard, sex deprivation and even cheating will creep into that marriage.
She may even elope with your children sef.
Peace of mind will be very far from you, and your journey as a philosopher will be on full throttle .
That is If she doesn't kill you so she can inherit your resources and go be with the man she really desires.

So beware guys. If she demands that you must wait until after marriage for her to become sexual with you, abort mission.

Her marriage demand is not borne out of righteousness but rather a need for the security of your resources.
She's codedly offering sex in exchange for the resources that comes with your commitment.

Marrying such a lady is like marrying a prostitute, albeit a religious or sexually disciplined one, with you as the only customer, if she decides to be loyal to you.

Prostitution isn't about having multiple sexual partners, but wanting to be rewarded for sex.
It is a mindset.

A lady who easily sleeps around (a slut), just lacks sexual discipline, she may or may not be a prostitute.

Majority of marriages are just legal / institutionalized prostitution.

The moment the husband faces financial crisis, the wife locks up her shop for security reasons (financial security ).
No emotional attachment, no sentiment.

If you think a womans demand for no sex before marriage in a relationship is borne out righteousness, playfully ask her if she tells soft lies to gain favours or get out of trouble once in a while (All women do this whether religious or not. It's a preinstalled software in their OS ).
If she smiles but tries to explain why, ask her what then is the difference between lying and extra-marital sex if both are considered sin and why she considers one more seriously than the other? and watch her babble without a logical answer.

However, this is the reason.

Marriage in itself, has little to do with love, it's all about resources. To make a man accountable for a woman and her offspring.

While this is necessary as a woman needs resources to properly cater for her offspring, a man don't need to be married to a lady to experience her love and sexual side.

That sexual side of her comes naturally when she meets a man she's genuinely attracted to.

Marriage doesn't automatically make a woman sexual towards you.

A lady who genuinely desires you cannot insist on the idea of no sex without marriage to you, because;
1) She would be so scared of loosing you to other ladies who wants you, especially when you're high value.
2) A lady has little to no control over her body for a man she sexually desires.

Only the man does. Only the man can determine whether sex will happen or not, because she already wants it.

What she'd rather do if really serious about being chaste before marriage is to beg you not to take advantage of her sexually and help her keep herself whenever she's with you.
She knows she can't help it, and you only have to make the move for sex for it to happen.

Some ladies will even make the move for sex themselves, put their hope in you to resist, and will genuinely blame you when you fail to resist.

However, most will just hide this desire, wear clothes and do things to turn you on so that you try to seduce them for sex, pretend that they don't want it with a weak resistance so you don't see them as cheap, only to later be shouting harder! harder!, disturbing the neighbors with her moaning, and then finally wets the whole bed with 2 liters of cum while vibrating like old Nokia touchlight phone during orgasm .

After the first half, she lays on the bed to rest a little, while strategizing how best to initiate the second half,
and the exhausted guy trying to catch his breath, thinks he just successfully seduced the lady and proudly represented his village people with a man of the match performance like Messi; If only he knew what'sup .

A lady who insists on a no sex before marriage most likely has other options, certainly doesn't desire you sexually, and definitely cannot attach to you emotionally.

A man who has to win a woman's affection, is already playing a lost game, and he'll pay dearly for it, when whatever won and sustained the woman's affection is no more.

A woman's affection, while very rare and priceless, comes free. It's a gift. Gifts are freely given, not bought.
However gifts are giving to those who are found worthy.

But here's the corollary (the other side of the coin);

No female proves her love for a man through sex or the promise of sex. The existence of prostitution should reveal this to you.

Sex to a lady is either for her pleasure, a service to be rendered for a price, a tool for manipulation, or a weapon for destruction.
If a lady is clever enough, all can be applied at the same time, to multiple men.

Sex is never a proof of love, neither is the offering of virginity.

Love is proven through giving and making sacrifices.
However, sexual attraction comes first, because while women can be sexually attracted to a man they don't love (their crush), they can only love a man they're sexually attracted to.

If a lady is not sexually into you, just forget about her other qualities and dey your lane.

Don't make the grave mistake many good men make by saying "she'd make a good wife cos she's a good person, and sex is not that important to me".

This is because there's a big difference between a wife who finds you as her lover and a wife who only sees you as her husband and father of her children.

One makes a happy home irrespective of circumstances, and the other makes a peaceful home as long as you can provide.

One see her duty in the marriage as only to provide sex and take care of the home and children. Anything money for the home is not her concern and solely rests on the husband, as her money is her money.

While the other makes it her responsibility that her lover's life is easy through her support financially, sees her money as their money, and ensures he is always happy so that he can effectively carry out his duty of satisfying her sexual needs and heading the home.

A woman will hardly stay 2 days beefing her lover in the same house, because his presence always stirs up her desire for romance, making her always push to settle their beef quickly, or she just ignores the issue and easily forgives him, so she can enjoy her man, and her marriage.

A wife with no emotional attachment to her husband cannot be easily pleased by him no matter his efforts at pleasing her.
Their home is mostly sterile (like the atmosphere of a formal office), Happy moments are rare, and for little misunderstandings, they can stay quarrelling for years, living like flatmates and end up enduring the marriage.

Objectively observe marriages around you and you will discover that couples are just silently enduring it either for the sake of their children, religious beliefs, cultural beliefs, social status, or financial dependence.

This is the reality of most marriages and the couples don't even know why their marriage is like that.

The men either neglected or were not aware of the rule that sexual attraction from a woman should come first before considering her other qualities for a relationship or marriage.
Because it seems a direct opposite of what is taught by many religions, that sex before marriage is sin.

They conflated sexual attraction for sex, and ignored the fact that A lady is a female first, before her religious beliefs.

For those still unmarried, here's what you can do to avoid making this mistake in choosing a marriage partner.

Never try to win a lady's affection.

Instead, make yourself attractive physically, financially and socially.
This is what women interpret as sexually attractive.
If you're high-value, many women will find you sexually attractive and codedly come around you to flash varying intensities of green lights.
However, you must be able to decipher between women who want you for attention and those who want you for affection.

Attention just wants your money, gain relevance through association and sex.
Affection wants these same things but also wants your leadership and emotional connection.

Remember, women will seek an emotional connection with a man they're genuinely sexually attracted to.

But also know that women's sexual attraction for a man they have no emotional connection to doesn't last long, and easily fades.
So you must act fast when you notice a woman is sexually attracted to you if she fits other criteria you seek in a woman for a wife.
She will make it easy for you to toast her, that is if she doesn't toast you sef.
She may do small shakara, but will never stress you. If her shakara is becoming too much, withdraw your attention from her and watch her start toasting you back .

However, once you've established an emotional connection with her (what women interpret as relationship), her sexual attraction for you doesn't easily fade.

But remember also that since emotions opens up a woman sexually, she's going to really want sex with you.
So be prepared to resist if you want a chaste relationship.
Once sex is involved, she becomes emotionally attached to you. She becomes very clingy if she was a virgin and/or if you can skilfully make her orgasm and sqirt.

Do not chase women for relationships. That is her role, yours is to make yourself sexually attractive.
Let women fall in love with you and prove their love through willingly giving and making sacrifices for you no matter how little, irrespective of your financial status.
Women will hardly give their money and make sacrifices for a man they don't love, even inside marriage.

Then, choose the one with the best physical attributes, character and any other qualities you desire in a woman that you can be proud of as your wife.
You will learn to love her with time as she

Benee1000:


Thanks.

You should be grateful to her tho. She saved herself and you (unintentionally) from future regrets.
The majority of ladies would just string you on and accept if you're the best available option financially and\or socially.

Never try to win a lady's affection.
Instead,
Make yourself attractive physically, financially and socially. This is what women interpret as sexually attractive
Let them willingly fall in love with you, prove their love through giving and making sacrifices for you no matter how little, irrespective of your financial status,
and finally,
Choose one with the best physical attributes, character and any other qualities you desire in a woman that you can be proud of as your wife.
You will learn to love her with time as she will make it easy for you since she already loves you.

This is the reason why it is a command for men to love their wife in the Bible,
because men are not meant to fall in love with a woman at the beginning of a relationship.
The woman is the one that should fall in love, while the man selects the best from among the women that falls in love with him and then learn to love her in return.

Note: I have edited the article to include the above.

Thanks

very true

Excellent write-up OP, you deserve a Nobel laureate in womanology lol.

But I have some questions for you.

1. How can a financially struggling but promising young man package himself to be of "high value" when he has no means of doing so?

2. Most men of integrity and honesty are termed boring and un-romantic by most ladies , how can this be reversed so that the good guys would not be missing out on their desires when it is time to settle down.

3. Are there some ladies who can invest their money and time into a man just for joint business purposes and not love that man emotionally?

4. Is it wise for ladies to love based on feeling mainly? Pls advise them appropriately.

I am married and my packaging is cool now lol, but I had these experiences back then which prompted these questions. Am asking these for the benefit of those still in the market of life.

Thanks.

U are a wise man bro.
Kudos to u for this

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omolasho:
Your article is great and very enlightening. However, sex before marriage is ungodly and it's a sin against the souls they that commit it and a disobedience to God's commandment.

This where our generation consistently get it wrong and lo the lack of trust, Lust, sexual perversion, paternity frauds, turbulence in marriage, separation, divorce, divorced kids, etc. It's spiritual, you can't understand it by the soundest worldly enlightenment.

Thanks for the your kind words.

Pls you can try to edit your post to remove the article you quoted and leave just your post.


Concerning the bolded, if you read between the lines, you'd notice the article doesn't promote premarital sex, but rather, promotes chaste relationships by advising young men to marry virgins and explaining its advantages.

Remember, sexual attraction is not the same thing as sex. Sex before marriage is the sin, not sexual attraction.

The main point of the article is that the burden of wanting and keeping a chaste relationship should be on the man rather than the woman because if the woman is genuinely sexually attracted to the man, she will find it very difficult to control her desire for sex with him.

Men have better emotional control then women and should be the ones to demand and keep a relationship chaste.

Women who insist on no sexual relations with a man they claim to love are simply not sexually attracted to him and want that man for something else, which I explained the consequences if a man ignores it.

But unfortunately so many men today lack sexual discipline and place this burden on women, which is why there's so much sexual perversion in the world today.

RealistRedpiler:
This is my 5th time of reading this.
Who can assist me on how to convert this to pdf and share it to most men.

Lol... And some people are finding it difficult to read till the end even if just once.

Concerning your request, You could just copy and paste it on any word editing software and convert to PDF from there.