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Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by ABANGWABOI(m): 3:51pm On Jun 11, 2022 |
Ebowo: I respectfully acknowledge your points.. but I insist Most not all Women cannot train/raise male Children.. I have seen it countless times play out.. Have a nice weekend my dear. 1 Like |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by GboyegaD(m): 5:10pm On Jun 11, 2022 |
Anobody: Do you have brothers or make figures they could look up to? They need the presence of good men in their lives. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by bepositive11: 2:57pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
AllBlack: Wow... I really didn't think of this. Very very good point We always have to think about what the consequences of our actions could be |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by bepositive11: 3:03pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
I agree either everything you said but I don't agree with you last point on beating a child. You need to study psychology to understand why it's dangerous However, discipline in any way, shape or form that doesn't involve emotional, physical, or psychological abusive is a definite yes!!! Channah1: |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by bepositive11: 3:15pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
Great discipline suggestions at the end. But do you really think that beating a child with a belt is a good thing? Do you think that your dad beating you was a good thing? Did it have any negative impact on your self esteem or mental health? If you were to carry a belt to beat an adult, what will the adult do? Will they tolerate it? If I were to carry a belt to beat you, how will you respond? Now imagine a child who doesn't have the ability to stand up for his/herself. Where do.we draw the line between physical, emotional, and psychological abuse and discipline? Abusing a child is training them for abusive relationships ibechris: |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by bepositive11: 3:18pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
Cutehector: It's not even an ego problem. A lot of single moms can't stand the thought of hurting their child but what they don't understand is by being so called loving, they are damaging and spoiling the child Mothers need to put their foot down and discipline the child when needed for the good of the child |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Nekky5(f): 3:28pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
This is so sad!!! but something can still be done. It is easier to correct a child than to change an adult. You would neither call the cops on them nor take them back to the village because they are grown and could run away from there and turn into what would bring more regrets. It is never easy for parents to train children not to talk of a woman bringing up boys single handedly. At this point I urge you to restrategise your style by loving these boys while you go into your closet and report(PRAY) to their maker(God). By loving them ,I mean talk to them in love, play with them and interact with them in love. Do not use harsh words on them or make them feel less of themselves.Become their mother, sister and girlfriend.This is was their father could have done but you could still do them by the help of God. Meanwhile this is an adolescent stage when they feel that they are always right. If you had done all these before do them again and see what God would do. Lastly,settle this issue with God first before getting into another relationship.They are boys and are watching you!!!. It is well with you. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Cutehector(m): 3:34pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
bepositive11:she cant do it all alone bro. God who is the author of marriage knows this. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by ibechris(m): 5:46pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
bepositive11: When u born your own u can do as u like. Stop being too correct. I am sure u are in the moon...we are Africans if u can hear me,pls do! Our inability to discipline our children is the reason why there are indiscipline in this country. And funny as it seems,people like u are the reason why Nigeria is in this mess. Many times u guys want to bring foreign cultures over how our parent trained us up. Even the Bible is no exception on how a child should be discipline,yes the Bible emphasised on that and makes no mistake about that. What does the Bible say? 1. Proverbs 23:13-14 Don’t fail to discipline your children. They won’t die if you spank them. Physical discipline may well save them from death. 2. Proverbs 13:24 Whoever does not discipline his son hates him, but whoever loves him is diligent to correct him. 3. Proverbs 22:15 A child’s heart has a tendency to do wrong, but the rod of discipline removes it far away from him. 4. Proverbs 22:6 Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it Lastly,there are no general rules for every family when it comes to disciplining your children,that is why what works for u may not work for me. I bet u,if my father had not disciplined me the way he did,I am sure I could have ended badly and terribly at that. So,think about this and know that we are not white people who glorify indiscipline,hence battling with whole lot of vices such as same sex marriage,legalisation of prostitution,gun crisis and u name it. Let us do what is right before our God and fellow man. 1 Like |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by bepositive11: 1:46am On Jun 20, 2022 |
When abuse becomes so common that it gets normalized, we no longer see anything wrong with it You carried a belt to whip your children without thinking about the fear they will feel, the pain that it will inflict on them. You know what that shows? Lack of empathy See how Nigerians are kidnapping and killing people for rituals anyhow. Why do they do so? Because they lack empathy. They don't care about that person's pain. They don't care about the person's family's pain You will never hear of such ridiculous incidents in the West. We need to find a balance between discipline and teaching our children not to become heartless people A lot of people also stay in abusive relationships because their parents have taught them that some one can love you and inflict severe pain on you ibechris: 1 Like |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by bepositive11: 2:00am On Jun 20, 2022 |
Cutehector: If you're going to talk about God like that, then why did He take away her husband if He knew that she can't do it alone? Religion aside, I agree that fathers play an important role in a child's life (boy or girl), but in cases where the mother loses her husband, she has to atleast adjust her parenting style to accout for the lost of the child's father and also look for other father figures for the child No human can ever love a child as much as their biological parents |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by AmDayo: 11:49am On Aug 04, 2022 |
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