Please advice.

Some years back I had the privilege to have worked in an oil firm (to the glory of God) before resigning to establish by own business.
While working at the company, I had this very close pal of mine who resonated with me perfectly. We did virtually everything together, he was like a brother to me. We even contemplated moving in together, closer to our office (We both stayed on the mainland while our office was on the Island) for convenience. This made perfect sense since we were both bachelors and combining resources would pay off for both parties.

As the search for an apartment on the Island went on and almost taking forever, my friend decided to get a place, a 4 bedroom apartment in Ikotun for a great price. He tried persuading me to join him there since we both wanted to move out of our then accommodation (oh, I forget to mention he was squatting with an aunt) and he in particular wanted to get out of his aunt house. Well, I turned him down but offered to give him my own share of the money which was N900k to help compliment his in setting up is apartment.

He paid for the apartment, 2 years payment to be precise on a Wednesday. I accompanied him to the stores/shops and trust me, we did a great job putting his apartment up to standard (well, to our class). All this happened within the same week. And, on Saturday, I helped him move in. It was a happy moment for both of us, especially him. Since he moved in from Abuja on securing this job, he always wanted his own apartment and do away with being a burden to family or friends.

To cut the long story short, on Monday when we resume to the office, there was this downsizing going on and he was affected. His letter was handed over to him and that was it. He was paid off his severance package which was just 2 million. It was a total shock for both of us, we never anticipated any of this happening. He offered to pay me my 900k back which I objected to asking him to get settle down and get a new job back first, then we can talk of repayment. He went as far has wanting to sublet the apartment out, moving himself back to Abuja. That I strongly objected to too also.

Days turned to weeks, and weeks turned to months. A year passed and he was still on the hustling game. I on my own part was still funding him all this while to keep him afloat. I must confess, it was a burden on me after a while, I couldn't keep it up any longer (I was literally sending 20k monthly to his account).

On this particular occasion, he left about 15 missed calls on my handset, then letter followed it up with a text saying; "life no be like that ooo! Him self go soon bounce up". I was so angry that i deleted and blocked his number, not before telling him what I have done for him... for Christ sake, my 900k was still with him and moreover, I have paid 20k into his account for 2 years running before I stopped.

Now the issue is, recently I am having issues financially. I am in a very down state. Fortunately, I looked him up on Facebook and saw he is doing exceeding very well. Would it make sense If I contacted him and ask him for my money back or simply ask for assistance??. Or forget it.

Note: it's been 6 years we had any contact last.
Cc;

Lalasticlala
Mynd44

The matter hard ooo...turn by turn..
This life ehn...

So hard

Don't ask him for money. Just say hello to him and become friends again, but don't ask him for money directly

jidestroud:
Please advice.

Some years back I had the privilege to have worked in an oil firm (to the glory of God) before resigning to establish by own business.
While working at the company, I had this very close pal of mine who resonated with me perfectly. We did virtually everything together, he was like a brother to me. We even contemplated moving in together, closer to our office (We both stayed on the mainland while our office was on the Island) for convenience. This made perfect sense since we were both bachelors and combining resources would pay off for both parties.

As the search for an apartment on the Island went on and almost taking forever, my friend decided to get a place, a 4 bedroom apartment in Ikotun for a great price. He tried persuading me to join him there since we both wanted to move out of our then accommodation (oh, I forget to mention he was squatting with an aunt) and he in particular wanted to get out of his aunt house. Well, I turned him down but offered to give him my own share of the money which was N900k to help compliment his in setting up is apartment.

He paid for the apartment, 2 years payment to be precise on a Wednesday. I accompanied him to the stores/shops and trust me, we did a great job putting his apartment up to standard (well, to our class). All this happened within the same week. And, on Saturday, I helped him move in. It was a happy moment for both of us, especially him. Since he moved in from Abuja on securing this job, he always wanted his own apartment and do away with being a burden to family or friends.

To cut the long story short, on Monday when we resume to the office, there was this downsizing going on and he was affected. His letter was handed over to him and that was it. He was paid off his severance package which was just 2 million. It was a total shock for both of us, we never anticipated any of this happening. He offered to pay me my 900k back which I objected to asking him to get settle down and get a new job back first, then we can talk of repayment. He went as far has wanting to sublet the apartment out, moving himself back to Abuja. That I strongly objected to too also.

Days turned to weeks, and weeks turned to months. A year passed and he was still on the hustling game. I on my own part was still funding him all this while to keep him afloat. I must confess, it was a burden on me after a while, I couldn't keep it up any longer (I was literally sending 20k monthly to his account).

On this particular occasion, he left about 15 missed calls on my handset, then letter followed it up with a text saying; "life no be like that ooo! Him self go soon bounce up". I was so angry that i deleted and blocked his number, not before telling him what I have done for him... for Christ sake, my 900k was still with him and moreover, I have paid 20k into his account for 2 years running before I stopped.

Now the issue is, recently I am having issues financially. I am in a very down state. Fortunately, I looked him up on Facebook and saw he is doing exceeding very well. Would it make sense If I contacted him and ask him for my money back or simply ask for assistance??. Or forget it.

Note: it's been 6 years we had any contact last.
Cc;

Lalastic lala.

Tough I must say.... But ask for assistance (humility) using that to remind him of Ur 90k. But he is not a good man. So for 6yrs E never bothered to pay u

Iseoluwani:


Tough I must say.... But ask for assistance (humility) using that to remind him of Ur 90k. But he is not a good man. So for 6yrs E never bothered to pay u

900k not 90k.

Officialgarri:
So hard

Don't ask him for money. Just say hello to him and become friends again, but don't ask him for money directly

Become friends with him? We are still friends I guess, we never stopped being one. We just stopped communicating or rather, I stopped communicating. Moreover, to be factual, He owes me (Just saying)

Try reaching out first to him , males don't really hold grudges

jidestroud:

Become friends with him? We are still friends I guess, we never stopped being one. We just stopped communicating or rather, I stopped communicating. Moreover, to be factual, He owes me (Just saying)

Gist us. How did this go? Did you both reconcile ?