I created this account to share this topic to share this important message with you all, pls pardon my errors while reading.

I'm someone who never appreciate my late father until he died, i use to see many here talking bad about their parents (especially their father) i even read a thread recently about such topic recently and with what just happened to me this night, i feel like putting the record straight for people to learn from my story.

My father had 4 wives when he was alive, infact bringing the second, third and fourth wife to the house against my mothers wish was a problem in the first place, our mother will always fight for his children to get something from my father for us, our mother also made sure that we see him as a bad man. I was the most vocal and his disrespectful child. He will always warn me and tell me how i will understand when i grow up but i paid little attention to his warning. It came to a point that whenever i needed money and he didn't provide, i will pick anything in the house and sell it at any price. My mother will always blame him for my bad behavior all that which made me feel secured. This happened right from my primary school to university level. To cut the story short, i really gave my father a tough time.

But in all this, my father loved me, he paid my school fees right from primary school up to university level, lately, the pressure become too much on him cos taking care of more than 12 children was not easy, this made him to drop down the ladder and become poor somehow, then it happened that i become so sick and nearly died, this man borrowed, borrowed and borrowed to pay my hospital bills till the other children started complaining, i stayed in the hospital for more than 7months and the bill was something else, infact, if not for some politicians, i wonder where he would have gotten the money to pay all the bills.

Meanwhile, i got married before 20, with 2 children, my father was responsible for them also, i again pregnanted another girl and had a baby with her, my dad was also responsible for this too.

When i come back from the hospital, there was nothing on me, i eventually drop out of school and pack home. It was at this point that i started appreciating my father's efforts, mum retired and pension was not coming, all eyes were on him to provide for everyone. There is nothing my father did not do get money, i become his closet friend at this critical stage, infact, other children started accusing him that he spent their heritage on me so i should be the one to take care of him. Lastly my dad went and marry another girl for me because my mother was getting older and there was nobody around to even cook for him. He started teaching me about life but death snatch him from me in February this year.

After the burial, my first wife brought back the children to me and traveled out of the village, the other girl also bring back the child cos she was getting married. My wife also had a baby. This means I'm to provide for four children and my wife. My mother has been helping but she is too old now to do anything. I turned to an online begger here too but nothing is coming from it.

My sure plug is farming, i normally go to the farm in the morning, come online in the afternoon and look for a giveaway on any platform, go back to the farm in the evening, come online again to see opportunities. Mind you, i will never scam someone here, neither am i doing any Yahoo but i use to beg like there is no tomorrow.

What makes me to write this is because, i caught my 13year daughter this night kissing a guy, i beat the hell out of her and you need to hear what this small girl told me, i know she is right and deep down, i know that i failed her. She told me in the face that she hate me but this is a girl I'm paying her school fees in jss1, she didn't even like farming but i use to suffer and give her food and whatever she wants but look at the shame, i don't know what to say or do but may God forgive me if i kill myself cos this life is not worth it.

I'm put this piece so that other people will learn from it, I'm not begging for and money here pls, i may even deactivate this account this night.






Thank you all


















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I'm a popular nairalander but i choose not to reveal my identity so nobody should ask me.

Eyah. Where is the agony directed to.

You can give the life you didn't get to your children thesedays with scoietal support and sometimes without money

Plant to children in a children ministry and when they learn the ways of God and practice instruments, they will be engaged. Spare time needed will be used for home work and assignments. And then marketing farm goods or shop


Even an ant after gathering debris, arranges it's house how it likes. Man, get up and arrange your life. Not everything requires money to do, but action-taking . Be a man

"Note

I'm a popular nairalander but i choose not to reveal my identity so nobody should ask me."

This your statement made you sound stupid.

Oh men
I know this is northern guy

JBriel:
Eyah

Is that bad, i know what i use to pass through to put food on the table, site work? Sucked away removal? Farming till my waist is sour? Begging my juniors online and offline? You can mention it.

I even ended up supporting Tinubu for a promise to paid but nothing still came, infact, I'm always open to all form of hustling but it seems my efforts are not still ok. I feel like running away from home but that will be same as giving my old mother sniper to drink. I thought of learning an online skill in the nights but who will dash me laptop and data?

This life is not balanced

Your father got married to many wives, had many children, and he could not take care of them properly because of the burden being too much.
So you looked at your father and did not aspire to be better than him, got married before 20 with 2 kids, got someone pregnant also and your father was responsible for them.
I taught people aspire to be 10 times better than their parents, but for your case i dont think it's the same.

Omo guy, you're solely responsible for whatever you're going through; why because you did not make good use of your youth.

I hope your children dont follow in your footsteps o.
You need deliverance and this story is annoying as hell

blazingblender:
Oh men
I know this is northern guy

You are right

Ifailed22:

Is that bad, i know what i use to pass through to put food on the table, site work? Sucked away removal? Farming till my waist is sour? Begging my juniors online and offline? You can mention it.

I even ended up supporting Tinubu for a promise to paid but nothing still came, infact, I'm always open to all form of hustling but it seems my efforts are not still ok. I feel like running away from home but that will be same as giving my old mother sniper to drink. I thought of learning an online skill in the nights but who will dash me laptop and data?

This life is not balanced

Money dey that farming..plan am well you can make even one million in just a year


My dear, people build the life they want not just wish. You have to envision the life you want from where you are, evaluate the little resources you have and plan around it however little.


I paid for my Waec selling ugwu yet was one of the best at my time. Plan what you're doing well. Thank God you didn't say you were idle.

It costs 30,000 Naira to farm a plot of maize. This will yield atleast 160k. My dear, you only need to have a plan, in what we tell men is a vision. Then evaluate the little resources you have and begin to fire. If you do am, I swear after two years people go think say you do money rituals

MufasaLion:


This your statement made you sound stupid.

How?

I don't just want people to know my main account

JBriel:




Money dey that farming..plan am well you can make even one million in just a year


My dear, people build the life they want not just wish. You have to envision the life you want from where you are, evaluate the little resources you have and plan around it however little.


I paid for my Waec selling ugwu yet was one of the best at my time.

There is money in farming but you must have capital to run it

Ifailed22:

There is money in farming but you must have capital to run it

Go to the bottomest low you can start and start there. I just gave you a synopsis of starting with a plot of maize and how you need just 30,000 Naira.


Carry paper, carry biro. Draw map


You say you need funds, go to local farms, find farms you can market for and sell and make profit. Save the excess after feeding family. Grow from there. Shikena

JBriel:




Go to the bottomest low you can start and start there. I just gave you a synopsis of starting with a plot of maize and how you need just 30,000 Naira.

I have maize already, infact that is our breakfast now. Is not that i don't have anything, even now, i have cassava but i dare not sell it cos that is our major source of food till yams come out. The cassava is close to finish now but I'm just praying it should last till August when yams are ready, if not, hunger fit kill person

Ifailed22:

I have maize already, infact that is our breakfast now. Is not that i don't have anything, even now, i have cassava but i dare not sell it cos that is our major source of food till yams come out. The cassava is close to finish now but I'm just praying it should last till August when yams are ready, if not, hunger fit kill person

Smiles. You obviously don't know the road put of your condition. Sorry. You're totally lost


If you could get maize seeds for say 1,000 Naira. Why did you not plant maize beyond the quantity you need for family consumption oga ?


1,000 Naira maize seeds can give corns that amounts to 150,000 Naira or what are you saying.


1,000 Naira maize seeds can give you approximately 3750 stands of corn and 7500 maize cobs. Tell me how will your family eat all this even in two weeks ?

the efforts of a man can never be fully appreciated until he is gone

JBriel, all farmers should have been millionaires now according to your analysis. but it's sad that reality is another thing entirely. take the maize you mentioned for example, if you want to do it,you must

Clear the bushes

Make heaps or ridges

Planting

Spray pre-emergency

Spray true herbicide(like sarosate)

After some time, you will weed the farm with hoes

If caterpillar start their wahala, you must spray farm again.

Put fertilizer

Then wait till harvest.



All the process listed up there need money, a bottle of herbicide is 4k here, fertilizer is for the rich hence we use cow dungs sometimes. can you do everything alone? NO, you must be paying people to help you on every step. it's not easy as you thing or put it

Duchessree, if you read my write up, i took all the blame on the things happening, i just want to try and give my children a different kind of life. i will not allow them to follow my footsteps, NEVER, i'm not even complaining but just trying to pass a message to those who are not appreciating their parents. thanks

Ifailed22:
JBriel, all farmers should have been millionaires now according to your analysis. but it's sad that reality is another thing entirely. take the maize you mentioned for example, if you want to do it,you must

Clear the bushes

Make heaps or ridges

Planting

Spray pre-emergency

Spray true herbicide(like sarosate)

After some time, you will weed the farm with hoes

If caterpillar start their wahala, you must spray farm again.

Put fertilizer

Then wait till harvest.



All the process listed up there need money, a bottle of herbicide is 4k here, fertilizer is for the rich hence we use cow dungs sometimes. can you do everything alone? NO, you must be paying people to help you on every step. it's not easy as you thing or put it

You think I'm speaking from assumtions.

You are highly negative. Look at how you heaped problem above. Oga, it cost 30,000 Naira to grow a plot of maize anywhere in the country.


Make I kukuma leave you with your assumptions say life can't be better

JBriel:




You think I'm speaking from assumtions.

You are highly negative. Look at how you heaped problem above. Oga, it cost 30,000 Naira to grow a plot of maize anywhere in the country.


Make I kukuma leave you with your assumptions say life can't be better

I don't want to reveal my identity too but i'm grounded in this farming stuff brother, unless you are doing the bulk of work yourself, if not, there is no way you will use 30k to start and finish a maize farm on a 150×150 plot of land.

If i may ask, a bag of fertilizer alone is how much?

A bottle of sarosate is how much?



I'm not trying to argue with you though, it's well

Ifailed22:

I don't want to reveal my identity too but i'm grounded in this farming stuff brother, unless you are doing the bulk of work yourself, if not, there is no way you will use 30k to start and finish a maize farm on a 150×150 plot of land.

If i may ask, a bag of fertilizer alone is how much?

A bottle of sarosate is how much?



I'm not trying to argue with you though, it's well

Smiles. See.him bragging. I'm.handling close to 6,000 plots on project that spans multi millions


Good.luck.woth your situation.. I'm deactivating this account.

JBriel:




Smiles. See.him bragging. I'm.handling close to 6,000 plots on project that spans multi millions


Good.luck.woth your situation.. I'm deactivating this account.

I'm not braging sir,
don't deactivate because of this, i can unquote your posts to enable you remove it. and don't think i will slide in your dm pls. sorry for the misunderstanding

Ifailed22:
I created this account to share this topic to share this important message with you all, pls pardon my errors while reading.

I'm someone who never appreciate my late father until he died, i use to see many here talking bad about their parents (especially their father) i even read a thread recently about such topic recently and with what just happened to me this night, i feel like putting the record straight for people to learn from my story.

My father had 4 wives when he was alive, infact bringing the second, third and fourth wife to the house against my mothers wish was a problem in the first place, our mother will always fight for his children to get something from my father for us, our mother also made sure that we see him as a bad man. I was the most vocal and his disrespectful child. He will always warn me and tell me how i will understand when i grow up but i paid little attention to his warning. It came to a point that whenever i needed money and he didn't provide, i will pick anything in the house and sell it at any price. My mother will always blame him for my bad behavior all that which made me feel secured. This happened right from my primary school to university level. To cut the story short, i really gave my father a tough time.

But in all this, my father loved me, he paid my school fees right from primary school up to university level, lately, the pressure become too much on him cos taking care of more than 12 children was not easy, this made him to drop down the ladder and become poor somehow, then it happened that i become so sick and nearly died, this man borrowed, borrowed and borrowed to pay my hospital bills till the other children started complaining, i stayed in the hospital for more than 7months and the bill was something else, infact, if not for some politicians, i wonder where he would have gotten the money to pay all the bills.

Meanwhile, i got married before 20, with 2 children, my father was responsible for them also, i again pregnanted another girl and had a baby with her, my dad was also responsible for this too.

When i come back from the hospital, there was nothing on me, i eventually drop out of school and pack home. It was at this point that i started appreciating my father's efforts, mum retired and pension was not coming, all eyes were on him to provide for everyone. There is nothing my father did not do get money, i become his closet friend at this critical stage, infact, other children started accusing him that he spent their heritage on me so i should be the one to take care of him. Lastly my dad went and marry another girl for me because my mother was getting older and there was nobody around to even cook for him. He started teaching me about life but death snatch him from me in February this year.

After the burial, my first wife brought back the children to me and traveled out of the village, the other girl also bring back the child cos she was getting married. My wife also had a baby. This means I'm to provide for four children and my wife. My mother has been helping but she is too old now to do anything. I turned to an online begger here too but nothing is coming from it.

My sure plug is farming, i normally go to the farm in the morning, come online in the afternoon and look for a giveaway on any platform, go back to the farm in the evening, come online again to see opportunities. Mind you, i will never scam someone here, neither am i doing any Yahoo but i use to beg like there is no tomorrow.

What makes me to write this is because, i caught my 13year daughter this night kissing a guy, i beat the hell out of her and you need to hear what this small girl told me, i know she is right and deep down, i know that i failed her. She told me in the face that she hate me but this is a girl I'm paying her school fees in jss1, she didn't even like farming but i use to suffer and give her food and whatever she wants but look at the shame, i don't know what to say or do but may God forgive me if i kill myself cos this life is not worth it.

I'm put this piece so that other people will learn from it, I'm not begging for and money here pls, i may even deactivate this account this night.






Thank you all


















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I'm a popular nairalander but i choose not to reveal my identity so nobody should ask me.

Honestly what you went through from you dad to uoir own present situation is a lesson for those who wants to learn

Uoir dad was after having more wives, though he still played his role at home by providing, but getting more wives am having more children didn't give him chance to plan for his old age

You too you have started breeding legally and illegally

You may have to stop at this stage to plan for this children because the children of this days will face their parents eye balls to eye balls and tell them how they feel about their parents without fear

Start planning how to face yoor family because you have different children from different women

It takes the grace of God for a seating wife to accommodate all these children with out hatred

You have lots of job to do in that aspect

frozen70 it's really bad for me. i already took my wife to the hospital and they put something inside her should to avoid pregnancy for the next 6years. i don't want to have another child now till i know my direction in life. but i thank god that out of four, 3 of them are girls.

i was planning to give them a good life and education so that they may be married to a good person in future but with what i started to see from my 13year old daughter, i don't think my situation will change

Ifailed22:
I created this account to share this topic to share this important message with you all, pls pardon my errors while reading.

I'm someone who never appreciate my late father until he died, i use to see many here talking bad about their parents (especially their father) i even read a thread recently about such topic recently and with what just happened to me this night, i feel like putting the record straight for people to learn from my story.

My father had 4 wives when he was alive, infact bringing the second, third and fourth wife to the house against my mothers wish was a problem in the first place, our mother will always fight for his children to get something from my father for us, our mother also made sure that we see him as a bad man. I was the most vocal and his disrespectful child. He will always warn me and tell me how i will understand when i grow up but i paid little attention to his warning. It came to a point that whenever i needed money and he didn't provide, i will pick anything in the house and sell it at any price. My mother will always blame him for my bad behavior all that which made me feel secured. This happened right from my primary school to university level. To cut the story short, i really gave my father a tough time.

But in all this, my father loved me, he paid my school fees right from primary school up to university level, lately, the pressure become too much on him cos taking care of more than 12 children was not easy, this made him to drop down the ladder and become poor somehow, then it happened that i become so sick and nearly died, this man borrowed, borrowed and borrowed to pay my hospital bills till the other children started complaining, i stayed in the hospital for more than 7months and the bill was something else, infact, if not for some politicians, i wonder where he would have gotten the money to pay all the bills.

Meanwhile, i got married before 20, with 2 children, my father was responsible for them also, i again pregnanted another girl and had a baby with her, my dad was also responsible for this too.

When i come back from the hospital, there was nothing on me, i eventually drop out of school and pack home. It was at this point that i started appreciating my father's efforts, mum retired and pension was not coming, all eyes were on him to provide for everyone. There is nothing my father did not do get money, i become his closet friend at this critical stage, infact, other children started accusing him that he spent their heritage on me so i should be the one to take care of him. Lastly my dad went and marry another girl for me because my mother was getting older and there was nobody around to even cook for him. He started teaching me about life but death snatch him from me in February this year.

After the burial, my first wife brought back the children to me and traveled out of the village, the other girl also bring back the child cos she was getting married. My wife also had a baby. This means I'm to provide for four children and my wife. My mother has been helping but she is too old now to do anything. I turned to an online begger here too but nothing is coming from it.

My sure plug is farming, i normally go to the farm in the morning, come online in the afternoon and look for a giveaway on any platform, go back to the farm in the evening, come online again to see opportunities. Mind you, i will never scam someone here, neither am i doing any Yahoo but i use to beg like there is no tomorrow.

What makes me to write this is because, i caught my 13year daughter this night kissing a guy, i beat the hell out of her and you need to hear what this small girl told me, i know she is right and deep down, i know that i failed her. She told me in the face that she hate me but this is a girl I'm paying her school fees in jss1, she didn't even like farming but i use to suffer and give her food and whatever she wants but look at the shame, i don't know what to say or do but may God forgive me if i kill myself cos this life is not worth it.

I'm put this piece so that other people will learn from it, I'm not begging for and money here pls, i may even deactivate this account this night.






Thank you all


















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I'm a popular nairalander but i choose not to reveal my identity so nobody should ask me.

That is why i used to laf those talking trash of their fathers, me i am sure it wil reach everybody..

How we think that our mothers are different from those we re dating now baffles me, our fathers are just accomodating enof to pardon their excesses, nothing different from them, female is female, woman is woman no matter how old they are. The funny and painful thing is that wen u started loving ur father, death took him away what a poor man

Do u know what ur mother use that man eye see before venturing into another woman??

Boys, before u bash ur father, always try to verify the reason he's doing what he's doing.

Sorry bro, what u sow u wil surely reap sir, thanks u re in the fatherhood, in ur father's shoe, and i hope ur offsprings show u what u showed ur father. Amen!!

U can switch to ur mum to help u out since she's still alive, abi na??

Til this very moment now u never tell us about where ur mother sold her gold, jewelleries, clothes to pay ur school fees but she can toil u against ur father to see him as a bad man.

Bro u wil afflicted by ur children the way u afflicted ur father.

U think say e easy to father a child abi?? Continue sir.

Ifailed22:
frozen70 it's really bad for me. i already took my wife to the hospital and they put something inside her should to avoid pregnancy for the next 6years. i don't want to have another child now till i know my direction in life. but i thank god that out of four, 3 of them are girls.

i was planning to give them a good life and education so that they may be married to a good person in future but with what i started to see from my 13year old daughter, i don't think my situation will change

You have started making a good move with the family planning

Secondly, your daughter will definitely change if you will create time to always be with all of them and give her counseling

Children wants parents with listening ears

Make a positive impact on her and the rest

You can decide to be giving her 200 every weekend that's a motivation

tonycyril you can not justify the fact that he married many wives. i also took the blame squarely so no need to rain abuses on me with your fake prophesis on how my children will pay back what i did to my father.

i did not say my mother did not help, she has been my pillar right from time till now. and yes, she has been helping me even in old age.

frozen70:


You have started making a good move with the family planning

Secondly, your daughter will definitely change if you will create time to always be with all of them and give her counseling

Children wants parents with listening ears

Make a positive impact on her and the rest

You can decide to be giving her 200 every weekend that's a motivation

200? I use to give her more than that every week, i was suprise when she told me that i hate them and love my new wife and kid and abandon them. truth is, i don't have time to stay with them, i'm always on the move to look for money.

worst part is that my wife is not also comfortable with my other children.

.

Ifailed22:

200? I use to give her more than that every week, i was suprise when she told me that i hate them and love my new wife and kid and abandon them. truth is, i don't have time to stay with them, i'm always on the move to look for money.

worst part is that my wife is not also comfortable with my other children.

You must as a matter of fact create that time and buy goodies for them when coming home

Remember I mentioned in my earlier post that it takes the grace of God for uoir wife to accommodate them

She has to accommodate them and fuster that relationship, now is the time

We don't know who among them will be the greatest or richest of them all

Sink that I to her ear and take charge of your family

Her own child is the last for now, how does she want that child to grow with such disunity in the family

If you don't act now, It will affect the whole system

UpInTheSky

I don't normally have er*ction this days talkless of pregnanting a girl. i remember how my wife once complained how i'm not interested in sex and become afraid that i may be seeing another woman but believe me, i use to always think on how to improve my condition while putting food on the family table. my mother is also depending on me cos she is old now. as for my children, they are my priority for now, if i know where to sacrifice my life for a better life for my family, i will not think twice.

The situation is dicey, i'm in the village and to ingredients for making meals alone is tough, i can't be buying them goodies when coming back cos every kobo in my pocket is always budgeted. like this week, we ate ice fish once and the rest days are okro, if i get money now, i will buy meat for them and not goodies.

Again, my wife is feeling insecure, i spoke with her many times but she don't want to listen to me. i just hope she will understand later



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frozen70

From ops statement,
1. U are from Northern part of d country that brought this calamity and also planning to bring another ancestor bcs of small token they promised u which u didn't get (Karma is doing its job on u all that brought d calamity)
2. Your mother used u against your father
3. U followed your father's footstep by bringing children that u can't Carter for
4. At age 20, u were already a father of kids (that's how raising boko Haram, UGM, Omo mi da started)
5. U supported Tinubu hoping to get ROI which u didn't get, be ready to be eating Agbado as Tinubu promised his youths.
Finally, op I think I know your other account, u hv 3 Nairaland accounts but I hv dis feelings that I know 2 accounts.
Mak una enjoy d change mantra u guys brought upon yourselves.

Hummm