This is a follow up thread that explains what can be done to revive a sexless marriage resulting from the issue dicussed in this thread below.

https://www.nairaland.com/7164615/costly-mistake-many-men-make

If you're yet to have a child in your marriage and you've already made the mistake highlighted in the thread above, Don't make your life miserable by getting that lady pregnant.

When children become involved in a marriage, it becomes another kettle of fish and the solution I'll reveal in this write-up becomes difficult to apply.

The first step is to Separate from your wife for now, if possible.
Rent a separate apartment or single room.
If you can't afford to live separately, then Live your life in the house like a happy bachelor and take your chances with any decent lady that shows genuine attraction for you.

If you feel it's a sin or bad, then just live your life in peace separate from her. Don't talk, call her or send her any money. Take care of your kids, if any, like she doesn't exist.

Withdraw all attention you gave to her.


The next to do is Improve yourself, especially physically and socially.

Hit the gym, lose that added weight you gained during the marriage, start looking fit, dressing sharp, smelling nice.

Go out, meet new people, interact with other beautiful ladies, attend corporate events and take sharp pictures with beautiful ladies you meet there and post on your social media accounts.

Your wife will surely see them. They will stalk you through friends or social media and may probably know where you live, and may ignore or spite you if she's financially ok by herself.

Don't worry give it time, except she's cheating, she would start getting jealous when she sees you with ladies better than her.

After sometime, She will come to beg you or try to force her way back into your life and fight the ladies she sees you with.

No gree! Ignore her.

Continue with your new life like she doesn't matter even if she involves your parents or try to guilt trip you by telling you that you're trying to runaway from your responsibility as a man, or that you're cheating on her.

She may tell lies to your kids to either make them disregard you and side with her or to make them appeal to your emotions so you can come back home or start giving her attention.

After she has realized that begging or forcing herself back into your life isn't working, she'd use the last weapon in her cleave which is seduction.

She will try to seduce you and use sex to win you back.

This is now where you have all the cards in your hands because Instead of you chasing her for sex or trying to negotiate her desire for sex, she is the one now chasing you for it.

Nothing stimulates a woman's desire for sex like competition anxiety.

Ever wondered why hanging out with the friend or sister of a lady who once rejected you or showed no interest suddenly tries to get your attention back? Suddenly starts to show interest and Even offer her self to you sex in order to win back your attention?

Competition anxiety.

Competition anxiety works because females are loyal to their feelings.

If something makes her feel good, then it's right, even if it logically wrong.
If something makes her feel bad, then it's wrong even if it's logically right.

Females love things that makes them feel good, and hate things that makes them feel bad, irrespective of whether that thing is logically or morally right or wrong.

This is why women don't take responsibility for their bad actions, because it makes them look and feel bad.
A woman would do anything to avoid anything that makes her feel bad.
This is also why they hardly approach men they desire directly. They don't like rejection, which makes them feel bad.

When your wife sees that other women better than her desire you, and they're now getting your attention that she has lost, it makes her feel like she's loosing out on a good thing that other women are getting from you.

Because females are inherently selfish, and wants all good things for themselves, she starts feeling regret.

Regret is a bad feeling for women, and they'd do anything to avoid it.

Her trying to avoid the bad feelings that regret brings, will generate in her the desire to get you back, and this time, keep you to herself using sex, so she doesn't lose you to other women.

If you like, you can accept her back into your life when you detect her desire for sex with you, but you must make clear to her the terms for your attention. E.g. fixing any bad character she has, attend to sexual needs etc.

or you simply discard her, get your divorce proceedings started, and done, live the best version of yourself, and get another good woman who has genuine desire for you, to marry.

If she doesn't come back to you, then she has made the decision easier for you.

Talking to your wife about your sexual frustrations, or visiting a counselor or therapist or involving her parents or religious head to talk to her about it will simply not generate genuine sexual desire from her.
It will only disgust her more.

The more you chase a lady who has no interest in you for sex, the more she resists you. Her being married to you doesn't change this.

Genuine desire can't be negotiated, it is only stimulated.
Stimulated through competition anxiety and\or generic physical attributes, a healthy masculinity and game.


However, accepting back your wife on your terms doesn't mean you should stop maintaining or improving your physical appearance and social life.

It will only end up making her lose her attraction for you, and stimulating that desire for you again becomes near impossible.

Always keep her on her toes by making her see coverly that other ladies better than her desire you sexually, and that you're willing to dump her if she misbehaves, whether there's children or not.

The insecurity of your commitment to her will make her sit up and do all she can to please you so she doesn't lose you to other women.

There's nothing more painful to a woman than loosing the commitment of high value man to other women.



Also, to be able to gain absolute control over your woman, and indeed any lady, isolate her from any group she belongs to, and make yourself her only source of attention and validation.

I'ld explain.

Have you observed that whenever a lady wants to have a man all to herself, & under her control, she gradually isolates him from any group he belongs to (family, friends, club etc), and makes sure he spends all his free time with her?

This is usually done by her through her constant nagging about how the man is not always giving her enough attention or spending time with her and if present, kids.

Unwittingly, most men out of love or sense of responsibility, succumb to this and gradually withdraws from his relatives and friends, to focus his attention on the lady or his own family.

This makes him isolated and makes the woman his only source of attention and therefore validation.

From this isolation, the female predatory instinct is ignited, and with strategic opening and closing of her legs, manipulates the man to do all her bidding.

He does her bidding because she is now the only person that makes him feel relevant (validation).

If he doesn't do things to please her, she withdraws her attention to him and he feels useless as there's no other person or group that would give him that attention as a result of his importance and useful to them.

Applying this same process on any lady can yield mind blowing control over her.
I'm speaking from experience.

Why? You may ask.

The answer is simple

Female herd mentality.

A woman is her group.

Any group she finds herself in and she's comfortable with, and the group accepts her, invariably controls her and her decisions.

Because they provide her with 2 basic needs.

Attention and validation.

A woman's group could be her man, friends, church, social media, family, etc.

Isolate a lady from the attention and validation she gets from any group she belongs to, and be her only source of attention, and you can control her to do the unthinkable for you.

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Benee1000:
Applying this same process on any lady can yield mind blowing control over her.
I'm speaking from experience.

Lol....this is NOT entirely true. I'm speaking from experience.

opeyy:


Lol....this is NOT entirely true. I'm speaking from experience.

Lol... Oya share your experience

helinues:
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What were You expecting when you entered the romance section, and clicked on a topic about sex?

Benee1000:


Lol... Oya share your experience

You were correct up to this point - The next to do is Improve yourself, especially physically and socially.

Hit the gym, lose that added weight you gained during the marriage, start looking fit, dressing sharp, smelling nice.

From that point, and as you know, if there was no attraction, everything else will just be temporary! if the main issues are not addressed, they will revert back to square one in no time.

For me, attraction plays a great role and when my man is good looking, always looks and smells nice, he will forever be my mumu button. There will never be any sex issues so long as he does his part to be on point, always.

The moment he starts to flirt with other women, I will give up, this is where I draw the line. I don't want that headache and you can never win. I have 3 men in my family so I know well enough that when other ladies are involved, that's my LAST bus stop, and I am off for good.

Therefore your entire process does not work for ANY lady, not for me definitely.

opeyy:

It seems you didn't read the background article to understand where I'm coming from.

This article wasn't about a wife denying her husband sex because they have issues that needs to be resolved which she isn't comfortable with.
In this case, if the woman's concerns are reasonable, then it should be addressed by the man, because a woman has to be unburdened or unworried for her to desire and enjoy sex.

This article however, was to explain how a man could get his wife to desire him for sex because she didn't find him attractive in the first place and only married him for financial or social reasons.

In this case, there's nothing making her not desire sex with her husband, just lack of attraction.

Cheasystickylov:
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