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I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Twinklelove: 12:05am On Jul 16, 2022
I got married to my husband truly not knowing who he was, I was naive and couldn't differentiate between love and lust the age bracket was close to 10yrs...to me it was love yes i truly loved him because i thought he loved me. We have two beautiful kids, I was abused by my husband several times, there was a time he beat me I had to use dark glasses to work while asked what happened? I had to cover up for the beasts.....he Continued till I stood up for myself that was how the physical abuses stopped....

But he continued to emotionally black mail me I got out of my job because of school, that was where my problem started he is a high profile man in his state and also a pretender...they say "Charity begins at home" But that's not in my house, because he only gives us food when we are in good terms he goes to the market to buy tomatoes and the likes, I don't care because he says its his money. He is a chronic smoker and womaniser someone who has slept with his friends wife. My husband is very good at keeping malice infact, he has kept malice with me for close to a year but eventually started speaking with me with the intervention of our clergy...I later discovered it was because of another woman...I got used to the fact that he won't stop so I moved on with my life knowing that someday old age will catch up......I have had to treat infections severally all in the name of love

This man works in the hospital...but when am ill I have to buy drugs from him.....I have to borrow money from him with written agreement and witness that I will pay back which he collects.... Right now I still stay in same house with him where by he cooks for himself because he doesn't speak me, and stopped eating my food......he stopped sleeping with me saying some very hurtful things about sex. I even went into depression because he said I am a liability. My marriage is determined by my ability to provide too. He has belittled me before his family......he can't even protect me.

Right now..lust found me again yes i mean lust. A very wealthy widower who is so interested in me and my kids. But of course same gender everywhere. I met him while I went for job hunt.. am a chartered accountant but menhh its so hard that i can't express my pains. At first he said there isn't any vacancy, I got up to leave then he noticed I had tears in my eyes and called me back..I said I am fine but deep within I was sad knowing I had a beast waiting for me at home and of course I was scared of going home.....I had to speak out because its so heavy...he asked for my phone number incase there is an opening, After some few days, he called and asked to see me at the office. We talked and surprisingly he prayed with me....Now he has asked me out severally but I know the Devil wears prada that gender won't change......right now am back to school and presently this man has been so helpful to me to the extend of asking me to take one of his cars because my husband ceased my car....this man tells me how beautiful I look and so many things that makes me feel good about myself. I am someone else's wife but another buys me expensive things....irony of life..
Almost all times i go out, men ask me out on date, But i turn them down. I have never cheated on my husband and hope things get better someday.

Please I need to get a job to get my marriage back.

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by adeoyekay(m): 12:18am On Jul 16, 2022
Twinklelove:
I got married to my husband truly not knowing who he was, I was naive and couldn't differentiate between love and lust the age bracket was close to 10yrs...to me it was love yes i truly loved him because i thought he loved me. We have two beautiful kids, I was abused by my husband several times, there was a time he beat me I had to use dark glasses to work while asked what happened? I had to cover up for the beasts.....he Continued till I stood up for myself that was how the physical abuses stopped....

But he continued to emotionally black mail me I got out of my job because of school, that was where my problem started he is a high profile man in his state and also a pretender...they say "Charity begins at home" But that's not in my house, because he only gives us food when we are in good terms he goes to the market to buy tomatoes and the likes, I don't care because he says its his money. He is a chronic smoker and womaniser someone who has slept with his friends wife. My husband is very good at keeping malice infact, he has kept malice with me for close to a year but eventually started speaking with me with the intervention of our clergy...I later discovered it was because of another woman...I got used to the fact that he won't stop so I moved on with my life knowing that someday old age will catch up......I have had to treat infections severally all in the name of love

This man works in the hospital...but when am ill I have to buy drugs from him.....I have to borrow money from him with written agreement and witness that I will pay back which he collects.... Right now I still stay in same house with him where by he cooks for himself because he doesn't speak me, and stopped eating my food......he stopped sleeping with me saying some very hurtful things about sex. I even went into depression because he said I am a liability. My marriage is determined by my ability to provide too. He has belittled me before his family......he can't even protect me.

Right now..lust found me again yes i mean lust. A very wealthy widower who is so interested in me and my kids. But of course same gender everywhere. I met him while I went for job hunt.. am a chartered accountant but menhh its so hard that i can't express my pains. At first he said there isn't any vacancy, I got up to leave then he noticed I had tears in my eyes and called me back..I said I am fine but deep within I was sad knowing I had a beast waiting for me at home and of course I was scared of going home.....I had to speak out because its so heavy...he asked for my phone number incase there is an opening, After some few days, he called and asked to see me at the office. We talked and surprisingly he prayed with me....Now he has asked me out severally but I know the Devil wears prada that gender won't change......right now am back to school and presently this man has been so helpful to me to the extend of asking me to take one of his cars because my husband ceased my car....this man tells me how beautiful I look and so many things that makes me feel good about myself. I am someone else's wife but another buys me expensive things....irony of life..
Almost all times i go out, men ask me out on date, But i turn them down. I have never cheated on my husband and hope things get better someday.

Please I need to get a job to get my marriage back.

Keep on praying for your husband that God should change his heart,may helper locate you very soon

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by KingOfTheDamned: 12:23am On Jul 16, 2022
Twinklelove:
I got married to my husband truly not knowing who he was, I was naive and couldn't differentiate between love and lust the age bracket was close to 10yrs...to me it was love yes i truly loved him because i thought he loved me. We have two beautiful kids, I was abused by my husband several times, there was a time he beat me I had to use dark glasses to work while asked what happened? I had to cover up for the beasts.....he Continued till I stood up for myself that was how the physical abuses stopped....

But he continued to emotionally black mail me I got out of my job because of school, that was where my problem started he is a high profile man in his state and also a pretender...they say "Charity begins at home" But that's not in my house, because he only gives us food when we are in good terms he goes to the market to buy tomatoes and the likes, I don't care because he says its his money. He is a chronic smoker and womaniser someone who has slept with his friends wife. My husband is very good at keeping malice infact, he has kept malice with me for close to a year but eventually started speaking with me with the intervention of our clergy...I later discovered it was because of another woman...I got used to the fact that he won't stop so I moved on with my life knowing that someday old age will catch up......I have had to treat infections severally all in the name of love

This man works in the hospital...but when am ill I have to buy drugs from him.....I have to borrow money from him with written agreement and witness that I will pay back which he collects.... Right now I still stay in same house with him where by he cooks for himself because he doesn't speak me, and stopped eating my food......he stopped sleeping with me saying some very hurtful things about sex. I even went into depression because he said I am a liability. My marriage is determined by my ability to provide too. He has belittled me before his family......he can't even protect me.

Right now..lust found me again yes i mean lust. A very wealthy widower who is so interested in me and my kids. But of course same gender everywhere. I met him while I went for job hunt.. am a chartered accountant but menhh its so hard that i can't express my pains. At first he said there isn't any vacancy, I got up to leave then he noticed I had tears in my eyes and called me back..I said I am fine but deep within I was sad knowing I had a beast waiting for me at home and of course I was scared of going home.....I had to speak out because its so heavy...he asked for my phone number incase there is an opening, After some few days, he called and asked to see me at the office. We talked and surprisingly he prayed with me....Now he has asked me out severally but I know the Devil wears prada that gender won't change......right now am back to school and presently this man has been so helpful to me to the extend of asking me to take one of his cars because my husband ceased my car....this man tells me how beautiful I look and so many things that makes me feel good about myself. I am someone else's wife but another buys me expensive things....irony of life..
Almost all times i go out, men ask me out on date, But i turn them down. I have never cheated on my husband and hope things get better someday.

Please I need to get a job to get my marriage back.


Okay one question.... Do you realize we all have our own problems ?

If you aren't happy in the marriage why not leave remember Divorcehood
Divorcehood na scam you better get am for your mind
Nobody go ask you if you don chop
Nobody go send you free money (without knacking)
If you no get na you sabi
So remember Divorcehood na scam
If you no get na you Sabi
You gats to hustle make a living 247
Divorcehood na scam you better get am for your mind
Nobody go ask you if you don chop
Nobody go send you free money (without knacking)
If you no get na you sabi
So remember Divorcehood na scam .

So before you join dem and walk out of your marriage try every workable solution because Divorcehood na scam o.
You go suffer die. That food you complain is all he gives you no go see indomie sef without opening leg o

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by matrix199(m): 1:12am On Jul 16, 2022
KingOfTheDamned:


Okay one question.... Do you realize we all have our own problems ?

If you aren't happy in the marriage why not leave remember Divorcehood
Divorcehood na scam you better get am for your mind
Nobody go ask you if you don chop
Nobody go send you free money (without knacking)
If you no get na you sabi
So remember Divorcehood na scam
If you no get na you Sabi
You gats to hustle make a living 247
Divorcehood na scam you better get am for your mind
Nobody go ask you if you don chop
Nobody go send you free money (without knacking)
If you no get na you sabi
So remember Divorcehood na scam .

So before you join dem and walk out of your marriage try every workable solution because Divorcehood na scam o.
You go suffer die. That food you complain is all he gives you no go see indomie sef without opening leg o

I'm very sure you're still wearing diapers.


What kind of parents buy their nursery school child an android phone? Look at what this Twitty the bird just posted!

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by H0didon(m): 1:19am On Jul 16, 2022
Your husband is an idiot of the highest order that is of course if all you said is the truth sad.
Nevertheless I'll advise you not to jump into any relationship for now. Truth is, you're damaged emotionally, psychologically. You really need to heal. And if you decide to jump into a relationship now, it might not go well cos of your state of mind.


Why don't you focus on yourself for now. You said you're an accountant, yeah. Just try and build yourself, empower yourself to the stage whereby you don't need any man to be okay financially.






But I'll also like to hear from your husband side too because women ehh... The elders would say "The sweet voice of a woman is like a slow poison".
I'm not saying that you're lying but slawomirr would say there re 3 sides to a story.

-The reporter
-The reportee
-And the actual story


So far na only your side we don hear.



As our Ancestors would say "Only an idiot make judgment without hearing from both sides".

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Kobojunkie: 1:57am On Jul 16, 2022
adeoyekay:
Keep on praying for your husband that God should change his heart,may helper locate you very soon
Why? undecided
Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Kobojunkie: 1:59am On Jul 16, 2022
Twinklelove:
Almost all times i go out, men ask me out on date, But i turn them down. I have never cheated on my husband and hope things get better someday.
Please I need to get a job to get my marriage back.
How? Why? undecided

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by begoniaa: 2:12am On Jul 16, 2022
Stories that touch...

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Kewtt: 2:18am On Jul 16, 2022
The story is false. Very false.
Twinklelove:
I got married to my husband truly not knowing who he was, I was naive and couldn't differentiate between love and lust the age bracket was close to 10yrs...to me it was love yes i truly loved him because i thought he loved me. We have two beautiful kids, I was abused by my husband several times, there was a time he beat me I had to use dark glasses to work while asked what happened? I had to cover up for the beasts.....he Continued till I stood up for myself that was how the physical abuses stopped....

But he continued to emotionally black mail me I got out of my job because of school, that was where my problem started he is a high profile man in his state and also a pretender...they say "Charity begins at home" But that's not in my house, because he only gives us food when we are in good terms he goes to the market to buy tomatoes and the likes, I don't care because he says its his money. He is a chronic smoker and womaniser someone who has slept with his friends wife. My husband is very good at keeping malice infact, he has kept malice with me for close to a year but eventually started speaking with me with the intervention of our clergy...I later discovered it was because of another woman...I got used to the fact that he won't stop so I moved on with my life knowing that someday old age will catch up......I have had to treat infections severally all in the name of love

This man works in the hospital...but when am ill I have to buy drugs from him.....I have to borrow money from him with written agreement and witness that I will pay back which he collects.... Right now I still stay in same house with him where by he cooks for himself because he doesn't speak me, and stopped eating my food......he stopped sleeping with me saying some very hurtful things about sex. I even went into depression because he said I am a liability. My marriage is determined by my ability to provide too. He has belittled me before his family......he can't even protect me.

Right now..lust found me again yes i mean lust. A very wealthy widower who is so interested in me and my kids. But of course same gender everywhere. I met him while I went for job hunt.. am a chartered accountant but menhh its so hard that i can't express my pains. At first he said there isn't any vacancy, I got up to leave then he noticed I had tears in my eyes and called me back..I said I am fine but deep within I was sad knowing I had a beast waiting for me at home and of course I was scared of going home.....I had to speak out because its so heavy...he asked for my phone number incase there is an opening, After some few days, he called and asked to see me at the office. We talked and surprisingly he prayed with me....Now he has asked me out severally but I know the Devil wears prada that gender won't change......right now am back to school and presently this man has been so helpful to me to the extend of asking me to take one of his cars because my husband ceased my car....this man tells me how beautiful I look and so many things that makes me feel good about myself. I am someone else's wife but another buys me expensive things....irony of life..
Almost all times i go out, men ask me out on date, But i turn them down. I have never cheated on my husband and hope things get better someday.

Please I need to get a job to get my marriage back.


False. Be very careful this doesn't befall you.
Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Afamsi: 2:48am On Jul 16, 2022
Sometimes it is women that turn their husbands to beasts.

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Nobody: 4:53am On Jul 16, 2022
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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Mindlog: 5:38am On Jul 16, 2022
For such a story, if true is a clear indication that you are living in denial..... because you no longer have any marriage as your husband has long signed out while you are hanging on to thin air.

Get empowered not because of a marriage that no longer exists but for yourself and your children, get yourself out of that house, lest you kill him someday as it just needs a snap and it turns you to a murderer and the years you suffered abuse from him becomes irrelevant when you wear the prison uniform.

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by michlins(m): 5:38am On Jul 16, 2022
Bounce that marriage if not for anything but for your kids.

Those ones suffer the effects of bad marriage most. They come out into the society as hardcore misogynists or man hating feminists.

Save yourself and your children

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Godoverevery: 7:14am On Jul 16, 2022
I think is should be mandatory for couples to live together for atleast 1yr before getting married so to avoid lot of problems.

Well in has much your story is all about your husband been the devil and you been an angel is what you women do all times.

Just walk out of the marriage since physical abuse involve.

And for the new man ,you women never learn at all ......just remember how you and your husband started so you can know there nothing really different with the new man.

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Mineisgrace(f): 7:22am On Jul 16, 2022
All these long shalaye when sombody should have been behind the bars by now
Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Mineisgrace(f): 7:24am On Jul 16, 2022
Afamsi:
Sometimes it is women that turn their husbands to beasts.

sometimes ? what kind of times

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Foodqueen(f): 7:37am On Jul 16, 2022
Story that touches the heart

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Channah1(f): 8:00am On Jul 16, 2022
Get what stupid marriage back? Are you even married in the first place? So what marriage are you trying to protect or get back after all you've been subjected to so far?

Look, you better borrow sense if yours is no longer functioning and leave that cage you call marriage. Like how can you say your marriage to an ingrate is determined by your getting a job otherwise you'll be relegated to the ground and you still want to continue in such slavery?

The fact he sleeps around and infects you with various kinds of STDs is enough to ditch him and move on but here you are trying to fight for what will eventually destroy your health all because of sex. So you can continue having sex. Sex that is not even reliable.

I thought Osinachis experience will open the eyes of some of you but alas I was wrong. Some of you still prefer to die on top preek matter. Hmm..

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by faithfull18(f): 8:01am On Jul 16, 2022
adeoyekay:
Keep on praying for your husband that God should change his heart,may helper locate you very soon

Women don suffer - Simi said it. The storyline though. Not saying it can't happen because humans are something else. Some are the nicest in the outside world and pure evil to their families.

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Nobody: 8:11am On Jul 16, 2022
As soon as you get a job, save up like mad and divorce your horseband jejely because the next infection he will give you is HIV.

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Afamsi: 9:29am On Jul 16, 2022
Mineisgrace:

sometimes ? what kind of times
Ask google
Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by emmanuelbrown26: 9:53am On Jul 16, 2022
Afamsi:
Ask google
Comr sir, I'm with u and I will always be with u. Most women dey always bring d beast in a man, but trust that gender how they will turn d whole thing. I don't read or judge with emotion,

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by AndroidAI(m): 12:16pm On Jul 16, 2022
Out of 2 million Nairalanders, 87% are bots/trolls.

Suen knows what I'm talking about, cause he's the enforcer, getting paid by agencies to allow these bots to strive.

What they do is cook up different stories to stir up your emotions, spread misinformation, and sway your beliefs.

This forum is yet to be exposed for what it is, and that's because most of us are not well educated to identify these cheap manipulative tactics.

For example, this very thread was created by a hot!

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Mryacks: 3:35pm On Jul 16, 2022
What a terrible situation to be in...
Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by kenedyx: 3:36pm On Jul 16, 2022
Hmmm

I wish you had divorced than man and married the widower before you opened this thread. So it would be a case of other women in your shoes learning from your mistakes.

Divorce that man Asap, even better to be alone than have no self worth and respect in your own home. You should be getting a job to leave, not stay.

Another lesson for young ladies here's don't marry for love (of money). I really don't see what a girl who hasn't finished school and can't take care of herself claims to know about love to extent of entering marriage a lifetime commitment.

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Klass99(f): 4:31pm On Jul 16, 2022
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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Klass99(f): 4:54pm On Jul 16, 2022
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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by Piptocoin: 5:05pm On Jul 16, 2022
Channah1:
Get what stupid marriage back? Are you even married in the first place? So what marriage are you trying to protect or get back after all you've been subjected to so far?

Look, you better borrow sense if yours is no longer functioning and leave that cage you call marriage. Like how can you say your marriage to an ingrate is determined by your getting a job otherwise you'll be relegated to the ground and you still want to continue in such slavery?

The fact he sleeps around and infects you with various kinds of STDs is enough to ditch him and move on but here you are trying to fight for what will eventually destroy your health all because of sex. So you can continue having sex. Sex that is not even reliable.

I thought Osinachis experience will open the eyes of some of you but alas I was wrong. Some of you still prefer to die on top preek matter. Hmm..

don't waste your breath on a fake story. read the last line of the story again and see how it fits with the narrative.

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by alphaNomega: 5:13pm On Jul 16, 2022
Twinklelove:
I got married to my husband truly not knowing who he was, I was naive and couldn't differentiate between love and lust the age bracket was close to 10yrs...to me it was love yes i truly loved him because i thought he loved me. We have two beautiful kids, I was abused by my husband several times, there was a time he beat me I had to use dark glasses to work while asked what happened? I had to cover up for the beasts.....he Continued till I stood up for myself that was how the physical abuses stopped....

But he continued to emotionally black mail me I got out of my job because of school, that was where my problem started he is a high profile man in his state and also a pretender...they say "Charity begins at home" But that's not in my house, because he only gives us food when we are in good terms he goes to the market to buy tomatoes and the likes, I don't care because he says its his money. He is a chronic smoker and womaniser someone who has slept with his friends wife. My husband is very good at keeping malice infact, he has kept malice with me for close to a year but eventually started speaking with me with the intervention of our clergy...I later discovered it was because of another woman...I got used to the fact that he won't stop so I moved on with my life knowing that someday old age will catch up......I have had to treat infections severally all in the name of love

This man works in the hospital...but when am ill I have to buy drugs from him.....I have to borrow money from him with written agreement and witness that I will pay back which he collects.... Right now I still stay in same house with him where by he cooks for himself because he doesn't speak me, and stopped eating my food......he stopped sleeping with me saying some very hurtful things about sex. I even went into depression because he said I am a liability. My marriage is determined by my ability to provide too. He has belittled me before his family......he can't even protect me.

Right now..lust found me again yes i mean lust. A very wealthy widower who is so interested in me and my kids. But of course same gender everywhere. I met him while I went for job hunt.. am a chartered accountant but menhh its so hard that i can't express my pains. At first he said there isn't any vacancy, I got up to leave then he noticed I had tears in my eyes and called me back..I said I am fine but deep within I was sad knowing I had a beast waiting for me at home and of course I was scared of going home.....I had to speak out because its so heavy...he asked for my phone number incase there is an opening, After some few days, he called and asked to see me at the office. We talked and surprisingly he prayed with me....Now he has asked me out severally but I know the Devil wears prada that gender won't change......right now am back to school and presently this man has been so helpful to me to the extend of asking me to take one of his cars because my husband ceased my car....this man tells me how beautiful I look and so many things that makes me feel good about myself. I am someone else's wife but another buys me expensive things....irony of life..
Almost all times i go out, men ask me out on date, But i turn them down. I have never cheated on my husband and hope things get better someday.

Please I need to get a job to get my marriage back.


You don't need a job to get your marriage back. Pressure your husband to open a business you can do.
Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by kenedyx: 6:07pm On Jul 16, 2022
Klass99:


Different reasons like;

1. The naivety of youth, we think we know best at a young age and we are not receptive to wise counsel from older people, thinking we have it all figured out.

2. Family pressure to marry early so you can rescue your entire household from penury by virtue of your marriage.

3. The subtle blackmail of a biological clock where you are terrorized into believing that if you don't marry early and drop your kids quickly, you will be doomed for life.



Personally, I refused to make any major decision regarding my future at a young age, still living with my parents and lots of pressure and advice from everywhere.

My only goal was to be independent enough to leave the house and be on my own, then let everything flow from there.
But the issue is always more complex with women because of all the above you mentioned..especially that second one. Parents use that to blackmail their daughters a lot!

She thought she was in love when in reality she had only found her parents' spec.

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Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by descarado: 6:12pm On Jul 16, 2022
Good luck in your job hunting dearie kiss
Re: I Am Not Lucky With A Husband. by descarado: 6:14pm On Jul 16, 2022
Piptocoin:


don't waste your breath on a fake story. read the last line of the story again and see how it fits with the narrative.
Very fictitious.

Seriously?
The person should improve in his story telling.
35%

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