Saw this somewhere. MIL no suppose dey fight DIL.


“Barely three weeks after my son’s wedding and honeymoon, I noticed a rather unusual pattern of him “stopping by” my place on his way home in the evenings. I thought he was just missing his original home. I asked him why but he gave no reasonable answer. He always asked for dinner when he came around, which was rather odd for a newly married man.

On his fourth visit, he came with one of his friends who was well known to me. I confided in his friend, who simply told me that his new wife “cannot cook”. In fact, on the days he doesn’t stop by, he eats at that friend’s house or he eats out.

This was fire on the mountain, the choice was between me encouraging him to eat outside at another household and risk ending his marriage or save the day. I opted for the latter.

When he showed up again on Friday evening, I told him to tell his wife to see me on Saturday morning, we needed to go somewhere together, it was a woman’s thing. She came as I requested and I told her I was entertaining my Church Society members and needed to cook for them. She was to assist me with shopping for the cooking. I noticed the fright on her face.

After returning home from the shopping, I told her she wasn’t cooking because the people involved had very peculiar tastes, she was however to pay attention to all that I did in the kitchen. We finished (or I finished) all the cooking in about four hours. I made four different soups that I knew my son loved, made different stews with chicken, fish and beef and steaming jolls of rice.

After finishing, I told her to divide everything we cooked into two equal portions. She was surprised when I told her to take one portion with her when she was going home. I knew the food would last about six weeks, and as predicted, my son did not show up at my door until week seven. I knew the food had finished. So I repeated the same process again, telling him to tell his wife to see me when he got home.

By the third time we did this, I let her do the cooking whilst I supervised her. I never mentioned anything to her. By the fifth time, she had gotten a hang of things, even better than I imagined. On her way home, she hugged me passionately and said “Thank you Mum, you saved my marriage and you never even scolded me.”

I am told that with my son’s encouragement, she is now contemplating on opening a restaurant.

Rather than being the catalyst to scatter my son’s marriage, I opted for encouraging them in love for them to attain a better and deeper understanding.”

Encourage someone in love today, you just might be saving something very fundamental.

What do you think?

A woman that can't cook has nothing to offer a man in marriage. Why getting married when you can't cook?

Zonefree:
A woman that can't cook has nothing to offer a man in marriage. Why getting married when you can't cook?

Men can't even offer up to half of what women offer in marriage, so SHUT UP!

siofra:


Men can't even offer up to half of what women offer in marriage, so SHUT UP!

Say someone mistakenly manage you for marriage, what will the person benefit? Be frank please

dregmaster:
Saw this somewhere. MIL no suppose dey fight DIL. “Barely three weeks after my son’s wedding and honeymoon, I noticed a rather unusual pattern of him “stopping by” my place on his way home in the evenings. I thought he was just missing his original home. I asked him why but he gave no reasonable answer. He always asked for dinner when he came around, which was rather odd for a newly married man.

On his fourth visit, he came with one of his friends who was well known to me. I confided in his friend, who simply told me that his new wife “cannot cook”. In fact, on the days he doesn’t stop by, he eats at that friend’s house or he eats out.
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What do you think?

So, why didn't this MIL teach her son to cook, to begin with?

I think it is silly to claim the marriage was on the rocks simply because the son's wife can not cook. It is akin to declaring a marriage cannot work because the man cannot fix things around the house.

Zonefree:
A woman that can't cook has nothing to offer a man in marriage. Why getting married when you can't cook?

The mumu man that knows that she can't cook, why did he propose to her when he can always opt for someone else?

Jovialjune1:


The mumu man that knows that she can't cook, why did he propose to her when he can opt for someone else?

Your gender can pretend alot...maybe she deceived him into thinking she's a great cook.

Zonefree:

Your gender can pretend alot...maybe she deceived him into thinking she's a great cook.

How can someone pretend to be a great cook? School us pls.

Jovialjune1:



How can someone pretend to be a great cook? School us pls.

A gender that can pretend to be a virgin when her body count is above 88? Humour me, Lois.

Zonefree:

A gender that can pretend to be a virgin when her body count is above 88? Humour me, Lois.

Lois must be living rent free in your head

Don't deflect, face the topic and answer the question

How exactly will a woman enter the kitchen, attempt to cook, then pretend to be a great cook when she obviously cannot cook?

Jovialjune1:


Lois must be living rent free in your head

Don't deflect, face the topic and answer the question

How exactly will a woman enter the kitchen, attempt to cook, then pretend to be a great cook when she obviously cannot cook?

Is it before or after marriage?

Zonefree:

Is it before or after marriage?

Before.

Jovialjune1:


Before.

Feminists don't cook for men before marriage.,

Zonefree:

Feminists don't cook for men before marriage.,

Smh, are you a feminist to know this?

What has feminism got to do with this thread?

Get everlasting sense.

Jovialjune1:



Smh, are you a feminist to know this?

What has feminism got to do with this thread?

Get everlasting sense.

You're deviating, Lois

Zonefree:

You're deviating, Lois

Lmao, who called feminist here?

Always empty as usual.

Jovialjune1:



Lmao, who called feminist here?

You are empty as usual.

Ok, Full.

True love protects and helps to strengthen the weakness of the other rather than castigating and condemning the each other. No one is perfect na.

It's nice to read the story again. A very good read, I must say.

dregmaster:
Saw this somewhere. MIL no suppose dey fight DIL.


“Barely three weeks after my son’s wedding and honeymoon, I noticed a rather unusual pattern of him “stopping by” my place on his way home in the evenings. I thought he was just missing his original home. I asked him why but he gave no reasonable answer. He always asked for dinner when he came around, which was rather odd for a newly married man.

On his fourth visit, he came with one of his friends who was well known to me. I confided in his friend, who simply told me that his new wife “cannot cook”. In fact, on the days he doesn’t stop by, he eats at that friend’s house or he eats out.

This was fire on the mountain, the choice was between me encouraging him to eat outside at another household and risk ending his marriage or save the day. I opted for the latter.

When he showed up again on Friday evening, I told him to tell his wife to see me on Saturday morning, we needed to go somewhere together, it was a woman’s thing. She came as I requested and I told her I was entertaining my Church Society members and needed to cook for them. She was to assist me with shopping for the cooking. I noticed the fright on her face.

After returning home from the shopping, I told her she wasn’t cooking because the people involved had very peculiar tastes, she was however to pay attention to all that I did in the kitchen. We finished (or I finished) all the cooking in about four hours. I made four different soups that I knew my son loved, made different stews with chicken, fish and beef and steaming jolls of rice.

After finishing, I told her to divide everything we cooked into two equal portions. She was surprised when I told her to take one portion with her when she was going home. I knew the food would last about six weeks, and as predicted, my son did not show up at my door until week seven. I knew the food had finished. So I repeated the same process again, telling him to tell his wife to see me when he got home.

By the third time we did this, I let her do the cooking whilst I supervised her. I never mentioned anything to her. By the fifth time, she had gotten a hang of things, even better than I imagined. On her way home, she hugged me passionately and said “Thank you Mum, you saved my marriage and you never even scolded me.”

I am told that with my son’s encouragement, she is now contemplating on opening a restaurant.

Rather than being the catalyst to scatter my son’s marriage, I opted for encouraging them in love for them to attain a better and deeper understanding.”

Encourage someone in love today, you just might be saving something very fundamental.

What do you think?

Zonefree:

Say someone mistakenly manage you for marriage, what will the person benefit? Be frank please

No one will mistakenly manage me for marriage.

Word your question properly then I'll answer.

siofra:


No one will mistakenly manage me for marriage.

Word your question properly then I'll answer.

Okay... Aside procreation, what do you think you can offer a man in marriage?

15 years of marriage and i have never tasted my mum's food. My wife is a better cook.

Zonefree:

Okay... Aside procreation, what do you think you can offer a man in marriage?

Charity begins at home......what did your mother offer your father in marriage aside giving birth to you?

Kobojunkie:
So, why didn't this MIL teach her son to cook, to begin with?

I think it is silly to claim the marriage was on the rocks simply because the son's wife can not cook. It is akin to declaring a marriage cannot work because the man cannot fix things around the house.

I like how you always shake the boat. Lol

cococandy:
I like how you always shake the boat. Lol

Not trying to shake the boat at all... just wondering why a grown arse man, whose own mother supposedly knows how to cook well, was not himself equipped with the same skills growing up.

Also, it wasn't his wife's cooking skills that got him to marry her so why should it ever come up as some sort of deal breaker as far as the marriage is concerned? I think the MIL just wan do busybody. If I was in her shoes, I would leave the boy and girl to solve the problem by themselves. All she has done by this is reveal her son still needs his mother even after supposedly becoming a man. She, the MIL, robbed the couple of a great opportunity to learn what marriage is really about.

Kobojunkie:
So, why didn't this MIL teach her son to cook, to begin with?

I think it is silly to claim the marriage was on the rocks simply because the son's wife can not cook. It is akin to declaring a marriage cannot work because the man cannot fix things around the house.

you can say that again, teaching your wife to cook the food you like is romantic and makes you bond etc

A man who cant cook his favourite meal is bad as his own wife but we can excuse the wife but someone has to teach her

Reality is mothers mostly cook favourite meal to their husbands than children (children end up calling the meal favourite as default in liking the food) than what she does to her husband can request any food he likes.

To protect your wife from negative remarks from your mother, teach her yourself. Starting a new home means also learning new cookings from wife remember the old saying "a way to men's heart is through food" so if mum still
have power over you through her
cooking then you need to start to let your wife take charge

Am not against good MIL who are supportive but most would put negative remarks on
the wife eg we paid too much bride price for a woman who cant cook etc

In general every woman can cook but 1st cooking years are based on how she was taught by her own mum, which is no near to what her husband likes becoz her husband likes what his own mother cooked for family

Food for thought

I think the story is made up but if it were true, by the wife’s account, the MIL did save her marriage. So all’s well that ends well I guess

Kobojunkie:
Not trying to shake the boat at all... just wondering why a grown arse man, whose own mother supposedly knows how to cook well, was not himself equipped with the same skills growing up.

Also, it wasn't his wife's cooking skills that got him to marry her so why should it ever come up as some sort of deal breaker as far as the marriage is concerned? I think the MIL just wan do busybody. If I was in her shoes, I would leave the boy and girl to solve the problem by themselves. All she has done by this is reveal her son still needs his mother even after supposedly becoming a man. She, the MIL, robbed the couple of a great opportunity to learn what marriage is really about.

women can't even giving up to half of what women giving in marriage, so SHUT UP!

cococandy:
I think the story is made up but if it were true, by the wife’s account, the MIL did save her marriage. So all’s well that ends well I guess

the story is made up but it hightlights problems that are found in early months/years of marriage

It barely after 3 weeks of marrige, in 3 weeks of marriage hubby would be busy hitting wife's honey pot everyday than worrying about the food in the kitchen

Then on the other side mothers should teach their sons to be patient with their wives on things like cooking and favourite meals etc

Excellent points as well

ZIMDRILL:


the story is made up but it hightlights problems that are found in early months/years of marriage

It barely after 3 weeks of marrige, in 3 weeks of marriage hubby would be busy hitting wife's honey pot everyday than worrying about the food in the kitchen

Then on the other side mothers should teach their sons to be patient with their wives on things like cooking and favourite meals etc

Zonefree:

Say someone mistakenly manage you for marriage, what will the person benefit? Be frank please

Mistakenly? Bros you wicked no be small.