Hospitality is a very good attribute, it has been from the beginning of the world. Abraham and Sarah, Lot and Rehab were saved through hospitality and even faith. To be hospitable is a good virtue worthy of emulation.

My worry, however, is when this attribute suddenly becomes gender based. The only people Aunty Lara is showing hospitality to are the brothers and the only gender brother Sesan can assist to any length is the female.

Fellowships and cell leaders, have you paused to ask why that sister is always bringing you food or you're just busy enjoying the vegetable with plenty 'accessories' on it? What if that porridge with plenty 'condiments' is a kind of 'trap'? You're in doubt? Ask Brother Esau!

There is no harm in applying wisdom to reject these delicacies, you can also cook! Cooking will not reduce your anointing, learn how to do it if you don't know how, and cook to feed your stomach.

That brother who's always coming to our rescue, he won't stop the surprise gifts (little and major) and you keep collecting without trying to probe further, my dear sister, be careful.

Not all gifts are free, some are like a trap. Ask him his motive(s) for being 'over' generous to you because some generosity have undertones. As much as it's good, it can also blind your eyes, becloud your emotion and shut you up.

Ladies in the WhatsApp group of cooler ministry, especially their admins, when we are looking for sisters who will cook for outreach, or cook for a fellow sister under the weather, ensure you are available, that is hospitality too. Coolers have no 'men only' tags just like gifts are not for women only.

Stop giving food or gifts and assume you're in a relationship with the person, may I announce to you that food is not the only way (or not the way as it were) to a man's heart anymore and gift is not the way to a lady's heart.

I'm talking about those with vision and running with it, those that love with not only heart but head too. So don't build your life with someone who doesn't see your relevance in their own life.

Beloved, in all thy getting, get understanding. Remember, just as the action is yours, so is the consequence. You are free to make any choice, but you are not free from the consequence(s) of your choice. Beware of freebies in any form.