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How To Overcome Trust Issue by Babydarling: 2:13pm On Jul 27, 2022
Are you having issues with trusting people? Then read this article.

Trust is very important when it comes to relationships it is the key to a healthy relationship. People with trust issues find it difficult to trust people around them even when you mean good they can easily interpret it in different ways.
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Re: How To Overcome Trust Issue by pansophist(m): 2:24pm On Jul 27, 2022
You don't overcome trust issues, in fact, you cant overcome trust issues.

An integral part of adulthood is the realization that people will disappoint you, and it will most likely come from those you trust the most. Because when push comes to shove, humans will put themselves first, which may go contrary to your interest. You do the same all the time, but you rarely notice or even acknowledge when you betray others because it's in your interest.

So instead of asking how one overcomes trust issues, a better question will be, how can you live with the fact that you will be betrayed? My answer to this is simple, and it is that you should find your strength internally, not externally. For example, a bird sitting on a tree's branches strength is on its wings, if the branches break, then off it flies. Be like a bird.

The more you rely on yourself, the fewer others will betray you, and even if they did, your strength comes from within, and you will recover. Self-reliance makes it difficult and almost impossible to be anyone's beach, and that makes you powerful. Trusting people as an adult is basically saying ''hey, I know you probably may betray me, you are full of snakes, me too, but I will put forth my hand and call that part of you that is good, and hope we make the best of ourselves''.

Such trust as outlined above is not the childish, naive, and dependable trust common with the with the untrained mind, but it is pragmatic, hopeful, and most importantly, courageous. So as an adult, you trust because you are courageous. Trust = courage and vulnerability.

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Re: How To Overcome Trust Issue by Tboymessiah(m): 3:44pm On Jul 27, 2022
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Re: How To Overcome Trust Issue by CaveAdullam: 5:42pm On Jul 27, 2022
1. We say nobody is perfect. But when we do wrong we shy away from punishments or rationalize why we did it. When others do wrong, we call on hades. Humans!

2. Humans comprise a lot of behaviors that are similar to wild animals - anyways, we descended from the same ancestors. However, our higher mental capacity has helped us to act in more civilized and friendly manners.

3. Don't box people. Humans will disappoint you at one particular time or the other. Always expect it and prepare for it. Even you do unexpected things many times that shock your imagination.

4. Device means to do delicate activities yourself. It is not easy, but it is the price you pay for delicacy.

5. Outsource what you can easily recompensate for.

6. Always play a positive sum game: let there be an exchange of value between you and people. Let the outcome be a win-win for both of you. If the person doesn't want to lose he must do a good job.

7. Appeal to people's greed. Tell them what they will gain from every dealings with you.

8. Or, appeal to their fear. If you are their superior, you can threaten them with what they will lose if they fail to comply with you.

9. Become a person of integrity. Be competent and accountable in your dealings. Be smart. Then, the people you'll mostly encounter are people like you. And you will be able to determine the track record of any person you want to make dealings with. You can easily spot the good from the bad.

10. Humans change. Circumstances change. A man of integrity can become a fraudster tomorrow maybe as a result of poverty. While a prostitute as a result of serious illness may forgo prostitution.

When dealing with humans, create room for this change, and you'll be ahead of time and not shocked by any disappointment.

Thanks.

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