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She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by sweetman2022: 12:18pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
This is a true event that happens while I was still a teenager. Please read carefully and be reasonable on whose fault it is. We moved to an apartment in Lagos years ago where a single storey building turns out to be ridiculous. Have you heard of a house where tenants live upstairs while ashawos live downstairs, that's our house. Till this moment I never cared to ask my parents how they couldn't have noticed that the house is occupied by ashawos quarter on the floor. Now came the problem, there was a lady living with his younger brother of my age. They occupied a room upstairs with us as neighbors. She has a fiance then which we all knew about, though he has never visited her in her home according to what I heard. She is a nice woman and was very kind to me then. Well I was younger and lovely so I expect nothing other than her kindness towards me. Although I could remember that when we moved in, my Dad was complaining that the Landlord never told him that the house is being shared with ashawos living on the ground floor while tenants live upstairs. Other tenants like us later told my Dad that they fell into the same circumstances after moving in. The problem started when this lady's fiance decide to visit her unannounced. I heard he came through the main entrance which is direct to ashawos quarter. So immediately he entered, they rushed him and was asking to be picked. You can guess the different lines they would have used on him..lolz He had to run back outside and was surprised. He called the GF to come outside, that he is in her house. She came outside through the other entrance we the tenants normally use. Immediately he saw her, he confirmed she lives there and walks away. We later heard he claimed so she into prostitution. She tried to explain the situation to him but he never cared to buy it. He dumped her and move on. It was diverstating to her because we all knew about the incident. In few months time, she moved out of the house with her siblings. So as a lady, what would you have done differently. And as a guy, would you have acted the same way as the guy? You can also share your experience if you have lived in such house before. Lalasticlala you can move it front page for wider view. |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by Nobody: 12:29pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Well, she was supposed to let her fiancée know about the kind of place she lives while trying other places out , don’t they interact? The man acted harshly without hearing her out, if I was the lady, I’ll count my losses and move on, It's part of life, he was never truly hers. Any man who’s quick to anger and hasty decisions will never make a good partner, men with such attitude will never be able to stand the tests of marital life, they are potential home breakers. I will so move on and ignore his existence, it’s not that deep. 7 Likes |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by etrange: 12:33pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Lol... you don't know who behaved childishly, right? It's so difficult to tell who's to blame, right? When a Nairalander creates a thread asking who's guilty between a man and a woman, just know that the man CLEARLY guilty. When it's truly not clear who's guilty, the normal reaction is to blame everything on the woman. And when the woman is evidently guilty, they drag the entire gender. It's only when a man is guilty that you read questions like "so who is to blame?" 2 Likes |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by sweetman2022: 12:37pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
etrange:Nawa ooo.. I have my own opinion towards the issue but others might not agree with who I chose to blame, that's why the question is thrown open for you to type yours base on the angle you see it. 1 Like |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by Reinamaria(f): 12:46pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
The man never truly loved her, because if he did, he would've at least asked for an explanation. So, they were never meant to be together. 2 Likes |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by etrange: 12:46pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
sweetman2022:OK. |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by Richy4(m): 12:57pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
I don't blame any of them but the economic situation ... Assuming she can afford a better place after renting Gomorrah unknowingly, she would have moved out and ask the landlord to reimburse her no matter how small he was willing to give ( considering Breach of contract ) Any time you see the girl, let her know that she dodged a bullet 1 Like |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by sweetman2022: 1:19pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Richy4:Maybe now, she wouldn't have agreed with this when the incident happened. It was a broken heart for her. |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by TOPCRUISE(m): 1:40pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
The man is not at fault at all. She ought to have told him that she lives in a house with an army of ashawos. What if they all raped him by casting him under a spell. As a guy I wouldn't have acted the same way if i know her to be decent and she provides an explanation. But I will call it quit if she is the type that dresses like them and known to be called Ella, candy, and those yeye names |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by Richy4(m): 1:41pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
sweetman2022: You are correct...Just imagine having married to that gentleman, a male boxers that is way bigger than what he used to put on finds it's way inside their home, how will she explain that? A man and a woman in a relationship should always pause just a little to listen to ' it's not what you think' explanation Even if you don't buy it.. it might be worth it like in this case scenario now.. |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by Helpout12345: 1:53pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Made up story to invite your fellow misogynist and misandrist to feast on. And I can see some of them already arriving. You people no dey tire? |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by sweetman2022: 2:23pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Helpout12345:Why do you guys find some stories as made up. Is it because it is beyond your comprehension? This is not from a third party, I told you I witnessed it with my family where we once lived. I also asked if others have lived in such houses. Please things are happening beyond your understanding. Don't force yourself to understand every incident in the world else you will go crazy aswear. 1 Like |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by main24(m): 4:24pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
- What if the guy’s previous relationship was with a chronic cheating partner? And he is still struggling with the trauma that caused him? - this new lady did not inform him the situation surrounding where she is staying... - the op stated the lady is nice?! Outsiders can see someone as being super nice while the person dating him/her is suffering. So this is not enough reason to conclude the lady is nice when it comes to relationship. - so I will further assume the guy might have had several reasons not to trust the lady... Adding everything together is enough to draw ones conclusion without waiting for further explanation. - in summary; since we can not conclude there were no previous red flags from the lady, let's not jump into conclusion who is at fault. |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by Helpout12345: 4:56pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
sweetman2022: A fiance that never know or visited his girlfriend house before engagement? And all of sudden decided to visit unannounced? And a girlfriend that really want the relationship and decided to keep such living environment a secret to her "fiance" This story self cannot sell in Nollywood. 1 Like |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by Helpout12345: 4:58pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
sweetman2022: And you want to force this madeup down everyone's throat? |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by tensazangetsu20(m): 5:04pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
I know a lot of houses exactly as op described in shomolu o. Asewo quarters downstairs and living quarters upstairs. People should try and be financially buoyant before having kids. I can't imagine raising up a female child in such an environment. It's crazy. |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by Nobody: 5:52pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Ok 1 Like |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by sweetman2022: 6:36pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
goodamerican:This incident happened about maybe 17 years ago. When I later discuss the issue with my sister as an adult so many things did not add up for me, because as my fiancee I would have wanted to hear her out clearly and go back to do my confirmation if what she tells me is the truth. And how come he never knows where she lives before even making the relationship official that is making her his fiancee because I won't do that too. Well the brother told me the part he thought I needed to hear and my sisters told me the other. She should even be married now. I was just wandering if the situation was enough to ended the relationship that was already committed. |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by sweetman2022: 6:46pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Rozross:It was bullshit to me when I became older and remember the incident, then I tried to put myself the guy's shoe. Maybe there is an antecedent that made him do that rash decision without blinking. Like someone posted, maybe he was a victim of cheating partner because I know how that can make you feel. I once dated a girl who claimed to be a virgin with all her God. Only for me to find out she was full of shit. How do you want me to handle the next girl who says she is a virgin. |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by Nobody: 10:39pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Ok |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by sweetman2022: 11:43pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
goodamerican:I might partially agree with your statement. He must have come before with her. She will just take him through the route tenants use and he wouldn't notice a thing. We do that alot as tenants because it was not easy explaining to some people then that you live in the same buildings with ashawos. I can remember some of my secondary school mates who knew taunting me by then. She should have explained to him. I guess she never thought he might come alone one day unannounced. Though I had a great experience with those women even as a young teenager. Only God knows how I was able to do it that I have never patronize ashawo in my life despite witnessing their unclothedness several times. Well it's a story for another day. |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by Jecci(f): 6:40pm On Sep 03, 2022 |
These days I always run away from people who are quick to see the worse in others. Never giving room to accommodate the mistakes their partners made in error. A guy left me like this. All the efforts I made to beg him apologize to him I crawled on my knees countless text messages begging him to forgive me none moved him. What was my offence because I begged him for financial assistance to solve something and he said that I am after his money. After begging him and begging him trying to convince him that it is because I was in a very tight corner that was why I asked for help. I just let him be that if this kind of issue can make him go blank on me what will happen when bigger challenges comes. When dealing with people try to give room for ifs |
Re: She Lost Her Fiance Due To Misinformation: Who Is To Blame? The Man Or The Woman by bdchange(m): 1:04pm On Sep 05, 2022 |
Jecci:Are you sure prior to this your big request, you have not being asking for little little request frequently. It is also possible he was never really into you. He was just with you for his own benefits. Well better guys are out there looking for good women. 1 Like |
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