If you have ever been a victim of busybodies, you will remove your shoes, and pull your two ears before you will run.

The inferno created by busybodies can consume everyone in that compound.

Refusing to exposing her is very risky.

Call your friends and explain to him and shut the woman out.

Your case is a simple one, if she gossip about another person in the compound then ask her if she's ready to say the same thing in the presence of that person that you want to call the person she gossips about. Next time she will not come again.

Domipraiz:
Good evening to you all. I don't know if this is the right place to drop this.

Am a married man. I lived in the same compound with my best friend sister. We Just moved into the neighborhood not too long (11 months ago). My friend's sister is also married with kids.

Let me go straight to the point, ever since we moved into the compound this woman has been disturbing my wife with gossip. She's a full house wife while my wife is running a M.sc programme but due to ASUU strike, she has being at home. This woman will come to my wife and talk bad things about everyone living in the neighborhood including those living in our compound. Most funny thing about her is that once she leave our apartment, she's moving into the next apartment.

My wife and I have studied her very well that most time we try to avoid, ignore or resist her from coming to our house but to no avail.
Not that I can't warn her to stop coming but am trying to avoid issues that will arise between me and my friend and also her husband.

She was keeping malice with another woman (Mrs Adelaku) in our compound because the woman ignored her totally as a result of her gossip.

Last two weeks Mrs Adelaku came to our apartment to invite my wife to her brother's wedding and as a result of that she thinks my wife is getting closer to that woman.

Yesterday she came to our house and confronted my wife of gossiping with the other woman (Mrs Adelaku) about her. That when neighbors are trying to settle issues between her and Mrs Adelaku that she quoted my wife. She accused my wife of telling Mrs Adelaku everything she has being telling her. And also tell my wife not to confront Mrs Adelaku.

But my wife went to Mrs Adelaku that same day to confront her but she swear with the bible and everything she has that she never tell her anything related to that. That perphers she and my wife are not a gist partner if not for the wedding invitation that she brought.

With anger, my wife went back to this woman (my friend sister) and tell her what the woman said. She later apologies to my wife that it was a trick. That she just wants to know their discussing that when she came with the wedding I.V she discovered that the woman (Mrs Adelaku) stayed a little bit longer in our apartment.

Ever since my wife has developed so much hatred for her/ her husband and even my friend that she doesn't want to see anyone of them again in our apartment.

Am so sorry for the long story, am not to good in this. Kindly bear with me.

What can I do in this situation? Matured mind please, thanks.

I didn't read through but you should obey your wife to avoid stories that touch

Good, now you can take your side chick to his house win win situation.

bewla:
You like it abi

Don't tell me it's a profession

Apro

gbenu dake

nonen:
Tell your friend that his sister is mischievous and trying to damage your marriage to your wife and relationship with other neighbours. Tell him that your wife has decided that no friends come to the house going forward until these issues are resolved.

You can always meet your best friend outside your home.

Your wife is a responsible woman and has made the right decision. If she continues association with that woman, you’d be here next year saying women are scum or that you’re divorced.

You can choose your wife and respect her decision and have peace or choose your best friend and his irresponsible sister and make your peaceful home a circle of crisis!

Best comment ever. OP please stick to this.
*Walks out of thread*

Your wife started the whole thing. There are certain ways to avoid people.
Some women are kinda obsessed with gossiping, if they don't gossip any day, they tend to fall sick.

Things like this is the reason why I'm still a one woman squad, no time to mingle with people that cannot add value to my life. I even select the kind of neighbours I have to avoid them say, them say. Op. Is your wife working if Yes how come she has all the time to be discussing with people anyhow. If No, tell her to go get a job or better still establish a business to help her get busy. As for the other woman, she should cut ties completely with her, honestly when I see some married women who sits at home doing nothing in the name of a full house wife, I give them long space because I don't like the way they reason. Tell your wife not to include your friend to their women palavar. Also explain things to your guy, in most cases hang out with him outside before madam go add you join to their quarrel. I'm a woman but to be sincere I no like the way my gender the behave sometimes. #my2cent.

Your wife should not associate with the gossip.
Your wife should also mind her fvcking business and stay out of your relationship

Your wife should tell the woman to stop coming to your apartment....it has nothing to do 3with your bestie. She should understand that.

Really

USELESSS MATTER.... ABEG NEXT

Your wife is equally a gossip.The first time she came your wife entertained her and she kept coming and i belief your wife contributed her own quota to the gossip.Now casala don burst.Leave them to their wahala and it has nothing to do with your best friend. Dont try to settle any case.Your friend can continue to come to your house and anytime he raise their issue,just wave it off by saying na woman wahala.

Why

Sometimes imagine that the person you intend to insult both directly n indirectly isn't your age mate.

2. Did the poster tell you his wife is wayward?

3. And y do you assume all men will stoop so low to dating their friend's wife, even if you can do that not all men will do that and that was not the question here.


'Make una dey get sense for this app' - do feel a hero saying this to me?

girlygirlyMain:
What if the friens wan bleep her?
Make una dey get sense for this app

Why are you bringing the matter here, clearly your wife is trying to protect her peace from anymore drama, so sayin that your friend cannot visit your home is her way of making a complete break rom his gossiping sister.

It is reasonable to respect her boundaries as it is her home and it should be a sanctuary for her , but at the same time you should be able to host your friend if you want.

Perhaps you should agree to not host him for now but may be at some point in the future you can let her know in advance if you want to invite him so that you can do it at a convenient time for her maybe when she plans to be out or when she feels prepared to have him visit perhaps for a limited period of time like not exceeding 1 hour or example.

Domipraiz:
Good evening to you all. I don't know if this is the right place to drop this.

Am a married man. I lived in the same compound with my best friend sister. We Just moved into the neighborhood not too long (11 months ago). My friend's sister is also married with kids.

Let me go straight to the point, ever since we moved into the compound this woman has been disturbing my wife with gossip. She's a full house wife while my wife is running a M.sc programme but due to ASUU strike, she has being at home. This woman will come to my wife and talk bad things about everyone living in the neighborhood including those living in our compound. Most funny thing about her is that once she leave our apartment, she's moving into the next apartment.

My wife and I have studied her very well that most time we try to avoid, ignore or resist her from coming to our house but to no avail.
Not that I can't warn her to stop coming but am trying to avoid issues that will arise between me and my friend and also her husband.

She was keeping malice with another woman (Mrs Adelaku) in our compound because the woman ignored her totally as a result of her gossip.

Last two weeks Mrs Adelaku came to our apartment to invite my wife to her brother's wedding and as a result of that she thinks my wife is getting closer to that woman.

Yesterday she came to our house and confronted my wife of gossiping with the other woman (Mrs Adelaku) about her. That when neighbors are trying to settle issues between her and Mrs Adelaku that she quoted my wife. She accused my wife of telling Mrs Adelaku everything she has being telling her. And also tell my wife not to confront Mrs Adelaku.

But my wife went to Mrs Adelaku that same day to confront her but she swear with the bible and everything she has that she never tell her anything related to that. That perphers she and my wife are not a gist partner if not for the wedding invitation that she brought.

With anger, my wife went back to this woman (my friend sister) and tell her what the woman said. She later apologies to my wife that it was a trick. That she just wants to know their discussing that when she came with the wedding I.V she discovered that the woman (Mrs Adelaku) stayed a little bit longer in our apartment.

Ever since my wife has developed so much hatred for her/ her husband and even my friend that she doesn't want to see anyone of them again in our apartment.

Am so sorry for the long story, am not to good in this. Kindly bear with me.

What can I do in this situation? Matured mind please, thanks.

Let me be very brief...
Do all you can to stop that woman from coming to your house even if it involve confiding to her brother.

Move out of the compound.

Let your wife know that your friend is not like her sister.

If it is not going to be stressful, start finding another accommodation.

Even though cho cho cho na women stuff, it can be tiring when u have such a busy body women close to u.

This thing is easy to deal with.
Association should be by choice and not by force.
If you don't want her them tell her to her face.
However of you want to be diplomatic, you can always engage her in a discussion she would love.
E.g, I have a colleague in the office, any time this guy comes to my office to gist, he wouldn't want to leave on time, and me I so y like too much gisting, it robs me of my productivie time, so what I do is to always switch our discussion to spiritual matters. I start preaching to him.
He so much detests hearing the gospel.
So this is the weapon I use.
He got the message and has since stopped his frequent visits to my office.
Case closed.

In case you are reading this, Biggie, this is the strategy I have been using to keep you away from me, I hate useless and fruitless gists.

The aim of gossip is to cause division among people. That Gossip woman is the problem. Don't let her achieve her aim by estranging you with other innocent victims, rather isolate her alone. Let your wife see this fact.

Firstly, edit your post and remove names so that you, and the concerned parties remain anon. Second, your wife is entitled to her opinions, so are you. Speak to her and ask her not to drag your friendship with your guy into her matter. She sef was not wise in handling the gossip lady and that's why things escalated so fast. Also, limit my friend, my friend... Too much of such is not good for a married man. Put your home first always. Good luck

Explain the situation to your friend. Your wife is good for trying to avoid the olofofo woman, it is style style she will use to distance herself from her. If report to you, just feel unconcerned. Let amebo stay in her room, period

Chai.

I think you are a Christian, right?

Now go to Proverbs 26 : 20 and Proverbs 20 : 19.

If you discard those scripts above given.
Then you fulfill the biblical definition of a simp.

Domipraiz:
Good evening to you all. I don't know if this is the right place to drop this.

Am a married man. I lived in the same compound with my best friend sister. We Just moved into the neighborhood not too long (11 months ago). My friend's sister is also married with kids.

Let me go straight to the point, ever since we moved into the compound this woman has been disturbing my wife with gossip. She's a full house wife while my wife is running a M.sc programme but due to ASUU strike, she has being at home. This woman will come to my wife and talk bad things about everyone living in the neighborhood including those living in our compound. Most funny thing about her is that once she leave our apartment, she's moving into the next apartment.

My wife and I have studied her very well that most time we try to avoid, ignore or resist her from coming to our house but to no avail.
Not that I can't warn her to stop coming but am trying to avoid issues that will arise between me and my friend and also her husband.

She was keeping malice with another woman (Mrs Adelaku) in our compound because the woman ignored her totally as a result of her gossip.

Last two weeks Mrs Adelaku came to our apartment to invite my wife to her brother's wedding and as a result of that she thinks my wife is getting closer to that woman.

Yesterday she came to our house and confronted my wife of gossiping with the other woman (Mrs Adelaku) about her. That when neighbors are trying to settle issues between her and Mrs Adelaku that she quoted my wife. She accused my wife of telling Mrs Adelaku everything she has being telling her. And also tell my wife not to confront Mrs Adelaku.

But my wife went to Mrs Adelaku that same day to confront her but she swear with the bible and everything she has that she never tell her anything related to that. That perphers she and my wife are not a gist partner if not for the wedding invitation that she brought.

With anger, my wife went back to this woman (my friend sister) and tell her what the woman said. She later apologies to my wife that it was a trick. That she just wants to know their discussing that when she came with the wedding I.V she discovered that the woman (Mrs Adelaku) stayed a little bit longer in our apartment.

Ever since my wife has developed so much hatred for her/ her husband and even my friend that she doesn't want to see anyone of them again in our apartment.

Am so sorry for the long story, am not to good in this. Kindly bear with me.

What can I do in this situation? Matured mind please, thanks.

Op, you will never be comfortable living in that compound. As a matter of urgency, raise money and look for another house. Move out of that compound as soon as possible to separate your wife from this toxic woman. Don't be surprise the day they will take it to another dimension physically (fight, pour hot water, pour acid, etc. ) women can be desperate. They can go spiritual if care is not taken. So I suggest you separate them. Your best friend can now visit you in the new place if he wants without the sister poking her nose.

Some men sha na wa
what has your friend got to do with this palaver?
Does your wife have previous beef with your friend?
Seems as though your wife wears the pant in the house.
Your friend is not rich otherwise your wife wont have the audacity to spew such nonsense..guys hustle oo(If your friend were to be your helper or boss would your wife ever say such?
Guy, learn to separate family from friendships..always make sure you friends respects your wife and vice versa....If i were your friend and you opened your yoruba wide mouth to tell me this rubbish(my wife said)that will be the end of my friendship with you and i am cutting off your family as well.

Even you too na tafia/olofofo..you are enjoying the gossip.

OP your wife too na house wife.

Running an Msc program and staying at home because of strike is a comfirmsyion.

So na two house wife issues allow them

Domipraiz:
Good evening to you all. I don't know if this is the right place to drop this.

Am a married man. I lived in the same compound with my best friend sister. We Just moved into the neighborhood not too long (11 months ago). My friend's sister is also married with kids.

Let me go straight to the point, ever since we moved into the compound this woman has been disturbing my wife with gossip. She's a full house wife while my wife is running a M.sc programme but due to ASUU strike, she has being at home. This woman will come to my wife and talk bad things about everyone living in the neighborhood including those living in our compound. Most funny thing about her is that once she leave our apartment, she's moving into the next apartment.

My wife and I have studied her very well that most time we try to avoid, ignore or resist her from coming to our house but to no avail.
Not that I can't warn her to stop coming but am trying to avoid issues that will arise between me and my friend and also her husband.

She was keeping malice with another woman (Mrs Adelaku) in our compound because the woman ignored her totally as a result of her gossip.

Last two weeks Mrs Adelaku came to our apartment to invite my wife to her brother's wedding and as a result of that she thinks my wife is getting closer to that woman.

Yesterday she came to our house and confronted my wife of gossiping with the other woman (Mrs Adelaku) about her. That when neighbors are trying to settle issues between her and Mrs Adelaku that she quoted my wife. She accused my wife of telling Mrs Adelaku everything she has being telling her. And also tell my wife not to confront Mrs Adelaku.

But my wife went to Mrs Adelaku that same day to confront her but she swear with the bible and everything she has that she never tell her anything related to that. That perphers she and my wife are not a gist partner if not for the wedding invitation that she brought.

With anger, my wife went back to this woman (my friend sister) and tell her what the woman said. She later apologies to my wife that it was a trick. That she just wants to know their discussing that when she came with the wedding I.V she discovered that the woman (Mrs Adelaku) stayed a little bit longer in our apartment.

Ever since my wife has developed so much hatred for her/ her husband and even my friend that she doesn't want to see anyone of them again in our apartment.

Am so sorry for the long story, am not to good in this. Kindly bear with me.

What can I do in this situation? Matured mind please, thanks.

I support your wife

Since your friend's sister is the cause of the problem, move closer to her and give her a few rounds. Her head will set. Don't lose your friend because of her.

Domipraiz:
Good evening to you all. I don't know if this is the right place to drop this.

Am a married man. I lived in the same compound with my best friend sister. We Just moved into the neighborhood not too long (11 months ago). My friend's sister is also married with kids.

Let me go straight to the point, ever since we moved into the compound this woman has been disturbing my wife with gossip. She's a full house wife while my wife is running a M.sc programme but due to ASUU strike, she has being at home. This woman will come to my wife and talk bad things about everyone living in the neighborhood including those living in our compound. Most funny thing about her is that once she leave our apartment, she's moving into the next apartment.

My wife and I have studied her very well that most time we try to avoid, ignore or resist her from coming to our house but to no avail.
Not that I can't warn her to stop coming but am trying to avoid issues that will arise between me and my friend and also her husband.

She was keeping malice with another woman (Mrs Adelaku) in our compound because the woman ignored her totally as a result of her gossip.

Last two weeks Mrs Adelaku came to our apartment to invite my wife to her brother's wedding and as a result of that she thinks my wife is getting closer to that woman.

Yesterday she came to our house and confronted my wife of gossiping with the other woman (Mrs Adelaku) about her. That when neighbors are trying to settle issues between her and Mrs Adelaku that she quoted my wife. She accused my wife of telling Mrs Adelaku everything she has being telling her. And also tell my wife not to confront Mrs Adelaku.

But my wife went to Mrs Adelaku that same day to confront her but she swear with the bible and everything she has that she never tell her anything related to that. That perphers she and my wife are not a gist partner if not for the wedding invitation that she brought.

With anger, my wife went back to this woman (my friend sister) and tell her what the woman said. She later apologies to my wife that it was a trick. That she just wants to know their discussing that when she came with the wedding I.V she discovered that the woman (Mrs Adelaku) stayed a little bit longer in our apartment.

Ever since my wife has developed so much hatred for her/ her husband and even my friend that she doesn't want to see anyone of them again in our apartment.

Am so sorry for the long story, am not to good in this. Kindly bear with me.

What can I do in this situation? Matured mind please, thanks.

Your wife is right. Beware of those who tell you about others because they will definitely tell others about you.

Good advise.

nonen:
Tell your friend that his sister is mischievous and trying to damage your marriage to your wife and relationship with other neighbours. Tell him that your wife has decided that no friends come to the house going forward until these issues are resolved.

You can always meet your best friend outside your home.

Your wife is a responsible woman and has made the right decision. If she continues association with that woman, you’d be here next year saying women are scum or that you’re divorced.

You can choose your wife and respect her decision and have peace or choose your best friend and his irresponsible sister and make your peaceful home a circle of crisis!

Truth

Hychineson:
Your wife is right. Beware of those who tell you about others because they will definitely tell others about you.