My husband and his best friend happen to have the same first and middle name. When the best friend came to live with us I called the best friend by his First and LAST name to seperate them. As an Amerian, I found that to be just too long and difficult to do everyday all day so I just call him by his last name to shorten it.

Their schoolmates call them Tunde1 and Tunde2 - but even that is confusing depending on who they knew first and considered to be #1.

Anyways, The best friend is married now and his mother in law lives with him. My hubby and I are relocating and have been living with his best friend for a short time.

The problem is that this woman keeps telling me it is disrespectful to call her son-in-law by his name. (My husband is fine with it). I feel like its none of her business because I have known him longer than her and he NOR my husband have ever had any issues with what I call him. In fact, my whole family calls the best friend by his last name - to also separate the two.

Since I am a guest - I have tried to call him the nick-name that the mother-in-law suggested, but I can never remember and the name is stupid (she gave him the nickname based on how he ate some stew she made back when she first met him) and I have been calling this guy by his last name for many, many, many years now.

Well, his mother-in-law (I guess she is very traditional) Just sees me as rude, and disrespectful to him in his house, and she keeps picking on me now for every little thing I do.

I am not trying to have strife with this woman (afterall, she's not MY mother-in-law), and she is now pitting the Wife (her daughter) against me - by complaining to her all the time an saying stuff like "Don't let this woman enter your house and disrespect you and your husband." etc.

I told my husband and he says to ignore her, but it is hard because I am often in the house alone with her, and we have to live with them a little while longer until our own home is ready.

ANY ADVICE on what to DO?

lol, as long as the wife and ur husbands friend doesnt have any problem wid it wats her own, try talking to the wife and see wat she says, or just for peace sake call him uncle tunde, wouldnt do u no harm,