When next she starts, record her and send to her parents and siblings.

maxkenny:
Good Morning Nairalander,How do you manage a chronic insultive wife?

Its true violence against women is a crime but when a woman is so addictive to insulting, causing provocation, emotional imbalance, how do you manage it without unleashing your anger or make mistake? is there law against women insulting or causing provocation.
Mature minds please

There is no law against a woman or man cursing another, however there is law against one violently assaulting another human being. So best resolve is to walk away from anyone who offends you in any way of form.

We train aggressive dog with an aggressive balance dog….

What I’m trying to say is “in order to tame your wife; you’ve to be x2 of her” subdue her till shes submissive…

The key word here is BALANCE.

No go turn monster after she submit o

madridguy:
Baba don't take chances... Someone that poured pepper in your bathing water can as well poison you or pour you acid. Act fast and have your freedom and peace of mind.

Person wey dey Twitter 24/7, how is he sure she is not on Nairaland observing and taking notes of his plans.

IgweBUIKE1:
just three weeks ago... She poured pepper inside my bathing water... Just because I refuse to fetch water for you... I pay for everything in the house down to matches...her own is Twitter from morning till night... Guess is where she is learning her bad attitude from

This might be part of her problem. Social media is fake reality but many people take everything on it as real and apply them to their real life.

I hope she is not

cayorday89:

Person wey dey Twitter 24/7, how is he sure she is not on Nairaland observing and taking notes of his plans.

GIVE HER A FACTORY RESET SLAP AND SEND HER BACK TO WHERE YOU PICKED HER FROM.

madridguy:
I hope she is not

I hope so too for his own sake.

thundervirus:


It is well. I don't know how u define maturity sha. But my 2cents is anytime she starts insulting u, keep quiet, don't exchange words with her. Cos she wants u to b pained, dat is her motive.


Silence doesn't mean u re weak or less of a man. Sometimes silence is actually strength

God bless!!!

I LIKE UR ADVICE, THATS WHAT ISLAM SAID MUSLIM FATEFUL SHOULD DO. AM SURE CHRISTIANITY PREACH THE SAME. PATIENCE IS GOOD & GOLDEN. IS IT EVERY MEN THAT HAVE IT? EVEN GENTLE MEN HAVE LIMIT TO THEIR GENTILITY. IF U PUSH THEM TO WALL OR LIMIT, THEY ROAR LIKE... AND STRIKE LIKE THUNDER

Romanoff:
Did they marry her for you or did you not notice this trait when you both were dating?

There are two things you can do, one is to become immune to her verbal abuse. If you can't, then ask for a separation to see if her head go reset.

But then, let me not assume she's just verbally abusive for no reason. What issue(s) always leads to these insults and abuses?

U ARE WISE MA

thundervirus:


It is well. I don't know how u define maturity sha. But my 2cents is anytime she starts insulting u, keep quiet, don't exchange words with her. Cos she wants u to b pained, dat is her motive.


Silence doesn't mean u re weak or less of a man. Sometimes silence is actually strength

God bless!!!

Keep it up yourself man, you only.
That is how many men were driven in suicidal mode.
Men should endeavor they leave abusive relationship for their mental health sake.

IgweBUIKE1:
just three weeks ago... She poured pepper inside my bathing water... Just because I refuse to fetch water for you... I pay for everything in the house down to matches...her own is Twitter from morning till night... Guess is where she is learning her bad attitude from

Is she a half-wit that she will be "learning her bad attitude from" someplace?

Did you by any chance marry her believing she would change for you?

Romanoff:
Did they marry her for you or did you not notice this trait when you both were dating?

There are two things you can do, one is to become immune to her verbal abuse. If you can't, then ask for a separation to see if her head go reset.

But then, let me not assume she's just verbally abusive for no reason. What issue(s) always leads to these insults and abuses?

U people are just funny
How can someone be immune to constant verbal abuse? Can u be immune to repeated verbal abuse from your husband? Why are u advising someone to become immune to verbal abuse?

Rubbiish:

U people are just funny
How can someone be immune to constant verbal abuse? Can u be immune to repeated verbal abuse from your husband? Why are u advising someone to become immune to verbal abuse?

There are women who have also made themselves immune to verbal abuse from their spouse and that's not the only advice I gave him.

IgweBUIKE1:
thanks... I told her am done just looking for another place to rent now and leave that one for her as her settlement

I am glad u are making the right move
Separate yourself from that woman as quick as u can. No one should be subjected to constant verbal abuse, not even a child.

Romanoff:


There are women who have also made themselves immune to verbal abuse from their spouse and that's not the only advice I gave him.

What are u even saying @bold?
Because some persons have subjected themselves to some form of abuse doesn't make it right! U shouldn't be advising anyone to become immune to verbal abuse! That is wrong! Be it man, woman or child!

Rubbiish:

What are u even saying @bold?
Because some persons have subjected themselves to some form of abuse doesn't make it right! U shouldn't be advising anyone to become immune to verbal abuse! That is wrong! Be it man, woman or child!

If someone can take verbal abuse, that's up to them.

If they can't, they can do something about it like I advised OP.

Glad she can match your most likely, emotional abuse well. MAD, destructive, abusive, untrained things. All round abusers oshi. Enjoy your roundly deserved justice.

This reasons made me became a monk

wiseone28:
This reasons made me became a monk

Monk of which faith?

maxkenny:
Good Morning Nairalander

How do you manage a chronic insultive wife?

Its true violence against women is a crime but when a woman is so addictive to insulting, causing provocation, emotional imbalance, how do you manage it without unleashing your anger or make mistake?


is there law against women insulting or causing provocation.

Mature minds please

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How did you end up marrying a insulting woman? A lot of guys just follow fine face, big bre@t and a$$ and hoping the person change from their bad characters when they eventually marry. Same applies to women too, marry a rough guy and hoping to change him. Try to understand that it's very difficult for an adult to change.

NoToPile:


Loool them plenty, I used to believe people like these didn't exist until my experience with a lady, a sister in church for that matter. This lady ehn never met someone like her at all. When my youth president said she was the one, I said hian, this was around 2017, meanwhile she has insulted me my own back then. I was always worried for bro C.

Last year October we started going back to my branch asked him how far about marriage nau, I asked if it was still sister T, he said no oo, that he just couldn't cope that she had issues with himself, everybody, youth having problem with choir, women, usher, every damn group in a big church, even the pastor sef. Very domineering, insultive etc etc. This same character issue. I was so happy for him at least he didn't make that mistake. Mature lady oo. He also told me that but she can pray ooo but that character ehn. I was looling.

He got married to another lady this August.

she had issues with practically everybody, some people are naturally troublesome or (and) wicked its your responsibility not to fall into that trap.

She might have mental illness.

juman:


She might have mental illness.

Now that you mentioned it, I have to think towards that direction too. It's possible.

She suddenly became insulting and offensive.
Of course there is underlining issue to resolve unless she is suffering from madness.

Rubbiish:

U people are just funny
How can someone be immune to constant verbal abuse? Can u be immune to repeated verbal abuse from your husband? Why are u advising someone to become immune to verbal abuse?

But women have been advised to do pretty much that for the longest in order to maintain the marital union. So it ain't impossible to do only not advisable given that no human being deserves to be treated like scum even if in marriage.

Send her back to her father's house, this is still Nigeria

NoToPile:


Now that you mentioned it, I have to think towards that direction too. It's possible.

Those close to her should encourage her to see mental health doctor.

Why not just be single and live long in the land of the living than die early

Op isn't telling us everything.

frozen70:


When she is not mad, she can be insulting you just like that

You need to say precisely what happened between you and her that may have been triggering such bad attitude

What about you, what have you done to warrant such nonsense from her

If really you paid her bride price and did the needful as a responsible family man and she has been insulting you

Take her back to her parents let them finish the work they left undone

Once a man can't find love and peace at home, he stays more outside and anything can happen in between that careless period

you're very stupid

Divorce that bastard