There is this girl I dated 4yrs ago. I actually didn't really take her serious because she was not really faithful to me. We both parted ways (traveled) and months later, she told me she was 7months pregnant for me. She never told me not until the 7th month, even though she did use to call me sometimes. I couldn't say No or Yes cus I was confuse. I know withdrawal method ( which I used) was not safe, and that's why I couldn't say no. I wouldn't want to loose my first blood. Meanwhile, she was never faithful and how do I deal with the pains of training and loving another man's child only for find out later. I can't afford a DNA test now and the child will be 3 by January next year. She has introduced me to the child already as his dad and he bears my name. The innocent soul is now so fund of me even though he hasn't met me physically yet. We only talk on phone and WhatsApp video call.
My worries now are;
How do I deal with this doubt in my heart that this may not really be my child?
What if truly he is not my child?
What should I do cus I was planning to get him from the mother so I can train him the way I would want my child to grow. I don't want to make mistakes please I need advice.

Do you expect us to become spirits or babalawo to tell you if the child is yours or not?

Oga, raise money and do DNA test to know if you fathered the child. Else, remain at the risk of either rejecting your child or becoming a victim of paternity fraud.

Damnnn!!!

You're the cause of your situation. You stayed with an unfaithful lady in a relationship for 4 years and you didn't have enough wisdom to leave her? No fear of infections, unwanted pregnancy, paternity fraud etc?

You're reaping from your unwise decision, deal with it!

Wonder how a sane man will stay with an unfaithful woman for years a community project and expect something good to come out......pls save up some find and go for DNA to be sure of your child