Power has shifted to the children. They are self-sufficient, live on their own and have own families. More often than not, whenever there is a quarrel between father and mother, the children side the mother. Years of joint-victimhood at play. Children have been known to come to the house to warn their father not to ‘disturb’ their mother. Next thing, extended visitations. Woe betide the father if his finances are precarious at this stage. You will be humble by force. The gang-up is real.

This causes most men to fall ill and develop different complications. By the time the forces are arrayed against you, you will think well. Stroke, Hypertension, High-Blood Pressure. The man has a large family but no relationship with them in later life. Troubling thought.

Moral, dear men, while the power lies with us, let us wield it with posterity in mind. It won’t be with us forever.

With the way you are treating your wife now, how will she treat you when power shifts to her?
What relationship do you have with your family?
Loving dad or despotic, tyrannical provider?
Remember, the children always side with their mother. Aim to do enough to at least get a fair hearing in future moments of family strife. Invest wisely for the future so that you won’t have to beg to be taken care of if despite your best efforts, you find yourself alone.

Parenthood is not easy despite its joys. There is no manual on how it works. May God help us to make the best of a really tough job