Are you not a man? See the way you're crying, man up now and stop acting like these women na, and so on... this is how we have killed and still killing many men till date.

It is okay for women who are termed 'weak or sensitive' to express their emotion on anything and anywhere, but it is not for a man who 'seems' strong to express emotions.

Just because you're told or you grew up to learn how to hide emotions does not say you don't have one. It is unfortunate that many are depressed as a result of their inability to show their emotions, whether as single, married, employed or unemployed.

The toxicity of that man around you might not be a spiritual problem, he only needs a shoulder to cry on, to express his feeling and process his emotion freely in the way he wants to. This doesn't make him less of a man!

Dear man, please it is okay to be vulnerable sometimes, drop your 'Macho' garment and let out those pent up emotions so that you don't break down.

Be honest with the way you're feeling, talk to someone if need be - your pastor, a therapist/certified counselor, your spouse etc.

Woman, your husband also needs social and emotional support, he is not an angel, he is flesh and blood like you. Take out time to talk heart to heart with him, find out his worries and look for possible ways to make him relaxed.

It is not too much to create a getaway time for him to rest and be taken care of.

Seeing a therapist does not reduce your spirituality. So, if you can't talk to your pastor and you can't handle the issue alone, please see a therapist/counselor, take care of your mental health just as you take care of other parts of your body.

Man, talk when you need to talk about that situation, don't die in silence trying to prove you are the man the society has defined you to be. Please give yourself permission to be human, it will help you.

T for thanks