I just had a lil issue with the babe I'm rolling with and from the call, she seemed temperamental.
Seriously, this babe tick all boxes any decent guy could wish for but that temperament issue is giving me concern.
I don't wanna leave her cus I'm her first guy and she is nothing near a liability but pls could temperament be tamed?

businesshub101:
Can your gender be changed?

Aguiyimba:


Don't leave her till she change your address.

SeriouslySense:
she needs to acknowledge she has a problem, and probably talk with a specialist, who would discuss about her problem and would help her understand that she is a danger to others.

Some people with anger issues, dont reflect or do not think about the long consequences of their uncontrolled anger, we saw a man who could not control his anger, destroy one of his son hands because the baby disturbed his sleep.

She may not even know how to control herself, when she is triggered by certain things and who knows what she will do.

irunoko:
you better leave her before she kill you for your sleep or poison you.the other day when I Said in a thread I created that There is an influx of angry and murderous girls on the rise,it looked like a joke and an exaggeration.now see am

Once you see any woman that cannot control their anger or easily gets provoked over little things you better leave her.these girls are dangerous.stop underestimating women.

I know of a girl who stole all her boyfriend's certificate.i mean from secondary school,nysc certificate and university certificate.including his laptop and was threatening to burn it because he dared break-up with her.he had to beg her because his office documents were inside the laptop and his job was on the line.mind how you break up with ANGRY women

tyinfinity:
the only solution is to stay away from her .one day she might send you to untimely death or everlasting sorrow

OkoRemi2023:




if you know what's good for you, no let her see you cheating on her, she feel strike you



temperament is like rearing a wild snake, if the nature tells on her she will strike and it could be regret aftermath

symbianDON:
There's a saying that, 'what you do not wish to eat, don't attempt to perceive it's odour'. In other words, what you don't want in a relationship, don't attempt to tolerate it are all. No matter how tasty a meal is, of too much salt is added, , out spoils the taste. That trait she's exhibiting isn't something to be taken lightly. Mind you, YOU CAN'T CHANGE ANYONE! People change because they want to, not because you changed them. If you don't like that trait in her, walk away now!

JOACHINpedro:

I understand but I had anger issues when I was her age (19), but somehow I grew up and learnt how to manage it. I remember cutting all my elder sis dress cus she offended me. Tried to hurt them. But now, I'm very calm and cool, I even become embarrassed remembering those things I did. I wasn't tamed, I just grew out of it

symbianDON:
the ball is in your court now...if you project that may change later, you could give a try.

JOACHINpedro:

I'm not asking her to change, I don't even want her to change, I just want her to have control over her temperament

She's sweet but when she's offended, she would just want to say it all in an aggressive way (She has never tried to fight me).
as a matter of fact she was the one that told me about it when I saw the trait.
She later apologized after using vulgar words on the phone (she knows I don't tolerate vulgar insults) but I fear for tomorrow

This girl can't hurt a fly, she's even scared to see blood. Before the call, when she's offended she will just walk out angrily but these days she will spill her annoyance but in a manner that is not polite.

Pls read through and see why I can't leave her.

Cheating on her is out of it cus the kind of hobby I engage discourages me from having sex most times unless I wanna be unproductive on it, and lucky for me she hasn't tasted the forbidden fruit before

Aguiyimba:


Op..... The reason she hasn't fight you, is she's saving for the object she will use to kill you. So relax, enjoy your time cos your death is coming soon.

JOACHINpedro:

Na wah for you o. I'm to too young to die in the hands of kpekus

Aguiyimba:


Op..... The reason she hasn't fight you, is she's saving for the object she will use to kill you. So relax, enjoy your time cos your death is coming soon.

JOACHINpedro:

She will definitely do as she grows but I just hope she can control it for the time being I'm with her. Like, me not being hurt by her before she gets a hang of it.

Fahvvy:
It's funny when I see people defend a potential dangerous trait all because of love ...

OP be saying that someone with anger issues aka "temperamental issues" can't hurt a fly, LMAO ...

Oya let's analyze the issue...

"I just had a lil issue..."

You had a "little" issue and all hell broke loose and you're still considering staying?

"Seriously, this babe tick all boxes any decent guy could wish for but that temperament issue is giving me concern."

If you're concerned about the "temperamental issue", and you know you can't change her, then why are you still with her?

"I don't wanna leave her cus I'm her first guy"

So one of your reason for not wanting to leave her is because you're her first? How childish! ...

"I'm not asking her to change, I don't even want her to change, I just want her to have control over her temperament"

The main issue here is, does she want to change? Because want all you want, if she doesn't want it too and is not willing to put effort into controlling her "temperament", then you're in for a rude shock ....

"She's sweet but when she's offended, she would just want to say it all in an aggressive way (She has never tried to fight me)."

LMAO ..
OP in your mind aggression is only physical or maybe you think that only physical assault can do damage ...

Shey this one na learner ni ...

OP...
Are you aware that someone can make you commit sucide just by saying a few hurtful things to you? Are you also aware that hurtful words can be more destructive than a punch to the face? ...

OP...
No one can decide for you...
But I'll leave you with two things to ponder on...

1. Is this girl doing anything at all to work on herself, even without you pushing her to do so?

Because if you're the one pushing her to change her temperamental ways when she hasn't realized the need to do so on her own, what happens then when you stop pushing? Can you deal with the aftermath? ...

2. If you decide to marry this girl today, can you put up with *10 of her "temperamental issues"?

Marriage doesn't change anyone, rather it makes one more comfortable ... A thief before marriage will be an even bigger thief after marriage...

A cheat before marriage will be an even bigger cheat after marriage...

A girl who can barely control her mouth when she's angry before marriage will likely not be able to do so even after marriage ...

My opinion on the matter is...
Before you make a decision eh...
See some improvements first on this matter before you decide whether or not to stay...

If she's doing something to work on herself and YOURE SEEING THE IMPROVEMENT, then stay, but if not...

JOACHINpedro:

I'm not asking her to change, I don't even want her to change, I just want her to have control over her temperament

She's sweet but when she's offended, she would just want to say it all in an aggressive way (She has never tried to fight me).
as a matter of fact she was the one that told me about it when I saw the trait.
She later apologized after using vulgar words on the phone (she knows I don't tolerate vulgar insults) but I fear for tomorrow

This girl can't hurt a fly, she's even scared to see blood. Before the call, when she's offended she will just walk out angrily but these days she will spill her annoyance but in a manner that is not polite.

Pls read through and see why I can't leave her.

Cheating on her is out of it cus the kind of hobby I engage discourages me from having sex most times unless I wanna be unproductive on it, and lucky for me she hasn't tasted the forbidden fruit before

JOACHINpedro:

See eh, you just weak me with this fact.
And for me being the first is a fact. My ex displayed what I hated about her due to her past relationship. But this my new girl is still new to anything relationship so her red flags weren't spurred from any bad relationship experience.
And pls I never highlighted anything about love, I believe love is not enough in issues like this.
Lastly, I've been in her shoes (temperamental) but in my case I wasn't tamed, I just grew out of it

Fahvvy:


Nowhere in my earlier write did I challenge this "fact" ... All i said was, if your being her first is the reason why you're considering staying with her despite her temperamental issues, then it's childish in my opinion ...

And you said, you grew out of it, beautiful!!
How are you sure she too will grow out of it? Is there a guarantee that she will? ...

Peradventure she doesn't grow out of it, is she willing to do something about it? Is she willing to work on herself? Abi she's one of this "this is how I am" kinda girl ...

Secondly, if she isn't willing to work on herself, can you put up with her temperamental issues long term and not make a big deal out of it?

OP...
See eh...
I'm not trying to tell you how to live your life, you're an adult and whatever decision you make now eh, I won't be there to partake in the outcome, whether it be good or bad ...

All I'm saying is simple...
CAN YOU DEAL WITH THIS TEMPERAMENTAL ISSUES LONG TERM WITHOUT COMPLAINING?

There's no perfect person anywhere...
People will ALWAYS have a flaw of some kind...

Whilst some maybe willing to do something about it, others aren't...

And so if you're considering getting involved with anybody, you need to ask yourself, can I deal with this person's bul.lshit?

If yes, then you could consider getting involved, but if no, then you best walk away so you don't get hurt in the process and carry the emotional baggage to your next relationship ...