Rtk5:
Honestly I'm so interested in this topic because that is what I'm almost about to do... I'm fed up.

Rtk5:
Honestly I'm so interested in this topic because that is what I'm almost about to do... I'm fed up. I created a topic about getting a second wife just yesterday.

Please mods push this to front page please.

Rtk5:
Honestly I'm so interested in this topic because that is what I'm almost about to do... I'm fed up. I created a topic about getting a second wife just yesterday.

Please mods push this to front page please.

Richy4:

One disadvantage about polygamy that I have seen is that you will age on time..if u are 31, u will look 42....( Stressed out)

Can you handle the jealousy involved?...

I wish those from polygamous homes can just open up on this thread and share some advantages and disadvantages so u won't make mistakes...

Mindlog:


I believe overwhelming majority of those who are pro-polygamous family setting, grew up in homes where their fathers are/were monogamous.

Richy4:

You are correct... This young man is about to make a big mistake...I wish people that grew up in such homes can educate him before learn the hard way..

olamilekan9:
so what if oni of ife that is taking up to 21 wives?

olamilekan9:
so what if oni of ife that is taking up to 21 wives?

I am not against anyone that decides to be polygamous... but they should be aware of what they are going into..

comparing traditional rulers with ordinary individual is not really the same...Oni of Ife for example have the capacity to handle 21 wives (ie if they are up to 21) because their customs and traditions stipulated how wives of traditional rulers should act and conduct/ comport themselves...if not, it would be a suicide mission...

Unfortunately, such law is not applicable to an ordinary individual that decided on a good day to be polygamous?.. what you see is what you get...

A traditional ruler can say he doesn't want to see anyone (the wives) today... And everyone will be in their chambers...But If Papa Ayo says he doesn't want to see anyone, that's when the second wife will remember that it was her turn... That no one will take over her turn

Mindlog:


I believe overwhelming majority of those who are pro-polygamous family setting, grew up in homes where their fathers are/were monogamous.

Kobojunkie:
Because you hear 21 wives, you automatically assume he beds all those women abi?

InspiredGene:
Good day,

I plead for highest anonymity in this case please. It is a very sensitive matter and I do not want the person involved to be exposed but I need clarity on what to do now please. This is a very deep situation for me. For years, I pretended to be happy in my marriage but I was not because I was in love with someone else who is not my wife. So, for better understanding, let me try to start from the beginning of the matter. So, about 11 years ago, I was working in a company when I met Ugonma (not real name).

Ugonma came in that day to submit her CV cos she read an advert that the company where I was working at the time was employing. It was love at first sight. Her beauty blew my mind away. Then, when she spoke…I was mesmerized. Wow…I knew I had to get close to her. I was also part of her interview and I made sure she got the job.

That was when my friendship with Ugonma started. Unfortunately though, Ugo was engaged at the time. I was so disappointed but I did not give up. I tried my best to be a very good friend to her but every time, all she talked about was her fiancé. She invited me for their wedding about 5 months later…I could not attend. I cried in my house that day. I was sad for almost one week.


Despite all I did to show her how I felt…she still went ahead with her guy. I did not tell her though about my feelings…I was just a very great friend to her…I though if she saw how much I loved her…she would pick me. So, we did things together, went out for lunch, movies, I picked and dropped her many times….I helped her even prepare for another higher paying job which she got.

We were very good…we gisted…she told me her secrets. Even when she fought with her fiancé…she would come to me but I never had the liver to tell her how I felt. After she got married….I decided to leave the country to try and forget her. So, I went abroad to do my masters degree. That I did for 2 years….I stalked Ugonma on social media…silently though.

When she posted pictures of her family on SM….my heart broke the more. Well, after my masters, I got a multinational job back in Naija. I tried to stay focused and find another girl to take my mind off Ugonma. That was how I.....https://livelystones.ng/true-life-story-do-i-need-my-wifes-permission-to-take-a-second-wife/