Falling in love and being loved back is a feeling that everyone wants to experience in their lives. The initial craze of falling head-over-heels in love with someone makes one do various adorable and at times wacky things — ranging from surprise visits at the workplace to calling the other person in the middle of the night — but there is a fine line between love and obsession. And once that line is crossed, take it as a sign that it is time to scoot.


What is obsessive love disorder

Obsessive love disorder has not been formally recognized as a disorder; it is a condition when you become obsessed with the person who you are in love with and feel the need to control or protect your partner at all costs.

“An obsessive lover feels an overwhelming attraction to a person and wants to control the behaviour of his/her partner to the extent that if the person is not comfortable or tries to leave a relationship, they may threaten them or harm them. Such people make unreasonable demands and do not respect the boundaries set by the other person,” says Dr Vihan Sanyal, Psychotherapist.

While in the beginning – because of all the attention – you may feel like the luckiest person in the planet, but as you commit to the relationship and move forward, you may start to feel the heat.

Is An Obsessive Relationship “Healthy”?

While most of us would agree that growth in a relationship is the ultimate goal, people often have different views of what this looks like. Often, growth can make you feel fear, and become nervous, tense, uptight, or preoccupied by the relationship itself.

Some people think that wanting to be together in the same place, day and night, is a healthy relationship. Another person might think that having a certain level of independence is important and spend a great deal of time with friends, relying on short phone calls to maintain the relationship.

For each couple it’s going to be important that they define their relationship in the same way and decide what level of attachment or independence is important for each person. Sometimes it’s difficult to reach a mutual decision about this. Having a conversation with each other (partner to partner, woman to man, girl to girl, guy to guy, men and women and people alike) can help put words to your emotions and perspective.

Can obsessive relationship turns dangerous?

The fear of losing their partner can drive obsessive lovers to extremes and they may resort to emotional abuse.

“They may try to punish their partners or break them down emotionally. They can isolate their partner from their family and friends. They can show signs of extreme love one moment while in the next moment they can get angry at the smallest thing and threaten their partner if they chose to walk out of the relationship. This can worsen a person’s depression and they start to talk about self-harm or physically harming their partner. Click to continue reading https://uwagood.com/2022/12/12/what-are-the-signs-of-an-obsessive-relationship-is-obsessive-love-dangerous/