Aduke23:

He has been like that since I was kid, sir

Is this the reason you made this comment sometime ago?
"The reality of today's Nigeria is that most women are the breadwinner of the family."

Is he really una Dad, or surrogate dad. If u know u know

Aduke23:

Pls, what kind of reason could make someone not concerned about his children?
Your comment is just annoying.... I'm sorry to say.

Mitchewww

My dear, their must be a secret reason and he doesn't want d children to know.
Due to d nature of my hustle, I do meet a lot of people on daily bases.
So I came across a family, lovely family but cold/silence issue was going on (they are from sokoto). They mother gave birth to 7 children,
could u believe that out of d 7 children they parents have, 2 are from d d father's younger brother.
U see in issues like dis, u hv to be very very careful in handling or tackling it. Waiting my eyes dey see for field plenty pass me.
Their might be a cold/silence issue going on BTW ur mother and father.
Was ur father like dis from d beginning?

emmanuelbrown26:

My dear, their must be a secret reason and he doesn't want d children to know.
Due to d nature of my hustle, I do meet a lot of people on daily bases.
So I came across a family, lovely family but cold/silence issue was going on (they are from sokoto). They mother gave birth to 7 children,
could u believe that out of d 7 children they parents have, 2 are from d d father's younger brother.
U see in issues like dis, u hv to be very very careful in handling or tackling it. Waiting my eyes dey see for field plenty pass me.
Their might be a cold/silence issue going on BTW ur mother and father.
Was ur father like dis from d beginning?

Yes, sir

Aduke23:

Yes, sir

There's a cold issue going BTW d husband and d wife, if only one party would be able to tell u d raw truth and also be willing to accept d raw truth.

There was nothing you could have done to stop him from leaving anyway. So, it's no use to blame yourself for his action.

Nevertheless, there's need to explore the reason(s) why a man would ignore the financial, psychological and social needs if his nuclear family.

Almost all attitudes displayed in adulthood is the result of individual upbringing. The significant peoples in a child's life and the environment the child grew up determine how the child would behave as an adult.

People with the attitude of the op's father probably grew up in an environment where emotions had to be suppressed so, he does not know how to express his emotions.

Secondly, life is a teacher and depending on what we face while growing up, we can devise coping mechanisms as props to handle difficult life's challenges. Life could have taught the op's dad some hard lessons that his own way of coping is to be numb to the feelings towards others.

Thirdly, there could be a distraction somewhere, like a hidden affair or addiction.

I advise you wait until he returns and find time to talk to him like a child. Ask him whether your mum or any of the children had offended him for him to withhold his care and affection from the family.

This may be the wakeup call he needs.

You don't have to be afraid of approaching him. Don't allow your anger at his attitude stop you from doing this.

Muster the courage to ask him respectfully. His response would help you to know what next to do.

Aduke23 :

Lol...
It's part of him. Countlessly, I've spoken to as daughter to father. That's the way he has chosen to live his life

How are you comfortable talking about your own father on the internet amazes me. This generation is something else. We have all insulted your father with you so I hope you feel better now!

Clout chasing generation

No smoke without fire

Dimples2022:


How are you comfortable talking about your own father on the internet amazes me. This generation is something else. We have all insulted your father with you so I hope you feel better now!

Clout chasing generation

I didn't come here with the intention of having him insulted. Only wanted to know if I did the right thing by not stopping him, and with that, I have to give reasons why I didn't.
I'm not one of those who chase clout.

Dimples2022:
How are you comfortable talking about your own father on the internet amazes me. This generation is something else. We have all insulted your father with you so I hope you feel better now!

Clout chasing generation

Please stop being silly!

Kobojunkie:
Please stop being silly!

Please get a life outside NL!

Dimples2022:
Please get a life outside NL!

Nah, I am good!