I have been coming across lots of relationships issues on nairaland lately. Mine is not about my partner but my parents.

I have known my partner since we were both in school. This year makes it 8 years of being together. I never told my parents about my relationship in school because they would look at it negatively so I decided to keep it to myself till after service. I concluded my service year 2019 and got a job the following year.

I introduced my boyfriend to my parents 2020 and told them that i have been dating this guy and would like to take things serious with him

Ever since then I haven’t been on good terms with my parents as they have been coming up with different excuses like; we don’t like his tribe, you have to focus on your job, he is a distraction, find a better person as he isn’t what we want for you. A lot of excuses here and there

My guy is already fed up as he is not getting any younger, neither am I, he is in his mid 30s and I’m 27. We have both endured insults from my parents since I brought my relationship issue to them and I really don’t see myself letting go.

Get pregnant for him and they’ll be the one begging you to settle down!

In all things, always commit your ways to God.

Gistmedia10:
Get pregnant for him

Seconded.

It's really sad that some parents in this age and time don't like Inter-ethnic marriage in Nigeria, but I'm sure his tribe won't matter much if the guy is rich

Only pregnancy can solve your problem.

Sarah444:
I have been coming across lots of relationships issues on nairaland lately. Mine is not about my partner but my parents.

I have known my partner since we were both in school. This year makes it 8 years of being together. I never told my parents about my relationship in school because they would look at it negatively so I decided to keep it to myself till after service. I concluded my service year 2019 and got a job the following year.

I introduced my boyfriend to my parents 2020 and told them that i have been dating this guy and would like to take things serious with him

Ever since then I haven’t been on good terms with my parents as they have been coming up with different excuses like; we don’t like his tribe, you have to focus on your job, he is a distraction, find a better person as he isn’t what we want for you. A lot of excuses here and there

My guy is already fed up as he is not getting any younger, neither am I, he is in his mid 30s and I’m 27. We have both endured insults from my parents since I brought my relationship issue to them and I really don’t see myself letting go.

Your parents may see what you don't see... they may know what only time will teach you.

The question is... IS HE FINANCIALLY BOUYANT... and has his family accepted you.... if YES, then you need to meet people your parents respect, like the imam or pastor or elders.... that can talk to them and reason with them.


PLS DO NOT GET PREGNANT FOR HIM o. By wisdom, this matter will be resolved this year

Parents opposed their daughter marrying whom she wanted to marry but are glad she did marry him now 30 years later especially when their grandchildren visit.

Same parents also opposed whom their other daughter wanted to marry and now regret that daughter is unmarried and childless and a lesbian.

Parents are not always right. And the consequences of your action or inaction would be bourne by your very own self.

Gistmedia10:
Get pregnant for him and they’ll be the one begging you to settle down!

In all things, always commit your ways to God.

I support this advice with 19 bags of rice and 24 gallons of oil with 7 virgin goats.

Sarah444:
I have been coming across lots of relationships issues on nairaland lately. Mine is not about my partner but my parents.

I have known my partner since we were both in school. This year makes it 8 years of being together. I never told my parents about my relationship in school because they would look at it negatively so I decided to keep it to myself till after service. I concluded my service year 2019 and got a job the following year.

I introduced my boyfriend to my parents 2020 and told them that i have been dating this guy and would like to take things serious with him

Ever since then I haven’t been on good terms with my parents as they have been coming up with different excuses like; we don’t like his tribe, you have to focus on your job, he is a distraction, find a better person as he isn’t what we want for you. A lot of excuses here and there

My guy is already fed up as he is not getting any younger, neither am I, he is in his mid 30s and I’m 27. We have both endured insults from my parents since I brought my relationship issue to them and I really don’t see myself letting go.

After 8 good years of cheating on each other, killing/aborting many children, u guys now wants to take each other serious

Awwwwwn Overzealous kids

Well, with all the above things your parents listed as the reasons they don't want your man are all baseless to me. Parents aren't always right.

If they continue like this, I'll advice you two to go tie the knot, relocate and enjoy your marriage. With time, it will dawn on your parents that they didn't have to dictate your life for u and they'll come around.

Byeeeeee

Sheistoopretty:
N

Please don't type nonsense. Get sense this time.

Sarah444:
I have been coming across lots of relationships issues on nairaland lately. Mine is not about my partner but my parents.

I have known my partner since we were both in school. This year makes it 8 years of being together. I never told my parents about my relationship in school because they would look at it negatively so I decided to keep it to myself till after service. I concluded my service year 2019 and got a job the following year.

I introduced my boyfriend to my parents 2020 and told them that i have been dating this guy and would like to take things serious with him

Ever since then I haven’t been on good terms with my parents as they have been coming up with different excuses like; we don’t like his tribe, you have to focus on your job, he is a distraction, find a better person as he isn’t what we want for you. A lot of excuses here and there

My guy is already fed up as he is not getting any younger, neither am I, he is in his mid 30s and I’m 27. We have both endured insults from my parents since I brought my relationship issue to them and I really don’t see myself letting go.

It is only Pregnancy that would change their mind. Once u are already pregnant for him, they would have no choice than to accept him.

Messi1 with his fake stories
U don cast
Get a life

Moniker created today,

Ofcourse it's one of those small boys that are still being fed by their parents at home that created the thread

I shouldn't have wasted my time dishing advice.

Sheistoopretty:
Moniker created today,

Ofcourse it's one of those small boys that are still being fed by their parents at home that created the thread

I shouldn't have wasted my time dishing advice.

I'm an oldie on nairaland, as far back as 2010

Moniker was created to remain anonymous

yrhuhfy113:


Your parents may see what you don't see... they may know what only time will teach you.

The question is... IS HE FINANCIALLY BOUYANT... and has his family accepted you.... if YES, then you need to meet people your parents respect, like the imam or pastor or elders.... that can talk to them and reason with them.


PLS DO NOT GET PREGNANT FOR HIM o. By wisdom, this matter will be resolved this year

He is doing well financially and his family has accepted. The only thing holding us back is my parents

Wotoporiously speaking

I use to test my parent with pictures of women have been with either romantically or casually, telling them I would love to marry the girl's one day depending on the one I choose to show them, and I do that every year just to see their reaction especially my mum's..Lol and it's always been a no or some excuses just to throw me off my balance, not that I'm even ready to settle down with any of them, I just do that to see my parents reaction so I can know what's on their mind and trust me I learned a lot in that quest

This are the things have learnt;

*Not that they don't like who you bring to them or present to them as your wife or husband to be, just that they already have this ideas in their head about who they want their children to settle with or not settle with...just like women have this fantasy about the kind of man they want but most times they end up disappointed cuz in the real world they're just living inside their heads


*Almost every Nigerian parents have this ideaolgy about the tribe they want their children to find a wife or husband for marriage especially the mum's, they choose tribes among other things before giving the go ahead (Like my mum use to say you can never marry a girl from this so so and so place, she sometimes even tell me the places she thinks I can best find a woman for marriage) Well since you've found yourself in this WhatsApp group all you need to do is a little more deeper convincing or go Gaga(carry belle or threaten suicide) that's if you really love the guy cuz ain't no two ways about it.

Lastly I hope say him hold am stand (money) na money in-laws full town now o nobody likes to suffer in this regime again

Sarah444:


I'm an oldie on nairaland, as far back as 2010

Moniker was created to remain anonymous

Is your picture, phone numbers and House Address on your profile? If no, then what other "Remain anonymous" are you talking of?

Nairaland is already an anonymous site, it's just some of u that make it complicated for yourselves..

Tbh, If I had checked your profile the first time I saw this thread, I won't have commented. I would take it as those fake stories being created here daily... U should've used your old main account to create this thread for large and clearer audience

Follow your heart girl….your happiness is all that matters.

VeryWickedSimp:


Seconded.

"thirded".