ufotty2001:

I so much love ur comment. My dear! A girl I want to get married to I have to rethink whether to go ahead or not reason because am the only one doing everything in the house. She is less concern.. like yesterday night I wasn't able to sleep I was just thinking of how to meet up financial obligations.. meanwhile she was busy sleeping

Evaluate her from what I said earlier, then make your decision based on that. have this in mind, and it is that men carry the burden of a relationship. For her, she is basically moving in, to put it bluntly. Women's burden is children.

So if she is someone that sees marriage as an escape from poverty, to slay till death or to pepper her single friends, then back off. To marry is to ally with someone competent, to make living in this sad world bearable. You may not be happy sometimes, it's part of the deal.

If people understand marriage like this, they won't be so desperate to jump into it. And remember this. In marriage, your responsibilities are non-negotiable. Your family (especially your kids) won't understand the loss of a job, or why they won't eat today.

Of course, I wish you all the best, but suffering and lack are the realities of many homes, and the kind of woman you marry will make or break you. If there is anything you should be ruthless about in choosing, its a wife. Be wise, my guy, be wise.

Cinema4d:
Is this a trap or it's true?

These days, If you are financially stable and you hail from a rich/comfortable background, You can marry early.

If you are struggling and you also hail from an Average/Poor background. Run away from marriage in order to avoid your Offsprings Cursing you endlessly.

The backbone of true and successful marriage is financial stability and Good Economy.

pansophist:


Evaluate her from what I said earlier, then make your decision based on that. have this in mind, and it is that men carry the burden of a relationship. For her, she is basically moving in, to put it bluntly. Women's burden is children.

So if she is someone that sees marriage as an escape from poverty, to slay till death or to pepper her single friends, then back off. To marry is to ally with someone competent, to make living in this sad world bearable. You may not be happy sometimes, it's part of the deal.

If people understand marriage like this, they won't be so desperate to jump into it. And remember this. In marriage, your responsibilities are non-negotiable. Your family (especially your kids) won't understand the loss of a job, or why they won't eat today.

Of course, I wish you all the best, but suffering and lack are the realities of many homes, and the kind of woman you marry will make or break you. If there is anything you should be ruthless about in choosing, its a wife. Be wise, my guy, be wise.

Thanks

MikeofAfrica:


Some weeks ago, I was discussing with a technician who came to repair my generator.
He confided in me that he has miss great opportunities to become wealthy due to his early marriage.

He and his friend once had the opportunity of working in a factory in Europe but his wife put to bed within that period through caesarean section hence he could not raise the funds to travel to Europe.

His friend is now very wealthy and lives with his family in Hamburg.

Early marriage has advantages and disadvantages. It's main advantage is that you will likely have kids at young age. It's main disadvantage is that it will limit your adventures . A poor man needs to be adventious before he can defeat poverty.

Hence it will be difficult for a poor man who marries early to become wealthy unless his wife is from a wealthy family that is ready to assist him.

Unfortunately most of these guys wouldn't listen but seems like i am starting to see little improvement on reduction of marriages these days, Courtesy of Buhari Hardship Pro Max.

Few years ago, I use to wonder why most of these poor guys are always suffering themselves and they easily bow to society pressure but overtime when i woke up i realized i am not like them in terms of "Intellect Aspect" because i have seen many half baked degree holders who still reason like a village man.

This thing is quite simple, Take your time and build yourself since you didn't come from a rich/comfortable background, pray for good spouse and good children. Nigerians need to do away with their "Archaic Mentality" It is one of the biggest problem the nation is facing.

scrolldown88:


Reap watin? Let me guess, from your kids right?
Why you guys see having children as investment beats me. It's so selfish. Your whole retirement plan is your children. As if them force you to born them.
The worst is people who are managing to eat getting plenty kids in the name of 'we don't know which one will take us out of poverty '
Rubbish.

so you think odetola or dangote's children can get their parents gifts abi... that's the joy of parenthood. When u grow old and ur children are surprising you in a good way u will be happy.

Nyascobar1414:


Sad thing is that men that have these Ideology in Nigeria are scarce..

When I think about what men do for women in the name of love or marriage, I conclude them as stupid beings..

90% of these men marry for sex..

How does a sane man trade commitment(long term) to sex(short term)

Your first paragraph is the absolute truth.

In Nigeria, I have seen many MEN supposed scholars, top executives, people of affluence saying things that keeps me wondering, How did these people got to this position et all. But overtime i realized it seems some of them knows what they are doing, They are Just playing to the tune of the system. And I can confidently tell you some of them are outrightly Just stupid but still they have the connections. Yesterday I was at an Eatery, I saw two men who brought their Side Chicks with them and the women were heavily entertained. I said in my mind that these guys are doing all these because of pvssy lol.

As a Man from an humbled background in nigeria, You dare not Challenge those Old SIMPs in power, Your Superiors, Your friends etc else most people will avoid you outrightly.

Never ever talk bad of Women among Men when in public or Criticize the Men about the Help they are rendering to Women, Never criticize your Superiors or Politicians when you are in public. Just pretend and flow with the Tide and see how you will keep excelling among those Ignoramuses.

Eventually When you get to the Top, You can then decide to grow Wings but still you need to stay on top of the Game.

Samantha123:
No, it's not.

okay

Cowbell521:
Sad thing is these are same men that rapes women and their daughters. They can offer a woman the post of Director or deny their mothers so they can have 2min sex with a strange woman

Lol you are very well informed and in touch with reality. Those sets of Men, Na them full NIGERIA now. A good example is your darling daddy who appointed a woman as DG of NDDC

I pity all the YOUNG MEN still trying to find their feet in this forsaken nation. I'm sure Some of those heartless and greedy SIMPs are here reading as Guests

elyte89:
I cant get married till I have 10million naira in my account,have at least two sure source of income b4 marriage...fine it’s possible one achieve dis, but most times ,when reality set in , one can even get married with just 100k in ones account ...and dt doesn’t mean u won’t cope or do well in the marriage life,everything na sense

It’s a two way thing

Oga Stop deceiving yourself and wake up to reality.

This is NIGERIA, and In this CURRENT NIGERIA Forget if you are from a poor background and you eventually didn't still achieve your basic financial stability in your late 30s and you decided to throw in the towel by getting married. Believe me, there is high probability you will remain poor because your productivity and agility will reduce. It takes special grace of the mighty to excel except you Cut Corners or receive special grace.

yrhuhfy113:


Like aristotle or socrates once said...

MAN KNOW THYSELF

Don't lie to yourself... look at your life and your chances...... your current earnings... is there any chance it will grow? is the lady working or having her own business or will your marriage be an orphanage? where all the responsibility falls on you?

So you have to judge yourself then decide which side of the coin you belong. Then you bare the consequences of your choice.

Hmmm see Wisdom.

But unfortunately most of those poor people who needs to see this are not on the Cyberspace. It's very unfortunate.

Ade1177:


Any lady that will not pay rent
Buy things to the house
Be able to pay school fees
Pay bills
Cook
pay for her hair
Even send me small change once a while

Exactly what I can do for her

I no dey marry anything in this economy

You marry having 5m,
You rent house, do wedding, start furnishing
Give birth
Money don reduce to 1.2m within 1yr

Small small it's going

Lol I love this

I guess you are from a humbled background. Very Few Guys from humble background are starting to see the pictures clearly now.

Meanwhile all those things you outlined up there, The Rich SIMPs and Some Guys will gladly double it and give it to the ladies for free.

Prettygirl200:
Yes it is, it's wise to marry early as a man or as a woman,

As a man u will be happy to see your child all grown when u are 40 years old at the same time sewing your grandchildren early before joining your ancestors and not not your first child clocking 15 when u are 60 years old.

Although marrying early is not for everyone as some don't make money on time, see a partner they are compatible with and so on.

GentleMen

Here Is the "Default Archaic Mentality" i was talking about which has plundered many gullible unfortunate men into the bottomless Abyss

Unfortunately many Men are still going to keep plying this unfortunate route until their eyes get opened.

Evolutionlove:


GentleMen

Here Is the "Default Archaic Mentality" i was talking about which has plundered many gullible unfortunate men into the bottomless Abyss

Unfortunately many Men are still going to keep plying this unfortunate route until their eyes get opened.

like I said, marrying early is not for everyone, but on the other hand if the resources are there and you see a partner you are compatible with, it's good to marry early, train your kids on time and relax when you are not too old. You can attest to the fact that am saying the truth.

JeffreyJunior:
He forgot the most critical aspect of that issue which is kids because the Nigerian man I know will immediately impregnate his wife without plans.

I'm never against marriage in a my form just that I hate to see people recycle poverty by bringing kids into the world without any plan for them except God will provide.

If you can feed yourself and your wife, no problem. Get married but please have your preek and her eggs frozen until you are able to feed little mouths.

Lol even the supposed half baked educated Nigerians doesn't even know what this is talkless of the stark illiterates

Before you know it, 3 Children don Surface

Evolutionlove:


Oga Stop deceiving yourself and wake up to reality.

This is NIGERIA, and In this CURRENT NIGERIA Forget if you are from a poor background and you eventually didn't still achieve your basic financial stability in your late 30s and you decided to throw in the towel by getting married. Believe me, there is high probability you will remain poor because your productivity and agility will reduce. It takes special grace of the mighty to excel except you Cut Corners or receive special grace.

We re literally saying d same thing...d reason for getting married so late in ur late 30’s or early 40’s is because of d reason u just stated up dere(finding ones feet financially),but if d person keeps trying hard in all legit ways and he doesn’t achieve dis aim, what will happen?

Won’t u just accept d reality and get married,abi u wan make dem call parent teachers association in a nursery school ur kid goes too and u will now attend such at d age of 60 ,

Except u don’t believe in d institution of marriage,I still stand on my point dt 99 percent ppu dt gets married late ,didn’t get to achieve dt finiancial feat but had no choice Dan to just marry like dt(I mean for those who still believe in d institution of marriage)

kudinkarfe:
When you marry early you will struggle at first but with time you will be stable, but when you wants to have everything before settling down, my brother you will become hottest bachelor in town.

Lol the 80s and Early 90s standard & Ideology when Nigeria was still working at least.

Many of you are still hallucinating and stuck in industrial age.

A lot of Men are in extreme poverty today because they still wanted to ply the route their BOOMER PARENTs towed and yet their parents weren't even successful but they managed to be okay because Nigeria was Working at least then. Make Una continue

I'do rather be the Hottest Bachelor living good in town than be a poor miserable married man living from hand to mouth in Trenches

Evolutionlove:


Oga Stop deceiving yourself and wake up to reality.

This is NIGERIA, and In this CURRENT NIGERIA Forget if you are from a poor background and you eventually didn't still achieve your basic financial stability in your late 30s and you decided to throw in the towel by getting married. Believe me, there is high probability you will remain poor because your productivity and agility will reduce. It takes special grace of the mighty to excel except you Cut Corners or receive special grace.

Make I even burst ur brain,even with a 250k salary ,A couple with a kid who earns such ,living in lagos of today’s harsh economy,will manage ni, Dey will be practically using d income to pay for basics like food,rent,shelter,after wards na little money go remain

No money to save to buy car, or even go on a simple date,i know is dt bad

Now tell me,aw many couple even earn such in a month to start with, very few

But for those who believe in d institution of marriage will go ahead and get married,hoping things will get better...and we av seen many cases where things actually turned out better


Dts y I doff my heart to our parents,aw much were Dey earning, yet Dey struggle and raise 5 or 6kids successfully (all graduates), aw Dey achieved such, I can’t say, but I am sure it would require some sacrifice,wc our generation of today can’t even pass through

elyte89:


Make I even burst ur brain,even with a 250k salary ,A couple with a kid who earns such ,living in lagos of today’s harsh economy,will manage ni, Dey will be practically using d income to pay for basics like food,rent,shelter,after wards na little money go remain

No money to save to buy car, or even go on a simple date,i know is dt bad

Now tell me,aw many couple even earn such in a month to start with, very few

But for those who believe in d institution of marriage will go ahead and get married,hoping things will get better...and we av seen many cases where things actually turned out better


Dts y I doff my heart to our parents,aw much were Dey earning, yet Dey struggle and raise 5 or 6kids successfully (all graduates), aw Dey achieved such, I can’t say, but I am sure it would require some sacrifice,wc our generation of today can’t even pass through

That's the Reality. Whenever I am in my car and i look through the tinted glass, the countenance i see on people on the street most especially mid-aged and elderly men is not always friendly at all. Most times i am always in prayer mode my car shouldn't break down in most public places in lagos.

Why would you be surprised that most of our parents nutured 10kids successfully then?

1.Was anyone paying Tution Fees in the 60s to early 90s? It's pratically free till you graduate. Even YABATECH was giving her students Bursary then and all educational expenses are being catered by the government.

2.How much was Foodstuffs, Shelter, et all then?

Why won't they bore 15 to 20 Children when Nigeria was a booming nation. Oga I no dey respect most of those old generations most especially the BOOMERS!!! because they had it very good between 60s and 90s. Na them still con even destroy the country sef. Check most of those who are in powers now and do research on when they were born.
Go read about the BOOMER GENERATIONS.

MikeofAfrica:

Hence it will be difficult for a poor man who marries early to become wealthy unless his wife is from a wealthy family that is ready to assist him.

And this my friend is the cause of generational poverty.

Careente7:
It’s a trap!

DaveHarry:

@Op it's a trap. Osho!

Rimsd:
A big trap, nothing you fit tell me...

Lol Guys dey Vex

yrhuhfy113:


Like I earlier stated.... NO MARRIAGE IS THE SAME.... you can't have it all. Did your father leave you with heavy wealth inheritance...? if NO, then you have to find which one works for you else go and do yahoooooplus and be rich so you have kids early and die young or you have them early and bring them into your karma with your ill gotten wealth. THE CHOICE IS YOURS

Problems begin when you are trying too hard not to see the reality of things. PLS BY THE WAY... what do you mean RAISING KIDS IN OLD AGE.. are you having a football team?
is OLD AGE NOT FROM 70? even if you marry at 40, your first child should be 30 by then and if you have gotten money first... the child should not be suffering so should have married before 30.

Statistics are simple, parents who became rich and married LATE(40+) GAVE BIRTH TO CHILDREN WHO MARRIED EARLY BECAUSE THE PARENTS DID THE FOUNDATIONAL WORK AHEAD FOR THE KIDS.... simple.


I don't think anyone needs to explain all these to you, its a no-brainer. Sit and plan your life according to your own vision. Simple. This is not school where you can copy

If 70% of Nigeria Population follow this Advice. I bet you POVERTY will be a thing of the past and It will be drastically reduced to the barest minimum.

But No, Most poor people want to see their great grandchildren playing in front of them before they clock 60years, They need children who will start catering for them by the time they clock 50years, They also don't want to keep paying school fees in their Late 40s and lastly their body will be too weak by then for the Task of nurturing a Child.

yrhuhfy113:


Shey una see wetin I dey talk.... MR ONE SIDE OF THE COIN HAS COME WITH MOTIVATION.... bros... your own is good.. YOU DO NOT KNOW THE GRACE YOU HAD FROM GOD... shey someone who entered univesity at 23 or 25 FOR the wrong course and had to switch to the right course and start afresh then graduated at 31 with 2-1 and then nysc at 32... remember he went to school with girls who are UNDER 26... so many of them are usually NOT understanding or serious with REAL LIFE TIME COMMITMENT.... after NYSC he needs a JOB that is requiring 4 years experience and under 35yrs old applicants....

BIKO, will you allow your own blood sister or cousin marry such a guy? will the future seem bright to you? which PARENT in this age will dash their daughter to such a guy

When you advice people, pls consider that NOT ALL FINGERS ARE EQUAL and remember that your level is someone's prayer point... MANY WHO MARRY LATE, DID NOT WISH TO... but this generation UNDERSTANDING GIRLS ARE RAREEEEEEEEEEEEEE.... veryyyyyyy. If movies do not influence them, peers would, parents would... go to shiloh... many of the girls there are not holding the pics of jobless broke hustlers... but of rich dudes that they want to marry.

Thank God for your own side of the coin, BUT I HAVE SEEN BOTH SIDES... so I have a broader perspective.

I have sen guys marry at 20+ struggle to have children till 40+... and I have seen 40+ give birth to twins and triplets. Pls let's be guided... LIFE IS THE OPPOSITE OF SCHOOL.... School will teach you before it tests you... LIFE WILL TESTS YOU, EXAM YOU then you will learn the lesson.


WITH ALL THESE SAID, WE HAVE NOT TALKED OF CURSESSS... VILLAGE PEOPLE HINDRANCES, etc... MANY PRETTY LADIES WITH GOOD HIGH PAYING JOBS are in this categories... no serious man comes for them.. and F.Y.I they are not proud ladies o... yet only WOMB SHIFTERS AND MARRIED MEN SEE THEM.... they have been covered in the spirit realm by a viel. If you like do not believe but go find strong alfas or strong men of God, then you may reconsider and understand LIFE IS SPIRITUAL.

its well

You are very correct.
Let me just add that many people who give this advice about marrying early before a man has found his feet financially do so from a place of the logical fallacy of survivorship bias. They tend to point to the exceptions while completely neglecting the failures (which most times make up the bulk of these cases).
That it worked for Mr A does not mean that is how it always goes for everybody. Mr A's case might have had grace (or luck if you please), hard work, privilege, leverage, connection or any number of other contributory factors to his success.
That is why I personally believe that everyone has his/her own race to run and it is unproductive and unwise to pressure oneself because of another person's life. Their own time and season is different from yours. Follow God's timetable for your own life.

GloriousGbola:


I have three children and I got married at 28 years. My oldest is now 15 years. Marry at 40 and you will still be thinking about school fees at 60,when you should be semi retired

The fact that your answer is yahoo plus or be born rich says everything there is to know about your thinking process in this matter.

There is nothing wrong with his thinking process, it's just a matter of different realities for different people which is why I'm yet to understand why you're riled up.

I've come across your posts enough on this forum to know you're not from an average/poor Nigerian family (even with your former moniker Ornicus).

Your background is educated, exposed, rich, replete with professionals if your posts are anything to go by: you had your tertiary education abroad and I'm sure at 28, you had a lot going for you thanks to the solid foundation you were born in and so it's not far-fetched to understand why you got married at that age.

However, there's a different reality for those born in the trenches who'll probably spend a larger part of their life avoiding/clawing out of poverty. Not everyone will have the same reasoning faculty as you thanks to varying factors such as environment, family, tribe, culture, education etc. So when someone says, they'd rather wait till 40 before they get married, it'd be more intelligent to understand why and their reasons for such statements rather than attacking them.

A 28 year old man from a "poor nigeria family" who gets married is just another link in his family's generational poverty. It'd take hard work, planning, an supportive partner and maybe a miracle for it not to be the case. Though I'll have to put it out there that I don't support yahoo yahoo.

Try to empathize rather than attack.

yrhuhfy113:


Shey una see wetin I dey talk.... MR ONE SIDE OF THE COIN HAS COME WITH MOTIVATION.... bros... your own is good.. YOU DO NOT KNOW THE GRACE YOU HAD FROM GOD... shey someone who entered univesity at 23 or 25 FOR the wrong course and had to switch to the right course and start afresh then graduated at 31 with 2-1 and then nysc at 32... remember he went to school with girls who are UNDER 26... so many of them are usually NOT understanding or serious with REAL LIFE TIME COMMITMENT.... after NYSC he needs a JOB that is requiring 4 years experience and under 35yrs old applicants....

BIKO, will you allow your own blood sister or cousin marry such a guy? will the future seem bright to you? which PARENT in this age will dash their daughter to such a guy

When you advice people, pls consider that NOT ALL FINGERS ARE EQUAL and remember that your level is someone's prayer point... MANY WHO MARRY LATE, DID NOT WISH TO... but this generation UNDERSTANDING GIRLS ARE RAREEEEEEEEEEEEEE.... veryyyyyyy. If movies do not influence them, peers would, parents would... go to shiloh... many of the girls there are not holding the pics of jobless broke hustlers... but of rich dudes that they want to marry.

Thank God for your own side of the coin, BUT I HAVE SEEN BOTH SIDES... so I have a broader perspective.

I have sen guys marry at 20+ struggle to have children till 40+... and I have seen 40+ give birth to twins and triplets. Pls let's be guided... LIFE IS THE OPPOSITE OF SCHOOL.... School will teach you before it tests you... LIFE WILL TESTS YOU, EXAM YOU then you will learn the lesson.


WITH ALL THESE SAID, WE HAVE NOT TALKED OF CURSESSS... VILLAGE PEOPLE HINDRANCES, etc... MANY PRETTY LADIES WITH GOOD HIGH PAYING JOBS are in this categories... no serious man comes for them.. and F.Y.I they are not proud ladies o... yet only WOMB SHIFTERS AND MARRIED MEN SEE THEM.... they have been covered in the spirit realm by a viel. If you like do not believe but go find strong alfas or strong men of God, then you may reconsider and understand LIFE IS SPIRITUAL.

its well

I always admire people who are in touch with reality. Not some daddy and mummy pet whose ground have been softened for. I think some of these guys who post here falls in that category. Most of them don't really know much about Life.

Personally i don't usually respect Wealthy/Rich peoples Offsprings except the humbled ones who are scarce in numbers. I usually respect their PARENTS and I also respect Hustlers who Ironed life out themselves.

Whenever some of those Stupid Kids, "I mean the mannerless ones" want to talk or rant whenever or wherever we come in contact, I usually shut them up instantly. I'm always like what do these Foools knows about life, If not for your parents, Na Ajegunle you for dey.

ufotty2001:

I so much love ur comment. My dear! A girl I want to get married to I have to rethink whether to go ahead or not reason because am the only one doing everything in the house. She is less concern.. Like yesterday night I wasn't able to sleep I was just thinking of how to meet up financial obligations.. meanwhile she was busy sleeping

Wetin concern Musa with Bible

yrhuhfy113:


Marry at 40 rich and your 15 years old will be managing one of your businesses. Stop making it seem like marrying LATE is in anyone's hands... IN THE BID OF MARRYING EARLY MANY HAVE MARRIED WRONG.

And for your information, I was careful enough not to tell you about my kids and my wife... because this is a simple educational post not a FBI interrogation. My family is based abroad and I work remotely, that's all. My view is because I am a counselor in a big church here in Nigeria and I have seen both sides of the coin.

REASONS FOR LATE MARRIAGE by Apostle Joshua Selman ON YOUTUBE.
will help you not be so myopic in your views

LIFE IS NOT A ONE WAY STREET... many who married early are following Joshua Selman who is not married and he is counseling their homes by wisdom and He is a billionaire... same with POJU oyemade who married in His 40s... See life is spiritual... MARRYING EARLY IS NOTHING TO BOAST ABOUT if you marry wrong... every body is different... some people don't get their life together on time... some are spiritually attacked hence the delay... everyone is different... THERE IS NO ONE RULE BOOK FOR ALL.

MAY GOD GIVE YOU UNDERSTANDING.

Thank You So Much!!!

Raalsalghul:


There is nothing wrong with his thinking process, it's just a matter of different realities for different people which is why I'm yet to understand why you're riled up.

I've come across your posts enough on this forum to know you're not from an average/poor Nigerian family (even with your former moniker Ornicus).

Your background is educated, exposed, rich, replete with professionals if your posts are anything to go by: you had your tertiary education abroad and I'm sure at 28, you had a lot going for you thanks to the solid foundation you were born in and so it's not far-fetched to understand why you got married at that age.

However, there's a different reality for those born in the trenches who'll probably spend a larger part of their life avoiding/clawing out of poverty. Not everyone will have the same reasoning faculty as you thanks to varying factors such as environment, family, tribe, culture, education etc. So when someone says, they'd rather wait till 40 before they get married, it's be more intelligent to understand why and their reasons for such statements rather than attacking them.

A 28 year old man from a "poor nigeria family" who gets married is just another link in his family's generational poverty. It'd take hard work, planning, an understanding partner and maybe a miracle for it not to be the case. Though I'll have to put it out there that I don't support yahoo yahoo.

1st off, my entire education was Nigeria.
Second off I had a middle /upper middle class childhood - not a wealthy one with inheritance etal

3rd I started working in 2002. I did not get married until 2006,when I got a well paying job.

I got married within 6 months of getting that job, much to the consternation of most of my department, who expected me to enjoy a big boy bachelor life for at least three or more years

For instance a fellow I met in the company who was senior to me got married like four or five years after I did

So sorry I would say you are off on most of your assumptions

I could have also said let me wait till I get into a managerial position. Let me wait until I have investments. Let me wait till I have land.

That is the vibe I am getting from a lot of these posts.

Parenting is hands on and seeing gray haired men with toddlers - you have to wonder who will actually raise the children. There is one like that living beside me. The man is probably 55 plus. He now has four children and I am wondering how many years of parenting are available to him. The money he has made is not going to raise those children

I also say this because I had an uncle who married a second wife when he was 50+ and watching him manage a new family when he should have been winding down was super cringey. As it is the man died with the kids still in secondary school.

Anyways to each his own

I actually deleted the other reply to my post as it is full of quasi religious mumbo jumbo and the post history of the poster was not particularly encouraging either.

Emu4life:

be like you don see small shege

Badt Guy

I don lafff so tey, Water dey comot for my eyes

Raalsalghul:


There is nothing wrong with his thinking process, it's just a matter of different realities for different people which is why I'm yet to understand why you're riled up.

I've come across your posts enough on this forum to know you're not from an average/poor Nigerian family (even with your former moniker Ornicus).

Your background is educated, exposed, rich, replete with professionals if your posts are anything to go by: you had your tertiary education abroad and I'm sure at 28, you had a lot going for you thanks to the solid foundation you were born in and so it's not far-fetched to understand why you got married at that age.

However, there's a different reality for those born in the trenches who'll probably spend a larger part of their life avoiding/clawing out of poverty. Not everyone will have the same reasoning faculty as you thanks to varying factors such as environment, family, tribe, culture, education etc. So when someone says, they'd rather wait till 40 before they get married, it's be more intelligent to understand why and their reasons for such statements rather than attacking them.

A 28 year old man from a "poor nigeria family" who gets married is just another link in his family's generational poverty. It'd take hard work, planning, an supportive partner and maybe a miracle for it not to be the case. Though I'll have to put it out there that I don't support yahoo yahoo.

Try to emphasize rather than attack.

The bolded is the reason why i don't take some these guys serious. They are not in touch with REALITY. Some will sit in their comfy homes and come on here to start vomiting nonsense and rubbish.

All these Spoilt Kids wey their parents no allow them feel the HellFire of Nigeria

if i can buy 2000 likes to click on this your comment , i will buy it and hope seun gives u an award than voting in the next Big Brother

yrhuhfy113:


It is true for some, trap for others.

NO TWO MARRIAGES ARE THE SAME OR FUNCTION BY THE SAME RULES..... everyone is different.

Positiveme2020:


This is the way to go , I am looking forward for this arrangement with any lady that is serious to get married.

Inside this CURRENT NIGERIA?

Well God help you in your quest. Na extremely Greedy & Wicked people full outside now.

Emola12:
Dat is bad idea dos foolish old men think say we still dey oldin days,,, wey you u go tell ur wife say nah watin u get be dis manage am like that if you go try am for now adays girls dey fit give you poison

Another Great Comrade who is very much in touch with REALITY.