A point will come in a man's life where the need for a good companion (a woman to build together) is all he seeks, during or after conquering himself, finances amongst other things.


By good I mean the lady should be be sound mentally, have respect and be morally clean to an honest and sincere extent.



Here's my worry, some can't strike meaningful conversation about thier ambition or life or something they want to commit to (I'll be more than glad to support), another set misinterpret your need for them to grow as a threat to push them out of thier comfort zone (but happiness comes by solving problems); and a life of meaning and tremendous value comes from growing, how can someone hate to be better? Isn't that a gift to your significant other?



Pls I need honest feedbacks, how can a man seek genuine relationship born out of meaning and reason with a lady that's willing to be reasonable?

@seun @seatrade @nazgul @ishilove @pocohunter and everyone seeking to contribute meaningfully.

The truth is,I know the kind of woman you seek(cos I am seeking one too),however,they'll come in packages/age range that you wouldn't appreciate ,as the youngsters we have now as ladies aren't worth it honestly, a huge chunk of them(exceptions exist but are most times out of reach).
Let's say you find these qualities in a 35yr old woman who is past her prime and signs of age has started to tell on her,
Will you commit to her for the long haul(marriage)?
This is where the problem is.
I guess we just have to make compromises after all.

Are You subtly asking for a wife on nairaland or is this another way to put women down… again?

SeaTrade:
The truth is,I know the kind of woman you seek(cos I am seeking one too),however,they'll come in packages/age range that you wouldn't appreciate ,as the youngsters we have now as ladies aren't worth it honestly, a huge chunk of them(exceptions exist but are most times out of reach).
Let's say you find these qualities in a 35yr old woman who is past her prime and signs of age has started to tell on her,
Will you commit to her for the long haul(marriage)?
This is where the problem is.
I guess we just have to make compromises after all.

Absolutely on compromises. Well I wouldn't mind age difference of someone two years my senior provided she consents but outside that it's a bit difficult. Thanks for your response, really appreciate it.

Dimples2022:
Are You subtly asking for a wife on nairaland or is this another way to put women down… again?

Lols, "subtly" where is that coming from? I'm practically shameless when it comes to what I want, my question is how/where can I spot it and get it?

I don't mind finding a wife on nairaland or anywhere provided she understands the need for us to become better versions of ourselves progressively and commit our lives to something bigger than us.

As for putting down women, that's a beautiful waste of my time. Antecedent of my dispositions here will tell you better.

Yusufisraelj:


Absolutely on compromises. Well I wouldn't mind age difference of someone two years my senior provided she consents but outside that it's a bit difficult. Thanks for your response, really appreciate it.

Have you ever been in a long term relationship with a woman?
Say like 4 years with proper proximity?When all initial excitement has faded,you all know yourselves in and out and all that?
The only thing that can keep you going at this point will probably be her youth and genuine innocence.She'd make genuine mistakes if she's young and this will make the journey adventurous,She'd not see life as serious as you do(genuine gaffes),spontaneity ,adventurous (even in bed),naive to some extent(for the homely ones oo) and less likely to manipulate and not very calculative.
These are some of the qualities a girl from a different generation as you will give you.
For their older counterparts, never!!
Overly calculative(will make your life boring and you'd trasition to suburban life quicker than you know and midlife crisis will come knocking almost immediately), zero innocence(over experience),high level manipulations,opinionated and so on...The only thing they can give you is a support system which you don't really need if you're not a megalomaniac and is hardworking.So what's the point?
If you have had this experience then I think you wouldn't even be considering dating someone in your age range,let alone someone older.
There's a reason why well to do men leave their CEO wives and go after youngings ,it's most times not just about sex.

@op I need a seed a very good seed. Send me a DM and sow the seed so I can tell thee of things to come.

This I have seen.

All of you should fry turkey, buy whiskey, eat, cross ur legs and rest!

Everytime love love love una dey tire!! una no dey think of the future? How to turn naija to china, how to make ronaldo win world cup b4 him retire, how to harvest the organs of people that want to vote tinubu , how to make government legalize arizona and canadian loud etc

Everywhere and everytime love love love, tufiakwa! Jobless kids

SeaTrade:
Have you ever been in a long term relationship with a woman?
Say like 4 years with proper proximity?When all initial excitement has faded,you all know yourselves in and out and all that?
The only thing that can keep you going at this point will probably be her youth and genuine innocence.She'd make genuine mistakes if she's young and this will make the journey adventurous,She'd not see life as serious as you do(genuine gaffes),spontaneity ,adventurous (even in bed),naive to some extent(for the homely ones oo) and less likely to manipulate and not very calculative.
These are some of the qualities a girl from a different generation as you will give you.
For their older counterparts, never!!
Overly calculative(will make your life boring and you'd trasition to suburban life quicker than you know and midlife crisis will come knocking almost immediately), zero innocence(over experience),high level manipulations,opinionated and so on...The only thing they can give you is a support system which you don't really need if you're not a megalomaniac and is hardworking.So what's the point?
If you have had this experience then I think you wouldn't even be considering dating someone in your age range,let alone someone older.
There's a reason why well to do men leave their CEO wives and go after youngings ,it's most times not just about sex.

Some of the best female relationships I’ve had has been with older women, not full blown relationships just sketchy entanglements, I don’t like telling ppl my experience with dem cos its hard for ppl to believe me, cos at that time i was very young I resemble 16 yr old pesin, sometimes I wonder how I managed to get myself involved with dem,communicating with dem started out as a joke, truth or dare games between i and my friends. These women were somewhat different and interesting, i felt advanced in age weneva I engaged with them, there was no stress from their end unlike my concurrent relationships with “girls “ All I’m saying is I might just keep on playing with these girls cos majority of them are confused, drowning in their minds, they seek out relationships with men as a savior to their mental problems when in reality they should be seeking out therapy.. I really dunno what’s wrong with their heads and crazy mindset few years I’ve dated these girls has been like therapy sessions, i dunno if they wanted me to hire a therapist for dem or turn me into a therapist, I don’t know y they saw it as my job to fix them. But I’m never doing that again I swear, I’ll just keep on playing around and if I change my mind I might settle for a much more older woman

We’ll be like kris jenner and corey gamble, no marriage, still together over a decade, cos she’s older, more mature, understanding, has been thru life so she knows when to stfu, patient, a great manager and financial expert. And still beautiful

I wanted to quote people on this thread but I see this is a verbal self-service so I won’t interpret!

Modified: self what Bruv! I said Wa!k!

SeaTrade:

.So what's the point?
If you have had this experience then I think you wouldn't even be considering dating someone in your age range,let alone someone older.
There's a reason why well to do men leave their CEO wives and go after youngings ,it's most times not just about sex.

True, when a man is completely accomplished he seeks to explore youthful experiences, I think things that reminds him of his younger self and the beauty that comes with it.


But kindly indulge me for a bit, I do design's of military defense items, a touch of chaos an environment of work, for me stability is something I cherish, hence why I like lady's within my age range, I'm 30 so a lady of 32 who's reasonable will do, I believe during the course of the relationship we will outline our fantasies and explorations, if love relationship means anything is putting the other person's interest before yours. Provided a lady is teachable which is a product of respect, which should show in her attitude, I believe meaningful experiences should come out of that and manipulation should not even be in such environment. I'm quick to notice those vices in a lady and I draw boundaries around such people, my thinking is that there are good people within every ages, my challenge is just finding a reasonable one who knows what she wants and is willing to make the relationship work.

Yusufisraelj:


True, when a man is completely accomplished he seeks to explore youthful experiences, I think things that reminds him of his younger self and the beauty that comes with it.


But kindly indulge me for a bit, I do design's of military defense items, a touch of chaos an environment of work, for me stability is something I cherish, hence why I like lady's within my age range, I'm 30 so a lady of 32 who's reasonable will do, I believe during the course of the relationship we will outline our fantasies and explorations, if love relationship means anything is putting the other person's interest before yours. Provided a lady is teachable which is a product of respect, which should show in her attitude, I believe meaningful experiences should come out of that and manipulation should not even be in such environment. I'm quick to notice those vices in a lady and I draw boundaries around such people, my thinking is that there are good people within every ages, my challenge is just finding a reasonable one who knows what she wants and is willing to make the relationship work.

If older women is what you seek,there's an excess supply of them looking for stable men like you.
Go to churches,shiloh,school reunions,business meetings,shopping malls on Saturday mornings,parks on weekends, gym,etc...
But date them first,Goodluck...
There's more to a union than stability(which only comes sef after you do their bidding,hence fake) and pretense.You'll only have the peace when you Bend to their will.
Bro ,go find small girl weh go fear and respect you by natural instinct and be her hero,all you have to do is provide and you take your mantle.
And providing for a small girl sef is even easier compared to their older,stabler counterparts.
An iPhone for your young wife will be appreciated way more than buying a commute car for your older woman.Means nothing to her unless you get ned type of money to buy her G wagon.
Not to talk of marrying someone you can't even have control over,If she say she want go club ,you go fit deny?
Higher chances of other niggas fucking your older,uncontrollable wife than the youngling weh dey even fear you to start with.
No be the one weh no go even rate you because she will always be comparing you subconciously to the plethora of exes she has amassed over the years,which some may even be better than you and destroy your self worth and under appreciate your achievements.
If na support system you want ,good and fine.
If you be man on your own,no try am!!!
This thing weh you dey find weh no loss in the name of old woman,when the results start to come out,I hope you ready for am.
And their libido is diminishing too,hope you know?
Cheers.

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SeaTrade:
If older women is what you seek,there's an excess supply of them looking for stable men like you.
Go to churches,shiloh,school reunions,business meetings,shopping malls on Saturday mornings,parks on weekends, gym,etc...
But date them first,Goodluck...
There's more to a union than stability(which only comes sef after you do their bidding,hence fake) and pretense.You'll only have the peace when you Bend to their will.
Bro ,go find small girl weh go fear and respect you by natural instinct and be her hero,all you have to do is provide and you take your mantle.
And providing for a small girl sef is even easier compared to their older,stabler counterparts.
An iPhone for your young wife will be appreciated way more than buying a commute car for your older woman.Means nothing to her unless you get ned type of money to buy her G wagon.
Not to talk of marrying someone you can't even have control over,If she say she want go club ,you go fit deny?
Higher chances of other niggas fucking your older,uncontrollable wife than the youngling weh dey even fear you to start with.
No be the one weh no go even rate you because she will always be comparing you subconciously to the plethora of exes she has amassed over the years,which some may even be better than you and destroy your self worth and under appreciate your achievements.
If na support system you want ,good and fine.
If you be man on your own,no try am!!!
This thing weh you dey find weh no loss in the name of old woman,when the results start to come out,I hope you ready for am.
And their libido is diminishing too,hope you know?
Cheers.

Lols, I like the frankness sincerely, woman way we no fit agree on issues na big red flag, go clubbing no way, I no be that kind person self.

Sure thing, dating will always bring out the realness in relationships but one thing that has never failed is that if someone is false with time you'll know, bkos life itself has designed falsehood not to last with time.

I'm not opposed to younger ladies or even older ones, na just reasonable one I just day find. It seems you have preference for younger ones though.

Yeah goodluck to us all.

FalseProphet1:
@op I need a seed a very good seed. Send me a DM and sow the seed so I can tell thee of things to come.

This I have seen.

Lols, prophet day first prophesy make e come to past, and God himself na him day direct people to sow to him not him looking for money. I day look you with double glasses like this.

Senomie:
All of you should fry turkey, buy whiskey, eat, cross ur legs and rest!

Everytime love love love una dey tire!! una no dey think of the future? How to turn naija to china, how to make ronaldo win world cup b4 him retire, how to harvest the organs of people that want to vote tinubu , how to make government legalize arizona and canadian loud etc

Everywhere and everytime love love love, tufiakwa! Jobless kids

You see learn to articulate things before you make depositions.

Not everyone is at the same point in life, someone is in love already, someone else is trying to find love and someone else isn't interested all together.

On a forum like this you want everyone to find love at the same time? Go to politics section if you're tired of romance.

Believe me when I say I have seen people who just don't want a better life

Dimples2022:
I wanted to quote people on this thread but I see this is a verbal self-service so I won’t interpret!

Modified: self what Bruv! I said Wa!k!

What are you trying to say? If you have a perspective then let see it? Cryptic messages hardly resembles healthy discuss.

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SeaTrade:
If older women is what you seek,there's an excess supply of them looking for stable men like you.
Go to churches,shiloh,school reunions,business meetings,shopping malls on Saturday mornings,parks on weekends, gym,etc...
But date them first,Goodluck...
There's more to a union than stability(which only comes sef after you do their bidding,hence fake) and pretense.You'll only have the peace when you Bend to their will.
Bro ,go find small girl weh go fear and respect you by natural instinct and be her hero,all you have to do is provide and you take your mantle.
And providing for a small girl sef is even easier compared to their older,stabler counterparts.
An iPhone for your young wife will be appreciated way more than buying a commute car for your older woman.Means nothing to her unless you get ned type of money to buy her G wagon.
Not to talk of marrying someone you can't even have control over,If she say she want go club ,you go fit deny?
Higher chances of other niggas fucking your older,uncontrollable wife than the youngling weh dey even fear you to start with.
No be the one weh no go even rate you because she will always be comparing you subconciously to the plethora of exes she has amassed over the years,which some may even be better than you and destroy your self worth and under appreciate your achievements.
If na support system you want ,good and fine.
If you be man on your own,no try am!!!
This thing weh you dey find weh no loss in the name of old woman,when the results start to come out,I hope you ready for am.
And their libido is diminishing too,hope you know?
Cheers.

@ bolded, you mean stabilizer

I find it weird whenever I see guys trying to upgrade a girl to their taste. The problem with this is that your efforts would always meet stiff resistance regardless of now Noble your intentions are. Constant stiff resistance would lead to regular quarrelling, which would make her seek comfort elsewhere leaving you heartbroken.

My advice is that you look for someone that matches your taste or at least ticks 70% of your boxes. If you want a business oriented girl, keep searching until you find her. Don't settle for a lazy or materialistic one and try to change her because she's good looking. Believe me you would fall and end up tagging all girls bad.

See relationship like a market where you make up your mind to get a black polo shirt, once you get to the market, you'll see various colours that are even better looking than the black you had in mind. But because you've made up your mind that it's black you want, you can leave the shop of the dealer without look back and move to the next shop if he doesn't have what you came for.

Be determined to pursue your taste. Never settle for less.

Men falling love Failed men..

A sane man should only like a woman...
Love will make you vulnerable.. Sh!t will get you killed..

As a man, seek to be respected or feared..
Hollywood has done a whole lotta sh!t to you guys..

Nazgul:
I find it weird whenever I see guys trying to upgrade a girl to their taste. The problem with this is that your efforts would always meet stiff resistance regardless of now Noble your intentions are. Constant stiff resistance would lead to regular quarrelling, which would make her seek comfort elsewhere leaving you heartbroken.

My advice is that you look for someone that matches your taste or at least ticks 70% of your boxes. If you want a business oriented girl, keep searching until you find her. Don't settle for a lazy or materialistic one and try to change her because she's good looking. Believe me you would fall and end up tagging all girls bad.

See relationship like a market where you make up your mind to get a black polo shirt, once you get to the market, you'll see various colours that are even better looking than the black you had in mind. But because you've made up your mind that it's black you want, you can leave the shop of the dealer without look back and move to the next shop if he doesn't have what you came for.

Be determined to pursue your taste. Never settle for less.

Thanks Nazgul, quite a piece.

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The truth is,I know the kind of woman you seek(cos I am seeking one too),however,they'll come in packages/age range that you wouldn't appreciate ,as the youngsters we have now as ladies aren't worth it honestly, a huge chunk of them(exceptions exist but are most times out of reach).
Let's say you find these qualities in a 35yr old woman who is past her prime and signs of age has started to tell on her,
Will you commit to her for the long haul(marriage)?
This is where the problem is.
I guess we just have to make compromises after all.

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Yusufisraelj:




Pls I need honest feedbacks, how can a man seek genuine relationship born out of meaning and reason with a lady that's willing to be reasonable?

@seun @seatrade @nazgul @ishilove @pocohunter and everyone seeking to contribute meaningfully.

By meeting the right kind of lady.
Date a good girl and you ll know within few weeks.

Goodlady:

By meeting the right kind of lady.
Date a good girl and you ll know within few weeks.

What makes a good girl in your opinion?

Yusufisraelj:


What makes a good girl in your opinion?

A Good Girl is a Matured Girl who Understands Her Worlds and Responded Adequately to the Requirements to Making a Success out of it without Wrecking Others !