Let em face their problems!
Apparently they like to live above their means…..

kennybabs1980:
His wife's family no dey give shishi. To be fair to the wife's family, I heard that the father in law, a secondary school vice principal also warned them against those stupid investments which they didn't heed. Where will a school vice-principal whose salary is not been paid regularly get such money? The wife is seriously avoiding me now because of her past mischievous attitudes to me. Very arrogant girl.

Simply ignore them back

kennybabs1980:
My younger brother (half brother) and his wife believes so much in online investments. I called him and advised him seriously against such phantom businesses last year July but he didn't take my advise. His wife even insulted me at a time because of the advise. At that time he was into a particular one called Kala. He collected money from people to the tune of N9.6million in the name of trying to help them invest in Kala. The investment went under and he is now using family members to pressurize me to assist him especially to secure a loan from a particular coop society I belong to so that he can pay off four of the people he help to invest who are seriously troubling his life with police and thugs.
I am not willing to do this under any condition. I have told him to sell off our late dad's landed property if he can get a buyer but people are offering peanuts and two of our sisters (his own full sibs) are insisting on getting their own share immediately it is sold, one even said she didn't send him on online investment. If he can get buyer for the property, I can help talk to our other siblings but these two, no way! How can I help this stobborn brother without hurting myself?

Help him get good buyer for the land. If those two women say they want their cut, they deserve it, it is their inheritance.
Don't stand him for him to take a loan, unless you know you can pay the money for them if they can't meet up... I'm sure he has learnt his mistake, please stand with him on this... He himself should have what he can sell off! Cars, lands, cloths just to get off this..talk to the one in Canada to help in whatever way... If you lost your brother in this shiiit, you might never get over it, especially because you know you could have helped..... As for the wife, she is not your relative, so ignore her be vobcer about your brother who is your relative .

Lol how will he pay back the money?
Your brother is gone. I doubt he will ever be able to pay the people. They will move on eventually. Don't doom yourself along with him. Some people are destined to lose their money at a point in their lives. If you help him borrow you might never rise again from the trouble ahead

Whatever you do don't

1 Don't take loan from your cooperative to give them,

2. Don't act as guarantor to anything.


You guys can try to sell the land, everybody must get their own share, he should use his share to pay what can be paid.


They will be fine.

EmahBoss:



Help him get good buyer for the land. If those two women say they want their cut, they deserve it, it is their inheritance.
Don't stand him for him to take a loan, unless you know you can pay the money for them if they can't meet up... I'm sure he has learnt his mistake, please stand with him on this... He himself should have what he can sell off! Cars, lands, cloths just to get off this..talk to the one in Canada to help in whatever way... If you lost your brother in this shiiit, you might never get over it, especially because you know you could have helped..... As for the wife, she is not your relative, so ignore her be vobcer about your brother who is your relative .

Thank you good people. We are almost getting a good deal on the land now. Its a 6.5ha farmland along the Akure-Owo-Benin Expressway in Ondo State, with scanty oil palm trees which have been fetching us palm oil every year since Papa died 11 years ago. Someone is offering something not too bad. His two sisters will get their shares immediately, they too claimed to have assisted him in their own little ways before and can't afford to part with their money again, my siblings from my mum's side said he will have to engage a lawyer and police so that they can borrow him their share which he must repay. My brother in Canada is not ready to help at all, he dash him his own share of the land, he told me today that apart from the car saga, he has helped him 3 other times without telling anybody. He is not willing to help him again. He said he too is battling with mortgage payment over there and will not be ready to use his money to help an unrepentant gambler anymore.
Things seems to be taking shape for him anyway, I am hopeful that he'll be out of the wahala latest month end.
Thank you everybody, it is good when we are surrounded by wise and careful siblings. This one na one year, one trouble.

Allow him to go to prison if not he will not learn from his mistakes

Quite saddening

kennybabs1980:
My younger brother (half brother) and his wife believes so much in online investments. I called him and advised him seriously against such phantom businesses last year July but he didn't take my advise. His wife even insulted me at a time because of the advise.



How can I help this stobborn brother without hurting myself?

Don't help him with any loan. Don't borrow a kobo anywhere for him.


If you have some money, you can help him.


But don't borrow for him. Prov 4 or 5 condemns that. He will mock you and it might bring problems.


Let him suffer his Kala. All money doublers have thief eye and are vocated to suffer loss.

kennybabs1980:
My younger brother (half brother) and his wife believes so much in online investments. I called him and advised him seriously against such phantom businesses last year July but he didn't take my advise. His wife even insulted me at a time because of the advise.

At that time he was into a particular one called Kala. He collected money from people to the tune of N9.6million in the name of trying to help them invest in Kala. The investment went under and he is now using family members to pressurize me to assist him especially to secure a loan from a particular coop society I belong to so that he can pay off four of the people he help to invest who are seriously troubling his life with police and thugs.

I am not willing to do this under any condition. I have told him to sell off our late dad's landed property if he can get a buyer but people are offering peanuts and two of our sisters (his own full sibs) are insisting on getting their own share immediately it is sold, one even said she didn't send him on online investment. If he can get buyer for the property, I can help talk to our other siblings but these two, no way!

How can I help this stobborn brother without hurting myself?

if u can help him pls do,if he had succeeded the glory would have been for the entire family.I am also going through a similar life struggle as no family member seems to support my ventures but each time I make money I put smile on their faces.In this life we must learn to support ourselves.

Kobicove:


Every family has a useless, irresponsible, good-for-nothing sibling a.k.a the black sheep.

The best way to treat the black sheep of the family is to completely ignore him and let him destroy himself if he so wishes!

not every family lol

OP, there's a clear-cut difference between "advise" and "advice".

"Advise" is the verb or "doing word" that describes the act or process of giving an "advice", which happens to be the noun. You cannot use both interchangeably, circumstances irrespective.

Finally, nothing concern me with you and your brother with una problems. Just tell him to vote wisely come February 25th.

kennybabs1980:
My younger brother (half brother) and his wife believes so much in online investments. I called him and advised him seriously against such phantom businesses last year July but he didn't take my advise. His wife even insulted me at a time because of the advise.

At that time he was into a particular one called Kala. He collected money from people to the tune of N9.6million in the name of trying to help them invest in Kala. The investment went under and he is now using family members to pressurize me to assist him especially to secure a loan from a particular coop society I belong to so that he can pay off four of the people he help to invest who are seriously troubling his life with police and thugs.

I am not willing to do this under any condition. I have told him to sell off our late dad's landed property if he can get a buyer but people are offering peanuts and two of our sisters (his own full sibs) are insisting on getting their own share immediately it is sold, one even said she didn't send him on online investment. If he can get buyer for the property, I can help talk to our other siblings but these two, no way!

How can I help this stobborn brother without hurting myself?

Opps is not KALA but CALA.

I equally invested in it.

But it crushed Two weeks after.

Thou my loss is not much 280k.

But have learnt my lessons.

kennybabs1980:
My younger brother (half brother) and his wife believes so much in online investments. I called him and advised him seriously against such phantom businesses last year July but he didn't take my advise. His wife even insulted me at a time because of the advise.

At that time he was into a particular one called Kala. He collected money from people to the tune of N9.6million in the name of trying to help them invest in Kala. The investment went under and he is now using family members to pressurize me to assist him especially to secure a loan from a particular coop society I belong to so that he can pay off four of the people he help to invest who are seriously troubling his life with police and thugs.

I am not willing to do this under any condition. I have told him to sell off our late dad's landed property if he can get a buyer but people are offering peanuts and two of our sisters (his own full sibs) are insisting on getting their own share immediately it is sold, one even said she didn't send him on online investment. If he can get buyer for the property, I can help talk to our other siblings but these two, no way!

How can I help this stobborn brother without hurting myself?

How much will u pay nairalanders for advising you? Cause this is supposed to be a family matter between ur stubborn brother and urself.

kennybabs1980:
My younger brother (half brother) and his wife believes so much in online investments. I called him and advised him seriously against such phantom businesses last year July but he didn't take my advise. His wife even insulted me at a time because of the advise.

At that time he was into a particular one called Kala. He collected money from people to the tune of N9.6million in the name of trying to help them invest in Kala. The investment went under and he is now using family members to pressurize me to assist him especially to secure a loan from a particular coop society I belong to so that he can pay off four of the people he help to invest who are seriously troubling his life with police and thugs.

I am not willing to do this under any condition. I have told him to sell off our late dad's landed property if he can get a buyer but people are offering peanuts and two of our sisters (his own full sibs) are insisting on getting their own share immediately it is sold, one even said she didn't send him on online investment. If he can get buyer for the property, I can help talk to our other siblings but these two, no way!

How can I help this stobborn brother without hurting myself?

Listen and listen attentively.let him carry his cross .don't do more than yourself b4 you inherit loan wahala . Life need to teach such people lesson .

kenedyx:
He has to learn how to handle his finances. Only experience can teach him so let him bear his cross. You can be there for him in other ways in terms of advice and other more critical needs.

Let everyone have their equal share from proceeds of the land sale. Then anyone who wants to can assist him.

Your bro still has a lot to learn in terms of accountability and you have to stop petting him. You don't take people's monies and play Ponzi with it.

I agree with you bro. Let me hear it.

Do anything you can to help him but don’t take loans on his behalf.

Is Following The Thread

kennybabs1980:
My younger brother (half brother) and his wife believes so much in online investments. I called him and advised him seriously against such phantom businesses last year July but he didn't take my advise. His wife even insulted me at a time because of the advise.

At that time he was into a particular one called Kala. He collected money from people to the tune of N9.6million in the name of trying to help them invest in Kala. The investment went under and he is now using family members to pressurize me to assist him especially to secure a loan from a particular coop society I belong to so that he can pay off four of the people he help to invest who are seriously troubling his life with police and thugs.

I am not willing to do this under any condition. I have told him to sell off our late dad's landed property if he can get a buyer but people are offering peanuts and two of our sisters (his own full sibs) are insisting on getting their own share immediately it is sold, one even said she didn't send him on online investment. If he can get buyer for the property, I can help talk to our other siblings but these two, no way!

How can I help this stobborn brother without hurting myself?

My guy, you can't do anything, let him carry his cross.

What else do you think she's gat??

Justbehave:
His wife that was insulting you because of the advice you gave him. What's her contributions towards that? Abi she has only mouth to insult?

kennybabs1980:

Thank you Bros, he's a very naughty guy and his wife is not helping matter. Always minding high things. This woman once pushed him to buy a Mercedes-Benz GLK on a long payment plan, they almost lost the car to the dealer when they were not paying regularly until my younger brother in Canada had to help him out. The boy in Canada is not even picking his calls nor replying his messages now. This guy has always been the most problematic member of our family.

R u kiddin me. And u r thinking of helping him. My dear let him suffer for it. That way he will learn. By helping him u r not doing good. They will still say what have u done for them.

kennybabs1980:
His wife's family no dey give shishi. To be fair to the wife's family, I heard that the father in law, a secondary school vice principal also warned them against those stupid investments which they didn't heed. Where will a school vice-principal whose salary is not been paid regularly get such money? The wife is seriously avoiding me now because of her past mischievous attitudes to me. Very arrogant girl.

I’m wondering why you still want to help him?
Why you Dey drink paracetamol for another ungrateful person headache?
You no get your own bukata? Or all is rosy for you ni?

I'm just too paranoid to invest in online businesses no matter how enticing they appear. The only one that almost got me was MMM because of its popularity but I was lucky that I that I delayed my investment decision.

That is because you have always indulged. If you allow him bear the consequences of this one he will learn n take caution always. I had a friends junior brother living with me cos the brother was abroad n I noticed he was so into MMM back then I advised him to cease the operation immediately when I realized he did not I told him I am saying this because I know when it happens he will come running to me n I will gladly not help me in anyway at all.

3 month down the lane he called to inform MMM as collapsed but he was intelligent enough not to come at me for any help whatsoever.

kennybabs1980:

Thank you Bros, he's a very naughty guy and his wife is not helping matter. Always minding high things. This woman once pushed him to buy a Mercedes-Benz GLK on a long payment plan, they almost lost the car to the dealer when they were not paying regularly until my younger brother in Canada had to help him out. The boy in Canada is not even picking his calls nor replying his messages now. This guy has always been the most problematic member of our family.

kennybabs1980:
His wife's family no dey give shishi. To be fair to the wife's family, I heard that the father in law, a secondary school vice principal also warned them against those stupid investments which they didn't heed. Where will a school vice-principal whose salary is not been paid regularly get such money? The wife is seriously avoiding me now because of her past mischievous attitudes to me. Very arrogant girl.

public secondary school or private?

kennybabs1980:
My younger brother (half brother) and his wife believes so much in online investments. I called him and advised him seriously against such phantom businesses last year July but he didn't take my advise. His wife even insulted me at a time because of the advise.

At that time he was into a particular one called Kala. He collected money from people to the tune of N9.6million in the name of trying to help them invest in Kala. The investment went under and he is now using family members to pressurize me to assist him especially to secure a loan from a particular coop society I belong to so that he can pay off four of the people he help to invest who are seriously troubling his life with police and thugs.

I am not willing to do this under any condition. I have told him to sell off our late dad's landed property if he can get a buyer but people are offering peanuts and two of our sisters (his own full sibs) are insisting on getting their own share immediately it is sold, one even said she didn't send him on online investment. If he can get buyer for the property, I can help talk to our other siblings but these two, no way!

How can I help this stobborn brother without hurting myself?

Bro save ur head. Do not collect any loan on his behalf cos it will end in bloody fight. If u have any spare cash, u can give him that if not, dey in peace with urself by ignoring him.

Where is his wife?

If you give him the money, how to you think he will pay you back?

Collecting other people's money to do punzi?

Every choices comes with consequences.

Let him bear the consequence of his stubbornness.

Kennybabs1980,

Please don’t stand as surety or help him secure any loan from anywhere.

People like that are like gamblers and are addicted to quick money schemes

Please don’t for your sanity

Empathize with him as much as you can but DO NOT I repeat DO NOT secure a loan on his behalf.

But if you have cash to help you can assist, otherwise say sorry to him whenever he calls

If i am the one, even if i would help him, i would make him feel the pressure first, make e learn small lesson, and i would not give him complete even if i have in abundance....one thing i have discovered is that helping people when they need help always make some take you for granted and not value such help. Some become so relax and do things anyhow because they know someone will be there for them if they mess up....
Na greed dey cause all this kind things, looking for extra profit....u go con take risk, collect people money......infact make dem first beat am small b4 e go get rescue na im fit am

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Allow your younger brother face his warrant, if he gets to the police or law court, he will simply be asked how he plans to repay the money, he can then say he will be paying 100k every month or whatever amount he knows he can afford to pay unfailingly.

Please do not risk your life or reputation for your brother, if anything happens to you that brother of yours will live his life without issues.

#justmyopinion

Is he a bank or finance company for investors to give him that much. Advise him to offer to be paying back in bits, even if it's 5k per month he can afford & he should get a good lawyer for protection. I don't know if I should be more angry with him or those who gave him money.