Omoawoke:


The husband of course. This woman is a wicked woman the type that your parents warned you about. I pray her sons marry the kind of monster she is

ColdHunter:


Yes he is rich. But she isnt exactly struggling too as she can afford a good lawyer. Secondly, she isnt really looking for full custody as she wants him to be a full part of their lives. I'm basically wondering if there are precautionary measures she needs to take before officially serving him

Omoawoke:

Thief !!! Na the money dey enter your eyes.

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KingMiike:
■When people seek to establish case of emotional and especially "verbal" abuse against women, I wonder! Between man and woman, who sabi use their mouth pass? I laugh. So, the man has being the one use his mouth to run her down and causing emotional abuse? Wait till a woman abuses you. If you are not emotional stable, you can jump in the lagoon.
■ Anyways, find peaceful way to solve the problem Separating from her husband and raising the children alone will make the children likely hate their father. This is why we have feminists all over the place now. Let's stop polaring and weaponising sexes directly or indirectly.

bonnyhope:
Who established the biz for her?

Dougyclan:
In her case all she needs now is what we call (senyi kai) it will cost her 4000 to put together, that man will wash her clothes if she wants. 09034568201

bonnyhope:
It might not result to bullying just that th man may retrieve all his assets(business) from her - African way.

In Africa, if a woman rejects the husband, she is equally ready to submit everything the man has given her

KingMiike:
When people seek to establish case of emotional and especially "verbal" abuse against women, I wonder! Between man and woman, who sabi use their mouth pass? I laugh.

So, the man has being the one use his mouth to run her down and causing emotional abuse? Wait till a woman abuses you. If you are not emotional stable, you can jump in the lagoon.
Anyways, find peaceful way to solve the problem Separating from her husband and raising the children alone will make the children likely hate their father. This is why we have feminists all over the place now. Let's stop polaring and weaponising sexes directly or indirectly.

chris51:
Do people file for separation? If you want to separate, you separate, you separate then file for divorce. Don't you have relations to discuss with? This is really a family matter. In a decent set up, when a lady moves out of her husband's house, she goes to her parents.
■Both families usually intervene first, before filling for anything.

Emaprince:
■Men are regularly verbally abused by women. But women won't take what they dish out. Imagine men suing for divorce due to abuses from their wives. There won't be any married couple again.
■ I will rather advice men to learn to verbally abuse back a disrespectful wife instead of beating her up.

Kingcalls:
Women always instigating divorce....if men should start to react by divorcing women that make them unhappy, then 99% of marriages will collapse

akpunda86:
■ In all love rules I respect seoerated and divorced couples not about sex infact my guy dat his family dey here while he de outside I asked him how they cope.
I stayed 6 months away from home here in Naija,wow I miss my kids ,my wife ,my dogs,my home infact was home sic even a beautiful side chic can't fill up the vaccum,iv to employ people to continue while I monitor from base.
■ Abeg divorce, seoerated not good for homes,noting like a family

Trapnews:
■ The situation can still.be managed but it is clear that this one has refused to understand what will happen to the kids, she is just concerned about herself, why is it hard for women to consider children when taking their selfish decisions? Because of preeq, you wan leave your children. May God judge you and your cousin, every marriage get.
■ their challenge, una dey look.for perfect marriage, nonsense!

ColdHunter:
I have a cousin who has been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.



Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.

Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?

Experienced people should please contribute.

okeke6969:


Leave all this your argument and follow the information I gave you. After all, you requested for help. You people sef.

Kobojunkie:
I wouldn't recommend that either as the kids are at the age where they might be directly impacted by such exposure.

ColdHunter:
I have a cousin who has been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.

Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.

Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?

Experienced people should please contribute.

ukandi1:
No matter how discrete she tries to make this, the man's financial standing would always make this get really messy.

ColdHunter:
I have a cousin who has been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.

Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.

Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?

Experienced people should please contribute.

komzy589:

You need to be careful. I’m sure you know about the man named FFK-Femi Fanni Kayode. If you followed the case he had with his ex-wife, you will probably understand why you need to thread carefully. She claimed abuses in court but couldn’t reasonably prove it, so the court denied her custody of her children. She was permitted to visit the children which FFK always somehow restricted her from doing.
Rich men are not fools o. Giving out their money may seem very easy but they sure know how to deal with issues like this in a way that favors them.
Personally, I think your friend is tired of the man and wants separation, not necessary because of what the man did to her. It’s up to her to stay in the marriage and keep her children or leave and ultimately lose them.

ColdHunter:


Did I steal the destiny of the man that sired you?

ColdHunter:


One sided story how? Did I say the man is a devil or that my cousin is a saint. The question is basically how to get a peaceful seperation without fear of being bullied

geraldo077:
Dear Op,

I will advise that she should hire a lawyer and seek for the dissolution of the marriage in court so they can be separated in the eyes of the law.

Her lawyer should also ask that she should take custody of the kids but her husband will be in charge of the kids general welfare and also have access to see them weekly or monthly.

He being rich has nothing to do with this case, she's fed up and she wants to leave. She also need to present proof of the verbal assault.

Socratiz:
She doesn't need a lawyer especially because this is happening in Lagos state.

There is a Lagos State Agency she can contact. The government will intervene and the man will not be able to harass her unless he wants he wants to taste prison beans.

I am not sure whether the information should be shared on a public forum like this.

You can send me a mail so that I give you the necessary information

bonnyhope:


Who established the biz for her?

nedekid:

How are you sure he did not become rich through her or her family imput? You cannot be sure.
I know a lady with currently stinkingly rich hubby. When they married, he moved in with her. Drove her cars for years until he was promoted at work to server under one current oga in charge of naira. Now niggar is misbehaving big time.
Hmm, and who told you stories don't end well? It might be rough at first but some of the stabilize and do quite well. I know one that thought he was ontop then, left the lady with 3 kids and moved on flaunting the new wife.
Omo, 10 years or so now, wife extablished abroad, peak of her career, leaves in white gated community, PhD, kids went to private schools, now uni, doing well.
Things are now rough for the oga here in naija. He has being begging to come make up the marriage again. But how woman weh don stay independent for donkey years go wan stay under man again? She will rather have a partner.

FuckTheMod:

Mumu useless film just your head like your regular noodles.
We are talking reality here and not nonsense

Shokoloko:

It doesn't matter what the sister is enjoying.
Look at the facts at hand. The lady wants an amicable separation and she is not planning to keep away the kids from their father. HER REQUEST IS REASONABLE!!!

OP IF YOU EVER HAVE TO POST INQUIRING ABOUT SEPERATION OR DIVORCE USE A MALE MONIKER. You will get more responses.
Most of the young men here are not very happy that you have portrayed your cousin to look like she is also very comfortable.

onoja12:
Wrong in 6months she would be replaced,I owe my children a mother and a better one at that.when we get to court,we would determine custody and I can assure you no Nigerian court would hand over children to a gold digger,with the excuss of divorce been verbal abuse,this is Nigeria,over here the welfare of children come first before selfish interest.


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The children belong to you the father and her, the mother. If the marriage ends she becomes a single mother, you become a single father and you both co-parent.