Nairalanders,

This girl and I broke up about 2-3 months ago after we had one of our disagreements even though we really liked each other and had it settled that we were gonna make it work and get married as soon as she got a job (she's an unemployed graduate while I am vice versa). Whenever we had the fights like that, I'd be the one to play the fool and beg her to come back and after so much ball--and--chain, we'd settle.

But after that last fight, I decided to stop playing the fool on the advice of several friends (many of them female) who felt that I was being used and manipulated in the relationship because I am being clingy and a "wussy". They advised that the relationshipn was too one-sided and that I should stop playing the fool all the time; that afterall, she is gonna want me and would come to her senses whether I play the fool or not. So I decided not to beg her after that last fight during which she called off the relationship (2nd/3rd time she'd do that) and that time, I simply told her to ''go 4uk urself & kiss my a**, b*t*h". But after the fight, a mutual friend tried to intervene and on his considered advice, I sent her apology texts for my use of hate words on her but I told her I will never beg to be with her again. I even called her. she never picked up my calls nor responded to my text. She just totally shut down on me.

I have since licked my wounds and I'm already moving on

But last night, a short while after midnight, she sent me a text (after shuttn down on me for 2.5months) as follows:

"I thut to reply your all ur msgs since and sincerely I don't want a reply. Thank u 4 all d job search info you ve been sharing with me, God bless you.
I want u to know that I av 4given u for whatever u said or did and I pray u 4give me too in like manner.
I wish u all d best in ur life pursuit. It was nice knowing you. learnt a lot from you. & also realized somethings about myself too- great discovery.

thanks 4 everything and my regards to ur family.

Cheers!"

I have moved on though not in any serious relationship yet but I'm already talking with other people in that direction. But I'm curious with this text which I don't intend to reply to:

Could she be trying to get back and hopes that I'd reply the text (as I'd normally do- which she knows) and we get talking again?

Goodbye is the sadest word to say, thou it can be said in so many ways.
If you still luv her and want to stay with her, shud u allow pride or friends advice to deprive you of what you cherish?

She has learnt not to date weak men like you

Reanaa:

Goodbye is the sadest word to say, thou it can be said in so many ways.
If you still luv her and want to stay with her, shud u allow pride or friends advice to deprive you of what you cherish?

They are both better off without each other. So he made the right decision meaning right advice from friends.

I gues they are

Hmmm, tanx guys. but may I had that I actually saw her in a dream last week in which she was trying to get back to me. , So I'd ve let this message go but for the dream.(I have had and believe in true and ominous dreams in my life by the way. So no jokes about this please)

She may be trying to come back or she just wants to make peace with you so that yo remain friends ,

^^^ yes, I'm curious whether she is just trying to make peace or trying to get back. Which one?

guy move on with your life, her text message is not suggestive in anyway, i think she's tryin to make peace with you and God, but not interested in comin back to you, leave the past where it belongs-the past,

Her text message is very clear. She is done with you. She probably has another man in her life now and she sent you that text to clear her conscience (after waiting for you to come begging as usual). Move on and please, when next you get into a relationship. . .don't be so "wussive". As far as she's concerned, you're not a "real man". A woman will always try to yank your chain to test how much bull $$hit you can endure. You obviously fell for every thing she threw at you. You lost your footing from day one and that's why till now, you're still staggering. I'm very sure if one or two guys had said "give her a chance, you would have resumed begging her again". Are you that desperate? Do you love being used as a door mat? These are the kind of women that will sleep with another man on your matrimonial bed and still have the guts to fight you for intruding on their "privacy". Guy, soji ya sef ooo!

harakiri:

Her text message is very clear. She is done with you. She probably has another man in her life now and she sent you that text to clear her conscience (after waiting for you to come begging as usual). Move on and please, when next you get into a relationship. . .don't be so "wussive". As far as she's concerned, you're not a "real man". A woman will always try to yank your chain to test how much bull $$hit you can endure. You obviously fell for every thing she threw at you. You lost your footing from day one and that's why till now, you're still staggering. I'm very sure if one or two guys had said "give her a chance, you would have resumed begging her again". Are you that desperate? Do you love being used as a door mat? These are the kind of women that will sleep with another man on your matrimonial bed and still have the guts to fight you for intruding on their "privacy". Guy, soji ya sef ooo!

#GBAM

Hmmm, Harakiri tanx for that.

My gut feeling however is that she wants to check if i have moved on or if I'm still interested in her, and I should "please come back and beg".

Dream or no dream, you didn`t plan letting go else you wouldn`t have opened this thread.
So don`t bother using the dream as an excuse to pursue her further. It seems you havnt learnt your lesson with her yet.

Pls move on if she wants to get back with you let her work for it. If she works for it then she knows your worth and will stay with you if you go back after this txt she will lose all respect for you. I think she wants you back but i am not sure if its for real or just so her pet wnt escape. Dont bother trying to decipher the code let her unlock it herself meaning i repeat if she wants you back let her work for it and spell it out.

Zaynee63:

Hmmm, Harakiri tanx for that.

My gut feeling however is that she wants to check if i have moved on or if I'm still interested in her,  and I should "please come back and beg".

Look, when women leave you/dump you, they ALWAYS check on you every now and then but do not for one second think they are doing it out of regret rather the reason why they do such is to see how lonely,pathetic and devastated you've become. They do this to reassure themselves that they are "hot cake". Believe me, if they see you are getting into a relationship with a much "hotter girl" than themselves, they will cry,rant and beg you to reconsider them NOT because they love you but they want to reassure themselves that they are more desirable. The mind of a woman is a very funny place.

Nuff said! ! !

NB : I'll advice you to focus on improving your status (mostly financial) for now. It's obvious that you are a bit "insecure" and that's why you keep putting up with nonsense. Financial security will give you more confidence and with the myriad of ladies that will be throwing themselves at you, you'll be at liberty to pick from the thronging crowd. Anybody who tells you otherwise is just deceiving you and living in self delusion. Owo ni koko. I don talk finish.

She wants 2 infect u with SYPHILLIS. . .pray hard!

Come on, guy! Dont b such a wussy. If she wants back, let her work 4 it

"I thut to reply your all your msgs since and sincerely I don't want a reply. Thank u 4 all d job search info you ve been sharing with me, God bless you.
I want u to know that I av 4given u for whatever u said or did and I pray u 4give me too in like manner.
I wish u all d best in your life pursuit. It was nice knowing you. learnt a lot from you. & also realized somethings about myself too- great discovery.

thanks 4 everything and my regards to your family.

Cheers!"
^^^
I think this her reply does not mean she wants to come back but rather wishing you good luck in your future endeavours. If you still luv her, then u can go back to her, else, let her go like she is suggesting in her text, simple.

andromida:

Pls move on if she wants to get back with you let her work for it. If she works for it then she knows your worth and will stay with you if you go back after this txt she will lose all respect for you. I think she wants you back but i am not sure if its for real or just so her pet wnt escape. Dont bother trying to decipher the code let her unlock it herself meaning i repeat if she wants you back let her work for it and spell it out.

Thanx 4 d advice guys. She sure has to work for it, whether she's out to play me or is for real .Andromida,

andromida:

Pls move on if she wants to get back with you let her work for it. If she works for it then she knows your worth and will stay with you if you go back after this txt she will lose all respect for you. I think she wants you back but i am not sure if its for real or just so her pet wnt escape. Dont bother trying to decipher the code let her unlock it herself meaning i repeat if she wants you back let her work for it and spell it out.

Adromida's contribution really made much sense, thumbs up gurl but what if U're in such a situation nd d girl in question calls U back after like a month nd was talking nicely, asked about ow U've been, why U stopped calling her, where U are nd when U're gonna show up maybe in skul nd d most important tin here is, SHEZ A VERY SHY GIRL nd GODLY girl who wanted a break because of d fear of immorality nd her studies, ow can U really tell if she wants U back, could it be dt, she had come to her senses nd feels like U weren't affecting her after all or she wants d freindship back, I asked about her results nd she outrightly sed, dere was no much improvement like when we were in love, what could she possibly want 4rm me nd lest I 4get, she sed nd was serious about it dt shez nt ready 2 move on wt nobody, now after about a month, She broke d long silence nd still called d 2nd day nd was like I'm I not going to call her?
It was really funny, I dnt wanna screw thinz up, srzlie I still luv her buh I dnt just wanna b a mumu again(Sexkillz sed I was, lol), what do U guys think I can do, remember shez a shy girl, neva been in a relationship b4 nd shez got guys wanting her seriously, dt I'm sure of

Andromida, wat a cute name. I know andromeda though and I think that's cuter!

@ Andromida and Harakiri, both of you just so spot on  

I thought the riot and looting in London is over

Make una answer my own o jare

I think she just wants closure. and maybe also be friends.
the text suggests that you were important in her life even though the relationship didn't work out.

190smh:

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**urgent**

my friend has wat he would like to discuss with you personally

You have mail.

tenderheart!!!:

Adromida's contribution really made much sense, thumbs up gurl but what if U're in such a situation nd d girl in question calls U back after like a month nd was talking nicely, asked about ow U've been, why U stopped calling her, where U are nd when U're gonna show up maybe in skul nd d most important tin here is, SHEZ A VERY SHY GIRL nd GODLY girl who wanted a break because of d fear of immorality nd her studies, ow can U really tell if she wants U back, could it be dt, she had come to her senses nd feels like U weren't affecting her after all or she wants d freindship back, I asked about her results nd she outrightly sed, dere was no much improvement like when we were in love, what could she possibly want 4rm me nd lest I 4get, she sed nd was serious about it dt shez nt ready 2 move on wt nobody, now after about a month, She broke d long silence nd still called d 2nd day nd was like I'm I not going to call her?
It was really funny, I dnt wanna screw thinz up, srzlie I still luv her buh I dnt just wanna b a mumu again(Sexkillz sed I was, lol), what do U guys think I can do, remember shez a shy girl, neva been in a relationship b4 nd shez got guys wanting her seriously, dt I'm sure of

I dnt think anybody should stay withsomeone wh

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