Florence2021:

Thank you for understanding me.

This is helping me right now.

touchalex25:
You need friends not just online but offline friends. Friends you can meet and hangout out with

Wodu89:



See. Again if I can hear from my Father accurately, I just got an idea what I feel if you apply would fill your empty soul.

I would like to recommend you look for farms in your state. Visit them one by one and tell them you would like to offer even free services or intern.or would like to offer help in any areas they may need for a month. And start from there. Farming hubs have countless of production sections you can easily fill in and begin your journey of transformation from.

Florence2021:

Everyone I meet offline seems busy.

Sometimes I will call them they won't pick.

I will message them.. It will take days before they reply.

Florence2021:

The problem is I am new in this area.

It was the work that brought me to Bauchi.

I don't even understand Hausa.

These are the problems.

Florence2021:

Yes, I have trust issues because I have been let down in so many ways.

This is why I don't have friends.

When I see someone to talk to... I always say everything... But it always backfire.

Some close friends stopped checking me or talking to me... I tried my best to communicate with them but all efforts are negative.

VeeVeeMyLuv:

Then change your circle

As long as human beings are concerned or involved, almost every aspect including relationships of life is not perfect.

The only place where you find perfect is sadly in movies.

Therefore relationships exists to some extent because of what either parties are gaining from each other.

Then other factors are common interests, shared goals, shared values, hobbies, and so on...

What value are you giving? Sharing? Are you useful in one way or the other,

Granted there will always be idiots that will try to take advantage of you, that always itching to treat u like trash. identify them and minimise communication.

If you treat it like this, I think your situation will improve.

U can also do all these online

Florence2021:

The problem is I am new in this area.

It was the work that brought me to Bauchi.

I don't even understand Hausa.

These are the problems.

VeeVeeMyLuv:


U just have to manage it like that, that's life for you.

Or u force yourself to mingle, socialize actively and aggressively. This is the only way.

Florence2021:

I will definitely look into this.

Many people do remember me when they need help from me.

Despite the fact that I don't have much..... I enjoy giving out a lot.

VeeVeeMyLuv:

Not necessarily money, you can give your time, advice, care, support, love, and so on...

Well in Nigeria now, remember that most people will only reason you or care about you if you are rich or come from a wealthy.

It is that bad. It is just the terrible part of life we have to live with. So will you now put on gloomy, depressed, dejected appearance because of these? It will just be like adding salt to injury!

The antidote will be for you to be cheerful, put on a friendly, agreeable countenance to swing things in your favour

Use your mouth, add sugar to it literally

Florence2021:

I even went to club like 5 times last year when I got here thinking I will be able to socialise well but no.

Thank you for your input.

It is going a long way for me..

Atleast I'm aware that6 I am not alone

VeeVeeMyLuv:

You are welcome.

U said u are new in that place? Well that is one of the major problems that come with readily changing schools, workplaces, church, accomodations...

U will have to scratch from the scratch and build up.... Give it time.

Earn those people's trust....

Before you know it their suspicions about you will reduce or stop entirely.

Florence2021:

Thank you so much.

The funniest part is that you're actually following my real moniker.... 😢

I am an old Nairalander

VeeVeeMyLuv:

U can also read books too

I laugh when people say books cannot work in Nigeria or you can't apply the principles in Nigeria. They are ignorant.

Florence2021:
All I can say right now is that I am tired and fed up.

Sometimes life is fair while sometimes it is not.

I am frustrated right now and I think all I could do is to write them out... Maybe the more I write the more I will be relieved.

Actually money isn't my problem... Not that I'm rich but I'm a bit comfortable.

I am just always bored and not feeling useful enough.

I feel rejected and remorse once I'm not useful.

Adegbem02:

Alot is happening, it not only you, what I will advice try get good friends, loyal gf/partner... Things are happening in this Nigeria, but we gat no option than to muvee

Florence2021:
Hmmmmmm....
Thank you.
I will work on myself.

Tohsynetita1:

let's be friends.
What do you love to do? You can get friends through that.

Florence2021:
I love to help people and get busy a lot.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Don't b alone

It's not good for your health and general well being.

Go out to receive sunlight and fresh air. Socialize with like minded people

Florence2021:
All I can say right now is that I am tired and fed up. Sometimes life is fair while sometimes it is not. I am frustrated right now and I think all I could do is to write them out... Maybe the more I write the more I will be relieved. Actually money isn't my problem... Not that I'm rich but I'm a bit comfortable. I am just always bored and not feeling useful enough. I feel rejected and remorse once I'm not useful.

Crystalsweetnes:
Let be friends

Florence2021:
All I can say right now is that I am tired and fed up.

Sometimes life is fair while sometimes it is not.

I am frustrated right now and I think all I could do is to write them out... Maybe the more I write the more I will be relieved. Be strong, if u need someone to talk to, am here

Actually money isn't my problem... Not that I'm rich but I'm a bit comfortable.

I am just always bored and not feeling useful enough.

I feel rejected and remorse once I'm not useful.

Florence2021:
All I can say right now is that I am tired and fed up.

Sometimes life is fair while sometimes it is not.

I am frustrated right now and I think all I could do is to write them out... Maybe the more I write the more I will be relieved. Be strong, if u need someone to talk to, am here

Actually money isn't my problem... Not that I'm rich but I'm a bit comfortable.

I am just always bored and not feeling useful enough.

I feel rejected and remorse once I'm not useful.

Florence2021:
I started drinking last year thinking that I will overcome and be fine.

No friends... Nothing...

Everything is just somehow.

But I am grateful that I am alive with sound health.

Florence2021:
The saddest part is that I am a very popular Nairalander that everyone thinks he's okay emotionally.

But I am not.