That depends on where you get a job.

I think during NYSC you would be living alone already

in my culture is very difficut to have husband when you are not maried and you living alone husband might think you rentd the place to have fun children of nowadays

At a certain parts of the world, as soon as you reach a certain age, you are expected to move out of your parents' house and begin to fend for yourself but the truth of the matter is that in Naija, a female, no matter how disciplined you are will be looked down upon if you live alone and you are not married. If you are not earning a living, why then do you want to move out? when you are done with your NYSC, you will see that it is a different world out there.

As much as I admire ladies who have self-respect and live by certain principles and stick to them, I still think if you dont have to, you shouldnt move out. You will always be your parent's little girl but if you show them you have come of age and are mature, even if you live with them, they will give you your desired freedom. So my dear, think it through before you act. Remember, a time will come when you will really want your family around and if you distance yourself from them, they may just well 'leave' you alone and trust me, you wont like that one bit.

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At a certain parts of the world, as soon as you reach a certain age, you are expected to move out of your parents' house and begin to fend for yourself but the truth of the matter is that in Naija, a female, no matter how disciplined you are will be looked down upon if you live alone and you are not married. If you are not earning a living, why then do you want to move out? when you are done with your NYSC, you will see that it is a different world out there.

As much as I admire ladies who have self-respect and live by certain principles and stick to them, I still think if you dont have to, you shouldnt move out. You will always be your parent's little girl but if you show them you have come of age and are mature, even if you live with them, they will give you your desired freedom. So my dear, think it through before you act. Remember, a time will come when you will really want your family around and if you distance yourself from them, they may just well 'leave' you alone and trust me, you wont like that one bit.

Seconded. . .

It nigerians culture for child to stay with her family till she get marry and i think it a good thing

I tink its best u stay with ur parents until u go for service and get a job

you may know a lot of single ladies staying alone and are seemingly happy but you probably didn't consider they might have disobeyed their parents in doing so, which is apparently what you're looking to avoid. A number of them i know already had a job they liked and they opted to move to places that were closer to their work place.

i advise you don't move out till you're done with youth service.

@Poster, U are the one who can solve this problem for yourself, many ppl are raising different points here, which are good points but u have to identify which one really suit ur situation otherwise u would end up further confused by this thread. There is nothing wrong at all if u want to stay alone but look around you first, is it realistic? can u afford it? does it make u happy? would your parent understand or be very angry with u instead? etc.

Another area, check urself, how much self control u have, can u still be as disciplined as your parent want u to be even if they are not around to put any pressure on u?

Would you be able to handle aggressive moves from guys because they see u are lady living alone (out of assumption that u have freedom to do anything crazy)

Have u considered security of yourself in a lonely flat? although u mentioned sharing with another person.

If u look at all these and may be some more that is also important to you and u are convinced that u can handle the situation perfectly, Then I dont see nothing wrong if u want to leave alone, u are an adult and educated but if u look thru this and u see nothing but troubles, hmmm stay home with mummy and u'd be safe, at least it cant be forever.

@OP
You never talk wetin de hungry u

@Poster

IMO, you should wait till after your NYSC. There is no hurry in life. I know that at your age now, you are very eager to explore the world of independence but I must warn you that freedom itself has its own hazards. Your parents would never hear of it that you want to move out. They may not be willing to compromise except you take leave without their blessing. I will advise you to remain in your parents house and zip up.

You are not even working! It is very difficult for us working ones to meet up with our rents as and when due not to talk of the likes of you that are yet to join the labour force. If there's a BF out there promising you that he will rent you a flat, please be careful because you are going into slavery. He will always come around when he is not needed and by jove, most of them that will volunteer to rent you a house are the married men.You will know no rest if a man pays your rent. You can still bleep from home, don't you think so? Be wise! A word is enough for the wise. I wish you all the best!

I don't know why people make such a big deal out of nothing! What's the big deal in living on your own if it is more convenient for you? That a girl lives alone doesn't automatically mean she is loose; I think such mentality is very backward and ill-exposed. You can still be under your parent's roof and be wayward if you so choose, it all depends on the upbringing and background of the girl in the first place.





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I see nothing wrong with it, as long as you can sustain yourself.
Have a close friend of mine who had no other option but to move out two years after her NYSC service because of her physically abusive and impossible dad.

junegirl:

I don't know why people make such a big deal out of nothing! What's the big deal in living on your own if it is more convenient for you? That a girl lives alone doesn't automatically mean she is loose; I think such mentality is very backward and ill-exposed. You can still be under your parent's roof and be wayward if you so choose, it all depends on the upbringing and background of the girl in the first place.  





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Which upbringing are you referring to in this case. No NYSC and  no job yet. if she had finished NYSC your likes will put up a lame excuse that she saved a lot of money during her service year.

How did she get the money she will use to rent a flat, feed herself, pay NEPA bills etc without her parents support.

I'm surprised you are talking of backward and ill exposed mentality when in the actual sense you are the one in those shoes

[color=#006600][/color] what she (ur mum) is for ur own betterment, she no d implication for a young lady stay in isolatoin. Forget may be u want flat mate or nt, that flat mate can even lure u to bad behaviour. So i woul advice u stick with ur mumsy's advice except u have plan of been aristol

Swift SMS:

Avosoft na wao for you oooo .

I beg to differ, living on your own may afford you lots of opportunities to be promiscuous or mis-behave in other ways but a person chooses how he or she will live on their own. A female friend lived alone for a long time and she lived by strict personal rules e.g

1. Male visitors do not sleep over except her blood relations
2. Her place wasn't open to visitors at 8.00pm which she made known to both male & female friends, a few of us thought she was joking and made the mistake of storming her place at about pass 8.00pm. She ignored us for some time and then finally came out to read us the riot act and march us off her door step
3. If you were at her at place before 8.00pm by 7.30pm at most you would be out etc etc

It wasn't funny but we quickly learnt to respect her rules and abide by them, she did all of that because she desired and was determined to live a disciplined life away from home. My respect for her skyrocketed to cloud 9.

LOL,the RIOT ACT.Hmmmm....PRINCIPLES.

avosoft: staying single in Nigeria affords the opportunity for a lady to be promiscuous. And our society does not allow it or recognized

That is not true my dear,I share her opinion ,staying with your parent after 6 or 5years of alone is not funny.I made the mistake and am crying my head of every morning now.so am planing of moving out as soon as possible.

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