Life experience (please pardon any typo)

When I was much younger and went to a village to write waec in 2011, I lived in a compound where some indigines lived. ( For the purpose of this thread, the names have been changed)

These indigines were young live-in lovers. The lady, Aunty iyabo, was around 24 years old at the time. The man Uncle stephen was in the range of 29 to 31 years old.

Uncle Stephen as I fondly called him engaged in farming and charcoal making. Sometimes, Iyabo follows him to the farm. The money they make from the charcoal business goes into feeding and house rent. Stephen also tries to buy iyabo some few clothes he could from this same work.

But as you would know, it's never enough.
Apart from that, just like other couples, they used to have misunderstanding but Stephen being a quiet guy doesn't exchange words with her. He'll rather leave the house.
Iyabo didn't want to live with Stephen any more because she felt, he was wasting her time. She wanted Stephen to marry her, but Stephen was finding it hard to raise money for a proper white wedding.

The guy had no one and had come from Benue to start another life in a remote village in Kwara State.
Stephen tried all his best to explain the efforts he has been making.

Aunty iyabo as I fondly called her, told Stephen one day that he doesn't have money and was a poor man: and that he should switch Ventures, after all, it's his mates that were driving car.

I felt bad for uncle Stephen. I felt she shouldn't have said that to him.

A week after that, iyabo said she was going to travel. Stephen begged her not to travel yet and be patient but she was defiant. She wasn't even willing to tell him where she was going to.

But before she traveled she mentioned one thing, she said Stephen was unserious and she didn't see where the relationship between them was heading.
She traveled for like a month and came back. Stephen still accepted her back. That was towards the end of my stay in the village for my exams.

Some months after I had left the village, I asked about Stephen and Iyabo. I was told Iyabo finally left Stephen and was now dating Stephen's close friend.

One thing I would like to note was during the period Stephen and Iyabo were staying together, Iyabo was never pregnant. Maybe if she had been pregnant, she wouldn't have said Steve was unserious.

When a woman stays with you, (even as live-in lovers) no matter how much you care and spend on her, she'll get tired of you because something is missing.

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Now I am matured than I was in 2011 and also working now.
At the moment I am currently facing almost the exact same thing Uncle Stephen faced. The only difference is, I am educated and a graduate. I also work but the earning has been hard to save after buying food and other basic amenities.

My girl on the other hand was only able to complete her O'level. She is 24 now. She knows deep down I love her and want to marry her despite her level of education and her background (the dad and mum aren't together any longer). I tried and got her a job in a hotel as a kitchen staff. She complained about the job and how she was being frustrated. She had to leave the job. All expense falls back on me as usual and I have never complained.

She feels like I am not doing enough and at a point she even asked me to get a better job(in an insultive way). She said this when an issue came up between us. I had told her I was being frustrated at work too but as a man I had to stay instead of quitting.

We have been together for a long time now and she has never gotten pregnant after many effort. I currently live in a single room, I am unable to raise enough fund to get a better apartment. I can't marry into a single room and be sharing toilet and bathroom with other people.
I have tired all I can to explain to her but she feels I am not serious. I she even said I am just wasting her time.
This is somebody that isn't providing anything o. All she does is eat, sleep, read pregnancy novels and hold me like a teddy bear any time we are going out together or inside. She's always all over me like butter even when she knows I am trying to think.

Of recent, she said she wanted to travel, I asked her where she was going. She was reluctant to tell me in the first place.

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let me give you a piece of advice. I know where this will likely end

you can never move fast as a man if you have a woman dragging you down. in a relationship, you either drag her up or she drags you down.

if you're still struggling, it will be foolishness for you to take care of another person who isn't your family.

women don't care about your struggles, in fact, they don't see if you're struggling.. all they care is the now not the when.

when she finishes draining you, she will leave you wrecked and go to another guy

never ever let any lady pressure you into marrying her. I thought you would have learnt from your experiences but you failed to do that.

Reminderz:
let me give you a piece of advice. I know where this will likely end

you can never move fast as a man if you have a woman dragging you down. in a relationship, you either drag her up or she drags you down.

if you're still struggling, it will be foolishness for you to take care of another person who isn't your family.

women don't care about your struggles, in fact, they don't see if you're struggling.. all they care is the now not the when.

when she finishes draining you, she will leave you wrecked and go to another guy

never ever let any lady pressure you into marrying her. I thought you would have learnt from your experiences but you failed to do that.

You talk am finish.


I have nothing else to say.

On top everything op will still be killing himself to make her cum almost all the time otherwise no peace.. To be man no be chais... It's well 1DigitalBaby 😐

bro na bother to talk anything again
leave woman alone!!!! and focus on your development
how will somebody that has ordinary Anno level results be telling you to get another job so you can be funding her lifestyle?

It's pure foolishness to be dragged down by excess baggage when you're just starting life bro.

You haven't married, she's 24 and contributes basically nothing to the family!
You live in 1 room and are still finding your footing and it's a woman that is giving you headache?? What's the problem with people self??

So what will happen when you guys give birth to 2-3 kids??

Let me give you an assignment my good sir, Do A Research on The Vicious Cycle of Poverty and come back sir.

Your Head go don correct by that time.

Mirakle69:
It's pure foolishness to be dragged down by excess baggage when you're just starting life bro.

You haven't married, she's 24 and contributes basically nothing to the family!
You live in 1 room and are still finding your footing and it's a woman that is giving you headache?? What's the problem with people self??

So what will happen when you guys give birth to 2-3 kids??

Let me give you an assignment my good sir, Do A Research on The Vicious Cycle of Poverty and come back sir.

Your Head go don correct by that time.

You can go ahead and judge me and my decisions.
the said girl was my girlfriend way before i got my current job.
When she said she needed help, a roof to stay under because she was invited for an interview in the city i work, i couldnt turn her down.

Where I stopped my story was when she said she wanted to travel.
I told her once she leaves, she shouldn’t bother coming back.
She should travel with all her things without living even a slippers behind.

This was because she was reluctant to tell me where she was traveling to and I wasn’t even ready to entertain any tricks from her.
She knew I was serious and told me she wanted to help friend at a burial ceremony.
She said the friend’s mother passed away and she wanted to help the lady out.
I told her ‘’ ‘ok’ , place a call to the said friend and let me here what she shes to say.’’

As you would have guessed, she couldn’t call the said lady at first. Later she called the lady and the lady dropped the call on her twice without even saying anything. I looked at her and she looked away and laid back on the bed.

To those who may question why I am being too inquisitive, the reason is because I Loved her and didn’t want her in harms way. I told her loud and clear that I didn’t want her to go, I told her whatever she wanted, I was willing to give her so far its within my capacity. She was defiant and hell bent on making the trip.

The following day, she tried to persuade me that she will be traveling for just 1 week.
I told her again that its better she leaves with her things while traveling to wherever she plans to go.
She knew I was serious and begged me.
I told her I didn’t know whoever she wanted to go and meet and has refused me t speak to the said lady.
I gave her another alternative. “since you said your mum knows Kafaya, let me talk to your mum’’. She refused.

The next morning, when I got home from work. I saw the luggage she packed.
I asked if that was everything she had to pack and I pointed to her shoes and another traveling bag.

Around 10pm at night, So as to make her know I am serious, I called my mum and put the phone on speaker.
I explained to Mum how I met the girl, how she had been staying with me and how she said she wants to travel and had kept me in the dark about who she wants to go and meet. I had to hide the girls academic level from my mum during all the discussion.

My mum was seriously mad at me and asked if the girls parent aren’t asking after her.
Mum said a woman has 1000 boyfriends and just 1 at top is probably the one that will be her husband that she’s just there with me draining me and would leave when she wants…
Mum said the girl is supposed to just visit and go back home and not be a live-in-girlfriend with me.
If we would get married we should work on it and not be wasting each other’s time…’’Tell her to go home for the time being’’… Mum said all this while the phone on speaker.

That same night, she also called her mum. The Mother asked her where she was, She told her she was in another state.. then she quickly continued, she said she wanted to travel to attend some burial but the person she was staying with doesn’t want her to go because he doesn’t know whose Burial it was.

The Mother asked who she was staying with and she said her boyfriend. The mother went quiet for some seconds. Then she told her i wanted to speak with her.
My girlfriend gave me the phone and greeted her mum well and also apologized for meeting her like that.
I explained to her how I got a job in the current city I am and how my girlfriend, whom I had known for a while, came for an interview. the job didnt pull through and she stayed with me.

I told the Mother about her planned trip and why I don’t want her to go.
I am in a City I don’t know anyone apart form my girlfriend and my neighbors.
I don’t know where she is traveling to and people only know the two of us together.
its risky and hellish out there most especially for a lady. make dem no go use am do ritual

I cant recall everything I told the mother but we later agreed that she could go on the trip.

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1DigitalBaby:
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Fast na,i dey enjoy this story.

Day don break, come continue

Lol... This story done dey long

1DigitalBaby:


You can go ahead and judge me and my decisions.
the said girl was my girlfriend way before i got my current job.
When she said she needed help, a roof to stay under because she was invited for an interview in the city i work, i couldnt turn her down.

I understand you my good sir.

Just making an objective observation that's all.

Hopefully it all turn out well.