I Have Known Him For About 3 Years Now From The Fellowship I Attend, & All These Time I Have Been Addressing Him As Bro Chris (Not His Real Name), We Are Somehow Close.
Now The Issue Is That I Started Learning A Skill Under Him As An Apprentice. He Has Other Boys Also Learning Under Him And They All Adress Him As 'Sir' Or 'Oga', But I Am Finding It Difficult Calling Him Sir.
Each Time He Calls Me I Answer Him 'Yes' Or 'Brother', He Has Told Me About Three Times Now That I Am Supposed To Address Him As 'Sir' Or 'Oga' When We Are At Work But I Still Answer Him 'Yes' Or 'Brother' Spontaneously Each Time We Are At Work; I Repeated The Same Today & He Was Very Upset With Me & Said People Are Asking Him Why His Boy Is Answering Him 'Yes'.
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I Really Want To Change But I'm Finding It Quite Difficult & It Feels A Bit Akward For Me.
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Plz Has Anyone Here Been In My Shoes? How Did U Adjust? Ur Advice Will Be Highly Appreciated.
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P.S: He Is Almost 20 Years Older Than Me, I Have Been Working With Him For 6 Months Now.

Just dey play

Cc: RoyalRoy Nlfpmod . . . Please I Need Inputs.

There's is no big deal to respond to him as sir, even with the age difference between you two I don't think you should find it difficult, 20 years is not a joke.

Two things, let him know you are so used to Yes/Brother and it doesn't in any way mean disrespect to his person/position.
Otherwise, you may need to go do your apprenticeship somewhere else.

Na wa for you o. What is in calling someone training you sir sef ? Try very hard.....when you answer yes, add sir to it. You will soon master the act. Na you dey find something from him, better catch yourself before you lose it. Humility makes a lot easier for us all. Start being deliberate....na for a while.

ThothHermes:
Just dey play

areoko.
So you just learn that statement?
Mu. Mu

My last sister played this very well. I taught in her school when she was in SS2 through SS3. We lived together. At home, she calls me brother. A name she grew up calling me. Once she stepped through the school gate, she changed it to 'Sir'.
It takes consciousness, and respect. And you don't want others to start calling him brother. Do you?

Meanwhile, my sister is 14 years younger than myself. She cooked for me throughout our stay in that place. But she showed the highest level of example to other students.

Start addressing everyone as sir ...even kids
Takes nothing from you

Could be pride tho but its bullshit

Younghacka:
I Have Known Him For About 3 Years Now From The Fellowship I Attend, & All These Time I Have Been Addressing Him As Bro Chris (Not His Real Name), We Are Somehow Close.
Now The Issue Is That I Started Learning A Skill Under Him As An Apprentice. He Has Other Boys Also Learning Under Him And They All Adress Him As 'Sir' Or 'Oga', But I Am Finding It Difficult Calling Him Sir.
Each Time He Calls Me I Answer Him 'Yes' Or 'Brother', He Has Told Me About Three Times Now That I Am Supposed To Address Him As 'Sir' Or 'Oga' When We Are At Work But I Still Answer Him 'Yes' Or 'Brother' Spontaneously Each Time We Are At Work; I Repeated The Same Today & He Was Very Upset With Me & Said People Are Asking Him Why His Boy Is Answering Him 'Yes'.
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I Really Want To Change But I'm Finding It Quite Difficult & It Feels A Bit Akward For Me.
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Plz Has Anyone Here Been In My Shoes? How Did U Adjust? Ur Advice Will Be Highly Appreciated.
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P.S: He Is Almost 20 Years Older Than Me, I Have Been Working With Him For 6 Months Now.

I think the pride in you is the problem behind that

Cut your pride and address him properly, for the fact that he is your boss

That's enough respect for him

frozen70:


I think the pride in you is the problem behind that

Cut your pride and address him properly, for the fact that he is your boss

That's enough respect for him

I Never Knew I Am Prided. . . Funny Enough I Dont Have Any Qualms Adressing Others I Dont Know As Sir, Even My Juniors.

Omuuvwie:
There's is no big deal to respond to him as sir, even with the age difference between you two I don't think you should find it difficult, 20 years is not a joke.

I Will Try To Adjust. . . But It's Difficult.

You can leave and go do your apprenticeship elsewhere, if you find it so difficult
He's your boss and Nigerian culture dictates you call him Sir
Not only is he your boss, he's old enough to be your father, if he had started having children early in life.

Proudness just sir someone that is old enough to be a father (20 years), humble yourself

I understand your plight op, the brother/sister thing was ingrained in you by religion so i guess you still consider brother Chris as 'brother' in a religion sense.

Brother Chris on the other hand should understand that you are all brothers in Christ not just inside the church but, everywhere and as such make allowances for you if he is truly religious.

Is it not just to add Sir to his name, why is that difficult for you to do? Since everyone at the work place calls him that, you should also learn to do so.

Just don't over think it, the problem you are having is that you're overthinking it, just go with the flow and do what others are doing, else you want to risk his wrath.

Younghacka:

I Never Knew I Am Prided. . . Funny Enough I Dont Have Any Qualms Adressing Others I Dont Know As Sir, Even My Juniors.

People with pride denys having pride because they believe they are always right
But from your report, I picked that out

I may be wrong anyway

Younghacka:
I Have Known Him For About 3 Years Now From The Fellowship I Attend, & All These Time I Have Been Addressing Him As Bro Chris (Not His Real Name), We Are Somehow Close.
Now The Issue Is That I Started Learning A Skill Under Him As An Apprentice. He Has Other Boys Also Learning Under Him And They All Adress Him As 'Sir' Or 'Oga', But I Am Finding It Difficult Calling Him Sir.
Each Time He Calls Me I Answer Him 'Yes' Or 'Brother', He Has Told Me About Three Times Now That I Am Supposed To Address Him As 'Sir' Or 'Oga' When We Are At Work But I Still Answer Him 'Yes' Or 'Brother' Spontaneously Each Time We Are At Work; I Repeated The Same Today & He Was Very Upset With Me & Said People Are Asking Him Why His Boy Is Answering Him 'Yes'.
.
I Really Want To Change But I'm Finding It Quite Difficult & It Feels A Bit Akward For Me.
.
Plz Has Anyone Here Been In My Shoes? How Did U Adjust? Ur Advice Will Be Highly Appreciated.
.
.
P.S: He Is Almost 20 Years Older Than Me, I Have Been Working With Him For 6 Months Now.

I can understand your plight with "sir", but "oga" would go effortlessly and easily.

Oga isn't that hard even with familiar people. So you got no excuse.

It doesn't look respectful if you call him differently from how others do.

Do you call him brother or broda? 😄😄
He's 20years older than you and old enough to be your father. Maybe you should call him daddy.
You sef no get respect

Even 50 years old men are calling someone capable of being their grandchildren sir, talk of a riffraff like op.

That's what happens when you have everything handled to you. If you learned to suffer and fight to even feed, calling someone sir will be nothing.

ThothHermes:
Just dey play

Younghacka:
I Have Known Him For About 3 Years Now From The Fellowship I Attend, & All These Time I Have Been Addressing Him As Bro Chris (Not His Real Name), We Are Somehow Close.
Now The Issue Is That I Started Learning A Skill Under Him As An Apprentice. He Has Other Boys Also Learning Under Him And They All Adress Him As 'Sir' Or 'Oga', But I Am Finding It Difficult Calling Him Sir.
Each Time He Calls Me I Answer Him 'Yes' Or 'Brother', He Has Told Me About Three Times Now That I Am Supposed To Address Him As 'Sir' Or 'Oga' When We Are At Work But I Still Answer Him 'Yes' Or 'Brother' Spontaneously Each Time We Are At Work; I Repeated The Same Today & He Was Very Upset With Me & Said People Are Asking Him Why His Boy Is Answering Him 'Yes'.
.
I Really Want To Change But I'm Finding It Quite Difficult & It Feels A Bit Akward For Me.
.
Plz Has Anyone Here Been In My Shoes? How Did U Adjust? Ur Advice Will Be Highly Appreciated.
.
.
P.S: He Is Almost 20 Years Older Than Me, I Have Been Working With Him For 6 Months Now.

What's difficult answer someone the senior you with 20years as SIR.

If I may correct, you're from eastern part.

You're full of arrogantly and pride in nature.

kiako:


I can understand your plight with "sir", but "oga" would go effortlessly and easily.

Oga isn't that hard even with familiar people. So you got no excuse.

It doesn't look respectful if you call him differently from how others do.

I'll Try To Adjust. . .THANKS.

You're just proud and lack professionalism, that's the only explanation to this.

I'll advice that you harken to his advice and address him formally...it's for your own good cos when you're done learning the skill, you're most likely going to have clients way younger than yourself and if you don't learn to differentiate between formal and informal approach and address them informally probably because of their age, they'll withdraw from you and your growing business would crumble. A word they say is enough for the wise.

U de find am difficult to address person wey senior u with 20yrs sir.

U rather call him brother. Is he your brother?

You need to learn to be humble.

You are a very proud person.

as a maid fact, I answer sir and ma to almost anybody, even those younger than me and definitely not in a subordinating way, so it isn't a big deal for me to answer sir to someone who demands it and yet not feel subordinate b

What's so hard in addressing someone that's old enough to be your father 'sir'? Asin you can't call you boss sir? someone that's teaching you a trade.

Na pride and see finish dey worry you.