I'm sick and my husband took me to his brother's hospoital even though he knows I don't like it. I cannot drive due to my illness but I already called a cab to come and take me to my company's hospital. Do you think am wrong? Will you get medical treatment from your in-law who is a medical doctor?

Iranoladun:

I'm sick and my husband took me to his brothere's hospoital even though he knows I don't like it. I cannot drive due to my illness but I already called a cab to come and take me to my company's hospital. Do you think am wrong? Will you get medical treatment from your in-law who is a medical doctor?

why not?

taking you to his brother's hospital will save the money to buy your gucci handbag too. . . .it's safer and cheaper. . . .
you are lucky he didn't take you there when your baby was due.

if you are not comfortable with it,

i don't think there is a problem there

just tell your husband you don't feel comfortable with it

or if there is another doctor there

just tell them you prefer another doctor

apart from your brother in law

Why is this even an issue of right or wrong?

Missy ★ B:

Why is this even an issue of right or wrong?

you know it depends on the kind of illness she's got. . . .

if it involves stripping herself to be examined, the poster might be uncomfortable.

holy moly.

what's the reason for all these silly threads.

@tpia
This is not a silly thread and no one forced you to comment

coogar:

you know it depends on the kind of illness she's got. . . .

if it involves stripping herself to be examined, the poster might be uncomfortable.

Understood, if that's the case. It's still not a right-wrong issue, nonetheless.

I'm sick and my husband took me to his brothere's hospoital even though he knows I don't like it

The poster's comment implies she has a problem with being treated, at all, by her BIL.
The discomfort precedes this present illness. . . .It's not about her ''privacy''.

Missy ★ B:

Understood, if that's the case. It's still not a right-wrong issue, nonetheless.

you think?

The poster's comment implies she has a problem with being treated,at all, by her BIN.
The discomfort precedes this present illness. . . .It's not about her ''privacy''.

maybe she's been having recurring illness.

Iranoladun:

@tpia
This is not a silly thread and no one forced you to comment

most people will not have a problem being treated at their brother in law's hospital.

if you personally do not like it, then just state the reasons why you have issues with your brother in law's care [mind you, this is a public forum], instead of making blanket statements.

this isnt a question of right or wrong for crying out loud.

for goodness sake, what is WRONG with people these days?

and if you feel more comfortable being treated at your company hospital, then just go there [you already called a cab].

it's ok to have a second opinion on health matters.

@coogar and Miss *B*
I'm not comfortable with all the palpitation involve in medical examination been carry out by BIN plus the potential gossips about my medical history 'gbogbo aso ko la nsa loorun' my hubby knows my view but still went ahead and took me to BIN hospital beside I don't think BIN should be treating SIN

^^men are more pragmatic and forgetful when it comes to some matters.

your husband wont see the need to bypass his own brother for medical care, so dont hold it against him but just call a cab next time and go straight to the hospital you prefer.

Iranoladun:

@coogar and Miss *B*
I'm not comfortable with all the palpitation involve in medical examination been carry out by BIN plus the potential gossips about my medical history 'gbogbo aso ko la nsa loorun' my hubby knows my view but still went ahead and took me to BIN hospital beside I don't think BIN should be treating SIN

well, tell your husband the reasons you want it at your company hospital.
this is no issue at all. . . . . .

Iranoladun:

@coogar and Miss *B*
I'm not comfortable with all the palpitation involve in medical examination been carry out by BIN plus the potential gossips about my medical history 'gbogbo aso ko la nsa loorun' my hubby knows my view but still went ahead and took me to BIN hospital beside I don't think BIN should be treating SIN

isn't there something like patient confidentiality thingy in Nigeria?

cus even though he is your brother in law

he still cant discuss your medical history with your brother except you authorise it

^^dont bank on that.

Oh I would happily go to my BIL's hospital if he had one. Reason, the special care and attention I might possibly get as his sister
But you r talking about gossips and stuff, so I guess you've had some bad experience. In such a case I might stay away from his hospital and make sure I remind the doc about the ethics that is expected from his profession.

coogar:

you think?

maybe she's been having recurring illness.

Yelz! It's a simple case of like or not.
It depends on who your BIL is [as in, character]. Some will feel more comfortable having their BIL OR FIL treat 'em, for divers reasons.
Plus yes, I'd be comfy being treated by a responsible BIL or FIL who holds in high esteem, the ethics of his profession. It would be like being treated by my dad or brother. One of the advantages is the assurance/feeling of being in the right hands.

Iranoladun:

@coogar and Miss *B*
I'm not comfortable with all the palpitation involve in medical examination been carry out by BIN plus the potential gossips about my medical history 'gbogbo aso ko la nsa loorun' my hubby knows my view but still went ahead and took me to BIN hospital beside I don't think BIN should be treating SIN

This explains it. If your BIL has a mouth like a bad water pipe, then you're right to feel the way you do.
As I earlier guessed, it's about being treated by your BIL not being treated by a BIL.

**Excuse the lapsus, I meant BIL in my penultimate post, not BIN**

@poster
the important question IS: which of these two hospital have the best doctors to treat your illness?!

Do you have an infection your husband doesn't know about

IMO if it is avoidable pls go treat urself somewhere else. i think its more of an ethical issue. for instance an auditor is not allowed ethically to carry out his job with people you can call insiders and i am sure the medical profession will have its rules except maybe in cases of emergency.

@poster, You are right to be apprehensive, i will not be caught dead in such a situation, hell no. Your privacy is at stake and tongues will start wagging in different directions before you know it, it might seem cool now, but wait until there is a small family rift. Do better, refuse totally, except it is an headache matter.

Iranoladun:

I'm sick and my husband took me to his brother's hospoital even though he knows I don't like it. I cannot drive due to my illness but I already called a cab to come and take me to my company's hospital. Do you think am wrong? Will you get medical treatment from your in-law who is a medical doctor?

There is definitely a skeleton hidden somewhere in the cupboard. You are afraid your husband might know the remnants of the extra-marital affairs. I can't understand why you are uncomfortable getting treated by a brother-inlaw. Your husband mean well my dear.

Koolking:

There is definitely a skeleton hidden somewhere in the cupboard. You are afraid your husband might know the remnants of the extra-marital affairs. I can't understand why you are uncomfortable getting treated by a brother-inlaw. Your husband mean well my dear.

And im very sure the husband isn't that daft to expose his wife's privacy to his brother.

What kinda sickness self ?

If it is that stuff doctors do to pregnant woman during ante-natal then it is totally wrong, but I hope it wasnt more than a fever.

life before privacy.

op
dere is nothing dere

@Poster, you have some points because, when there is an issue in the future , you might be castigated wrongfully. In the other way round, it is a means of cutting cost and getting closer to your family. Be wise sha,

There's nothing wrong with the OP's question and I believe some posters are taking her out of context. There is a possibility that some ladies will find it awkward undressing in front of their BIL, other husband's family members or even friends, this does not mean they have something to hide but just because they are uncomfortable with it!

It doesnt seems right to me. A lot(not all women) who comes to our clinic have vaginal and digital rectal exam done on them. It doesnt really seems right for ur BIL to be poking his fingers into those places for a SIL. It's better you explain stuffs to ur hubby. I hope he's the understanding type sha.
People talk about confidentiality here, well if he's a matured doctor he may be confidential but for a young "tojubole" doctor? Forget it!

Missy ★ B:

Understood, if that's the case. It's still not a right-wrong issue, nonetheless.
The poster's comment implies she has a problem with being treated, at all, by her BIL.
The discomfort precedes this present illness. . . .It's not about her ''privacy''.

Actually if you read her post very well and can put two and two together, you will see that it is indeed about her privacy. Everyone is entitled to some privacy when it comes to their health, how is she going to get that if the person treating her is her husband brother?

Of course the usual sing song from Nigerians will be. . .if she has nothing to hide, why not? But again whether she has nothing to hide or she has a shitload to hide is no one's business, she is still entitled to her privacy.


@ Topic
Don't do anything you are not comfortable with, if you want to leave for another hospital and it won't be detriment to your health (I mean if you don't need urgent care) please do so.