Let me do a little introduction so you can understand the situation,

Am in my late 20s. Infact I'll be 29 come November. Things haven't been really smooth for me in terms of establishing myself as a man. I done with school, couldn't get a good job. I had to relocate to Lagos to see if I can get something to do. It was really rough, I was quatin with my brother for almost 2 years, sleeping on the floor. but the gist today is not about my struggles as am beginning to get back on my feet. I later got a manageable job. And me being a very prodent, am proud of how I have saved and put myself together I have gotten my self a nice apartment, furnished it and about to start a good business in addition to my job.

Now the reason why am writing this is because I really need to understand if there something am not doing well. Cos wen I been trying to get into a relationship. But it not just working. An to be honest it really getting to bother me cos. It's been a very long time I have been in a relationship. Am talking for above 5 years. And I haven't had sex for more than 2 years now. I have a very high lipido and it's Begin to affect me.

Note I don't do olosho or hook up. I am strongly against it. And am not trying to brag o. But I am fucking handsome. I might not be too tall but I am so handsome. That one is obvious but getting a serious girl has been so difficult.
its not that I haven't ask some girls out but the truth is that they have all decline with one reason or the other, this is what is beginning to make me rethink something. Guys I don tire for talking stage. I have been in so many talking stage, I have gotten so many no.s. it's now making me worry. Loneliness has now become the tormentor in my life. Apart from work. I don't really interact with anyone am always in doors. Loneliness wan finish me.

I don't really know whats is wrong that I can't get a gf. I have even try reducing my standards but all I get is no. And I have a boyfriend from girls.

Hello Brother,

Have you bothered to know why you are getting the NOs from the ladies?

Softboy001:
Let me do a little introduction so you can understand the situation,

Am in my late 20s. Infact I'll be 29 come November. Things haven't been really smooth for me in terms of establishing myself as a man. I done with school, couldn't get a good job. I had to relocate to Lagos to see if I can get something to do. It was really rough, I was quatin with my brother for almost 2 years, sleeping on the floor. but the gist today is not about my struggles as am beginning to get back on my feet. I later got a manageable job. And me being a very prodent, am proud of how I have saved and put myself together I have gotten my self a nice apartment, furnished it and about to start a good business in addition to my job.

Now the reason why am writing this is because I really need to understand if there something am not doing well. Cos wen I been trying to get into a relationship. But it not just working. An to be honest it really getting to bother me cos. It's been a very long time I have been in a relationship. Am talking for above 5 years. And I haven't had sex for more than 2 years now. I have a very high lipido and it's Begin to affect me.

Note I don't do olosho or hook up. I am strongly against it. And am not trying to brag o. But I am fucking handsome. I might not be too tall but I am so handsome. That one is obvious but getting a serious girl has been so difficult.
its not that I haven't ask some girls out but the truth is that they have all decline with one reason or the other, this is what is beginning to make me rethink something. Guys I don tire for talking stage. I have been in so many talking stage, I have gotten so many no.s. it's now making me worry. Loneliness has now become the tormentor in my life. Apart from work. I don't really interact with anyone am always in doors. Loneliness wan finish me.

I don't really know whats is wrong that I can't get a gf. I have even try reducing my standards but all I get is no. And I have a boyfriend from girls.

For the past 2 years now. I have been in Lagos all I do is work to house back to work to house.
At first I wasn't worry because I felt omo person wen settle get roof over na him dey find gf. But things are way better now. I have worked and my worked has really paid for. I have been trying since then nothing. Konji dey on the other hand. Dealing with me. Note I don't do olosho. Nobody should suggest that nonsense to me here. I need suggestions but not hook up or olosho.

I tried going out but it's always a loneliness experience. I will be the only one at ba. Drinking and talking to myself. Am not bad looking. I have even try Facebook, Twitter, Instagram. Nothing. Talking stage don show me shege. Shege pro max. Omo...

Am even tired but I understand d goal. I have for my self. Am a man that set realist goals and achieve it. But the relationship thing is beginning to seem like a big challenge to me. And it's affecting me. It's like the more I try. D harder it becomes. I have tried matching making. E no work. It's seems all the girls and guys are already in a relationship. Na only me no remain.

Guys any suggestions.

peter0071:
Hello Brother,

Have you bothered to know why you are getting the NOs from the ladies?

Most all say
Am in relationships
I have a boyfriend
That's what 90% tells me....

And once they telling me that it feels awkward to keep asking them. At first I stop asking once they say that but I thought to guy you gat press on. But wen try pressing more. Omo na shege I dey see. Insults here and there

then i guess u may need to stay away from relationships for now and rebrand yourself.... when a babe sees a good prospects, she makes up her mind on it. i wish you the very best of it.

Softboy001:


Most all say
Am in relationships
I have a boyfriend
That's what 90% tells me....

And once they telling me that it feels awkward to keep asking them. At first I stop asking once they say that but I thought to guy you gat press on. But wen try pressing more. Omo na shege I dey see. Insults here and there

Story.

Inec don rig the election. Sorry bro

Softboy001:
For the past 2 years now. I have been in Lagos all I do is work to house back to work to house.
At first I wasn't worry because I felt omo person wen settle get roof over na him dey find gf. But things are way better now. I have worked and my worked has really paid for. I have been trying since then nothing. Konji dey on the other hand. Dealing with me. Note I don't do olosho. Nobody should suggest that nonsense to me here. I need suggestions but not hook up or olosho.

I tried going out but it's always a loneliness experience. I will be the only one at ba. Drinking and talking to myself. Am not bad looking. I have even try Facebook, Twitter, Instagram. Nothing. Talking stage don show me shege. Shege pro max. Omo...

Am even tired but I understand d goal. I have for my self. Am a man that set realist goals and achieve it. But the relationship thing is beginning to seem like a big challenge to me. And it's affecting me. It's like the more I try. D harder it becomes. I have tried matching making. E no work. It's seems all the girls and guys are already in a relationship. Na only me no remain.

Guys any suggestions.

They're all olosho so far Lagos is concern

With your poor grammatical structure, there is no way you won't have difficulty in what you aforementioned..

1) Work on your English language (writing and speech)..
2) Change your wardrobe (buy more casual-guymen wears)..
3) Always look smart/sharp in your dress sense. Buy and use perfumes, cologne and/or body spray, when outing. "Never to be caught unfresh"..
4) Chat like a (alpha) male, in other words, don't let them get bored with your chats..
5) Check for a spiritual wife..
6) Learn and master how to tell (romantic and mature) lies, women love it, even though they say otherwise with their mouths..
7) A little patience..
Do not settle for less, go for the best. Because, the less girls are as stressful as the great girls...

God forbid if you loose your job tomorrow can you stand on your own and take care of an extra mouth? If your answer is no, forget about relationship and focus on yourself. You never make am yet.
I am sure if you had a car , getting a date wouldn't be much of a problem but you would only end up with blood suckers.
Na 3rd year I dey so I never touch female and I am less concerned.
When the time comes na dem go dey rush you

Ahhh !!

You dey find girlfriend for Lagos ??

Softboy001:


Most all say
Am in relationships
I have a boyfriend
That's what 90% tells me....

And once they telling me that it feels awkward to keep asking them. At first I stop asking once they say that but I thought to guy you gat press on. But wen try pressing more. Omo na shege I dey see. Insults here and there

My advice to you is this:
Bro, no carry am for head. Cos desperation has a way of showing on the face and babes don’t like that.

Take a good look at yourself and ask with an open mind: what might make the ladies I’m after reject me? When you can honestly answer this, then work on those things. Dress well, wear fitted and good looking clothes, hygiene (baff and brush), smell nice and comport yourself as you would like to be regarded.

Then put your self in the environment where you’ll be able to meet babes. Could be at work, in church or other groups. Online parole de like 100 odds, e de hardly pure. Also don’t be scared of approaching babes to get their contact. It’s a numbers game.

Most importantly: Go after women who have shown interest in you. Any other thing na uphill climb. Learn to observe when a woman is giving you green light. Even if na flicker.

If all these don’t work then go to all these game and red pill threads. They actually work for that purpose but no let them brain wash you and convert you to misogynist. Take away what they teach about the nature of women with regards to your purposes and discard the rest. Look for Harddon’s thread. The principles there actually work. Try them. There’s nothing to lose, highest dem go just reject you.

You're 29, so I assume you're talking to women younger than you, who are in their prime, and have loads of guys in her DM. So from your angle, it may just be only one girl you're chatting with, but to her, you are one of many.

And you must know that you're competing with all the guys she is talking to, and in many cases, you will rank low not because you are not a good choice, but because the competition out there is brutal, especially for financially unstable men.

You're handsome, that's good, but other guys in her DM may be handsome and richer, and taller. She will go for the best. But by going for the best men, it doesn't mean those men mean well for her.

Women mostly go for the same kind of men, a very tiny percentage, because most men are not desirable to women. But since other women are also interested in the man she she is seeing, she unknowingly becomes his concubine, especially when sex is involved.

So yes, while she is thinking that she has found the one, he is thinking that he has found another option to change for the weekend. This is the situation many girls are in without knowing. Including the girl you're talking to probably.

He won't tell her about her usefulness in his life, same way women don't tell men that they are simps and are only useful to her for cash and attention. If a woman is in the sexzone of a man, she won't know as well. So your sweetheart is probably in a polygamous relationship.

Men generally have no standards when it comes to sex, women do (except prostitutes). And because she gives sex to the man that she likes, it's not the same for him. To him, It's just another day but to her, she is emotionally invested and dreaming of a future with him.

This is something old culture understood, hence they made sure women are married before having sex, since that's the only way a man's commitment is guaranteed, and because anything out side of that, is just she giving herself away for nothing and devaluing her value.

So lots of these girls are chilling in the sex zone of their first choice, just as you are chilling in their friend zone. Hence you hear women saying they dated a narcissist. It may be true, because if every woman wants you as a man, you'll develop narcissistic tendencies too.

Men earn Narcissism, but women are narcissistic because simps made them so. Men that are narcissist because they've worked hard to become desirable many women wants them, but women are narcissistic because of all the simps in their DM.

For example dating sites always releases matching data. Okcupid for example shows that most women swipe NO to most men, meanwhile, most men swipe YES to most women. If you're a fat, ugly woman on dating sites, the loads of attention you will get from simps will make you an egoistic narcissist.

The tiny percentage women swipe yes to are enjoying most women, ejaculating and evacuating. She will be so happy to be with such man, but to him, she is just a temporary option, just as the men in her friendzone.

The dynamic is one giant shitshake.

So what is the solution now? Well, the solution will always be to increase your value as man. I know it's hard. This is Nigeria, but the solution makes no exceptions and is unforgiving. It's why polygamy is a thing, since few men actually satisfies women desire.

Most importantly, the girls you're talking to won't mature until the attention dries up. Also, a man becomes mature when he stops giving attention. High value men get attention, low value men gives it.

So pick your battle, or poison. Work extremely hard to be up there, and pick your choice of women, polygamy is even allowed, after all, you've suffered enough. Or wait for the attention drugs that your future wife is enjoying that prevents her maturity to finish (as she gets older), then you marry her as her last option.

Sorry.

- Stop being desperate for sex. The women you're going after perceives your desperation from afar, even before you get close to them.

- From your writeup: Work on your communication, especially your spoken & written English.

- Invest in your appearance; haircut, clothing, footwears etc.

- Stop being entitled.
You said, "you're handsome" 🤨
So, ladies should just begin to fall in line because of your facial beauty
What else do you have to offer , aside complexion 😏

- You're are always indoors, but you want people to know you — Maybe you're just a psychopath or better still, sociopath — It seems you've succeeded in deceiving yourself with that "Somebody son daughter go find me one day"

- Let's assume people (both men & women), becomes attracted to you, what value can you add to their lives

- Also, as an individual, what other values o you have aside the handsomeness you souch emphasized about in you post

- You're also drinking. Drinking will only give you momentary pleasure, while your real-life problems persists & wait for you, post-hangover.

- Join various productive groups. Be it social, religious, volunteer, community etc. Be useful, and others will notice your productiveness, beyond your overhyped "handsomeness" & they'll also be willing to associate with you, without you forcing any fake love, like what you're trying to do at the moment.

- Take yourself out from time to time. You don't have to be a millionaire/billionaire before you enjoy your life.
Little things count, and they make you feel good about yourself.

- I noticed this trend among Nigerian guys: they'd rather spend 100K on ladies & other frivolities than to spend 10K on improving & taking good care of themselves.
It's such a foolish mentality, laced with low self-esteem.

- Lastly, love yourself.
You're looking for other people to love you, when you don't even love yourself.
Ladies will always gravitate towards a guy who has things going on in his life. 💯



Drops pen... 🖊️

pansophist:
You're 29, so I assume you're talking to women younger than you, who are in their prime, and have loads of guys in her DM. So from your angle, it may just be only one girl you're chatting with, but to her, you are one of many.

And you must know that you're competing with all the guys she is talking to, and in many cases, you will rank low not because you are not a good choice, but because the competition out there is brutal, especially for financially unstable men.

You're handsome, that's good, but other guys in her DM may be handsome and richer, and taller. She will go for the best. But by going for the best men, it doesn't mean those men mean well for her.

Women mostly go for the same kind of men, a very tiny percentage, because most men are not desirable to women. But since other women are also interested in the man she she is seeing, she unknowingly becomes his concubine, especially when sex is involved.

So yes, while she is thinking that she has found the one, he is thinking that he has found another option to change for the weekend. This is the situation many girls are in without knowing. Including the girl you're talking to probably.

He won't tell her about her usefulness in his life, same way women don't tell men that they are simps and are only useful to her for cash and attention. If a woman is in the sexzone of a man, she won't know as well. So your sweetheart is probably in a polygamous relationship.

Men generally have no standards when it comes to sex, women do (except prostitutes). And because she gives sex to the man that she likes, it's not the same for him. To him, It's just another day but to her, she is emotionally invested and dreaming of a future with him.

This is something old culture understood, hence they made sure women are married before having sex, since that's the only way a man's commitment is guaranteed, and because anything out side of that, is just she giving herself away for nothing and devaluing her value.

So lots of these girls are chilling in the sex zone of their first choice, just as you are chilling in their friend zone. Hence you hear women saying they dated a narcissist. It may be true, because if every woman wants you as a man, you'll develop narcissistic tendencies too.

Men earn Narcissism, but women are narcissistic because simps made them so. Men that are narcissist because they've worked hard to become desirable many women wants them, but women are narcissistic because of all the simps in their DM.

For example dating sites always releases matching data. Okcupid for example shows that most women swipe NO to most men, meanwhile, most men swipe YES to most women. If you're a fat, ugly woman on dating sites, the loads of attention you will get from simps will make you an egoistic narcissist.

The tiny percentage women swipe yes to are enjoying most women, ejaculating and evacuating. She will be so happy to be with such man, but to him, she is just a temporary option, just as the men in her friendzone.

The dynamic is one giant shitshake.

So what is the solution now? Well, the solution will always be to increase your value as man. I know it's hard. This is Nigeria, but the solution makes no exceptions and is unforgiving. It's why polygamy is a thing, since few men actually satisfies women desire.

Most importantly, the girls you're talking to won't mature until the attention dries up. Also, a man becomes mature when he stops giving attention. High value men get attention, low value men gives it.

So pick your battle, or poison. Work extremely hard to be up there, and pick your choice of women, polygamy is even allowed, after all, you've suffered enough. Or wait for the attention drugs that your future wife is enjoying that prevents her maturity to finish (as she gets older), then you marry her as her last option.

Sorry.

Nawa wa o

Person ask you make you teach am small algebra

You teach am algebra, geometry, probability, calculus, differential equations and numerical methods.
You teach the whole curriculum.

Last, last sha that's how the world works.
I pray the guy truely understands what you wrote with no bitterness, cynicism, nihilism and malevolence in his heart.

The guy own even better, I no fit remember the last time anything join me with woman....I think loneliness is starting to creep in my soul but then again my consolation prize be say I dey live stress free life.

It is well.